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*smacks you over the head for being such a silly-billy* I was the same as you! But then one day when me and her sat in her sofa watching some docu-soap... She began touching me like mad. One thing led to another and in the blink of an eye we were fondling eachother and doing funny stuff in funny places. After some good minutes she said that we should continue in her room. That was really my first time, but now afterwards, I can say hello to unfamiliar girls (we're not together now) at school and well.. Just be more open Good luck pal!

While we're judging every man indifferently! Why did my gf leave me when I told her how much I loved her every day? Claims she needed time on her own and that I was too overwhelming in showing how much she ment? I know not all women are like that but.. YES, TALKING LIKE THAT MAKES ME PISSED

Perhaps looking at the previous advice given to you in your previous threads could help

Hey, bruised. I like your name =). It makes me happy to see that people can get along with their exes! From what you told us, I think that you did really good. What better friend is there than the person you've loved so regardless and grown to know so good that you can read her every feature? Whatever the result will be, try to be her friend. I'm rooting for you

Hello again, nmarchildon. You shouldn't worry about it. Sure, it's easy for me to say, but if you have such a good relationship that you'll travel the world together, you can surely overcome A Lot. Eventhough I have problems on my own dealing with it, I believe that each person in a relationship has to have some time on their own. Because if you put your spouse before everything else, even yourself, your spouse will end up being with a shell that's there to kiss your boots. If you are both "your own personas", you might find it easier to be together because then you are actually loving the other person in a more honest way. In the scenario I pictured earlier, you'd be loving, as I said, a vessel there solely to be yours, and not his/hers own. Would you really want a person like that? I don't think that you have anything to worry about, Marchie. I'll, how do you say this in English, "keep my fingers crossed"(?).

Hey there. I'm a bit confused on how to approach this.. But as some of you may already know, my ex and I broke up a month ago today. We still have daily contact via Icq and we can joke with eachother and laugh together when we meet in person.. The thing is, she broke up because she didn't have enough time alone. A reason that I understood completely, because I guess that I need a lot of attention and love. Anyhow, now she's working two jobs. One as a waitress and another as a casino-dealer. She also studies to become an archaelogist so she still hasn't got any time for herself. Her away messages are sad and they worry me a lot. This is one, "She shines In a world full of ugliness She matters When everything is meaningless". And that's just one of many. She seems sad sometimes when we talk. Even before we broke up she had problems with her sleep. She could stay up till half past four in the night before she joined me in bed. And she still has that habbit. She has to go up at about ten in the morning so she never gets much sleep. Also, she spends her weekends "relaxing" by going out drinking. A fact that I hated because she put that before spending time with me. Though now I'm only worried that she'll burn herself out. I've told her time and time again that if she wants to talk to me, she can. She just replies that I, "shouldn't worry". How can I Not worry when we've spent so much time together and I've grown to know her far beyond what I've ever known an ordinary friend? Any advice on how I could approach the subject would be make me very, very grateful. I care so much about her and I can't leave this to her alone, because I know that she's hurting. But she doesn't seem to be able to confide in me.. If she doesn't want to talk to me.. I guess that it is ok.. But she needs to talk to Someone who can help her. But even when we were together she refused to visit a proffesional. (She had problems in her youth and she still has problems with her family. I used to comfort her to sleep because she was crying so much..) So please, any advice is greatly appreciated.

Hey, bud. Good choice on your name! I am sorry to say that I don't know what advice to give you. I don't have any experience in these situations and giving you someone else's advice would just be, well.. wrong. As I told another bud who has needed help earlier.. It all reminds me about this story about a little girl I once read. She immigrated to America from Mexico and she went to a catholic school with nuns as teachers. This was around the same time as the cuba-crisis, "bay of pigs", and the children were taught about nuclear weapons and how dangerous nuclear fallout can be. One day however, the little girl, who sat by the window, stood up and screamed "Nuclear fallout, nuclear fallout!!". Her teacher came running to the window with her dress ballooning. At the sight of the outside, she comforted the little girl by saying, "Hunny, that's just snow". So I guess that what might at first seem horrible can develop into being something really beautiful. I wish you well and that everything works out for you. But maybe you ought to try and not get her pregnant and instead, perhaps, propose to find an alternative solution for her problems at home. Good luck!

