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  1. I'm not sure if I'm feeling sensitive at the moment because I'm fighting with a friend and maybe over reacting....I met a guy on a dating app. We talked on one app first but he deleted his profile. Then we matched on another app and exchanged phone numbers. He said he wanted to talk on the phone but there is some kind of really bad issue with my phone provider. It's been going on for over a year and started right when COVID started. So not sure if it's related. Basically people usually can't hear me on a phone call, but texting and calling through the Internet is totally fine. I explained this to him but he called me anyway. I think I explained more about it in the phone call and I think I did also tell him that I already got a brand new mobile phone and a new SIM card, and it didn't help. I got the new phone for free by signing up with my phone provider for another two years. I thought the phone was the issue and didn't realise it was the provider, and now I'm locked into a two year contract. I tried calling the provider but they can't hear me on the phone and didn't help me in the online chat either. I can't remember if I told the guy all this in our first phone call, but I definitely told him some of it. Our phone call quickly cut out because my phone doesn't work and I suggested we add each other on Skype or Facebook Messenger, etc. if he likes calling or video calling. He made no comment about my suggestion. Then we went on an actual first date. I found him attractive and he seemed nice, but we only spent about two hours together. On the date it looked like he hadn't remembered things I told him about my phone. He said that I should get a new phone and leave my phone provider. I said I did already get a new phone and can't leave the provider unless I go through the telecommunications ombudsman. Anyway I explained the whole thing again and said my phone doesn't work to call. After that we were chatting on text and discussing what to do for our next date. It's not that he was calling me constantly, but rather than texting the guy was trying to call me a few times. I was surprised because I already explained to him a few times about the whole phone situation. I was only texting back hoping he'd get the message, but he still called. I had to actually explain to him AGAIN about my phone and I said if he wants only to call, we can add on whatsapp and so on and video call or phone call from there. He again made no comment about that at all. He knows I'm a very outgoing person and I told him I'm having a fight with a friend. He sent me this message: "Sounds like you go out a bit and might need to just chill out a bit, fighting with people is upsetting". I said that I enjoy going out and I'm an outgoing person. He said: "Going out is fun but it's exhausting". I must say I didn't really like what he said because we've only met once and he shouldn't be telling me what to do. I also wasn't sure what was going on regarding the phone thing because I explained it all to him many times and it's like he wasn't listening. Another thing he said to me is that he's really monogamous. He was previously seeing this woman and straight away stopped seeing anyone else but her. Like as soon as they met I mean. I think he also disabled the dating app because he only wanted to focus on her. He said he was surprised when he found out that she was still going on dates with others. The thing is that sort of concerned me because while I'm monogamous too, until I'm official with someone I do talk to and see others. I especially would never go so far as to stop talking to others straight away and even delete the dating apps. I mean, it's his choice but if he would expect me to behave as he does, I might be the wrong person for him.
  2. I am having some examples lately of guys who are perfect, and we have a perfect first date, converstion, laughs, etc. After that I go home excited thinking about how may tings advance, meanwhile their next move for a second date is inviting me at their home to watch a movie. Dont get this, it really dissapoints me as I thik that means just to have some casual fun. It is weird but it i not the first time it happened to me. After this I totally lost my trust on these guys, how can I build it back? It is funny but it is the third time happening nd they all seem great guys during first date...I just cut them out after this, but this way I am not getting anywhere. Maybe I should consider building trust continuing dating them and see wht hapoens. I am just very stubborn, I cut them out directly and I go really soon to conclusions.
  3. Has anyone or your partner overcome it? How does someone over come it and what can I do as a partner to help? My partner won’t agree to see a therapist. She is jealous of the people I slept with prior to meeting her. She also doesn’t think that I found her attractive on our first date. To be honest she is right. I did not at the time and she found out somehow but the more time i spent with her the deeper I fall for her and she is now the most beautiful to me. She just can’t get over it..
