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And the ironic thing is I didn't even interview for it. It's at Target Corp. Payroll Dept. I start October 10th. It's through a staffing firm, temp to hire (assuming all goes well). I know the recruiter submitted me for it, but the no interview thing has me floored! I'm so happy! This is just a blessing. I still have resumes in the wings so whatever happens happens (like if I get something super enticing or something) but for now I'm done with the jobsearch. Yeah!!! Miracles happen everyday, and this is my miracle!

It sounds to me like your family struggles with depression, and their way of self treating is drugs. Some of my family members also struggled with depression and their way of treating it was by looking to God and using meditation techniques. When I meditate I find an inner peace and natural detachment from the horrors of life, it makes me calmer and more rational. I highly recommend you look into it. You are living a chaotic enviornment, this will help you deal/cope and find ways out.

That's may be it DN, but I really am not comfortable talking to strangers. I'm more of an introvert. I do smile, and I spoke with a couple of people while waiting to pick up the music. They probably initiated the conversation, I never know what to say. When singing I get in a zone and it's not really the time to chat. I shared my music sheets if someone was missing it, stuff like that. But it was like major cold shoulder all around.

Haha I'm alive is a blessing and a curse. Well it's how I really feel. Healthy yeah that's true, that is a blessing. I have a lovely place to live/sleep. There's food in the house again. I saw more jobs to apply for and some sound interesting. My daughter is a little joy and healthy. My son is doing well with his dad. I have a great brother and good friends. My car, I still love it. Free chiropractic care with weekly massages, because of the accident and whiplash injury. I have many talents and skills. I really miss karaoke, but my decessed dad doesn't want me going because I drink and can't afford to be there. Not a joke. I've had drunk people tell me I'm not supposed to be there. He speaks to me through strangers at the bar. Crazy sounding I know but strangers never used to tell me I shouldn't be at the bar. Now all of sudden they know things about me that only people in my world would know. That has to be him. Damn I missed church chior practice tonight. They don't like me there anyway. The lady sitting next to me switched seats with someone in the middle of practice. The lady on the otherside turned away from me. I know I'm talented, so it's not because I suck (granted I did make mistakes), but that's just mean. Stuff like this happens to me all the time. I mean at church this happens!? I feel like the most unwanted, unwelcome person in the world.

DN's link is filled with good tips. It's just really frustrating. EVERYTHING I've been excited about has fallen through in one way or another and I don't know why. I really thought getting a car that was nicer than what I expected for the money was a sign of good things to come. Then I banged it up. I get my hopes up for nothing. I really was excited about that job. I'm starting to feel like interviews are a complete waste of time and maybe I should just go get a job at McDonald's. The way my luck is going they'd turn me down too.

Okay you're 19, and that is a HUGE transitional age. A lot of things are changing at once and it's hard. It's okay to cry, release the feelings, then realize that you will make new friends. You will one day have a great guy in your life. Figure out what it is you want to achieve and go for it! This is the time to focus on what YOU WANT. Please yourself and the rest will come around.

They figure it out. I hate wearing my real ring so I wear a fake one when I don't forget to. The staffing firms have you fill out the w-2 forms (so single is checked rather than married). I have forgotten to wear a ring a few times, the Target interview for example. I used to forget my ring when I was married (I take it off at night). It really comes down to I don't know how to interview. People don't like me, and interviewing means you have to make people like you. I'm a good worker, I'm reasonably intelligent, but I don't make a good first impression. So I have a huge problem. I'm a get out there and prove myself person, which is why the temp to hire used to be a good way in (but now they require interviews). So basically I'm screwed.

Interviewing after being a stay home mom for 3 years really sucks. Then being divorced on top of it, just really adds to the whole ick factor. I don't know what they think but if they knew why I divorced they'd damn well hire me. I'm done even caring about the job. If it pays and someone offers something I'll have to take it. I swore I would never work at a job I hated again. It's like a slow death working someplace you hate. Well obviously I'm not meant to enjoy life. I'm just so damn tired.

Well I didn't get the Target Corp. one. I'm off to interview this afternoon.

You know you need to leave him. If he can cheat on you before marriage he certainly will during. And it's better to get out now before you have children that are affected by his behavior.

Not sure how you came about finding out that your mom's purpose in pregnancy was just to be pregnant but that's beside the point. I don't really think it's any worse than sperm donors. I really have a hard time with that whole thing (knowing there could be 20 half-siblings out there, or more and they would never really know it). Now that is discusting to me. I think finding your siblings would be cool. Might bring you some peace of mind. Wait until your older to search out your mom though. That's going to be an emotional experience and right now I don't think you could handle it if she were to reject you. Not everyone who can become pregnant is meant for motherhood, just as not every woman who would make a good mother can become pregnant. I believe adoptions are divinely planned. I really feel like the children that come to the parents they have are there because they were meant to be with them at that time for whatever experiences. You have been blessed to be adopted with a half brother. Really you are, even if you don't look like siblings. It's a gift. You have wonderful adoptive parents, a good, loving family, appreciate what you do have because odds are it's better than the live your mother would have been able to give you. Your mom did what she did because it was the best thing to do at the time. I kept my son, and I should have given him up intially. It has made things harder all the way around. Lord knows what damage my inexperience and lack of interest has caused him. Truly be grateful for your loving adoptive parents.

