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  1. I've identified as bisexual since I was 12 and now im starting to question my sexuality more than ever. We have only been together for a month and he knows im bisexual (im pretty open about it) so I think there won't be an enormous amount of backlash. I told my friend (straight) about the situation and he said that he's very dissapointed in me since im basically leading him on and frankly that's the truth and I believe that I am the bad guy in this situation. I've been stressing out on how to break the news to my boyfriend for over 2-3 weeks.
  2. Hello everyone, I’ve recently reconnected with my ex girlfriend after 15 years. I broke up with her when I was 17, because it was really hard to see her due to her overbearing father. I really want to be with her and start a family. She still looks at me differently than any other woman on earth. She turns into a little girl when we are together. I can truly tell she loves me, but she won’t admit it or deny it. and I believe that it’s because she hasn’t been with a man in 10 years. She told me today that me asking her to be with me was adding a lot of pressure in her life, and that I don’t know her anymore because she has changed. I told her that the pressure was because she has to step out of her comfort zone in order to be with me, and it wasn’t completely biological. All she said was “ Wow” after that, and stopped texting. I know it’s a lot of stress when dealing with her identity, but I believe that there should be more relief that we’ve reconnected, than pressure. I would give anything to be with her, even after all these years. I’m just not sure what to do…
  3. Everyone ask himself/herself the question at least once in his/her life. Am I straight, bi or homo ? It is easy for me to conclude that: I`ve always been attracted to women. Recently, however, I have developped a new interogation on my orientation. I would see myself make friendly contact and live with a man and to love him without having any sexual relation with him. So, what can that possibly mean ? I am wondering in between bisexuality and being surprisingly open minded. Could you clarify me this thing, please ?
  4. Well of course by the title you already know what Im gunna put. Well Im a BOY and Im 15 years old and I am BISEXUAL. Well ive always gotten alot of stares and glimpses from boyz and girls ever since I started cumming out slowly. Usually Im use to it and I move on but then sumtimes there will be a boy or two that catch my attention. Sumtimes I've caught a boy stare at me way too long or frequent more than other boys. I have a perfect example, now its story time lol Also this aint another one of those "Is he gay or bi?" quistions so dont have a cow if ya think iot is. Well today I was looking good and feeling gorgeous and I had on sum stylish clothes (style is so important) and I had on sum makeup. Im one of those boys that you can tell Im bisexual without even knowing me. Well back to the story. I had on sum heavy but not too heavy eyeliner and mascara and sum coverup and glittery lipstick. It was noticeable cuz I notice people were staring alot at me when i passed by. Well thers this one boy who is a senior (Im a freshman go fishies!) and for a while now hes been looking and glimpsing at me alot more than any other boy Ive seen. He doesnt stare alot at me he just glimpses at me or looks at me from time to time. Like today in 6th pd my english class went to watch a baseball game and he happened to be there (lucky me) and this is were I got confused. Well I was sitting accross from him, and i noticed he kept on looking in my direction alot from time to time (of course alot of boys and girls were becuz of my makeup) but this boy looked at me alot more times than all the other boys. He was stiting next to this girl I know and I noticed that sometimes he would say sumthing to her and she would look at me and she would say sumthing and he looked at me. Sumtimes when I caught him looking he would look away quickly but sumtimes he we just looked at each other for a second or two. Then afterschool he was talking to a friend in front of the school waitng for his mom.I walked out of the school and as soon as he saw me he glimpsed at me 4 or 5 times while he was talking to my friend. He did NOT stare he just glimpsed at me. He's caught me looking at him a few times and Ive caught him but when we look at each other we dont smile or do anything we just look at each other plain and simple. I would smile but im scared to cuz if hes straight he would probably freak out cuz he knows Im probably bi (it went around the whole school so I wouldnt be surprised if he heard about it) and aslo its not really a manly thing to do (straight guys usually just nod and say wazzup in our school) but I really really want to give him a smile and if he would smile back i would be in H-E-A-V-E-N I like him alot. He looks like he might be bi/gay but I cant let my fantasies cloud the reality. My girlfriends say they think he is. One of them said that it was so obvious to tell cuz he hanged out with girls mainly and talked kinda girlish (hes NOT girly though but he aint manly) and she has kinda good gaydar cuz she knew I was bi before she knew me and before I came out. I dont know what to think, any of you have any ideas? I dont know if he looks at me alot cuz of my makeup or cuz he fancies me or thinks Im attractive. What do ya think? I know ya dont have all the answers cuz of course we are not him but a few tips or ideas will help me out in the long run. I want to get to know him but Im the shy type. My friends said they would try to find out if hes gay/bi but I dont know if that would work. Especially if you want to stay in the closet. what should i do? any advice or tips? How can I approach this guy or at least let him know Im friendly? Much love jezzy
