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Ariyadhana, Thankyou for that it was inspiring. I've never been on a plane either before. I've wondered about working visas before but didn't know if you needed all types of qualifications or whatever. I'm only high school educated. So can I ask how you got the working visa? How long was the process? Where did you stay, how much did you save up beforehand? Did you have fun? I'm willing to work hard and save but my job pays so badly, it just seems like it would take forever to save a sufficient amount. But yes, any help you have would be soooo appreciated. I'm from the UK, I just want to go anywhere different, my family are so uncultured I need to free myself (Aggghhh the frustration). America would be great, Australia, I mean, literally, Anywhere..I just need to get away, but america would be the ideal I guess I've always wanted to see the States. Thankyou once again for your response, Merry Christmas.

Thankyou Danny. I agree. 29 is a nice age to have children I've personally always thought early 30s would be good. So how did you travel, are you rich? Did you save? Or did you just up and leave and worry about it when you got there? I know it sounds silly but I don't know what the first step is, when I know it I can think about taking it. Thanks again, and Merry Christmas.

Hey everyone. Basically, it's Christmas today and I've promised myself (Like I have for the last 3 years) that 06 is my year. I come from a very unsupporting family that believe I will be fulfillin my purpose in life only if I get married, have kids, you know..all of the ''normal'' stuff. I have a mum, a sister, and a nephew, no other family. Being honest, none of them have lived, having gotten married young, had children young. I feel like I don't know who I am or I what I need to be. I'm only 19, but I feel like I need to travel. I need to see the world. I need to meet people, to find out what I'm capable of. I'm scared..I don't know how to do it. Any time i tell anyone i know what i want to do they say ''You'll never do that''..and it really makes me feel like I'm capable of nothing. I'm learning to drive, should be driving in a couple of months, have a crappy job, no real friends, and all i want to do is travel. Has anyone travelled? How did you do it? I see people on the TV that just go..literally just go and I'm envious..I need to be free..I'm trapped in my own skin..I'm trying to find myself, my religion, and again all my family are is negative..please..any advice, this post is kinda unclear but any input is appreciated Thanx in advance and merry christmas

Thankyou both of you.

I'm just interested to see everybody's opinions on this. Do you think it's a physical, emotional, or a mental difference? Or all three?

You gotta be joking. That last 2 lines isn't yours; It's from Big L's 98 freestyle.

Dear T Music was my whole life, and rap was my passion, Gave me mindstates and feelings you could never imagine, Cut myself off from the world, HipHop was my guard, But it was only when I met you that life stopped being hard, You make every thing easy, though I had doubts at the start, Slowly, You pulled all the demons outta my heart, I act careless I don't mean to and I'm not easy to see through, Actin' like I don't want you when baby I NEED you, My mother never hugged me, that's why I'm afraid of affection, And I grew to love my insecurities because they were protection, Met so much evil as a kid you wouldn't believe what they did to me, All my rage was released through creativity, ''My heart's the only good in me, won't let nobody take it''.. Made that promise to myself and you made me break it, Saw men walk all over mum, vowed that wouldn't happen to me, But I'm in awe of how you face life so passionately, You're the exception of the rule, my strength yet my weakness, Silenced by your aura you just leave me speechless, Tried with all I have to not care, but i wouldn't change you for s**t, Now if I die tomorrow at least I know that angels exist, You're every thing i wanna be you've left my life enlighteneed, The sky's the limit, and because of you my skies have heightened, Now I'm at a level where I can no longer hide my feelings, Never knew what it meant to be content, but you define the meaning, And I'm so glad my plan not to care about you fell through, Wanna tell the world how I feel but first I gotta tell you, Can't believe I'm about to say this so hard yet easy, For once I don't care if I sound needy, you freed me, And this is the part where I swallow hard, and take a deep breath, And tell you the girl that doesn't care actually loves you to death.. Please let me know what you think. Thanx

brahman; 14 IS too young to go on the Pill. My friend first went on it at 18, tried 3 different types, and they made her feel sick, made her periods irregular, she took about 5 pregnancy tests at different times because she didn't know whether she was coming or going. This isn't the type of thing a 14 year old should be thinking about. Though he stated she can't go on it, I personally think it's because she's too embarrassed about going to the doctor thinking she's too young, if this is the case how is she ready to have sex? I think you're also forgettin the fact that if you two have sex it's illegal. She's still a kid barely in her teens. I suggest you give it time and see what develops. But, you probably won't listen to me. So in any case, make sure you use a condom, and preferably pull out. I completely agree with Ilse. Having sex comes with the responsibility of having to deal with the repercussions if they occur, there's always a risk. Maybe fully understanding this risk and taking that risk comes with age, but hey, just my opinion. Good luck anyway.

Awww...just saw the replies on this. Thankyou very much

No, I've never had this problem before. But he is my first sexual partner and this is the first time I've taken the pill. It was fine for the first few months we had no problems at all then it all went downhill. I think I may ask to change my pill..though I read a story online about a woman that tried 4 different ones but always had the same problem. I don't want to come off the pill and use condoms all the time. But yes I'll consider changing pills. Thankyou.

Yes, I'm very dry with that too.

Hey everyone..I posted about a month ago saying I was extremely dry during sex..and a few people said it could be because I'm on the pill..which I am now certain it is after reading up on it. I'm extremely turned on yet can't get wet at all..my man does everything right..it's frustrating to say the least for both me and my boyfriend..we've been together a year and I'm extrmely comfortable around him..yet this makes me feel like less of a woman..I don't wanna come off the pill, Its the best birth control..sex can never be spontaneous because someone needs to reach for the KY..we have lots of sensual foreplay yet I stay dry..though I feel very aroused..please, any suggestions would be great..we had no problem in the first few months but now it's awful and it gets me down. Please help. -Charmaine

Thankyou Hope75. I'm sure that's something me and my man can enjoy Thanx again everyone, very much so appreciated.

Thanx a lot to the guy above i just read that whole page and it put my mind at rest, i dont think it's anything to worry about, perserverance! Thankyou again.

Yes I'm on the pill. It can do that? i didn't know that.