  4. Hi guys, hope everyone is safe out there. I want to share something that happened to me this week I am curious to know if it happens to other women too. So I met this guy on a dating app, he was easy to talk to, we had an interesting conversation for a few days and then decided to meet up. So far we've met only once as the entire city went to lockdown because of the corona virus shortly after our first date. This guy seems like the perfect boyfriend material, he has a good job, owns an apartment, he's really chill and easy-going. I know I've met him only once, but so far I'm not seeing any red flags, he replies to all my messages, starts conversations, sends me text messages to check on me while I am working from home. I liked him a lot at the beginning, he's funny and smart, and I liked our first date too. I don't know what happened, but after our first date I started to lose interest. I wonder if it's because he's always available, but I honestly can't think of anything he would do 'wrong' on our date. He doesn't fall into the 'too nice' category, he is not clingy, but like I don't feel the need to text with him anymore, like I don't know what to tell him if that makes sense. Maybe I'm seeing him more as a friend than as a boyfriend, I mean I am attracted to him, he is handsome, but he didn't tell me he liked me, like explicitly, he didn't give me any compliments or anything. I know too many compliments too soon is a red flag, but maybe the chemistry is just not there. I would really like to be into this guy, he's a decent man and I don't understand why I am not into him anymore. I don't want to force myself into texting him when I don't feel like doing it, I'm just surprised I lost interest so quickly. Any advice is appreciated, thank you!
  5. Hi. I am a 32 years woman and this guy is 34 yars. Sorry for mi english. We dated yesterday and that was very short date as he had some other plan after. But we enjoyed a good time there. After the date he told me he had fun on the date, that the next time I should plan date because it was my turn. I feel a bit weird, he didnt contacted me after a date, is he uninterested? He asked me tocplan date next time. What does that mean? Maybe he inst interested. I haven't written anything to him since. Should I write something. On first date he payed and I know that the nect time is my turn to pay, but why should he emphasize that? And we had fun on the date, but it was short. Is he wanting to meet me, need I plan a date for next time and invite him or it doesnt is necessary? Thank you. Sorry for my english
  6. I guess I just need to vent. I’m so unlucky in love. I’ve been on a few dates since November when I found out the guy I really liked was dating another girl as well and lying about it. They’re still together. Since then I’ve been on a couple of bad first dates. Six other guys in total. Out of the six first dates, I really liked one. He ghosted me after which really hurt my feelings. Two other guys really liked me. I wasn’t really into one of the guys so I broke it off because our lifestyles were incompatible. So that left me with one guy who I sort of we liked. He’s been pursuing me for the past two years actually. 3 dates in, I started to really like him more. I go on his Facebook and it appears that he’s been in a long term relationship with someone else while pursuing me. He says he’s single, but the two of them are still very much friends and commenting/liking each other’s pictures. I’m not sure what to make of it, im upset because I always find myself as the other women. So I’m back to square one. I’m so burnt out :/
  7. I'm 31 and dating. I've done most of my dating through the internet - which has proved not to work too well for me. First off - i post a profile and explain exactly who I am and exactly what I'm looking for. I post a variety of pictures, so the woman knows exactly who she's going to meet. For the first couple days - after we start talking - everythign is great. She usually starts flirting and showing a lot of interest - then we make a date to meet. We sit, talk, have so many laughs - it would be an overall nice night. Then we say goodbye - i don't usually go in for a kiss on a first date - it's more a first meeting really, just a hug and if there is a second date then take it from there. The next day - things all change - she'll be friendly, but the interest level has changed for sure. I'm left every time wondering WHAT JUST HAPPENED? I mean sure - she didn't BLOW ME AWAY - but i still want to see her again, it's dating - getting to know someone. I can only think it's something physical to do with me - however I have no clue what that could be. My pictures say it all - there are no surprises - it's not as if someone completely different is showing up. From a female perspective - if ur reading this - and have done the internet dating thing - when/if you do this sort of thing - why do you do it? Just simply no physical attraction? I just don't get it - because I get a lot of dates, get a lot of interest shown - then we meet and even though it's a great time, full of laughs, talks, everythign is great...it ends there - GOODNIGHT AND GOODBYE. I just don't get it...i'm real confused and a bit depressed about all this.... thanks
  8. Alright, I really hope someone can help me out. I have been "seeing" this guy for 3 weeks. Our first date was like 18 hours on a Saturday. Since then we have been seeing each other about 2-3 times a week. One weekend I even spent the weekend at his house! Now here is the thing...there are certain things that he is doing that would make me think we may be approaching being exclusive. However, the big thing that is bugging me is that he still pops onto the dating site (one that I met him on, and another one). I am starting to feel like he is hanging out with me until he finds something better....that feeling is based solely on his activity on the internet...not when we are hanging out together. So my question is...should I bring up the "exclusive" talk...or wait for him? I know some of you may think it is too "soon" to have that "talk"...but at the same time, I really don't want to waste my time, or anymore of it, if it is not going in the direction I would like it to. Can anyone help?
