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  1. Hello everyone, I’ve recently reconnected with my ex girlfriend after 15 years. I broke up with her when I was 17, because it was really hard to see her due to her overbearing father. I really want to be with her and start a family. She still looks at me differently than any other woman on earth. She turns into a little girl when we are together. I can truly tell she loves me, but she won’t admit it or deny it. and I believe that it’s because she hasn’t been with a man in 10 years. She told me today that me asking her to be with me was adding a lot of pressure in her life, and that I don’t know her anymore because she has changed. I told her that the pressure was because she has to step out of her comfort zone in order to be with me, and it wasn’t completely biological. All she said was “ Wow” after that, and stopped texting. I know it’s a lot of stress when dealing with her identity, but I believe that there should be more relief that we’ve reconnected, than pressure. I would give anything to be with her, even after all these years. I’m just not sure what to do…
  2. I really like this girl that I work with and we’ve been on a few dates. I’m 17 f and shes 19 f. We both have never dated anyone else or even had our first kiss. I was the one to ask her out and things have been going good, I know she’s interested in me, but she’s just so damn anxious. I know it’s not her fault but I have anxiety issues too and things are just not progressing because of this. I made the leap and hugged her, but I can’t make a move beyond that. I thought she may be opposed to affection so we had a conversation about boundaries and she assured me that I wouldn’t make her uncomfortable with anything. The most affectionate thing we’ve done is hug and we didn’t even do that until our 3rd date. I just don’t know how to get her to stop being so nervous. She keep apologizing for “being awkward” and I keep reassuring her but she never calms down at all. She literally just left my house less than an hour ago, I initiated a hug before she left, and it was a normal hug, but she’s so anxious that she thought she messed it up somehow. After we hugged, she said,”sorry Im so awkward.” What do I do? She’s technically the “boy” in the relationship, and I don’t want to overstep. I hate the idea of taking the more dominant role, and I really don’t want to be the one leading the pace. I need her to make the next move. She’s made it clear that she enjoys being the “man” in the relationship- so how do I make her comfortable enough to do that?
  3. Before I start I just want it to be known that I am still a closeted bisexual and she has an ongoing relationship with her boyfriend of 4 years. Ok so, I recently met this girl a year ago and we quickly formed a huge emotional connection as we instantly felt comfortable around each other and became really close within a short amount of time. Within the first few times of us seeing each other (through mutual friends) we had cuddled, kissed (on the lips) but that was all when we were both intoxicated, bare in mind we barely knew each other at this stage. I invited her into my girl friendship group and we started to become even more closer with each other. She would wrap her arms around my neck and hug me in public and I would hold her from behind. One night, we were snap chatting each other and she said something very suggestive to me. I was talking about her dog ***ting being jokingly sexy and to which she replied with "you know what else is sexy? Underneath these covers" (implying herself) and that put me in utter shock. Sure, friends like to joke around a lot but that was pretty ***ing bold. I responded back to her and she told me "you have to wait to see" ????? And now ever since the start of our new friendship, we constantly like to touch each other and flirt (only over text) with each other. She would talk about me not holding her hand, cuddling, how I belong to her and nobody else, and she would just say a lot of things what would involve her being possessive over me. But when it comes to face-to-face, we're nowhere near as affectionate and bold we are over text. Instead, we like to insult each other in like our banter way. When we sleep together, it is always us two in a bed cuddling and leaving no space between us. At almost all times I will be either spooning her or her body would be directly on top of me and I would give her back scratches and run my fingers through her hair. Sometimes I would notice when in an party/crowded environment and I would go off with a boy/hug a girl directly in front of her she would glare at me when I return back to her. Now, everytime we see each other we hug and kiss each other on the lips goodbye. She does all this but at the same time, she jokes about getting boy strangers numbers for me and would even joke about me being lesbian. She still would talk about her boyfriend but also tells me about the fights they have and how mad she gets. We have even cried to each other on how special we mean to each other despite only knowing each other for a year. She says she has a "soft spot" for me. Am I reading all of this wrong? Is she being confusing? Do we just have a deep emotional connection? I'm not sure what direction to take this friendship into, please help me!
