Call of The Zombie

Yes, I've had this problem before, and my ex hated the fact that I couldn't sleep with her.

My girlfriend and I have been living together for about four months now. I find myself spending more nights in a different bedroom, maybe 5 out of 7 nights a week. I have no trouble falling asleep in bed with her, but I'll wake up a few hours later and if I need to get up for some reason (drink, bathroom, hot) there is no way I'll get back to sleep with her unless I am totally exhausted. If I do sleep through the night with her, I'm tired in the morning. I'm kind of a light sleeper and she snores. This has been going on for a while now, even since before I moved in with her. It bothers me a little, I don't know what she thinks. I don't know where I'm going here, just rambling since I'm a little tired.

My girlfriend suffers from seasonal depression. Is there anything I can do to help her? She just seems so down about things and nothing I do seems to help at all. Thanks

My girlfriend has a bit of a belly, but you know what? I do not care, I love her for who she is and not how she looks.

There's a backstory to this, I'll explain as best I can. She is 26, I'm 31. She was engaged to this dirtbag who cheated on her a lot. He was the one who broke off the engagement and she was a mess afterward. She and I had known each other socially for about three years before we started dating. Anyway, the summer after the breakup, she went to this friend's wedding and slept with this guy. She says it was a big mistake and wishes she hadn't done it, so why keep mentioning it? I'm not impressed by it and don't care one way or the other, I just don't want to hear about it. All this happened before we started dating, so it doesn't concern me in the least. My own one nighter was way back in 1999, so long ago I've forgotten most of what happened. I don't talk about, it has nothing to do with anything in my life now.

Thanks everyone for your advice.

God I hate starting any kind of discussion like this with her. I never bring up my one nighter (which she knows about) cause it doesn't matter any and was a long time ago. I'd rather not think about it.

That is quite possible. She used to ask me "you're not going to leave me are you?". Her ex-fiance cheated on her repeatedly. I love her more than anything and I plan on asking her to marry me in the spring, I just don't want to hear any more about the "Virginia escapade".

She'll just come out of nowhere with it. She did it last night, we were laying in bed watching tv and she just started in with something about it. I made the disinterested noise three or four times and she clammed up finally.

We've been together about a year now, living together for two months. She dropped this on me after we started having sex and keeps bringing it up.

I do not know why she keeps bringing it up. Like I said, I didn't want to know about it in the first place.

...my girlfriend talks about the one night stand she had 2 years ago. She doesn't know that this bothers me, but it does and I'm quite sick of hearing about it. She brings it up about once a month and has for the duration of our relationship (about a year now). This is not something I want to know about and wish I didn't. Everytime she says something about "the wedding in Virginia", I want to tell her to shut the F up about it. Obviously I need more tact than that. But should I even bother saying anything about it?

Hm. Maybe I should also say that we live together, so... Also, this is not the only thing she is getting.

I want to buy my GF something sexy for Christmas. She was looking through a VS catalog the other day and said something to the effect of "So much of this just looks so trashy I wouldn't wear it". Now I'm scared I will pick the wrong thing and she'll be upset and not want it at all. I'm sure her idea of trashy and my idea of trashy are two totally different things. Any ideas?

I have this same problem with my girlfriend. It is HER house, and she does almost no cleaning. The sink is always full of dishes, she never vacuums, never picks anything up, dishes all over the house, piles of junk mail that aren't getting thrown out, piles of laundry in the bedroom, piles of laundry in the basement (that's where the washer/dryer is), it drives me nuts. So, I do most of the cleaning. Why? I am a neat freak. I like things orderly and tidy. I clean most of the house once a week, except for her junk mail and her laundry. We do not live together....yet. Right now, parts of the house look like a disaster area because we are in the process of remodeling and painting, so it's worse than normal. Wait, I should say I am in the process of remodeling and painting, because of the five rooms I have done, I've done 85% of the work. She offers to help but is in the way more than she helps.