  5. O.K. so I'm a girl...I tend to fall in love with women but am sexually attracted to men. I haven't had a relationship with a person of either gender. But can you be bisexual if you say...fantasize about being in a relationship with a woman but having sex with a man? ...Or if any sexual feelings you feel for a woman are secondary to or come along wit or are barely noticed compared to the emotions..the whole "falling in love" thing...And what if you can only picture yourself being in a relationship with a guy even though all of your heartbreaks have been caused by women, whereas the men you've liked seemed to only have been infatuation.....Oh, and I might have fallen in love with both guys and girls. but it feels different for each gender and this is all over the course of a lifetime, not just one person or something? And what exactly constitutes "falling in love?" What if I really just want companionship from women because I haven't been in a relationship and don't have anyone to talk to a lot? Yeah, I'm kind of confused...because I thought I was heterosexual and would date guys and everything, and I still want to...but when I think about it, the people I think of when I say "Yeah, I know about heartbreak, unrequited love, love" whatever...are usually women...usually - there are a few guys too. Please give me some advice. Thank you to anyone who's still reading this! (I know, I tend to ramble...)
  6. I hope I'm not offending anyone here but for awhile I've sort of been wondering about this guy me & my friend know sexual orientation. He's a very nice looking guy. He's nice and lean with a pleasant face, he's also very neat in person and the way he keeps his house. He's been married and had children so I know he's already been in a serious relationship with a woman.. but.... He doesn't really seem eager to have a relationship or really even a steady sexual thing with my female friend. She's been very friendly to him, gave him her phone number, he's invited her down to his place a couple of times. They even went out to eat a time or two, but he's not eager to call her. Nor will he bother to go see her. She says she goes over there and acts very friendly and dresses a bit seductively so he'll make a pass, but they will sit there for hours, she says, just watching television and him not even hardly noticing her or passing a pass or any affection. I've met him and he's very laid back and seems nice.. but he doesn't seem like the pushy type to me. Still.... I can see her frustration. She says they've had sex a few times, (she sort of iniated it the first time), but he never seems eager to contact her to get together to have sex with him, even though she says he seems to really enjoy it at the time. She also says that after sex, he seems withdrawn and even gets dressed right away sometimes, even though she is told him she's attracted to him and indicates she thinks he's very nice looking. She says he's not very affectionate either, except when they are having sex. Do you think that he's just not into her.... or that something else is going on here? She said he also had an incident of ED once, at first, again maybe caused by the medication he takes? I don't want to see her waste her time, because I know she likes him. Is there any way to find out if he might be bisexual without hurting his feelings? I don't know.. but most red-blooded hetersexual men that I know that are given the green light to have sex with a girl, will find no excuse not to have sex with her once he knows she's willing to have sex with him. To her knowledge she also doesn't think he's seeing anyone else either. She says that he works alot of long hours too though, so maybe that is why. I know she's told me that he takes prescription drugs sometimes to stay up at work, so maybe that affects his libido. What do you think men?
  7. I am not gay, I am not lesbian, nor bisexual or transgender. Let me explain. I am desperately in love with my husband's brother Most posters in most forums are truly shocked by this and eventually, I feel like I am not welcome. I thought you people are bound to be an open minded group; more open minded than the others and there really is no place for someone like me to ask for advice. The minute I share my story (not much of a story, actually...) I am like leper... Will you make an exception and let me post here?
  8. I have been with this man for 1 year and 5 months. My son and I moved in with him last June 06. My first inclination he might be bisexual was when he told me watching two guys made him h.... I asked him if he had ever been with another guy, he said no. Now, we started watching porn together and I noticed he went for the gay and tranny porn. That made me bring it up again and he said no he wasn't bi. Recently, he admitted he had a year long relationship with a man, before me. He says he loves me, wants to get married. I seem to think he still is interested in men because of the signs he shows. I don't want to continue the relationship if there is any doubt. I would appreciate any thoughts on this matter. It would be very helpful. Thanks!!!