  4. I've been feeling really confused. I'm 23, female, and recently got out of a relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I truly loved him, and we had a great sex life for about the first year. However, over the last several months I started to have a lot of questions about my sexuality. I fantasized about sex with a woman sometimes while we were having sex, and sometimes while masturbating as well. It impacted our sex life because I started to feel like there is this whole other side of me that I haven't explored and don't understand, and I felt like I needed to explore it. I decided to try to call myself bisexual and see how that felt. Sometimes that felt ok, but then I also began obsessing over the worry that perhaps I'm just gay. Some background; I have anxiety and OCD, and wonder if me obsessing is related to that (HOCD perhaps) or if I'm just blowing up everything in my mind because I've never actually explored being with a woman, so it's all this huge unknown. I know that I have truly enjoyed sex with men in the past, and I've genuinely fallen in love with them. I miss my ex a lot, I still love him even though the relationship ended. I've never had significant feelings for a woman. However, I can't get this fear out of my head that I'm actually just gay or something. I know that I have been experiencing sexual attraction to women. I also know that sexuality if fluid, and perhaps mine is more fluid than others in that I felt very straight for 3 years (from about 19-22). Before that though I did question my sexuality and wondered if I wasn't straight. I always liked men though so it was easy to mostly ignore. Now that all these feelings have come back again I am really confused. I wanted to feel satisfied with my ex, I loved him, but I kept wondering what it would be like to be with a woman. I can't tell if I am just feeling all of this intensified curiosity because I've never been with another woman, or what. I want to learn to accept these feelings in myself. If I was bisexual would it still be normal to feel a need to explore this other side of myself since I have never acted on these thoughts? Any insight or advice would be helpful! :)
  5. I am a bisexual girl who has a boyfriend of 3 months now. I also have a female best friend who, it turns out, I've developed feelings for. I don't know what to do because I love them both ever so dearly but don't want to ruin anything or make things complicated. They both mean so much to me that it'll hurt me if I loose them. I can't talk to my family because my family don't like my best friend so their opinions are one sided. And I can't tell my friends because... I have trust issues with people. Me and my boyfriend are long distance and my and my best friend go to the same school but she is a senior, and graduating this year while I am a junior. If you didn't catch on but we all are in high school. My boyfriend is 4 days older than me. Can someone please give me advise? Please?
  6. Hey happy campers, I'm currently in that point in time during high school where I'm just trying to figure my sh*t out. I've had those typical crushes on guys (I'm cis girl) since the beginning of time, but only recently I started having feelings for another girl who I know is bi. The problem is I've never kissed or had sex with anyone regardless of gender. So do you need to have sex/kiss a girl or guy to truly know your sexuality or does feelings count? Thanks.
  7. Mkay so I am bisexual and I JUST (3 days ago) came out of a two year relationship with a woman. She was unhealthilly possessive of me, and i CAN be very promiscous, however i remained completely faithful to her. Now the trouble is that i came out of this relationship completely burnt out and tired, and i am considering the possibility of starting to have sex just for the pleasure, including one-night-stands and basically screwing with whoever comes my way. Now some friends have told me that its ok and others have told me that i will feel completely worthless, empty, sl·utty and used. I must say that i hold my body in quite low regard and that i could easily just give myself to anyone (with certain limits). So what do you people think? should i just let go and screw, or should i take it slowly? Cheers!
