ladydi3

It all sounds so familiar. I am wondering, after reading some of the replys, if I am still so in love with him and missing him or am I missing "us"?? Missing being part of a couple???? I don't have the answers and I am still trying to search for them. Hang in there, I don't know when or how but you will find happiness whether it's with him or not. Keep telling yourself that you deserve the best and then figure out if he is the best there is.

I am sorry for your pain. I think that no one should be allowed to lie, we should all have those collars they make for dogs and when there's a lie being told we should get zapped! I am still trying to figure out what were lies and what was the truth. I guess my first clue should have been that he was married 4 times and left each and every one of them. I was gullible and believed that he was waiting for me and had to go through what he went through in order for us to find each other. All fairy tales, if it sounds too good to be true, it is!!!

thank you to all of your for your kind words and advice. I did speak with him the other night for over an hour and he actually cried saying that he missed me and thinks of me all of the time. I am not sure if that is to ease his guilt or if it is heartfelt. I am trying to forgive him so that I can move on but it's not easy. I still think about all of our wonderful times together and not so much what he did in the end. I do appreciate all the advice, I know that I eventually I have to let it go and not see his son any longer but for right now I need to even if it's worse for me. I need to give him a hug and see how he is doing.

It is so confusing and frustrating. At this time there isn't any easy answer for you and no one can give you the answer. You have to try and search your heart as well as listen to your head. Our hearts don't always lead us the right way but our heads usually do. I think that you need time away from her for now to see what your feelings are. It is very difficult to hang out with her and be just friends. Maybe in time you can do that but you have to look out for you right now!

Just visited this site and am amazed at how many people share their stories! Mine is also a sad one.... My boyfriend of 4 years and I just broke up. He came into my life at a time I was just getting over my second long term relationship (cheater #2). He came in like a knight in shining armor, said everything to get me to trust him. To make a long story short, he had bariatric surgery, lost 140 pounds and has now moved on due to my trust issues (so he says). Come to find out, he has been in touch with an old "friend" and they have started a relationship. His side of my bed isn't even cold yet. To have this guy do this after he knew what lying and cheating did to me in the past is the most devastating thing to happen. I can barely get through each day. He has a 5 year old son who is like my own so I still must have some contact with him because I still want to see the little guy. He honestly thinks he did nothing wrong!!! I found out that he had been hanging out with her now if it was so innocent why didn't he tell me? Why do guys (no matter how old, he's 50!!) think that it's ok to go from one relationship to another before the old one is even over!!!!!!!!