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    What Mar and The Morrigan said rang pretty realistic in my ears. I am deeply sorry to say that I sound like your bf save the disregard of saying those mean things. Me and my ex used to have great sex in the first months of our relationship. When we did it, it took a little longer for me (I never had one of those infamous premature ejaculations) and she -seemed- to come two or three times at times. (note "seem" I'm not sure if that's what happened, but that is what she said). The thing is that near the end she didn't want to eat them pills anymore and that was something I accepted and endorsed seeing as the pills can give you problems with the heart and such. So we started using condoms and lube. But it just wasn't the same for any of us using condoms and so it took even longer for me to climax and for her as well. She didn't get enough stimulation so she stopped self-lubricating and so we had to abort after a while, every time we attempted to have sex. It's not a nice feeling for any of the two, I can tell you that. But if you're willing to continue on with him, which I think it sounds like, perhaps you could just ask him if he could stimulate you in some other way as well? Good luck
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    Just relaxing your tongue and don't wrestle Carress his tongue, follow his lips with your tongue and suck gently on the tongue. Just use your imagination. perhaps imagining how you'd like it could help you. Good luck
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    May I suggest not to do this? I would feel raped for sure. Otherwise I guess what was said works.. But I'd be damn sure she also wanted it - not that Beec didn't say anything other than that. But just to be sure. Good luck.
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    Can you get your picture taken and fashioned in a way that looks like that famous "thingie" that Dandy Warhol created? With different colour-patterns of Marilyn Monroe, was it?
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    I've been in that situation you're in before. And it turned out she broke up with me. If I were you, or if I could go back and change anything, I would sit her down and just try to find the reason why this is happening. Try to reach a compromise and if she says she needs to be alone - You Had Better Give It To Her if you want to keep being with her. Good luck, pal. I hope things work out for ya.
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    JSHRN: Are you charmed's relative or something? =). But yeah. try to ask her.
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    No we don't, Buffalosoldier. It is impossible to know and I'm guessing what is best is to appreciate what we've got and what great persons that surround us. It is strange that it should take a loss of someone close so that we can further appreciate our loved ones, is it not?
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    Hey there, Captain. I really think that you should go to a doctor eventhough you feel you don't want to. Because as far as I know it can be pretty dangerous with all the bacterias and how they possibly can infect and go into the bloodstream through the fissure. There's nothing to be ashamed of, really. And I am sorry that I don't have any advice save what I wrote above. I wish you good luck though and that you'll be well soon.
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    Hey there, Buffalo. I am very sad that your childhood friend had to die. It's always hard when it happens and especially when they're young and close to us. What once was happy now is sad and you wish that you could turn back time and just tell them not to get into the car. Many people say that we were put on this place so that we could surmount to and accomplish something. I also believe that it is so. But why did he have to go then? There are so many questions running through the head of those who knew and loved him. It's just a big waste what happened, he had plans and dreams like any other man beside us. But rest assured that he isn't gone. Though you cannot visit him and hug him, he is a part of you and who you are. Friends do have that effect that they make impacts on you and imho, they form who you are and are to become. He still does. When a friend of mine killed himself I found that the song they played for his memorial service, Beatles - Let it be, was very helpful. I wish you all the best.. I find it hard for me to explain what I want right now and so I cannot tell you what I hope will come. Take comfort in that he's with you in your heart, mind and memories.
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    Wow. Thank you both Charmed and The Morrigan. I really appreciate your advice. I'll take them to heart and try to do just what you two told me to. Now I am going to try and drag my weight downtown and try to get atleast some exercise.
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    Basically, I agree with what the others have already said. But seeing as I did not take the time to read All of them, I'll write a little something as well. I believe that you were wrong in cheating. I don't know the real reasons behind it, but IMHO, cheating is always wrong. Some of his demands are pretty childish. But I do believe that you apologizing to his wife, getting an STD-test, making commitments are pretty good demands. And also, I would never trust a spouse who's been with her boss and still works at the same job - So perhaps that is a reasonable demand too. Let's hope he takes you back - if that is what he wants. Bye.
