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But would you rather break it off with your current boyfriend, find a new guy and then marry him on the spot? You have a man who wants to spend his life with you. But it seems like you only want someone because it's getting "late" (though it really isn't late imho).

Ah, I see, I see. Sounds like a sane reason to wait 'till he graduates then. But three years will pass quickly if you're with someone you love. And don't worry about the age-thing, your's is the summer of your life, right? Even if I was 49, I wouldn't rush into a marriage. What's important to me is to find someone who loves me regardless and that I can feel safe with. Not a woman who's just a wife and then never does a thing in the marriage.

Something could go just as wrong in the marriage if you're unlucky =/. And a relationship is not something you break as soon as something bad happens, if you cannot work things out without being married, I am sorry to say that you shouldn't be married. But what hinders you guys from marrying while he's still in the university? Perhaps it could be a carrot for him to be married during his last years, knowing that he must perform well on the tests so that he can get a good job and provide for his family and a child as well, in the future perhaps?

Perhaps you are right, Kodos, regarding what you said about him acting like a jerk due to certain circumstances. I do not believe that Sweetypie is trying to control him, though. Jealousy is, to put it roughly, an emotional handicap. And from what I see he's not even trying to help her. Instead he is, as said, acting like a jerk. Nothing good comes out of this because it's just an infamous downward spiral. Many people say that jealousy is bad and that they'd break it off with one who was "cursed" with it. They also say that jealousy is the lack of ability to trust someone and thus the one who is jealous is trying to control the other. I do not think that it is so. It could just as well exist due to lack of self-esteem. And the fact that Sweetypie's bf once broke it off after having been out of town gives her the full right to be nervous and worried. The breakup was a breach of trust and now things are looking gloomy again so wouldn't you be worried? I would. He is after all her boyfriend.

Hey, Colls I think the best thing to do would not to be reading so much into it. As someone said earlier to a similar topic, "If it was your friend who did that same thing, would you be worried? He/she probably just was in a rush or got disconnected.". To me that quote sounds true. Just take it slow =) Why would he avoid you for sending an innocent message?

Hey there! Perhaps waiting is good, if you get married you'll be together for eons longer than three years =). So under those three years you might just get to know him better and really see if he's someone to marry? A quick marriage could result in a divorce after two years anywho.

Hey, Sweetypie. I get the sad impression that your boyfriend is trying to get you jealous in order for you to be hurt and thus angry at him. And sorry to be harsh, but that would give him a reason to break up with you. (it might not be a good enough reason for you and me, but who knows..) Your boyfriend/girlfriend is supposed to be your best friend and not use such cheap tricks on you! And if the time came when someone broke up with me just to get back together again after a short while, I would have a real hard time trusting that person. I got the impression that he broke it up with you earlier due to your jealousy, him saying that it was too much? If that is the case then it was a breach of trust in my humble opinion. Instead one should try to help the loved one out and try to sort the problems out. It will never happen over night! And it's hurting the one who is jealous to have such constant thoughts. You wouldn't give up on your boyfriend if he came to find he had some illness, would you? - Jealousy is an illness in my opinion. Unfortunately I have a case of that very same illness and I know how hard it is to get through. I was also dumped instead of helped, even when I sought professional help for it. Am I rambling too much again? I guess what I'm trying to say is that he is the one at fault, jealousy or not. He shouldn't feed your jealousy in such a rotten way. If he can't be your emotional support then what can he be? A relationship is built on emotions for God's sake. And I am sorry if I sound harsh and even mean in this note. I just don't know what to make of that guy. If you have any other questions regarding this note, perhaps you could send a pm or such. I will however, be speccing this thread from now on. Good luck, Sweetypie. I am sorry that I could not console you.

Hey, Jealous. I am sorry to say that I agree with what sweetypie said about your boyfriend. It would seem that he's luring you into a difficult position in which you have no choice but to get hurt. I mean.. If you've known eachother for such a long time, you can read your lovers face and see how he/she responds and when he/she is sad or happy. He should know that you feel jealous towards Amy and then he Should Not go about talking like he did. He should instead comfort you and try to calm you in the belief that you are the one for him. I don't want to tell you what to do, I am just trying to give you some insight. But if I were you, I'd take some time off and try to gather my thoughts and think about Me instead of Him and how he's acting. I hope things turn out ok for you and that life treats you good.

Pfft. I usually try to use my scythe but if it for some reason is too bloody to use, I go with my razor.. But it's easy to get ingrown hair with a razor so perhaps you could trim it, very carefully I might add, with a pair of scissors and then use an electrical shaver.. Be sure to use a new razorblade if you go with that though. And never, ever, ever, ever shave your twinkle, just trim it carefully with scissors. Only use a razor there if you're a grandmaster in the shaving stance like I am! *looks very proud* And that concludes todays lesson in trimming the pubes. Homework for tomorrow is to actually do it and bring to show & tell.. Or something. *Edit* Also, shaving does not in any way make your hair grow faster. It's a dumb myth. How could the hair have nuff intelligence to know that the upper part of it has been shaved off and thus increase its speed of growth?