  9. For sometime now i've thought that my friend might be bisexual, i haven't come straight out and asked her if she is or not cos i don't wanna make things more awakrd. It all started when we dressed up last year for children in need, me and a few mates dressed up as school girls and i noticed how she was looking at my other friends including me and i felt quite uncomfortable. She's constanly hugging me and she once told me she loved me. Also one time she showed me and my mate a video on her phone of a girl being really rude but it was just a girl there was no guy in the video. I thought that was quite weird cos why would a girl want a video of just a girl playing with herself it was sick. She told me last week when she thought her boyfriend was cheating on her that she told him he was bi-sexual but only for a laugh. why say it if your not? All these things are making me wonder. What do you think?
  10. Hi, Not sure whether this is the right place for this topic. Anyway, I'm lesbian and SO's is bisexual. We both don't wanna to be out due to circumstances. Recently, I've been offered a job at SO's company. The pay is what I've asked for but my SO isn't thrilled with idea that I'll be working in the same office with her. (Seeing each other everyday, what if we had an argument etc.) Should I take up the job because the pay is good or should I decline it because I don't wanna to ruin the relationship? What's yr opinion?
  11. I have always believed that relationships are great regardless of gender, color etc, just so long as no-one gets hurt. I also feel that people have the right to have sexual relations with whoever they feel comfortable so long as no-one gets hurt. For myself I've always believed in monogamy in a relationship. Here's the problem...I met someone online, we got on well and it was great. I found out fairly early on in the relationship, about 2 months on, that he is bisexual because I saw a profile of one of his screen names I found while using his computer. I asked him about it, he was pretty straightforward about his attractions and said that since the breakup of a long term relationship he decided to explore that side of him that he has known for many years, since childood. After 3 years of being together we moved in together with my 2 children. Two years later I find that he had still be explorig the internet, advertising online for encounters. We're very rarely apart & I'm fairly certain he never actually met anyone. He denied ever meeting anyone but did enjoy looking at the porn sites. None of the porn sites were of women. I told him that I wanted to break off our engagement and he promised he wouldn't do anymore internet searching. Then I discovered he was doing it again last year. I was away for about 3 weeks & I found out he had signed up for free AOL (denied he knw anything about it), had secret profile & was advertising himself. He infact said he had done it for all the years we've been together. The problem is, I feel insecure, I feeel guilty for stopping him from acting on his urges. He wants to marry me and says he has stopped any of the internet stuff. Short of spyware, I have no way of knowing that is true. He is a sensitive, intelligent, kind person who says he loves me and will be faithful forever. I need advice. I feel sick.
  12. I have a pal who is dating a man who is gay. I know he's gay, and so does she. I see she's falling in love with him, and I think it could be a bad deal for her. He used to tell people that he's bisexual, but in the last decade or so, they're not young, he's been calling himself GAY. What do you think about this situation? I'm not about to say anything, but I don't know what it means to be gay versus being bi. I had one pal who was always torn about whom she wanted to be with, men or women, but she was the sum total of my experience in listening to someone talk about how they feel. Could anyone help me out and tell me what they think about her situation? Savannah
  13. I'm a dude and I find some guys hot and good looking, but I wouldn't want to have sex with a dude. I also find girls hot and good looking, and I am attracted to girls sexually. I don't like the female attitude. Its sick and it pisses me off. Its sick how many guys they have sex with and how they don't close their legs. Its just sick how they treat men. Believe me. I live with 2 girls. One has a boyfriend and one is single. The one with a boyfriend is such a * * * * and cheater. The single one, the number of her guy friends seem endless. I have only seen maybe 2 of her chick friends at the house. I have never had a close relationship girl or dude by the way. Am I bisexual? Asexual? Enlightened? Staight?
