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Wow...this thread really took off! I guess I'll jump on the bandwagon here: My life sucks because I'm always insecure, distrusting, and have a really hard time interacting with people. That's why this site is so awesome...it gives me a place to just be myself!
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Huh?... Maybe this should go in off-topic.
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I totally agree Awdree, and I like the metaphor you used. While the scale will always continue to fluctuate as we gain new information, no one will ever know enough about the universe to be able to proclaim or denounce with 100% the existence of a deity or supreme being. As Thomas Jefferson said, "I see no redeeming qualities in orthodox Christianity." I think Jefferson meant that it is unwise to believe in something without taking into account all available information and the opinions of those who disagree. It upsets me equally when I meet a scientist who refuses to acknowledge the possibility of a god and when I meet an orthodox Christian (or any other religion for that matter) who refuses to acknowledge the possibility of no god.
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Well, anyone with any brains at all has got to recognize that making comments like that will be hurtful. And from what you wrote, it sounds like it happens often. If you're really into him, I'd tell him firmly and clearly that you're hurt by his comments and he needs to stop making them. Give him one chance to stop. If he doesn't stop, then clearly he doesn't respect your feelings, and to me, that would be a dealbreaker.
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MorningStar- This girl clearly loves you, as you said. For some reason or another, she simply feels scared to be so committed right now. We're about the same age, and I know that being young and very committed to one person can scare some people. Others are perfectly okay with it. My advice is to make it clear to your girlfriend that you love her very much and still want to be with her. You've already done that. Then, I suggest you do exactly what she asked, and give her space. Right now is a perfect time, since you'll be out of town. Just let her know that she can contact you anytime, and leave it at that. That way, she'll have lots of space, but if she starts missing you, she won't have to wonder if she can call. I wish you the best of luck, and I think you'll find that things will work out better than you're imagining.
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Hi and welcome to ENA! I'm so sorry that such unfortunate circumstances brought you here. You'll find a lot of people here who can help you through this and offer great words of support. As far as this part of it goes, I think you'll find that both men and women do this. You certainly deserve better, though. In regards to getting through each day, lots of people here will probably agree with me when I say that this is a great time to focus on you, and surround yourself with family, friends, and fun things that enjoy doing. Best of luck to you. *Hugs*
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Well, my advice still stands. By "things," I thought you meant that she was hugging him, or calling him on the phone. I think you need to tell her that when she talks about her ex, it makes you feel uncomfortable, and you'd really appreciate it if she wouldn't bring him up so often. Like I said, she might not realize that talking about him is having such a profound effect on you. As an afterthought, her saying "I don't have feelings for him" out of the blue might be something to be a little worried about. She might be saying it to reassure you, because she actually doesn't have feelings for him, and she knows you might be worried about it. Or, she might be saying it to convince herself that it's true, meaning she may not be completely over him, or have gotten the closure she was seeking when they broke up. Just a thought. Good luck dude, and stick around ENA!
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Hi and welcome to ENA! First off, have you talked to her about any of this? I don't think it was considerate of her to talk about her ex with you, but maybe she doesn't realize how much emotional turmoil this is causing. What kind of things do you mean?
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I'm going to agree with other posters here that "Eternal Sunshine" and "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" were both good. Also, "In Good Company" is a good one because it doesn't have the stereotypical ending, but to say any more would spoil it for those who haven't yet watched the film.
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I just wanted to say that I really liked what everyone has said so far. I think quite a few of the problems I have in my life can be traced back to a pessimistic way of thinking.
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Dark and Light.
gfein347 replied to SilverManic's topic in Poetry, Prose, Art & Photography's Topics
I enjoyed this poem as well. The line that reads "feeling pain ever so slight" made me think that perhaps this poem is about recovering after a breakup. I could be totally wrong here, but it seems as if this poem refers to the stage of recovery where you really start doing well, but there are occasional reminders of the ex that can still hurt a bit. -
I just wanted to add something- I've heard quite a bit that stress can cause acne, and moving away to college can certainly be stressful. If you feel like you're under a lot of stress, some relaxation techniques or meditation might help. It's not for everybody, but I'm in my first year at college, and something similar happened to me (although not as severe), and taking more time out of the day just to relax has seemed to help. Best of luck!
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There's your answer. Sex should only happen if both parties feel perfectly comfortable with it. Since you've admitted that you're not fully ready to have sex with him, then I believe the answer is that you should wait.
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I'm not sure of the laws governing pills such as these, but I do know that for diet pills, vitamin supplements, etc., the FDA is not required to evaluate the claims they make. Only if the pills cause someone health problems is the FDA then required to conduct a formal analysis of the effectiveness (and health rammifications) of the pills in question. I guess the point is to not believe everything you read. If the packaging says in fine print, "these statements not evalutated by the FDA," then the manufacturers can make almost any claim they desire.
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Well, I think you're looking at the situation from a mature perspective in realizing that dating "C" may ultimately ruin your friendship with her. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck!
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I have insomnia, and often feel exactly some of the things you describe in your poem. It is both accurate and well written.
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Hmm...so she's acting strangely towards you other than the comment she made? And she left that ambiguous post in her LJ? Given how she reacted when she found out about your date, I think she may have feelings for you, and was a little put off that you got a date without talking to her about it. Even though you had no obligation to let her know, I think this may be how she's feeling.
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I think C may be feeling insecure. You said that you used to be in love with her, and even though she didn't share those feelings, it probably made her feel good to know that someone sees her that way. This isn't to say that she's not acting irrationally; in my opinion, she is. However, I think your going on a date with another girl has made C feel insecure, like she is no longer loved.
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I'm sure you already know this, but here I'm going to say it anyway: I think you need to let your husband know what's going on instead of misleading him. I'm only in college, so my knowledge in areas such as these is limited. thereforeeee, I think there are others here who could offer more specific advice. However, I am sure of one thing: you absolutely must be honest with your husband.
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Are you having an affair, or are you just seeing him as a friend?
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Yikes...Do guys really prefer insecure/dependant women?
gfein347 replied to denisemarie's topic in Dating Advice
This is definitely correct. However, I think we can be a little more specific, too. In my opinion, guys that are insecure about themselves want to feel like they are in control in a relationship because it helps them feel secure. But if a guy is secure about himself, he will probably feel a lot more comfortable being in a relationship with an girl who is independent and secure. -
Well, I'd probably be willing to go on a few dates with myself, but I'm a very strange person, and recognize that it would be difficult to find someone whose personality matches my own. My girlfriend doesn't seem to mind all my odd idiosyncrasies, but I know that I'd probably end up getting on most people's nerves eventually.
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I live right in the middle of the city and there are homeless people everywhere. Most of the time, I just ignore them completely because I found that if you give to one, a lot more will see and then you've got a lot of people asking for money. I like Awdree's idea of giving money to a homeless shelter, because it is much harder for someone to deceive a homeless shelter than it is to deceive a person off the streets.
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Yeah dude, just talk to her a little more. Find out what she likes to do, etc. If you have any mutual friends, you could try going to an event as a group and then hang out with her there. Just be patient and give this time. She said she wants to get to know you better, so she must have at least some interest in you.
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Well, she said she wants to get to know you better, so why don't you try sitting with her at lunch or walking with her to some of her classes? Just spend a little more time talking to her and see where that leads. What grade are you in by the way?