  9. Ok - I have just finished a long term relationship 5 Months ago. Need some help and dust off the rust! Bit long, so will be brief as possible, but any advice appreciated - it's been a mad week. Had a few drinks together, but no date. She dropped hints to a mutual friend that she fancied me Went out as a group She ended back at mine, we slept together, but not full sex Arranged to call her She text me saying she had a great night, I replied saying I will call soon and thanks I left it for 3 days and called just before she went away for a week with work (out of the country) She invited me round hers Slept together again – not full sex – didn't even attempt (Hard but don't want to seem easy) Saw her off on the plane Phoned me to say arrived - general chat I text her later to say have a good time, great to see you last night, will call when you return No contact for 2 days, she text late at night to say "Just saying Hello, how are you" Not wanting to be to keen I left a reply till the morning to say "good morning" She then text "having a good time, but im feeling sexy, you have opened the gates" I text back to say, "keep them shut for now, I might help them open when you return" Now, Im mad for her, but don't want to let on. I have arranged to take her out on a date 3 days after she gets back, but I know she will want to see me when she gets off the plane. Should I? How should I play it whilst she is away? And should I let on how mad I am for her, or just play it cool. Any help appreciated, but I don't believe I can be this lucky!
  10. does any one know where to take a girl on on a first date? hjelp
  11. hi this is my first date with my one friend and i was wondering what r some good things too do thanks for the help
  12. Hi everyone, It has been a while since I was here. I went on a blind date the other day. I know this sounds pretty lame, but that was only the 2nd date I have been on in my life. The first date I had was with a girl who I had an unbelievable crush on (it may have been love not sure) and it felt awkward. I knew her somewhat well from class but we were both kind of shy. I didn't really want to go on this blind date but did so anyway because I figured 1) it couldn't hurt all that much and 2) it would give me 'practice' So when I had nothing at stake it was awkward and when I had an absolute crush on a girl it was awkward. My question is, at some point does it get better? I don't mean does dating the same girl get better. I am sure going out with your girlfriend is not stressful at all... I mean the first or second date with a girl (or guy for the ladies). Joe
  13. Hey Everyone! Hope you all could help me out. Guys and Girls opinions would be greatly appreciated! I recently started talking to this absolutely awesome guy! Very VERY funny, nice guy. I am very excitied to meet him.....he asked me out for dinner and drinks. Usually when I meet someone for the first time, we just have coffee...and I usually wear some nice jeans and a nice sweater or shirt. But I got my icome tax refund (he he he)...and thought maybe I should treat myself to some new clothes. Anyways, Since this is going to be dinner...should I wear dress pants...or should I wear jeans? I am buying some new tops....and I am just wondering...would something a little lower cut be inappropriate? I don't mean a full on display of the "girls"...lol...something tasteful. What does everyone think? Any insight is greatly appreciated!
  14. Hi everyone! There's this girl that i really like and im quite sure she seems interested in me. I have been thinking that since the Easter holidays are coming up i might ask if she wants to do something together. I lack alot of confidence and self-esteem but im trying to work on that... . If she agrees im after good places to take her since it's our first date (sorta) where do you girls often like going or doing in general with a guy (haven't dated in a while, kinda of forgotten, hopless case ) but i guess that depends on what she like i guess. Can anyone offer any advice or information, it would be appreicaited - whitefang
  15. What are always soom good topics for a first date? I don't want to bore her.
  16. O.k we are starting off seeing a movie. I have a friend who works there and will probally get us in for free. But the thing I have never had to deal with on a first date is any sort of cash transaction. I've always done things in groups of friends or something the first time out. Tonight is my first time out with her ever by myself other than some coffee on lunches. If I can't get us in for free and we have to pay I plan on paying for her. But if she refuses and wants to pay her part what should I do?