  8. Hi everyone. It's been a very long time since I've posted on here but i'm feeling kinda down about my relationship and would like some insight if anyone cares to give some. Well my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now. We've known each other going on five years, were very good friends for three before we even started a relationship. Well things seem to be a little on the off side as of late for me and I can't explain why. I'll just start from the beginning. Just a few minutes ago I was looking at an old yahoo account of hers and came accross a personal ad she created about two years ago stating that she was looking for a woman to experiment with. Now that kind of hit me hard because for so long she's told me she wasn't interested in women sexually although this ad says different. now she's since stopped using the account so I'm sure she's forgotten all about it and I can't check when it was created so I don't know if she made it before or after we started dating. But I guess the reason it bothers me so much is because she's telling me one thing and doing the total opposite. Well it's not all her, I too have had the urge to experiment with those of the same sex and a few times have acted on those urges but have since given that side of myself up as I've found that it wasn't for me. I do still feel myself attracted to men but the desire to sleep with them or carry on any other kind of activity is next to none. One day though, I was cleaning out my computer and came accross a chat session she had with one of her online friends and aparently she stumbled accross an old email account that I stopped using that had some welcome messages from a few bisexual groups I had joined a while back. She was talking to her friend about how she found them and they upset her severely. I guess mainly due to the fact that I like to make a lot of jokes about gay and bisexual people and she felt that I was hiding a part of myself from her. She's never brought it up to me although it said she wanted to. One other thing is the person she was speaking to about those emails happens to be bisexual as well and they have talked a few times about maybe experimenting together. she went up to see her a few months back and they apparently passed up the opprotunity to try anything. I'm assuming she doesn't think I know because they still speak about it from time to time and from what I've seen she hasn't as of yet done anything with any other girl as of yet. now I have asked her on a few occasions if she was bi or even slightly curious and she assures me she's not, but if such is the case then why do I keep reading otherwise? Her friend will be coming to visit her in about four months or so and I think that they will actually go for it this time. I guess what my real question would be is should I bring it up to her again? This time not asking her if she is but telling her what I've found. I'd like to think I'm an honest man so if I did tell her what I found I'd definitely tell her about myself. But that's where my fear lies, I'm so afraid of losing her. Telling her my times of experimentation and her leaving me not accepting a part of me I've learned to accept and let go of in favor of our relationship. I don't want to throw away the best friend I've had for the last five years, but at the same time I don't want to hold her back. I see that her feelings now have been going on for some years now even though I've just recently found out so there's no telling how far they go back. In a perfect world a situation like this would bring us closer together but I don't think it'll happen that way. I want to spend the rest of my life with her because she's wonderful to me, she cooks for me, tells me she loves me on a regular basis, she's even doing my laundry as I type this. She's just got a side that she's hiding from me and I don't want her to make the mistake I made by exploring it behind her back. I honestly don't know if it is all just a big lie (althoguh a 2-3 year lie is one hell of a thing to try and keep) or if she actually does feel this way. And if so then why would it upset her so much to find out I was bi? Anyone else ever been in this position? I could really use some advice. Thanks to everyone who read my little novel.
  9. Ok...I've finally told my mom that I'm bisexual and she's knows that I a stud(lesbian) friend that I like.But, now we've known each other for going on 5 months and there's a little bit more attraction now.I want to know how can I go about telling my mom that I want to date her and possible have a realtionship.PLEASE HELP
  10. So this guy is bisexual with a preferance I'm told towards men. So what is his intent? A fling for kicks, or a potentional relationship? I mean he's the first bi person I've ever met. So it's all really confusing for me. How do you go about asking that kind of question.
