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  1. jengh
    Both of my parents have big families. Dad's is Polish, Mom's is Italian... Mom's side I get along very well with, with the exception of my great aunt...she is SO racist. I understand she's in her 80s but I can't handle it.. thats something i will not tolerate... My dad's side of the family all gets along great...but for some reason, they all have it out for me. They constantly nag my dad about what a horrible job theyre doing of raising me, how i dress like a skank (we were on a caribbean cruise, for god's sake! am i supposed to wear a turtleneck!!!!?)... .Ive come to two conclusions: 1) It's because dad always got picked on because he was the youngest... 2) It's because I'm adopted and not "blood", which is something theyre really weird about... so, in short...no, its certainly not just you. Good luck this holiday season
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    That is exactly what I was going to say... At that age, a person of such authority will scare the crap out of a kid.. God, they STILL scare the crap out of me Have you tried taking it higher than the principal, like to the superintendent? I'm not sure how big of a school district it is, or how it works down there, but up here, the superintendent is more than happy to meet with parents who have unresolved issues.
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    That's really something that makes me mad. Regardless of who is the better, more responsible parent, the courts always sway towards the mother. I knew a guy who had 2 children. He's a fantastic father, but he can't get the courts to make his ex-wife pay substantial child support. She's one of those women who put her needs in front of her children's, who see them only when it's convenient, etc. Because the courts won't step up, those 2 are "Toys for Tots" kids in the x-mas drive. It's so sad... and so unfair... the legal system needs to open their eyes a bit more and see that it's not always the father who is causing the pain.
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    Oh man, that guy sounds like bad news. I've dated guys where I've paid for more than half of everything (I was pretty mad about having to do so since they made more money...and notice dated is in past tense) and it just gets exhausting after a while. I should've been saving up for school and living expenses, but I went away to school penniless. The fact that he said you wouldn't have been able to see your parents if it weren't for him really makes me mad. Maybe he chipped in A LITTLE BIT (as he should, he should be paying for HALF), but if he'd been pulling his weight all along, or at least making a good effort, he would be able to say that more justified. But the fact that he's been relying on you for all of this time gives him absolutely no right whatsoever to act this immaturely. Have a good, long talk with him and give him a week or so. If it's still the same deal, it's only going to hurt you more in the long run, both financially and emotionally (you constantly feeling like he's using you). I'm sorry you have to go through this. People can be so immature and heartless at times.
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    While some kids definitely do need the help of medication, I feel that ADD/ADHD is over-diagnosed and in certain cases (NOT ALL!!!), an excuse for poor parenting/discipline. I'm not saying this to insult the parents of children who truly DO suffer from ADD, I'm simply saying sometimes, I don't think the doctor is doing enough research on the individual child... A couple of years ago, I was having trouble with depression, anxiety, etc and they tried to tell me I had ADD. I have one of the best attention spans and great concentration (though I know there is often more to it)!
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    I think child services will further look into things before any charges are formally made. I'm assuming your brother has no bruises/marks that would convince the counselor he was being honest. However, it is their job to report accusations. If you know your father would never do that, you need to speak up. In the cases I've seen/heard of (based on friends, news, etc), they really do take into account the opinions of the other children. I think if you were to tell child services that your father is definitely NOT abusive, neither to you nor to your brother, that your brother is doing this out of spite, there really isn't any hard evidence. In cases of child abuse, they generally have witnesses (teachers who see the bruises, other siblings) and a long trial before determining anything. If you want to stand up for your father (which you certainly should if you know he's innocent), be prepared for the witness stand and all of the awful questions the lawyer will ask you. Out of curiosity, how old are you and how old is your brother?
  7. jengh
    This happened to me fall of last year. I had been talking to this super nice, super friendly guy I'd met online. We got along great and agreed to meet. He sent me pictures that looked SO real because the guy in the photo wasn't gorgeous, just your average guy, neither ugly nor sexy (he must've stolen them from another profile). Anyways, we met at a restraunt, I got there first.. He came to the table and was many inches shorter than the profile/picture claimed him to be and was about 200lbs heavier... I was angry that he lied to me, but I figured since I was there, i might as well get a meal out of it.. He was the most obnoxious, unintelligent man I have ever met. THEN, he had the nerve to ask me out again. HAH On a brighter note, though... my boyfriend of 8 months and I met online and he is everything + so so so much more than he claimed to be. In fact, I can see myself spending a very long time with him, if not forever. So, i guess you just have to keep trying.
