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  1. jna35
    I think that it would be nice to give it to her in an intimate setting, just the two of you. She can always show her family later.
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    I haven't seen it happen a lot either except at the mall with the teenagers sometimes.
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    I agree with maggie on this one and as she says it all depends on the circumstances. It also depends on how much she means to you as a friend as to whether you want to rebuild the trust she broke.
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    Be prepared for a lot of hard work if you want to become a cop!
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    I agree with RayKay. I would also suggest you make an appt. with your OB/GYN and tell them the problems your having, so they can give you some more options to help you.
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    The change???? Probably because she is only 12 years old! I agree with Bethany. Let this young girl grow up. If you two are meant to be together, friends or otherwise, you will be when the time is right. Give her a few years, but I would honestly back off for now. In the meantime, focus on finding a girl your own age.
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    Wow, I'm so sorry!! That must be so hard for you! I definitely agree with the other posters. Be thankful that he is someone else's problem now. You deserve SOOOOOO much better!! Take care!
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    Being a mom, I can understand her concerns, but you need to follow your dream. If you honestly want to be a cop, which is a very noble profession, then stick to your guns. (No pun intended, ha ha!!) I'm sure eventually when she sees how serious you are, she will warm up to the idea just as Beec said and will be extremely proud!! As for the commute, an hour is really not so bad. My husband commutes an hour and a half one way to work each day. Of course, it you have the money saved to live on campus or closer to your university then by all means do it. I wish you the best of luck!!
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    Just out of curiosity, you are an adult, so why do you allow your parents to control when you go out??????
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    I think what you are feeling is normal since you feel he is neglecting you. Do you think you would be bothered if you got more quality time with him or do you just not want him to see is friends? I think it's important that he goes out with his friends and have fun and so should you. Maybe you are more invested in the relationship than he is. Are you both pretty young?
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    I agree with the other posters. Your ex should be with her boyfriend and offering him comfort and support and her mom had no right to contact you and ask you to do that. Stay strong and let her be.
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    It sounds to me like she is flirting with you. If she does have a bf I would be careful not to intrude on that.
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    Just out of curiosity, what makes you think she is sad and pining away for you if she is the one that broke up with you to begin with? I don't think I would want to receive a letter like that after 20 months have gone past. I would think being the "dumper" that I would have moved on and wouldn't wish to rehash the past, but...... that's just me. I'm afraid the letter would only make you appear desperate. Sorry.
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    It sounds to me like you are lonely and you want more than just a casual relationship.
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    How was he before he quit his last job? Do you remember anything that happened that may have prompted him to quit so suddenly? Anyway, I know how frustrating that must be for you to watch. I'm assuming you are young and I know it took a toll on me, always worrying about where the money was going to come from. Fortunately, I married someone who has a VERY strong work ethic as I need that stability. Maybe your mom feels inept since she has been staying at home all these years. It's a scary place to be in and sometimes our fears overpower all logic. As for your dad, it really does sound like he's depressed to me. I don't know what he does for a living, but in certain fields the job market is tough and depending on his age, that can be a barrier too. Being an adult is a heck of a responsibility and it can be quite challenging at times and frightening. It is really sad that all the hard work he put into his education is going to waste. But without being him, we don't know what is motivating him to give up. He sounds like a defeated man to me and that is not pathetic, just sad. I hope he is able to find his way again and that you will find some consolation as well.
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    Hmmmm....... I think friendship should be built on trust, honesty, compassion, REALLY listening to the other person. Being there for them unconditionally to support them through the good, the bad, and the in between, and always have a hug and or a shoulder ready and waiting.
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    Too much of anything isn't good. I think you should cut back gradually too, maybe even do half caff if possible.
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    Personally, I don't believe in playing games. I think it's very immature and I assume quite frustrating for the persuer. Just my 2 cents.
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    RayKay is right on the money.
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    Ouch!!!! I'm sorry for what you are going through. I lived through many years as a kid with financial instability. I know it is hard when things like that happen. The lay-offs are not his fault though, they happen for numerous reasons. My dad was laid off from countless jobs and we struggled a lot. But we always managed to make it and I lvoe my dad very much, always have, always will. As for your dad quitting, I don't know why he did that, but I think your dad probably feels less of a man for not being able to provide for all of you, even though he may not come right out and say it. It sounds to me like your dad may be depressed about where his life is. If that is the case, he needs to get help for that and will need the support not the ire from his family. I understand that you are angry at him for not providing for your family. It is easy to sit in judgement of others without having walked a day in their shoes. Maybe your mom could get a job. Is there something stopping her from doing that? It's all well and good that their "arrangement" was for her to stay home and for him to work, but "stuff" happens and sometimes the best laid plans need to change. Also, I didn't notice if you are in the U.S. or not, but if you are then the welfare dept. can help your family while you are getting back on your feet. Are you old enough to get a part time job? If you are, then perhaps that would help alleviate a little stress. It would get you out of the house and give you a little money to buy some of the things you need. You asked if it was "right" to choose not to have a relationship with him. Only you can decide that, but he is your dad and the only one you have, so I would think long and hard before cutting him out of your life completely. Don't make any hasty decisions that you will regret later.
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    I would say just enjoy your relationship and takes things slow. Your relationship will progress naturally and you will know when the time is right to have sex. Don't do anything that you are not comfortable with. As for if guys "expect" sex, well......some do, but not all. It sounds like you have a good guy there, who respects your feelings. Only you can decide when it is the right time to progress, but don't rush. There is plenty of time.
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    Well, I don't think you should give up and not all men are "mean." I didn't date in high school either and I waited until I was married to have sex, although we did fool around a bit. Are you approachable? What is it you have heard about your appearance? I assume you are clean and well groomed. The people I know would not find brains intimidating unless they are being made to feel inferior, same goes for money. Maybe you are searching in the wrong places. Where do you go to meet people? Have you tried a single's group?
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    I agree with BellaDonna. Just be yourself and always be respectful.
  24. jna35
    Are you actually losing clumps of hair? Some hairloss after washing and combing is normal. Are you using a brush when it's wet? If you are, you should switch to a wide tooth comb. Also, go easy on chemicals and gunk. If you are REALLY worried you can check with your doctor, but try not to worry too much!! You know, there's nothing wrong with bald heads. There are A LOT of women who find that VERY sexy!!!! I happen to be one of them. My husband is one of those guys and I wouldn't want him any other way!!
  25. jna35
    I totally agree with the other posters and think they both answered very thoroughly. This is not meant to be rude in any way, but personally, I don't blame her for leaving. No one wants to be beat upon, especially by someone that "loves" them. I would certainly get help and then perhaps in time your relationship can be mended. I think you are in denial and the first step will be admitting and accepting the fact that you are prone to violence. Good luck to you!
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