  11. I posted on here before about the men who sexually assaulted me in the past. Perhaps I shouldn't even be bringing this up again, but a recent board has brought many things in my mind. I knew something was wrong when I tried to get away but the person simply wouldn't allow that and continued. I knew I should have screamed or at the very least said no as their hands slid down my body. I knew he wasn't understanding my actions when he continued to slip my hands down his pants. Scott and Kevin have left permanent scars on my mind and soul. I was not raped. I was molested. I was sexually assualted by two different males on separate occasions, one being many times. Scott was over a year ago and a one time experience. Kevin, on the other hand, continued his actions over several weeks. On the night things were going too far, I literally died inside myself. It was just like with Scott, but this time it hurt even more. You see, I had dated Kevin a year prior and was considering starting a new relationship with him. He turns twenty this October, while I turn seventeen this November. People have said that I should really learn to take care of my body or this will continue to happen. The thing I don't think they understand is, I do protect myself and I do have respect for my body. I never really thought it could or would happen again and after I cried, Kevin would always apologize. I never physically said no, but I did show signs of distress and discomfort; crying, squirming, trying to get off the bed. I don't exactly know where I am going with this because my friends seem to think I am: A- Lying B- Over everything C- Should be over everything or D- Believe I lead them on and they were misunderstanding my actions. I really thought that in time, things would change and I would gradually move on; however I have yet to stop thinking about both Scott and Kevin and the last incident was nearly two months ago. Was I wrong to not say no? Should I have reported all accounts even though there was no evidence? Should I be over what happened? Is it time to simply move on? I find myself sexually and emotionally attracted to woman now and every thinks its because of what they did. I do not mind because I feel safer and right when with another female and was borderline bisexual before any of this ever happened. I also told my father, in a letter, what happened but he never mentioned counsleing or reporting. Does he too not believe me? Perhaps I have lost it and none of this was abuse; maybe I am simply blowing things out of the water.
  12. Hey all. I don't really feel like trying to form any poetry, so I guess I'll just write. Where to start...still taking my prozac. Supposed to start counseling again soon. I have to have a new one bc of some insurance screw up. I went for around a month without cutting, then I started again. I think I'm at my worst ever. I don't ever really use a knife anymore...I've been using broken cds, and once I used the pointy thing you stick in the end of a corn cob. I was cutting every day, but now my arm has been full/sore so I'm waiting... I found someone to hit me. (remember that post?) It's a guy a little older than me. He leaves bruises, which is what I'm looking for. I only see him at school and on the bus, so he can't ever get too violent. If I want more I'll have to see him outside of school. I hope I don't let it come to that, who knows what would happen before he'd stop... God, am I fu__ed up. My last attempt at normalcy failed drastically. (the boyfriend.) I made it a little over 2 weeks before breaking it off. He's really in love with me, and still treats me like his girlfriend. He's willing to wait for me until I get over my problems. For some reason, I can handle guys who just want to f*ck but this guy is pushing me over the edge. Im doing everything I can not to hurt him. I'm going to have to quit talking to him, or who knows what will happen. Why the hell do people have to care?? I am who I am, and I don't want to change. WHY? I don't get it. I'm a cutter. I'm depressed. I'm bisexual. I'm promiscuous. I'm anti-relationship. I follow no religion, and have no beliefs anymore. I don't get close or attached to people. I wear black most the time. I want to die most of the time, but won't kill myself. I like being hit. I just want to be alone. I wish I knew what I was looking for. Until then, I'll just bleed through the days, through life. Empty
  13. If I look at other chicks and sometimes I get little thoughts about what it would be like to be with them, does it mean I may be bisexual? I like guys and have had a few boyfriends but none of them have been serious relatipnships. I'm really confused because I do have the thoughts of getting with a girl but don't know if I'd actually do it. Please help me to work it all out!!!