  14. I'm a bisexual woman, and I've been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for over a year. I'm extremely confused because I recently broke up with her out of fear. Now that I did that, I can't stop thinking that she is the one I am supposed to be with for the rest of my life. I can't explain it, but I know she is my soulmate on so many different levels. She knows that I am bisexual, but doesn't approve of it while we are in a committed relationship. She encouraged me to do my own thing for a while, but we are still going to be in our relationship, however there is no strings attached at this time. I'll always be attracted to men, and wish for that "normal" life, but I can't help who I am, and how it has defined me over the years. After I get out of one same sex relationship, I head over to the opposite sex relationship, and when that doesn't work out, I go back to the same sex relationship. I've never cheated on her or anyone else, but when I think it's not working, I give up and move on to the next. Needless to say, it has been a whirlpool of the same actions and consequences. I never thought I'd ever find someone to love me as much as I love them, and then just when I thought it would never happen, I found it in her. The other day while I was having an emotional breakdown, she was there for me like always, and she comforted me and gave me the space I needed, and rubbed my back and kissed me when I needed it. It really hit me that she is my soulmate.. I can just feel it, but I am so scared. I'm scared of making the wrong decision, I'm scared of being Judged by God and the people around me. Marriage, committment, and family is a huge issue. I want it so bad, but how do I know which way to go and if marriage is an option for someone bisexual like myself? Thanks, I'll be looking forward to your advice.
  15. Hi. I am 21 years old and male and have always been confused about my sexuality. I have dated women but i have never been really into it. Everytime i have a crush on a guy, it seems as if nobody i like is interested in a same sex relationship at all. My gaydar is completely messed up. I can't find anybody that will make me happy. How am I supposd to figure myself out if i never have the chance to be with someone of the same sex. It doesnt help that i have low self esteem. To many i am not ugly, but i dont see myself the way they do. I usually blame myself and the way i look for the reasons why nobody wants to be with me. I am very well liked though. Its jsut something i always do. I am very slim, and usually when i feel alone i stop eating a lot and i run. Actually today i ran 5 miles just so i can make my face appear slimmer so people might think im more attractive. I dont want to hurt myself over finding somebody and i need help and guidance. :sad:
  16. So I'm 17, male, bisexual, and co-captain of my school's wrestling team. In practice, I work with this blond, blue-eyed, muscular eighth grader whom I find immensely attractive, but no one knows this. There is a part of the eighth grade class who knows I'm bi and so I've had a few of these sort of these conversations with my hot wrestling partner: Me: There are these kids in your class who whisper things like "fag" and "gay" whenever I walk by, when they're freshmen next year I'm gonna make their lives hell. Him: Yeah I know, they say you're bisexual... Me: I know, what's up with that? Him: Yeah, I know that's not true anyway. And everytime I have one of those I mentally kick myself because I hate the situation. It's ironic because he has no idea that I think he's incredibly hot. He's a nice kid who I don't think would actively make fun of me but it would make things incredibly awkward for us when we wrestle. I doubt it'd ever be the same. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if other, less mature people on the team found out and that would make it uncomfortable for everyone. I hate denying what I am but unfortunately I don't see any other way in this situation. The issue here is having people on the wrestling team know I'm bi... is this one of those time when it's best to remain closeted for the sake of the team? Has anyone else faced similar circumstances?
  17. Really important question: How common is it for girls to like JUST ONE girl and no others. To feel repulsed at the idea of other girls touching her but having strong feelings for one particular girl. For it to feel different with that girl, like it's not a lesbian relationship, like it's just 'right' and whilst everyone else outside the relationship would see just two lesbians together, it doesn't feel like that to the girl in the relationship. It just feels normal. (i.e not being lesbian and not being bisexual. Fancying lads but also ONE girl on the whole planet and not finding any other women remotely attractive.) So is this normal? To not fancy any other girls AT ALL or even think mmm she's nice. But to fancy this one girl, but not really feel like you're fancying a girl. How many people have experienced this? Is this common? Thankyou to anyone who gives their opinion.
