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  1. DizzyDoris
    Sounds like after being abused in her past, she is now taking on the role of abuser. Do you have anywhere else to stay? Sleeping on the floor in the closet? OMG whats that all about! Your supposed to be her boyfriend not her pet dog! I would try and talk to her and if she doesnt start treating you better and stop being violent towards you, i'd be off like a shot. In fact ignore that....i'd be off like a shot right now! This girl is seriously going to damage your self esteem, she needs to sort her issues out and you deserve to be treated so much better. This is not acceptable behaviour she has no right to treat you this way.
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    No dont make something new, thats perfect, she will love it. Thats so thoughtful and romantic.....do you have a brother? lol
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    Just be very careful, yes ive been there. I was one of the women you describe. I got chatting to a lovely man in the same situation as you. His girlfriend didnt/doesnt know he chats to other girls online. We hit it off so well, had so much in common that we eventually ended up meeting, which escalated into an affair. It didnt last beyond 2 months, the guilt got the better of us both, and we both vowed we will never do anything like that again, i am in a wonderful new relationship now and his girlfriend is still in the dark, but he is trying to make things work and seems happy. But he admitted he wasnt happy when he first started chatting with me. If you dont think you are out of order here and think you are doing nothing wrong, i have to ask why you are not being honest, why have you not told your girlfriend that you do this?
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    What a horrible situation you've got yourself into. Okay im gonna give you my perspective. I would not want to get married to someone who felt like this about me, my future husband should adore me, not feel as though he is marrying a friend! I would not want to get married to someone who has already cheated on me before the wedding and has feelings for another woman! If you feel this way about your fiancees bedroom antics (private time) i am sure she must be feeling the same way about you. How do you know she isnt just marrying you out of pressure? 50k you say has been spent on this wedding. She could feel trapped into marrying you, or just ignore me, she could love the bones off you, i dont know. I wouldn't get married if i had any doubts. And if you dont think your fiancee is the "one" stop this wedding now. If you marry her, can you see yourself ending things with barbiegirl, or is this going to be one of those 20 year affairs?! If you can already see now that your not 100% sure and happy, in the future you could look back and have regrets and break this womans heart. Best to be done now, she's young and will get over you (eventually) If you do marry her and keep cheating and dont love her like she deserves to be loved, everyday you stay with her, you are preventing her from finding real happiness and real love with someone who could love her and be her soulmate. Alternatively, you could be honest and tell her the truth. Once you've told her you've been sleeping with the ex for 4 years behind her back, that ought to determine whether this wedding will be going ahead! No offence, but i think this marriage is doomed before its even begun. Just out of interest, you discussed this with your parents, that must have took some balls, what advice did they offer?
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    Really good dil, captures the pain and emotion of that horrible feeling all of us have suffered at some point, unrequited love. You have a real talent for writing.
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    ive never been proposed to, but if/when that day happens, it would be so romantic if my partner had chosen the ring. I would love it even more because he had chosen it!
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    Hey n83, i'd say it is pretty normal. I take it you went through a really bad breakup? I felt like this for 3 1/2 years after the father of my children left me. Didnt want to know. Didnt meet anyone i connected with, and was determined to stay single for ever and never go through that hurt again. Then last year i half heartedly started dating again, nothing ever came of it because if they showed me any afection i shied away and got cold feet, so that was the end of that! Then this year, purely by chance i got back in touch with a great friend from my past who i'd lost touch with. He too has been through a tough time with his ex and we started dating now 2 months later, i am happier than ive ever been, and im willing to put my heart on the line for this guy, i trust him 100%,and he treats me like a princess. I dont really have a point here, i guess im trying to say just enjoy your single time, live life for YOU and this phase wont last forever and its normal. When the right guy comes along, you wont feel this way anymore.
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    I have to agree with everyone else i think it would be a mistake to send it! YOU know you did nothing wrong, he probably already knows it too. Like poetsheart said he will probably just laugh, maybe even show his friends. I wouldnt initiate any contact with him, you already know he's not into you so what good is sending this email going to do? I know its easier said than done but you need to move on and just forget about him.
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    Yeah bite the bullet and ask him out sooner rather than later. I once had a crush on someone for 3 years, i fantasized all sorts about him, was mad on him, took me 3 years to tell him how i felt. Then he said (hahahaha)....I know...i just like you as a friend though. Was sooo gutted, if i'd been brave enough to tell him 3 years earlier, i wouldnt have wasted so much time day dreaming about a guy who wasnt interested! If he says yes, thats great, if he says no, look on the bright side at least you will know where you stand and you'll get over him and be able to move on to someone who will return the feelings. If you dont ask...you dont get!
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    I agree with laboheme couldnt have put it better myself. Every time i have got into a serious relationship its been when i least expected it. Love always seems to bite me on the bum when i least expect it!