  14. My school doesnt have a GSA and I think it is totally ridiculous so to start it, some friends of mine and I are doing the day of silence on April 13, 2005. We dont quite know how the administration will react. We will safty pin the following paragraph to our clothes and hand them out as well... it's the official National Day of Silence "Flyer" to hand out Please understand my reasons for not speaking today. I support lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender rights. People who are silent today believe that laws and attitudes should be inclusive of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. The day of silence is to draw attention to those who have been silenced by hatred, oppression, and prejudice. Think about the voices you are not hearing. What can you do to end the silence? Next year it's going to be HUGE, well big atleast. Because next year we will have a GSA because of me. I will make them!!! Uhh yeah I dont know why I'm posting this. Pretty much to let people also have the opportunity to Participate in the NDOS
  15. hi, im 15 going on 16 and im also really confused, upset and god damn stressed. basically i LOVE a beautiful girl, well everyone says shes really ugly but i see her as a beautiful princess and no words can describe what she is because she just....well theres no word! but basically ive had even stronger feelings to another female before, its not just some stupid teenage thing in my opinion the love I had before helen was more important to me than anything in the world! Amy was her name gracious, beautiful, honest amy! but she was 20 and I at that point only 12. i dont want to be bisexual or even , perish the thought, gay. My parents are homophoebic freaks and they always say to me how discusting gays are. so i have no one to turn to, no one at all! i dont want to be different. when i think that its possible that im gay i feel sick, i feel discusted in myself! its against religion! and against what any of my homophoebic family want. i would do anything for my family! so making myself miserable must be part of life! I dont know if i'm gay, bi or straight, its like im two people. one person whos very bisexual and can only think of the rolling grass which fills many flowerful hills that dont even compare to the people I love! and the other person who thinks people who are bi or gay are wrong and discusting. and because my parents have droned it into me that it is wrong to be bi, in my opinion meaning its wrong to love someone for who they are rather than to what sex they are, has even got me thinking that how i feel is wrong! im so confused, i have been for years! my mum even said to me once, never be gay, i would hate it if u were gay. how is that suppost to make me feel? she wouldnt like me if i love someone for who they are? I wish i wasnt bi or gay really i do but i have never LOVED a boy as much as I love the two females that I have talked of. however I do go out with boys, but more for fun than love. However I ahven't gone any further than snogging with a gay. and i haven't even kissed a girl! so i dnt know how i an feel so strongly about something and so opposed to it at the same time! I fI am gay, how can i tell my parents, my grandparents....anyone? i suppose i cant, i suppose i will have to hide my true self. i am also confused.
  16. Hello everyone, my first time here. I have an issue on my bisexuality. I´m 17, male and I accepted I was bisexual over a year ago but should have done long before but I wanted to know if it´s normal to be so confused as I am sometimes. Sometimes I feel bisexual, sometimes straight and sometimes gay. I like both in different ways but I do know for sure that I like my on gender more sexually but can anyone tell me somehting useful about this?
  17. First of all, let me explain my situation. I've always been straight until now, have had 3 boyfriends, and I'm 19. I've never really fell in love with a female, but every now and then I'll see a girl and think, "yeah, that's the kinda girl I'd like to be my girlfriend if I were a guy". So recently I've started to have feelings for one of my *As and it's a she. I like to get her attention and really enjoy watching her...and I feel like I really want to be with her, in a relationship. I"m really confused becuase first of all, does this mean I'm bisexual? I'm usually the kind of girl who goes for guys, and I actually feel like I have the same motivation to go for her. BUT...she is my *A and I have no idea whether she is straight or bi or homosexual. And as much as I would like to tell her how I feel for her, I'm afraid that this will have a negative impact...I don't know how she will feel... It's so frustrating becuase I have no one to talk to this about and I really like her...and it's really hard to become friends becuase if I actually initiate or invite her out, it will seem odd since it's almost a student teacher relationship (she's 3-4 yrs older than me). What should I do? Thanks ahead for your input!
  18. hi i'm posting this because my boyfriend just told me he is bisexual. Can anyone explain what this really means to me? "Women can be aroused by other women but not feel the need for actual non-platonic love and dependence on that woman. This is a known, studied and practical fact. Men, on the other hand, are not this way." i'm really not clear on the non-platonic love part basically.