I liked this one in particular: "(7) To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."

Hey, nmarchildon! I believe in "whatever doesn't break you, only makes you stronger". Relationships and the bond shared by those involved are tighter than you'd think! And for the record... Not showing your feelings for the one you loved seems to be nothing but M O R O N I C to me. girl says: I love you, hun. guy says: Uh-huh, whatever. girl says: Please tell me you love me! guy thinks: Uh-oh, don't wanna loose her. Should I spill the beans? Heck no, I'm no woman, damnit! guy says: I need to be alone. girl thinks: He doesn't love me, arglebargle, glop-glyf! Guy is a retard, girl is sane but stuck with a retarded boyfriend. Now am not saying that this is you and your boyfriend, nmarchildon. But I just want to say that not showing your feelings is to lie to yourself and your mate. Good luck, I believe that you'll be able to work it out. See ya

The casual yawn and your arm around her shoulder. Make it look humorous though! Or if you get into a discussion, just try to lead into something pleasant and nice and then grab one of her fingers and just steal her hand bit by bit. But be careful not to drink too much booze and make a fool out of yourself =). Let it be you who's talking and not the alcohol. If all those fails, pretend to be a troll and sway her with trolly charm! Have worked for me, but that girl liked RPG's, so Good luck!

Oi, Dazed! I'm happy for your friends, having such a caring buddie such as you May I ask how old she is? It's pretty common, atleast in college, to drink like mad. Unfortunately a lot of the people who are active drinkers under college can find it hard to stop later on in life. If she doesn't find a problem with her drinking, it could be very hard to stop. I used to drink a lot but now I've found that it's not really worth it. I haven't been pissdrunk in over a year now! So I guess I'm saying that she has to learn for herself. Of course you could express your opinion, but don't get angry if she doesn't want to listen. Good luck to the both of you, I hope that she can get out of it if that is what she wants.

Dimples? What are those? Are they like freckles? Freckles are so cute!

Don't Crush Your Friends! Love Them and make them know you do

Hey thanks a lot for the tips. I never showed her that I didn't really enjoy it, I just continued to make her happy. That's the point of doing it, I suppose =) Come to think of it, it could've been my imperial that made it taste funny. Oh well, thanks!

You just happened to stumble accross a nincompoop, hun.

Hey, Cyankino. I feel that your question is in need of answers and so I decided to share my experiences with drugs! All I can say is, drugs. I tested drugs with my sibbling a couple of times some two years ago. It might have been for a six month period or so, however.. He got stuck and I did not. He has drawn away from me and now he is in it over his ears. He has begun to take heavier dosages and heavier drugs as well.. He even got his girlfriend to start it. I have two classmated who do drugs on a regular basis. Even in school. One is about to get kicked from school and the other has changed class (thankfully).. The guy who once was my closest friend and whom I've known for over 17 years has now begun experimenting with drugs and his girlfriend too.. I have asked him not to, but he thinks "it's pretty cool". ... Eventhough the addict thinks it's nothing but good, it really is nothing but bad to his or her surroundings.

Hi, Laura. Didn't you post earlier about this guy you liked? Is this him?

If he seemed to be be surprised and all that you described, I reckon he is!

I agree and feel with you, Buffalosoldier. I guess what bothers you the most is that those women are turning him on, huh?

No, Cobro. Don't hate her. You've loved her so much and she has gone through changes, in your case, seemingly for the "worst". Love or let go. Inside of you, you will find the correct answer. I'm sure you don't want to hate anyone. You might dislike someone and what they stand for. But Hate is a way too powerful word and it is scary that some people bear it towards others. I might hate a situation and I have surely said that I hate certain people. But I've never ment more than "dislike". If you are on good grounds with her, perhaps you could just talk it out? I believe that communication is a vital part in our life. Because if we could not communicate, would love exist? Good luck, bud

Wow, Halo! I am impressed and I really think that you seem to be a great guy I can only say that I would go with what I feel is right. Take this chance because the outcome, what ever it will be, will be invaluable. Good luck, Halo. To you and your love =) I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for a good outcome ***EDIT*** I would just like to add that this has made me think of an old TOTO song "it's gonna take a lot to dragg me away from you, there's nothing that a hundred men or more could ever do" Hurry, boy. She's waiting there for you =) GOOD LUCK!

