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No, I don't even need to look at her social media anymore. Her live is very boring anyways. Her pride is wounded, karma did its work. I have moved on, remarried, and in a much better place while she lives in isolation, believing her own false narrative. - THE END -

I ended up not writing her and I am now focusing on my own life. Last I've heard, she was still single after 6 years, unable to find a suitable companion, complaining that all of the guys in her caliber are taken or married (she is 42), and struggling with bouts of depression while stalking my social media and reading my Instagram stories. Personally I have moved on and having a ball. The ex? I don't need miserable people in my life. Life is too short and right now, I am in a new relationship, I am really enjoying it despite the pandemic. Furthermore, I have been in No Contact

That was many years ago.

Lately my current wife has noticed something unusual. My ex-wife and her friends have been checking out her Instagram. So we found out that my ex, who lives 3000 miles away, is moving...to my city of all places. We haven’t seen each other in 6 years and we no longer communicate. I find this very odd and bizarre. Why my city of all places? We don’t even have kids! There are so many cities to chose from, so I was very surprised. Since my divorce, I have relocated to another city to start a new life, and then this happens... Am I ready too much into this? Her online activities are strange

Coach Lee is one of the best out there in my opinion.

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful advice! I Based on the recommendations above, I have decided to act with a balanced approach. Instead of sending an email to catch up and ask her for her goals and projects for the new year, I have decided instead to simply text her “Merry Christmas (name) ! ⛄️ That’s it! Short and simple. I will send it on Christmas Day. Who would be cruel and mean-spirited to ignore a positive text like this on Christmas? Now, another interesting fact. After years of absence, curiously enough, she popped back on my Skype contact list! This after years of absenc

I just find it very odd that she still stalks my Instagram! That to me is even more creepy than sending a brief note on Christmas! ⛄️

I don't remember very well since it has been nearly 2 years. I do remember congratulating her on her recent graduation and to check if she had received my card, to which she replied "I don't want your congratulations'' and hung up. I have to add that she is also Russian and has suffered a number of mental breakdowns in the past while living in Russia. I feel sorry for her in the sense that she might be suffering from PTSD or some sort of trauma, it is hard to tell. That is why I do feel compassion for her. It is a very sad story.

Figureiout23, I stopped counting after 100-something - lol. Our last conversation was in March 2018. This will be my last contact on Christmas.

Thank you Cherylyn, I appreciate your response and advice. I will go ahead with a short e-mail on Christmas. Something is telling me to at least try so that I can finally get closure and be at peace. If I do get a reply, I will let you know in a future post. Otherwise, it will be back to No Contact and will start counting the days/years starting January 1st.

That is correct, she was very hostile and resentful in the past, not just to myself, but was very unkind to restaurant patrons. I am sometimes curious to see if that is permanent or if the dust has settled. She was under horrible stress due to her academic programs and was under a lot of pressure. It is difficult to assess if that was a personality flaw, or if she was going through horrendous stress back then. Our first 2-3 years of marriage were great so I am not sure if she is permanently ''damaged'' or hostile. I have just never seen that level of anger before. Some ex-wives remain perma

Greetings! I have read several articles and seen YouTube videos advising to NOT reach out to an ex on Christmas or the Holiday Season. However, my goal is not to get my ex-wife back, but simply to re-establish a bridge of communication for a potential friendship in the long-term. I absolutely have no intentions in a long-term reconciliation. A bit of history: my ex-wife left me 5.5 years ago to ''find herself'' after a 6-year marriage (she has been single since then). We have been divorced now for 3.5 years and have been in No Contact for nearly 2 years. She is still single, bitter, and

I think you should at least have a face to face meeting to discuss.

No Contact is your best friend! Don’t worry, she will reach out to you.

Like RayRay63, mine came back after +10 years (13.5 to be more precise). We got married this pas October. She would have been back 5 years post-breakup, but I was already involved in another long-term relationship back then. I have seen couples reconcile after 2 weeks, 2 months, and sometimes over 2 decades. Most reconciliations post-divorce average time is 3 years, according to a scientific survey.