  19. hey all, Here's my dillema... I started university this year and have met some really cool people who have become good friends. I have told them about my sexual orientation and they were fine with it. But it seems as though i just cant find the courage to tell my friends from high school who i've been friends with forever that i'm bisexual. Some of them always say that they dont have a problem with homosexuality but i just really do not want to tell them. And it's getting harder to conceal it now coz some of my friends from high school are starting to hang out with my new friends from university and my university friends dont know that my high school friends dont know i'm bisexual and i'm afraid that someone will slip and accidentally say something about my sexual orientation. I love my high school friends so much but i just dont think that they can handle it because of the fact that we come from suburbia where homosexuality is kept behind close doors unlike in the city where my university is there is a lot if diversity and open-mindedness around. Am i doing the right thing trying to keep it from them or should i just tell them. Please help any suggestion is welcome. Thanks.
  20. Okay. I really need some opinions on a very confusing situation. I'm 23, a woman and bisexual. I am completely in love with my 45 year old former professor (also a woman) who has become a good friend. We began seeing each other socially after I graduated college. She invited me to a party she was having and then I asked her to have dinner or a drink and since then we have become good friends. I have been to her apartment numerous times over the past two years. One night last May she cooked us dinner and we talked on her futon for hours until I told her I really cared about her and she told me that she cared about me too, but that I already knew that. We hugged and she grabbed my face and put our foreheads together - then she kissed the top of my head and held me and played with my hair. The kicker- she lifted my chin up and told me I was young enough to be her daughther in a disapproving, flirty tone. But, she recently found out she can't have kids. I had been flirting with her subtly up until then but at that point she did not know for a fact I was bisexual. She had met my ex-boyfriend (younger professor) and I had met her husband. (Yes, she is married but does not wear a ring, live in the same state as him, or refer to him as her husband, though does see him about once every month or two. Not too far fetched for an ivy league educated woman...) Since then I sent her flowers, a book of bisexual erotic poetry and a letter telling her I'm in love with her. She isn't at all freaked out by it - just says thank you and hope to see you soon. We talked about the letter for a few minutes when she came to my apartment last week ( we live a couple of hours away from one another) but she just said she had some responses that she'd rather write down, despite my telling her she didn't have to respond. She gives me these looks where she just holds my stare and I see her swallowing hard. We have shared some very intimate moments- I know way too much about her past loves (she slept with professors in her day as well) and vice versa. My question is - what in the hell is she thinking? I want so badly to just throw her up against the wall and kiss her (I've written her that exact fantasy), but I don't know if she wants that. She told me once when asked how she felt about my bisexuality that she thought society made people straight and that you could be attracted to a number of different people for different reasons, despite gender. She also said that I was lucky I had the freedom to explore that option and that she goes in and out of wanting relationship security with her man constantly. Sometimes I think she wants me to just make the leap and do everything for her so it would be easy. But I'm afraid she might pull back or be freaked out and leave if I try to kiss her. She also is a an academic counselor and future colleague. I'm afraid I will ruin the friendship we have but I have never been so in love with someone and it's not going to fade for a long, long time. I'm moving accross the country in a few months to go to grad school and she told me she wanted to come here and spend some time with me before I left. Does she want me as a daughter, a friend, maybe something more? She has so much to lose- is she scared? I need serious opinions asap...
  21. I a bisexual woman in a relationship of 7 months with a straight male. We have a very loving relationship, although I can't help but think about other women everytime we have sex to reach climax. It's gotten so bad that I don't even know if I'm sexually attracted to him, and completely zone out and think about other women which will make me orgasm instantly. Even romantically, I can't help but feel like I want to be with a woman sometimes, as I feel that maybe in some ways women are easier to connect with. It's worth noting that I have never been in a relationship with a woman so don't know what this all means. I think I love him.. But all of this makes me question it.. and I have huge guilt about it because I dont want to hurt anyone.. what do I do?
  22. Hi guys, I’ve been with a girl now for 3 years to say I love her would be an understatement. 2 days ago she told me she is bisexual and has been since we met. She has never experienced any sexual or emotional relationship with a girl which is in fact why I am writing this. I don’t want to finish her and she says she wants to be with me but I feel it’s only going to be a matter of time till she has to explore that side of her personality. I am not considering giving her a hall pass or whatever as I would not be comfortable a with that. What do I do?.