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    Hey there. I have told you earlier about the current situation with me and my ex. It can be read here: link removed . So I have just had surgery and I feel so lonely now. I can't do anything really. I've watched tons of movies, mostly comedies, but they only cheer me up during the time it takes me to see them. I think about my ex a lot.. And I've tried to have no contact with her and I've tried to think that I don't want her. I've even tried thinking that she deserves to be happy and at that, doing whatever it takes. For a time I felt good and balanced but now I'm just thinking how wonderful things were when I could go visit her and how she came to visit me. I think about how wonderful things would be with her just lying by my side and watching these movies with me. I really did go into the relationship with the hopes of it turning into a future commitment. A big commitment that is and I guess I'm talking about marriage and a future together because I can't go into a relationship thinking it's only for the time being.. I guess I made this thread because I wanted your help on how to move on. I know that there are a lot of these topics currently dominating the toplist of the forum and basically all the answers seem give you the same advice. I guess what I am asking for are alternate solutions to these problems that so many people have. The "old" ones haven't exactly worked for me.
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    Hey there! Lemme tell you of a friend of mine who was in the bathroom when his mom walked in. He had turned off the lights (not very bright) and his mom entered because he had also forgotten to lock the door! She flicks on the lights and sees him sitting there. "Oh, ! What are you doing?" she asks, quite shocked. "Mom, leave!" he yells. She turns around and he says, "Turn off the lights, mooom!" in desperation. I had a hard time not dying from laughter when he told me what had happened Oh well, these things happens. I'm sure she'll only think "boy's 'll be boys" or something like that
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    Vash: Or so you like to think
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    Hey, perhaps you could tell him to take it slow? Or just take his hand and show him what to do without saying anything - talking isn't really necessary =). Or perhaps he could give you an "oral exam" before you start to give you a head start? Good luck
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    Euh, let's see. Was it the time my stupid father came knocking at the door and refused to leave, or when we were outlandish in a hotelroom and she nearly beat me up once she came. I'll go with the hotelroom story I s'pose. It's not long, so don't worry. Well we had wonderful sex and she was on top. Then when she came she just pushed down on my chest for a couple of seconds and then she raised one hand and beat my chest with it. I had three large red marks, almost bruises, for two days afterwards. Looked kinda strange at the beach and all.. It was kinda fun anyways
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    I disagree. This here hasn't even started yet. Perhaps you are the first girl he has ever felt such feelings for and now he's confused? I know I was the first time I found out this girl loved me and BOY am I glad that she took the first step.
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    Go get her!
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    Wow, powerful words.. And they ring very true as well! I am also in a similar situation and I think that I have finally chosen the "no contact"-solution. I hope that everything works out for the two of you. I really do, because if you can do it; then I should be able to as well.
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    I actually met my ex over the internet. But I guess mostly liars pose as other people over the internet. What's the point in talking to someone if you're only making stuff up as you go along (sending pics of someone completely different from yourself etc). Just seems very weird to me. Perhaps it's one of those fabled murderers who try to get close to their victims without allowing them to get any real information about who othey are in Real Life. hm, hm, hm.. Spooky!
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    That sounds so sweet, Nmarchildon! I don't know what you can do, but do something yourself. Gosh, how romantic Good luck!
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    Hey, Blondie. I am terrible at showing someone I like them when I am uncertain about their feelings. And when I am certain that they like me, I get very shy and I am unable to ever make the first move. Perhaps one could just ask him out to a movie and then in the middle of it, take and hold his hand? And play with it a little, caress it and so on. I wish you two the best of luck =)
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    hey there. I am in the exact same situation as you are. My ex didn't even call me when I got surgery - instead she sent me a short sms at 01.00 in the night when she saw I had been into a game. You feel overlooked, forgotten and perhaps even left behind. I know that's how I feel. And I cannot offer you any real advice on how to get through with it. If I had, I would follow it myself. I really do hope that you can feel happy again soon.. These situations really do suck. Good luck, pal.
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    Hey! Nice question. Sex for me is when you're being most intimate with your partner and also a sign of your love. Making love and having sex is for me the same thing. But then again, I've never had any one-night stands or indulged in casual sex. And I don't suspect I will be doing that in the near future either seeing as I believe that it is something special.
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    Hey there! I hardly think that you are second best in any way. He chose to be with you now, correct? You just have to give him something to remember you by. An aquarium fish, a framed picture, a shirt or a ring or somesuch. These gifts he got from his ex's are all in the past. They are of course memories from a time before you entered the picture. I like to think that what this girl did before she chose to be with me, is none of my business. Because at the start of "our" relationship a new life began. You are the new and better improved life. Eventhough it may be hard to do so, I suggest that you try and let him keep those old memories. Those items are a part of his past and like it or not, memories and experience are what makes us keep going IMHO. Good luck
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