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    I can totally relate... I get them ALL the time... though I'm now taking wellbutrin and prozac and xanex and haven't had one in quite some time. If you don't want to medicate, which is great, try stepping outside to get some cold air. that always helps me. Close your eyes, concentrate on relaxing every muscle, starting in your feet and ending up in your head. It sounds dumb but the focus and concentration it takes to do that really really works. And, as DN mentioned, be SURE you're BREATHING! When I really thought about it, during one of my attacks, I realized that I wasn't breathing at all. Try to make a conscious effort to take slow, deep breaths
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    I love it... I think it's hot.... when I dont see my boyfriend for around a week, just seeing him and hugging him gets him hard... to me, thats definitely a huge turn-on... turn off: making out with guy on couch... guy ejaculates. without any touching
  10. jengh
    both my friend and her boyfriend have their tongues pierced and it certainly doesn't seem to be a problem with as much as they kiss/make out... don't go too rough the first time--just in case. dont want that catching on anything... ouch!
  11. jengh
    crap....all that talk about tea made me order more from Stash...they have an herbal sampler pack on sale for $6.99!
  12. jengh
    I LOVE Stash!!! And how weird--i have water heating for the holiday chai now!! mmm... I've spent so much money at their website... I get the sampler packs... One of my favorites is the Red&White tea... amazing... Green&White is great, too... I notice that when i get on my "tea kicks", after a week or so, I feel SO much healthier!
  13. jengh
    Would you consider counseling? Would they consider family counseling? These are some pretty serious issues. Like the other posters, I thought my parents were overprotective. I'm sorry you have to go through your highschool years in fear of your parents.
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    I agree. That is exactly how I am. I'm not proud of my previous promiscuity, but now that I've found someone I could potentially settle down with, I have absolutely no desire to be with anyone else.
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    I read this post and immediately thought of my ex's little sister. She's 15 now, but I've known her for the past 4 years. She too has ADD/ADHD so bad and it can't be controlled. Been on a million different meds that didnt work, etc.... Well, finally a doctor recommended trying the supplement Omega-3 fatty acids. They come in pill form, but also (his sister is very picky and wouldnt swallow pills) in little pudding-like packets. They have done WONDERS for her. Plus, it's much more natural than all the chemicals pills have to offer. Just a thought.
  16. jengh
    This is exactly what I was going to say. This way, you'll be able to go with her and see the things that she likes so for future reference, you'll know her lingerie style and not get her anything she finds to be trashy. How long have you been together?
  17. jengh
    wow.... in my opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you did. You were simply helping out and being there for a friend in need. The fact that it's your girlfriend's friend makes it even sweeter--that not only do you care deeply for her, but you also care about her friends. She should think it's a good thing. From the e-mail, it sounds like she's pretty immature... is she completely serious or was she joking around at the end?
  18. jengh
    Personally, I thought, overall, it was fantastic. Very well written, humorous.. I do, however, agree with the other posters about possibly removing the deep poetry, talking people out of suicide things. While there's certainly nothing wrong with either, it's best saved for a later conversation. And I must say, if I was a single, 35 year old Southern California woman, I would definitely be interested!
  19. jengh
    oh my god...she sounds heartless. i'm so sorry you have to go through all of this. and good for you for wanting full custody. with as much as it sounds like she goes to bars and clubs, she isn't home a lot and probably not very responsible.
  20. jengh
    my boyfriend's friend (he's way older) calls his 16yr old son Biscuit and his 13yr old daughter Peanut... I call my boyfriend Jacknut...not to be mean, just jokingly. We were watching some sitcom on TV and the wife called her husband that and it made us laugh and just kinda stuck
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    jengh replied to RomanticWOHope's topic in Infidelity

    I agree with the other posters. She doesn't sound at all materialistic. She is being honest about her feelings and needed some unbiased advice. You've come to the point where you love her more than she loves you. That is never a good thing. She won't suddenly decide she HAS to be with you. You need to just let her go. If you're right for each other, later on in life, you'll meet up again. Give her space. That's what she needs more than anything right now. From her letter, it sounds like you're smothering her. I am truly sorry for what you're going through. I know what it's like to love someone more than they love you. It kills. I also wonder... how did you come about these letters?
  22. jengh
    hmm, well, at least i'm not the only one :S
  23. jengh
    it's not really the way he's doing it...I've tried having him do it other ways... it just feels... nauseating i guess is the only word to describe it. really uncomfortable. And the thing is, i'm totally not insecure about them. It's the one part of my body that I like and I know attracts males. I just wish I could figure it out and enjoy it.
  24. jengh
    My boyfriend thinks I'm crazy, but i HATE having my nipples touched, sucked on, licked, etc... Same goes for my breasts... My question is: Does anyone else have this problem? My boyfriend LOVES my breasts...he loves touching them, sucking on them, etc... but i can't stand it... it's just not a turn on. Is there anything I can do to just get over it and get used to it? I feel bad because they really turn him on...
  25. jengh
    Oh thank god he said he's leaving...let's just hope he means it.... I've been reading this post from the beginning (dont think I ever responded though, nothing I could really say) and I'm so happy it seems to be working out.
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