  23. I met a girl at work and there was an instant connection. We started slowly but got on so well we thought we would just go with it. Up to this point I had not been with another girl but had been interested. There is a 17 year age gap which didn't matter to us at the start. We had 4 really great months and then it went wrong for no reason. She broke up with me and we have both struggled but have agreed to stay apart because of the age difference. I have kids and she may want her own at some point. I now realise that I was interested in girls all along just had not been in a situation where I could be open about it before. I have been asked so many times which way I'll go now that I have been stressing out questioning myself. My ex has been great and says it doesn't matter and just to embrace whatever comes next but it does matter. I like to know what is going to happen next and I would quite like to have an answer when I get asked next. How the hell do I fimd this out?
  24. Well ya guys Im stuck in a rut and Im clinging on to hope! Well Im a bisexual male and Im only 15 and Im proud......but now my pride is starting to wane because of one very important quistion, "Will I go to Hell for being the way I am?". Some people say that gay, lesbian, bisexual, transexual, etc. people go to Hell, then there are some people who say that it's not true. I think God loves everyone and doesnt care for sexual orientation but then again with all the people and books that say that being homosexual is a sin, it leaves me confused. I read a book about sex and all that teen stuff today, its a Christian book by the way, and in it it said that its a sin and that people CHOOSE to be Gay,Lesbian,Tran,Bi, etc. Now thats were I strongly disagree because I did NOT choose to be Bi! Im not saying that God created me like this but I know "me" better than anyone else! Ever since I could remember I always was attracted to both sexes since I was 4 or 5! I mean what 5 year old boy do you know just wakes up one day and decides to become bisexual? Its appauling that people think that! Then the book said that people can change there ways and that kind of stuff. Im just so confused, what are ya's views on this?
  25. A (girl) friend of mine who I don't know very well is constantly touching me and telling me everything I really don't need to hear. It makes me uncomfortable because I just met her last week in one of my classes. The first day she's constantly poking me after only about 10 minutes of knowing her. And asks for a hug- I give her a light one, not thinking much of it, just a hug right? Then the other day she just kept on staring at me then walked by and ran her hand through my hair in the beginning of class. I hate it when people I don't know just touch me like that and muss up my hair. Then she comes by and rubs my shoulder or neck at random points in class. I just shrug her hands off and laugh and say, "Oh- you scared me! Don't sneak up on me like that." or something stupid because I don't want to say, "Get away from me what's your problem?" Today, she did the same. But at one point, I was showing her a drawing I did and said, "Oh, it sucks ***, I can't figure out what I did wrong." She came by and put her arms around my neck and just pointed out things that way- her arms resting on my shoulders. Ugh! It just weirds me out. I tried to act natural, but it was weird and all my friends were just staring and when she walked away were like, "What was that about?" I know it sounds wrong and mean but it'd be easier to ask her to back off a bit if she were a guy. It's a little embarrassing too because my guy friends will whistle and joke that they're going to get to see some "girl on girl" action. I just tell them to shut up or laugh it off but I'm worried people might actually think I'm into girls or something. And I might make people mad but I have a slight feeling that she's possibly a lesbian, bisexual, or is trying to get attention from guys in the class. Then, she today started telling me really personal stuff. Like how her mom is terrible because of this and how she once was raped and had a gun held to her head. I had NO idea how to react and said something lame like, "Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry." I'm not a counselor or anything, and it really bummed me out. I felt bad but I tried to change the subject. I don't want to sound mean but I have a feeling she was just making some of it up. Also, I just met her back on Thursday or Friday or something. Isn't it a little odd to be sharing personal information so soon and in public? Should I just ignore it? Maybe people can obviously see I'm not the one doing the touching. Or she'll get the hint and stop? It just weirds me out a little for some reason but how do you nicely say, "Don't touch me, stop telling me all this." ? Call me a prude, but I'm just uncomfortable with getting so close to a girl...
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