  18. Well if some of you who read my other post a few weeks back, it was about how my g/f slept with another female while on a trip out of the country, with another classmate, and told me as soon as she got back. She stated she only did it because i told her i was i was alright with her bisexual views. I never thought her being with another female would enrage me so much so i let her know i felt. She was very sorry for it and begged me for forgiveness, so I forgave her on it because she said she was willing to let go of that side of her and only be interested in me and no1 else and that nothing of that sort would ever happen again. Last weekend, me her and my friend and his gf went away on a ski trip weekend. We had our own cabin. My gf just met these people for the first time. The 2nd night we were there, we all were drinking. My gf started getting a lil loose and blunt. She was acting very happy go lucky and giddy. She started putting her arm around the other girl, acting very friendly with her, acting excited around her company, tickling her, wanting me to take pictures of the two of them. She at one point blurted out, "when i drink or smoke, i get very horny." She even earlier in the evening (before drinking) looked down her pants at the other girls lingerie that she had planned for her bf, but she stated that they were talking about it earlier. I felt very uncomfortable about it at the time, mainly because of what had just taken place a few weeks back. It made me begin wondering if this was the true her, being very close and friendly with other females, especially when under the influence. It made all confused about what she had stated to me after the japan incident, that she wouldnt act that way and was willing to let go of her lesbian ways. The part that concerns me alot is that she acts VERY different when she in under the influence of alcohol as compared to not, even when it comes to the sex between us. Shes alot more open and aggressive even with me in bed when drinking. I didnt say anything during the trip, but when we got back i did bring it up. Then the next day, my friend actually gave me even more info, he said that at one point when i was in the kitchen, she went into the bathroom with the other girl, and asked her "if she was only straight." My friends GF felt very uncomfortable at that point, and clearly said yes she was only straight. She stated that she felt that if she said that she does go both ways, that my gf wouldve pounced on her. After hearing that, i was just enraged. I couldnt believe my ears. I was totally hurt and felt disrespected once again. When i brought it to her attention, she stated that she was just being friendly with her, trying to become friends, and that she had no intentions of anything. She stated that it was just a question out of curiosity, nothing more. She said shes very friendly with females like that all the time, with her mom, sister, cousins, friends, etc. She said she wouldnt ever lie to me, and what she said a few weeks back, she meant. She said she wanted the whole weekend to be for us together, nothing else. She didnt have any thoughts towards anything of that sort. I am in a difficult position to believe her now. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to trust her at this point. A part of me wants to believe her, but a part of me is very hurt and mad. I dont know what to believe at this point. I dont know if my gf is TRULLY capable of fully letting go of her bisexual nature, even if she states she has no interest in anyone but me. She stated last night when we spoke, that she still calls herself bisexual but just says that she doesnt practice it right now. But then she also stated that if her and I were to break up, she would go back to that. This is all is very confusing. I dont know what to tihnk. I cant stand the thought of her being interested in anyone but me At this point, even knowing that the thought might cross her mind enrages me. I dont know if deep down inside, she ever would fully let it go. I get afraid of how she might be if shes drinking, and im not around. BTW, if the whole thing with her and another female didnt happen a few weeks back, i wouldnt have even thought anything of this, but the fact that it did, and especially that its sooo fresh in my mind still, is what confuses me and hurts me more than anything. I dont know whether to stay in this relationship or not. I know i prolly left out some details or what not, please ask if u need further detail on anything.