  17. O.k. I'm going out with the girl from my other post. She still seemed very interested in going last night so that was a relief. I gave her my phone number and she gave me hers as well. Tonight I call her to set the time I will pick her up. Now here is what I know I should do: 1.) Go to her door mainly to meet the parents. 2.) Open doors for ect. 3.) Keep conversation going 4.) Have fun Now what I dont know how to do is get a second date. Should I say something to her on the date like I had fun we should do something again sometime? Then call her in a week or something and see if she wants to do something else?
  18. Below you will find a variety of kiss types. If you find some that catch your fancy, feel free to try them Butterfly Kiss - With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart. Cheek Kiss - A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips accross her cheek. Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors. Eskimo Kiss - With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together. Eye Kiss - Hold your partner's head with both hands and slowly move their head in the direction you wish your kiss to go... then slowly kiss up towards your partner's eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes. hey if u need more types of romantic kisses just tell me here every time I will post 5 types
  19. Hi guys, I've just come out of a serious long term relationship, thus being out of the dating scene for many, many years. I'm think i may be ready to dabble my toe in again, so I have a few questions for you guys/gals. What exactly is a date? Is it just hanging out as friends? Or is it more formal (dinner/movie combo perhaps, or coffee?) Since being single, I've had alot of guys kind of interested and coming around, but I don't feel a romantic interest towards them really. I'm getting over a bit of a heartache and my heart is with someone else. At the same time, I don't want to shut people out because one never knows what might develop. Knowing this situation, should I be going out on dates with these guys when they ask me? I really think it is the best way for me to get over my 'heartache', although I'm not interested in any type of relationship at this point. Should something like that be made clear on the first date? I dunno, I just enjoy hanging out with people casually and having fun right now. Hopefully someone can help this dating novice with some advice.
  20. Hi all, i'm back to the confused stage again. I met this girl (19 yrs old) through my best mate, who i fell for almost straight away. We talked on the phone everynight, for almost 3 hours a night, with no awkward pauses, or hesitations in the conversation. We decided to meet each other after about a week of solid talking, and flirting over the phone etc. Our first date went off like a house on fire, we totally enjoyed each others company, i met her parents (thats what she wanted) and we spent about 6 - 7 hours together. We ended up hugging on our first date a few times, and then sitting down the beach towards the end of our date. Thinking that our first date went off without a hitch, i invited her up to my mums house for pre-xmas dinner (probably a bit soon but what the heck) but she couldnt come because of her own family commitments. Anyway, the next evening after our date, she calls me up, around the same time she called me every other time, and we have a great convo, everything was all ok. We spoke to each other every day after our date, and then i ask her out again. She accepts, so we go out on our second date. We ended up going to the movies. In the movies we held hands, and played around quite a bit, and basically once again just flirting with each other. I noticed that when i held her hand, she became a little bit uncomfortable, but she still held on to my hand. From there, i asked her if she wanted to go home, and she informed me that she did not want to go home, but if i was tired that was ok with her! Of course i wasnt going to admit that i was tired, because i love spending time with her. We ended up going for a drive, and sitting down at the local airport lookout just talking etc. She turned to me and said "i've been heaps weird lately, and i dont know why..." i said "well you seem very happy, specially when we've been together" she said "yeah thats what i mean, i'm normally never this happy!" Previous to our second date i received an email from her with about 20 questions asking different things, eg. What would you do if i kissed you? and If we could spend 1 day with each other, what would we do? etc etc. So i answered as honestly as i could (all positive answers) Anyway, back to the airport lookout. I told her that i felt weird, and she asked in what way? I replied "because you know my feelings from that email i replied with, but i dont know yours" Well, from then onwards, it was almost like she had been running at 160mph, and then come to a complete stop. She looked at her lap for the next hour or so, and didnt say a word to me. I asked a few times what i had done, and she said not to worry about it. I comforted her, by putting my arm around her, and brushing the hair from her face and trying to make her laugh, but that didnt work! From there, i basically took her home. She said sorry as she got out of my car, and said it's nothing to do with me, but she has lots of stuff going around in her head, and she doesnt