It's a sticky situation indeed. Cheating is always wrong but staying loyal to your friend(s) is a hard thing to do in this case seeing as both of them deserve loyalty, being your friends. But wanting to do right, I do, I would seriously consider telling your other friend the truth. If nothing else, it'll teach your second friend to keep her butt to other people than the ones she knows her friends fancy. - Then it's up to your faltering friend to sort it out and prove she is worthy of that girl's and your friendship.

ice, ice, baby? =)

Hah, what Johnny_has says actually has some truth to it Might I just ask, how did the reasoning and final decision concerning your gf in Irak go? I hope you do what you find to be right. good luck

Get her a photobook staring you and her =). Or perhaps a glass-rose, teddy-bear, packet of smokes, a lyric/poem book, a drawing of you and her, some ring you know she likes (Perhaps the One Ring?), a new wallet, incense holder + incense or perhaps a fish if she has a fish tank? Good luck! Ja ne

Yosh! I'll write it in bold. AAAARGH!

The HelI..? "Us guys liking lesbians.." Speak for yourselves, bubs'.

hey there. I never initiate contact with my ex over icq. So I don't think that you're doing something wrong, really. IMHO "no contact" refers to not initiating contact/dialogue with them or hanging at the same place as them. Ja ne.

*cough* *cough* "We"..? To answer the question; I don't know. Some people are insane, some people drive blue cars, some pick their nose and eat the bogger while others look at animé. Animé is the only sane and good way to spend your life, take my word for it

I don't really know what to say, Dollybird. But I'd stay true to myself and not do Anything that I feel is wrong. Perhaps sometimes these largely different ideas clash and perhaps you cannot always meet in the middle either.

Wow, that really sounded inconsiderate of him. If I were you, I'd go to my own family and take the baby with me. You shouldn't feel guilty over meeting your own parents and he making you feel like that is so very, utterly wrong IMO! Christmas is a time to spend with those you love and it's only suitable that one should take turns in visiting the families. Yours this year, his next year and yours after that etc. I would tell him that if he doesn't like it, he doesn't have to be a part of Your family. Because your family is just not you, your baby and him; it's your parents and siblings as well. I'd be firm but stand up for what I felt was right, in this case going to my (your) family.

I don't understand. Seems like there are some important details missing or something. Please evaluate and I'll see if I have any spare advice.

Thank you sweetypie. I'll just try my darndest to become a lucid dreamer then.

Bleh, guess I'll have to be the one to pull my shamefull behind to the altar then! My girlfriend got sad when she noticed I watched pr0n on the net. I totally understood that and I quit doing it for a couple of months. But then after some months I just thought. "what the heck.. Once more can't hurt" and then it happened more often.

Stop scaring me =( I'll have to send Kakashi and Sasuke at them if they try to pull another prank like that =/

Haha That was a nice advice, Sweetypie Thanks a lot and thank you to, Lil_mama

Hey there. What do you all think that we dream? Everytime I switch the lights off in my room to go to bed, my mind always wanders away inventing new monstrous faces and beings. It's kinda annoying since I'm 19 and prefer to sleep with a small nightlight. When I'm sleeping with a girl I feel totally relaxed and safe and can sleep in pitch black - but when I'm alone it just does not happen. Why is this? I don't really think that I'm scared of the dark because everything that happens in the dark room, is my mind leading to think of spooks. I have these weird reoccurring dreams. One is about me waking up and in the corner next to the door, a monstrous but almost humanoid being, is crouched with his head resting in the palm of his hand which in turn rests the elbow on his knee. The face of it varies but it manages to paralyze me anyways. The other one I've only had once come to think about it. And I had it about five years ago. I wake up in my room from hearing strange buzzing music in my ears. I can't discern anything special about it, it only sounds as if you put your speakers on max with an empty record in it. The bass can sound loud and vibrating. Everything is White as well! Normally my walls are orange and dark blue but now everything was white with the exception of a little blue every here and there. At the foot of my bed a young girl, or perhaps a boy, sits. "It" is wearing a dress, seemingly a hospital dress that one'd wear before surgery. It has long brown and, I guess, pretty unclean hair. I get a little frightened by that sight so I turn to lie on my side and form a "wall" with the duvét between the two of us. But when I turn back to lie on my back, I see a bleak palm only centimeters above my face and just then - I wake up. I'm at a total loss as of why these dreams come to me. Pretty annoying. Hope someone can shine some insight on my question. Thanks! (Also, if you have any, post your own weird dreams)