  19. Well if some of you who read my other post a few weeks back, it was about how my g/f slept with another female while on a trip out of the country, with another classmate, and told me as soon as she got back. She stated she only did it because i told her i was i was alright with her bisexual views. I never thought her being with another female would enrage me so much so i let her know i felt. I originally thought it wouldnt pose a threat to me if she was bisexual, but i only realized after it was too late of how turned off i would feel. She was very sorry for it and begged me for forgiveness, so I forgave her on it because she said she was willing to let go of that side of her and only be interested in me and no1 else and that nothing of that sort would ever happen again. --> this is the original post from the first topic - Last weekend, me her and my friend and his gf went away on a ski trip weekend. We had our own cabin. My gf just met these people for the first time. The 2nd night we were there, we all were drinking. My gf started getting a lil loose and blunt. She was acting very happy go lucky and giddy. She started putting her arm around the other girl, acting very friendly with her, acting excited around her company, tickling her, wanting me to take pictures of the two of them. She at one point blurted out, "when i drink or smoke, i get very horny." She even earlier in the evening (before drinking) looked down her pants at the other girls lingerie that she had planned for her bf, but she stated that they were talking about it earlier. I felt very uncomfortable about it at the time, mainly because of what had just taken place a few weeks back. It made me begin wondering if this was the true her, being very close and friendly with other females, especially when under the influence. It made all confused about what she had stated to me after the japan incident, that she wouldnt act that way and was willing to let go of her lesbian ways. The part that concerns me alot is that she acts VERY different when she in under the influence of alcohol as compared to not, even when it comes to the sex between us. Shes alot more open and aggressive even with me in bed when drinking. I didnt say anything during the trip, but when we got back i did bring it up. Then the next day, my friend actually gave me even more info, he said that at one point when i was in the kitchen, she went into the bathroom with the other girl, and asked her "if she was only straight." My friends GF felt very uncomfortable at that point, and clearly said yes she was only straight. She stated that she felt that if she said that she does go both ways, that my gf wouldve pounced on her. After hearing that, i was just enraged. I couldnt believe my ears. I was totally hurt and felt disrespected once again. When i brought it to her attention, she stated that she was just being friendly with her, trying to become friends, and that she had no intentions of anything. She stated that it was just a question out of curiosity, nothing more. She said shes very friendly with females like that all the time, with her mom, sister, cousins, friends, etc. She said she wouldnt ever lie to me, and what she said a few weeks back, she meant. She said she wanted the whole weekend to be for us together, nothing else. She didnt have any thoughts towards anything of that sort. I am in a difficult position to believe her now. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to trust her at this point. A part of me wants to believe her, but a part of me is very hurt and mad. I dont know what to believe at this point. I dont know if my gf is TRULLY capable of fully letting go of her bisexual nature, even if she states she has no interest in anyone but me. She stated last night when we spoke, that she still calls herself bisexual but just says that she doesnt practice it right now. But then she also stated that if her and I were to break up, she would go back to that. This is all is very confusing. I dont know what to tihnk. I cant stand the thought of her being interested in anyone but me At this point, even knowing that the thought might cross her mind enrages me. I dont know if deep down inside, she ever would fully let it go. I get afraid of how she might be if shes drinking, and im not around. And you know what they say, when u drink, the truth comes out...so i wonder. BTW, if the whole thing with her and another female didnt happen a few weeks back, i wouldnt have even thought anything of this, but the fact that it did, and especially that its sooo fresh in my mind still, is what confuses me and hurts me more than anything. I wouldve thought that she wouldve been smarter than to do something right in my face that might remind me or make me question her desires, especially so soon. I dont know whether to stay in this relationship or not. this new incident is only pushing me further to wonder whether my GF can TRULLLYY let go of her bisexual side or if its just something she says she wants to do just for the sake of wanting to keep this relationship alive...i dunno what to believe at this point My girl has never lied to me up until this point and has always been 100% open about everything, but its still hard for me to believe everything, because right now i believe the "other side" of her can come on at anytime, and thats what i cant trust. Am i overanalyzing this or do i have every right to doubt her trust at this point?? I know i prolly left out some details or what not, please ask if u need further detail on anything. This post is not questioning whether what my GF did the first time around was cheating or not, because I already established that with that it was and she accepted it and apologized deeply. I just need feedback on what i stated the topic was, as well as what you might think this last weekend represented, thank you. Sorry to make it so long.