know how to explain it. She lent accross and gave me a hug, then alighted the vehicle walking to her front door. Driving away, thinking what the hell did i do, i could only think that i scared her away with my feelings. I spoke to her a couple of nights ago on the phone, and she informed me that she was not ready for a relationship, but thinks i'm an awesome guy, loves talking to me, loves spending time with me, and asked me to wait until she was ready for a relationship. I've gone through a couple of phases where i dont want to put up with this crap again, and asked her to leave me alone, having just been through it all 8 months ago.. But as soon as i ask her to leave me alone, she rings me or sms's me again, and i'm right back to where i started. Her grandpa is very sick, and from what she's told me, he's not too far from passing away. For the last 3 - 4 days, she has been some what, very very strange, not calling me, not replying to sms, and basically just not her self (well the girl i know) She told me on the phone a couple of nights ago, that the reason she has been happy the last couple of weeks is because of me, and i have this way of making her smile, and be happy. She also said that i am the type of guy she is after, but she is just not ready for a relationship. Another fact, which i've chosen to push aside is that she was raped by her ex b/f when she was drunk one night. I dont know how true it is, or how much that has effected her. She's upset that she lost her virginity to this guy. Basically i'm confused as any poor guy would be, whether to hang around, or just forget about her and find someone else. She's great fun to be around, and i've loved spending time with her. She knows how i feel, and i know how she feels, which is from what i can gather, the same way i feel, but she's just not ready to commit. I told her that i dont want friendship, because i like her more than friends at this current time. She's told me a couple of times that she doesnt want to rush into anything, and that she really likes me, but she just needs to find out in what way! Help !!!
  21. Please help me, I finally asked this one girl out and now i don't know what to say or do. I'm terible at keeping a conversation going and I have an even harder time starting one. I was only able to ask her out because a friend helped me out. When she's talking to me I just listen and put in a little coments now and then. And are first date was a disaster, that's all I think about when we talk to one another. My last girlfriend I was able to talk to freely but with the girl I'm dating I can't say anything.
  22. I will be going on my first date shortly but don't know what to do. Im 17 and was asked to Homecoming by a friend. We went and had a good time and a week later she askes me out on a date. We didn''t decide what we were going to do at the time and I cant think of anything. Im kind of shy and was planning on asking her to homecoming and ona date but she beat me to it. What kinds of things can we do.. We know eachother somewhat well and if we went to dinner I don't really know what we would talk about etc. Any Suggestions.. Thanks
  23. Right......Im due to go on a first date with a girl i really like this coming weekend and im so excited and happy about it but she told me yesterday that at the end of august......she is moving away to the other end of the country. Im devastated I dont know what to do except cry!
  24. Well... for anyone that read my post a few days ago, I am really growing fond of this girl, and I asked her out. She really likes me too... She is 15 (turning 16 soon)... and I am 18... the gap kind of sucks, but we have some amazing common interests, and really seem to click. The great thing about her, is I can be myself so easily around her. I considered waiting for a year and a couple of months, till she's like 17, but I didn't want to let her get away... Anyway, we are both pretty shy and new to the whole dating thing. I need some ideas and advice for the first date... I need something that is reasonably casual, and that where we can get some nice time to talk... I was thinking, maybe a movie or something with some food afterwards... but then, I need a reasonably quiet place if things are going to happen... maybe a kiss after I escort her home...? =) What would be the best time of day? It'll most likely take place on a sunday... as I am at uni throughout the week, as she is at school, and we're both very busy... we both work friday nights and saturdays (day and night)... One thing that can't be overlooked is that I can't drive... I really wish I could now, and I am working on it... neither does she of course... any easy way around this? I am sure this topic has come up heaps before too... but I am quite the newby, and don't want to mess this up (like last time; my first date ever)... I have searched a lot through the resources and forums on this site, with some great help, but still not overly practical to my situation. Any advice, ideas, tips, info etc would be much appreciated. Thanks a bunch everyone =)
  25. This girl and i r going on a date. We r going to some mexican restaurant. Do i pay her bill? she asked me out on the date. should i offer to pay it? if so how do i offer? Also there r times when neither of us can think of what to say. Do you know any conversational tips? please help
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