Well I will say that with anyone starting a career there is going to be a sacrificial period. Once they become established in their profession things usually settle down some. Maybe if you take the stance that this is only temporary until he's full-time and on a schedule it would be easier. Make a plan for a date night (or day) when you two can just focus on each other. Aim for weekly. Enjoy those two hours. If you need to talk try writing him a note. That way you can think through how you portraying your thoughts. Try to say I really miss having time with you. I'd love for us to go for coffee like we used to. Just simple things that he can accomidate. Maybe you can meet up with him on a break. I bet he would really think that was sweet of you.

Odds are against it, but really use a condom at the very least. Even that isn't 100%. A good friend of mine has a daughter who was unplanned. She was on birth control and they were using condoms for additional protection. Sometimes God has other plans. Granted she's married but her husband was in school and they really weren't prepared. Anyway no matter what you do things happen, but at 16 you do need to try more than the pull out method. Really that IS risky.

Agree with DN, you need marriage counseling. There are some unresolved core issues here that are coming out in other ways. No life doesn't end after children, but it does change. You can still go skiing in fact you should be teaching your son how to ski. It may mean that your spending more time on the bunny hill but you'll be glad you took the time later. There needs to be some give on both sides.

Okay the computer industry is tough these days, but you should be able to find something better. Update your resume. Check with the local job bank, it's state run. Also check out tech sites for job postings? There are specialized sites out there that are industry specific (do a search). My You can also go to specific companies. Larger ones in the area and look up postings in their career section. Or even apply in different states. IBM for example. You may need to sell some stuff. Sell the cars, get something less expensive or something you can own outright. You'll still have expenses related to the cars but you'll be better off financially without a monthly carpayment or two. Next up the house. Can you rent a room out? Can you downsize? I know when you're overwhelmed you don't see some of the obvious things you can do to improve the situation. Financial problems are my big downfall, they stress me out to the max. But I also know they are usually temporary in nature. Maybe this will help or someone else will have more insight. I also agree that quitting before lining up another job was a mistake.

Oh I'd love it long term! They say it's a 12 week project, planning small renovations at their stores (it's for Target Corp.). A lot of temp jobs start out as temp to hire so really it's a way to get in the door. I know most of the people at Best Buy started out as temps at one point. I love the atmosphere and the few people I met were super nice. The interview I have on Wednesday is for a permanent job. So either way I'll be working. I don't normally feel so good following an interview, so I'm really hoping that's a sign I got it.

Well I feel really good about the interview. I was kind of neutral going in but really felt postive towards the end and afterwards. It's not exactly the job I thought but it's something I could definitely do and it's really interesting.

Parents know you do it. You've been doing it since you were born really. We generally teach you to not to do it publicly, so yeah we're aware it's happening and probably know when. As a teen I would at bedtime to avoid getting caught. I mean the odds of them checking on me at bedtime was pretty slim.

I'm actually feeling really good today. Maybe prayers are being sent on my behalf. I know I contacted the church about setting up some counseling sessions and possible referral to a professional. I didn't get into specifics but since I sent it I feel more at peace. Perhaps they added me to their prayer list. Job interview tomorrow, and the staffing firm has submitted me for another position. I'm really hoping I can be done interviewing and onto working/earning a living. Tomorrow is a busy day. Hope it's a smooth and fabulous one too.

Whose Luke? I'll pray for your Uncle, if it's in his best interest to recover may that happen, if not may he pass peacefully. It sounds like your aunt needs some help and support. It's pretty obvious her life is and has been falling apart. Judging her isn't helpful. If she's on drugs get her into a rehab or find someone who can. As for the cousin hopefully he's under some kind of care program. This is a lot for one person to handle, and it seems she turned to drugs to cope. Not ideal but it's what happened.

Lost contact with all of them at somepoint. I resumed contact with one friend because our parents became good friends. I have a few good friends that I've made in various ways (mostly through work). You'll always have some kind of friendships going but keeping in touch with old friends gets tougher because of life experiences take you on different paths. You generally get with people you can relate with, and after a while certain relationships don't work anymore because you have nothing in common.

Might help to know how old you are. If you're at least 18 you can very well move out, but it might be best to get a roommate to curb expenses. Do you have a job? Do you make enough to afford a place? You'd have basic supplies to buy, utilities to pay, etc. Are you in school? Maybe you can live on campus. Yes everyone has to at one point make the transition and it's good that you feel ready, just make sure you have a basic plan before jumping ship.

I dreamt we were at a family gathering and he was there with us in body. We could touch him, sit next to him, just like when he was alive with us. We all knew we had attended his funeral and saw his body in the casket, and wondered how he was able to be there in his body with us one last time. I knew in the dream that my friends would never believe my dad had attended this get together and I didn't take pictures because we were all just so happy to see him and be with him again. I even wondered if I had taken pictures would he have shown up in them. Then it was over. It was a very conforting dream. I've always believed there was life after death, but once my dad passed I really knew it was true, he has made sure I know it's true. My biggest challenge with his passing has been the fact I would never physically touch him again. I wouldn't be able give him hug, or just sit next to him. So this dream was basically giving me that feeling again. He passed on April 16, 2005 peacefully during an afternoon nap. He spent the morning in the yard planting trees, and after having lunch with my mom was tired and went to lie down and rest. He was 64 years old, and died of congestive heart failure.

Well my first husband went shopping with me when we were dating. At the time I never thought much about it. He was more of a shopper than I was.

Thanks Darkblue.