  20. I haven't posted in a bit about my situation as of the moment and decided for a post that was based on updates for what has gone on since last time. Right about now I am trying to figure out what I'm going to do with my life, I've spent the past week or more to myself trying to sort out what I want and want to do. Going to different towns looking around, mini vacation as much as a College student at my stage can. Aside of my own confusion on the professional front I've had to deal with the "love" front. My friend is Bisexual as it turns out and she has been flirting shamlessly with me whenever we talk yet she will not let go of her boyfriend or any of the like, she knows I don't approve of cheating matters and won't be involved in it but she continues. On the other half, I met a woman who I fell for extremely so, and we both can just spend hours chatting about anything and enjoy each others company extremely. She was the one to really show interest initially now that I think about it, and I have to say I'm stricken too. She has all the traits I've thought about in a woman and she says it is the same for me. One major huge hang up that put a damper on the day, she is only about 17 years my senior. She has her degrees, she has a professional career, she has a home and is well established. I on the other hand am only a student finishing a Bachelors and wanting to get into Graduate school, I am renting, and my employment is still on the casual minimum wage front. Technically, we're two absolute opposites. Not in goals, just in stages. While we share the same views and eventual ideas about life despite the gap, neither of us are sure whether it is worth pursuing or not. Worst part is, when we've been out together, even in the most liberal area we've been to, even with as close as we tend to act and be, people have a tendency to ask if we are relatives or such. At least no one has asked if I'm her daughter yet, maybe we don't look that far apart for people to say that or they just think and don't speak. On another point is jealousy. While my friend would refuse to get rid of her boyfriend if she were actually interested in me beyond a crushing bi-curiosity, I find the green eyed monster loves to rear its ugly head when I tell her that the other woman and I are say going out for lunch or coffee. She isn't really rude but she is cold about the fact. Really, what does she expect me to do? I don't see why I should be getting the attitude about all of this for moving along. At least this other woman knows she is a lesbian, open about it, and has known for a long while. With her, the woman whom is older than I, I don't have to worry (or at least I hope not...) about being Gay, having a relationship with a woman and midway going into a crisis about "My parents said I need to marry a man, sorry sucker, I'm off. Hope you enjoyed." Love my friend dearly but I don't trust her to remain a Bisexual interested in women. I could be terribly wrong, that she isn't confused in her female interest and won't go haywire mid relationship. To me personally it would be more devastating to date a Bisexual woman or confused "lesbian", invest years into a relationship then out of the blue one day she states that she wants a man and a year later is married to one. I can much better tolerate the thought of loving a lesbian and her leaving for another woman. Oh, and the lovely catch on the end of this is my Bisexual friend wants to meet me and spend time with me over the Summer and that makes me very nervous. I get this odd impulse to think that spending time with me over the Summer isn't to catch up on schoolwork, life and employment topics. I want to say no, but she isn't an idiot and will catch on that it is the fact she seems interested in me and I don't want to deal with it. Secondly, I am not at all on good terms with my family at current so it isn't like I can say I'm going "home" to be with them while she is in the area. Anyhow, looks like I'm going to be here for awhile longer (School has gone to hell in a handbasket for me) and not going to be any escaping the issue for awhile, so I've just been debating about the to-do's and not-to-do's of these complex little bumps in life that come about.
  21. Is this natural? I'm bisexual, and I'm having feeling for a certain trans woman...I've never had any feelings like this before. Any advice? Please?
  22. As of the past months I've been trying to expand my horizons a bit and visit what I can in regards to the GLBT community. Events, Gay Friendly Areas, Businesses, etc... just to see all the sights I suppose yet the sights haven't been all that beautiful and words are quite bitter. While it may of just been the places and people I've happened to mingle with, I'm surprised by the amount of prejudice we have in our own gay community. I hear so many preaching about "Let there be no labels, no stereotypes, no prejudice, love us for who we are not misguided outdated misconceptions", but to simply turn around and do just that to a fellow member of the * * * * * community. Just the other day, I was trying to converse with a group of Lesbians whom seemed relatively nice upon meeting but they did seem to act strange about assuring themselves that I was a lesbian. Once this was cleared it was okay. By the end of the conversation they were verbally attacking Bisexuals among themselves to the point I excused myself. I have good friends that are Bisexual and certain comments I found unacceptable. They used, "confused, unfaithful, pretending" just to name a couple to sum it up. They insisted they never would date Bisexuals because they cannot make up their minds, they can never be faithful, they pretend to attract male attention. Then much earlier in my explorations I happened accross a cafe where a gay man and woman were having a heated debate about whether it was appropriate to have the G or the L first in the GLBT/LGBT summary. One insisted that Gay always comes first that is how it was made, the other yelled and stated it was chauvinistic behavior