He sounds like a rapist to me.. But I guess that depends. Did he know you didn't want to when he "forced you to have sex"? This is unusual for me to say.. I normally don't want to tell people what to do. But if he did, turn your back to him at once! I... would even want to go so far as to say file a complaint about what "forced intercourse" so that he won't hurt other women. .... If this is what happened. Either way, sex is the most intimate way to show you that you love someone. You shouldn't do it if you do not feel up to it. He breached your relationship at that(those?) time(s?) atleast measured by my standards.

Oi lah, Hammo! I do not consider myself to be a "nerdy" guy. Maybe I'm kinda geeky but I'm comfortable in that =). Though I'd hate to find myself fraternizing with the jocks, I'd rather keep to people who I know where I have them. "Geeks" are really as honest as they come, the only 'problem' is that socializing with girls tend to be the major problem. I play RPG's, read books and just dress in a way that I find comfortable. Fleece jacket, ordinary pants and ordinary shoes. Why show the world that you're a superficial bastard who needs to flaunt his appearance in order to get superficial chicks? .. I guess I don't look geeky eventhough I feel like it. I have a piercing and women tend to look my way both once and twice. Some girls in my class once even told me that they thought I looked mad all the time. But that's only because of my focused eyes (I usually wear glasses but I always try not to) and my curvy eyebrows. Blah! I notice that I'm falling behind the subject here!! What I'm trying to say is that both women and men, the ones who are somewhat sane atleast, try to look further than the appearance. Why even try to have a relationship with some stud or babe just to discover that you're completely different and get hurt in the end? The ones who look beyond and see deeper tend to have longer and more meaningful relationships. Some girls, and boys too, are just in a period where they want to experiment with things like this. Some however, want a calm bf/gf to confide in and just feel safe with. Hmm.. I hope I could give you some explanation as to why strange things happen sometimes. And just hang in there, the girls seem to have an interest in you as well =). Good luck, pal! *goes to kill some kobolts in Alley of the Elms*

Hello, Jd21. I guess that I am here because your note ensnared me I am always saddened when I hear about breakups. I have myself very recently gone through one three weeks ago. I have contact with her everyday though and when we met last sunday, we were able to laugh and joke and just talk about what we've done for these past weeks. We could really confide in eachother, and I know that you most likely can do that as well. You've been together for three years! It takes time to handle the love, but it should be well worth it. However.. I do not see why people are playing games using love as the pawn!! It maddens me to a great extent. Now I'm not accusing you, there are other people out there in the world who are just.. well, seemingly fake. You don't seem to be that way, Jd. But please, why try to harden yourself when you meet? You've known eachother for so long and been so intimate, why try to hide your feelings. If you break down, you break down. He is there and whether you like it or not, I doubt he'll act cold if that happens. Be honest with him and your emotions. Because otherwise you're not being honest to yourself. When such a change occurs that we cannot spend the time we want with the person we love.. An emotional war sets off, why deny the fact that we're all human. How wonderful it would be if one could show ones sensitivity, I bet a lot of conflicts would never have occurred. And don't worry about this. In my opinion the bonds that connects two lovers having lived together for so long can never be cut and forgotten. There is a good chance that you two can come to love eachother as friends, is there not? A friend is very valuable, especially one who knows you so very well. And I am sorry if I came off as strict and hard towards you, that is Not my intention, I assure you. I feel for your situation is I have been in one myself recently. Do share some feedback if you want to, I'll listen to you and if you want to, I'll try to share from my own experience. Good luck, girl.

Hey, Ditto! I think that you have misunderstood the meaning of love, love As HippoXNinja said, you seem to be pretty ready and able to tell him you love him. Don't you think that it would make him feel good as well just knowing that you have special feelings for him? I know I would. Don't worry about getting hurt if the feeling is not mutual. Chances are that you can still become good friends, if you aren't already, and build on that. I hope that you can find what you feel is right to do. Good luck, hun.