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    LOL I think you look kinda cute with that big red bow!! Seems a nice honest profile, plus your sense of humour will help you pull the ladies! Keep us posted on how it goes and good luck x x
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    This sounds familiar i had a buddy with benefits, it lasted for 3 years, at first i was cool with it but inevitabily in the end i got feelings for him and had this fantasy that after 3 years he must have had some for me. He used to just come round for sex then leave straight after. Looking back now i cant believe i put up with it for so long, he just used me for sex. I dont have any advice really (sorry) just the part where you said he leaves if he doesnt get sex, seemed like a red flag to me. Like he doesnt want to spend time with you unless he gets sex. Be careful with this one, sounds like hes just after one thing.
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    How about you say to him "50 tonne penguin!" When he looks puzzled and replies "50 tonne penguin??!" You say "yeah.....that broke the ice!"
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    I was in the same boat on sunday, i met my boyfriends family,was invited round for sunday dinner. I feel bad now because i went empty handed...oops! I was polite, dressed smart, and was just myself, the whole family were really nice (which i knew they would be as my boyfriend's a darling!) and they made me feel very comfortable and welcome. The next day my fella told me his mum said " she seemed a tease" I was really shocked and said "why? because i sat by your dad?" He laughed and told me she said i'd seemed at ease.....phew! Just be yourself and let her see how into her son you are, if they can see he is happy they will instantly like you! Good luck and have fun
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    If it was on purpose you did the right thing by not responding, he would have wanted a reaction from you. And like someone else said above if it was a mistake the new girl wouldnt have got it haha! I presume he could see on his outbox that it went to you though, and if he's not been in touch to apologise makes me think it was just an accident. Just forget about him, sounds like your best off without him. Why not go to all those places you want to visit, but he wouldnt take you, with your girlfriends instead!
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    Woah those pronto condoms look great, shame you can only get them if you live in south africa.
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    Lmao shes2smart!!! The magic forest haha im stealing that one!!!
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    Aaaw i feel sorry for this guy now after everyone has bashed him! Maybe you made such a good impression before you went out he wanted to show you how much he cared, yes 2 dozen is a bit OTT but its very sweet. He did cross the line with the underwear comment haha but that could have been down to nerves? If you like him, give him a second chance but tell him hes a bit full on and you'd like to take things much slower and keep things lighthearted. If he goes to this extremes on a first date....just imagine what he'd get you for christmas lol
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    I call my breasts "the girls" haha! Its just a bit of fun, one of my friends calls hers biggy and wiggy lmao!! I have two small children,one of each sex and have taught my daughter to call her private parts her "tuppence" and....aherm....hope he doesnt get bullied at school for this....but have taught my son to call his "mr.winky!!"
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    Basically just tell her the story like you've just told us. Be willing to answer all her questions honestly and expect her to be a little confused as to why you've never spoken of them before now. If she really loves you she will understand and this wont change anything, although she may wonder what else you are keeping from her. Good luck and just be honest, im sure everything will work out fine!
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    I think that was a great poem, really well written. Good on you for coming this far, like blender says above, just take one day at a time. You should be proud of yourself, your doing really well. Dealing with any addiction is hard, but especially drugs. Keep on track and dont undo all your hard work, just think of all that extra cash you'll have! Good luck hope you keep us updated on your progress.
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    It always puts a smile on my face when i get wolf whistled or cat called, If im on my own i usually just smile back and carry on walking, if im with friends we all blow kisses! Its just a bit of fun, take it as a compliment. If someone shouted MINGER or made barfing noises when you walked past, then THAT is the time to be insulted haha!! Also im a sucker for horn honking at fit guys haha!!
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    This doesnt sound too good im afraid. Just because its a girl, its still her ex. If your girlfriend was doing this and her ex happened to be a man, i think your instincts would tell you what to do! If i was really into someone, there is NO way i would want to take my ex along on our dates. I think she is being totally disrespectful to you. And her not wanting to kiss you or get physical with you, says to me that she's not as into you as she should be. How long have you been together? If its a long time maybe you can talk this through and work something out? If its a short,new relationship pehaps you should cut your losses and find someone who will treat you better. I for one would not compete with the ex, i would be off like a shot if my boyfriend treated me this way!
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    What should you do? absolutely nothing! If you like alex, give him a chance to see how things turn out with him. Ken is a timewaster, he messed you about first time, found out you had someone new then wanted you back, when you said yes, he didnt want to know again! sounds like he likes the chase. Dont let him mess you about and spoil things with your new guy. just move on and forget about him and good luck to the next girl he messes around! I reckon he just wants to play the field.
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    Sorry your going through a bad patch, you have your own problems, never mind your ex wifes! She shouldnt be dumping her troubles on you. If the girl from work drunk dials you, dont answer or text back! Not until she's sober anyway, dont get me wrong i like a drink myself, but she may say or text things she wouldnt say when sober and give you false hope. Cut your losses with both of these women, take time out to build your confidence back up and be happy in yourself. Sounds like you need some "YOU" time.
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