and patriarchy concepts that exists in men gay or straight that made it so. They went on spewing their hate for one another for however long. I've never heard anyone though saying the Bisexuals or Trans portion don't have enough representation in this nutshell abbreviation though. Speaking of the Trans portion, we are homophobic among ourselves, or transphobic. I guess I've come to expect certain women to act homophobic around me and seem paranoid that I am going to "seduce" her to my lesbian ways but I've seen and I've heard gays and lesbians go out and act obnoxious or all out exclude someone because they are MTF or FTM and the like. I don't understand that, I know we have it bad sometimes, but it seems like they've got to have it worst when some of the gay community won't even have open arms about the issue. Another time outside of a cafe setting and I don't know if the group was gay or not, but they were attacking a pair, a woman of whom I supposed to be Latin descent and an African American woman. They said it was okay to be gay, but they were crossing the "borders" and it was unacceptable even if they are lesbians. I thought we valued ourselves on the "Love is Blind" line, no? I've also heard snide remarks regarding Gay Republicans and Christians as being traitors to the community, that they don't belong and should go and be repressed "Heterosexuals" that our gay world doesn't need people like them to further corrupt and help lose what rights we already have. I didn't understand this logic, I always thought the gay community was extremely liberal and just because you were gay didn't mean you HAD to have certain outlined particular Politcal and Religious beliefs. Now, the woman I am with, we are several years apart, yes we look like the fairly odd couple I suppose walking around together but people in these places with almost entirely Gay Clintele, when we walk in and find out that we're not related, we're not just friendly friends, they give us a look like we're a two headed monster or something. Even before this relationship I suppose for lack of better phrasing was "finalized" they were giving us looks and asking stupid questions. I'm glad to know age is such as factor, too. Maybe I look into things, listen and observe too much to conversations I shouldn't stick my nose (or ears) into but so far I've found the gays at least on a state level to be extremely hypocritical. They preach love and tolerance to the straight portion, and then they turn around and give a racist, sexist, age based, even homophobic comments among a hundred other discriminating categories to their own. Personally, I wonder how we're going to get anything accomplished about hatred if our own can't even get their acts together and throw away extreme prejudice. With what I hear, I'm surprised there aren't more reports of Gay Hate Crimes and I'm not talking about ones done by Heterosexuals either, but Homosexual to Homosexual. This I suppose could be considered a rant, but after seeing and hearing it all I just felt inclined to write about the personal observations, and the fact I'm a tad bothered by it all.
  23. Well, I'm sure a couple of you read my previous posts regarding a good friend of mine and my confusion with him and his sexuality... I've given up at this point seeing as he seems to never want to hang out anymore and doesn't seemed "obsessed" with my like he used to be or isn't as interested as I see it... Though, I think he's in such denial of his sexuality that he'd rather avoid any situation at all costs... Even my family thinks he's gay. Anytime I bring up his name or talk about him, my dad would be like he's definitely gay, he's a fag, and stuff like that due to a time when he said "I Love You" right in front of my dad and my dad was like * * *, I didn't say anything back, I just said like Bye... My sister says her "Gaydar" works and she knows for a fact he could be gay... Anyways... the point of this post wasn't about him... It's about another friend I know who, I'm not "as" close to but used to be, we aren't in the same grade. A year apart. He's VERY touchy-feely when he sees me he touches my shoulder or arm or something... I think he's in denial but not as bad as the other guy... Interesting he seems open about talking about being gay when we talk to each other... For example tonight... Excerpt IM Convo: ME: oh so thats cool aim decides it wants to completely close out HIM: haha HIM: but n e ways... HIM: women, there just a major pain in the * * * ME: yeah so... ME: yes HIM: there enough 2 turn a guy gay HIM: maybe HIM: sometimes ME: probably haha ME: i could understand that bc they bring so much drama into everything HIM: seriously HIM: i grew up with 2 older ones ME: yeah ME: as of right now i pretty much avoid them b/c at this age their whole lives are about drama haha HIM: yeah HIM: thats y i try and hook up with older chiks ME: exactly HIM: and even their all about drama sumtimes HIM: women straight piss me off ME: i agree HIM: well, im gunna go get some food, then go 2 bed HIM: so ill ttyl He HAS talked about being "turned" gay... In person multiple times if I recall correctly... Now according to my family, they think he has "tendencies" and could be Bisexual or Gay... More Bisexual I think... Though he has only had like a couple girlfriends in his life that didn't last, including my sister and another girl whom he showed NO AFFECTION to, not even holding hands maybe a hug! So, I don't know... Any ideas?
  24. This is at least the second time I've seen this type of thing posted, and it's got me curious about all of you. What is YOUR sexual behavior, preference, and identity (if you don't mind me asking)? As for me: 1. homosexual 2. bisexual 3. homosexual p.s. Thank you, Managor! I'd tried the "new topic" button before, and didn't realize that the lists of forums it gave me were so I could choose where to post. I thought it was just redirecting me to other forums as though I wanted to see their new topics.
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