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  1. Relationship Coach
    Have you asked him about his change in behavior? It's time to sit him down and address the issues, they are not going to change without attention or action. RC
  2. Relationship Coach
    Hang in there, you'll get stronger as you realize you are responsible for your feelings, not her. You can either be sad or happy, it's a choice that you can control. RC
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    Be on the lookout for some good acting on his part, if he wants you to come over he is willing to put on his "nice guy" act to get what he wants. This has booty call written all over it! He wants you to wait outside???? What a jerk...and you shed tears for this guy? Why are you doing this to yourself? You're playing right in to his game here. Wise up, you deserve better! RC
  4. Relationship Coach
    If he was interested in you, he'd be in touch. If you end up at his place it may be for nothing more than a booty call! Stop wasting your time on someone who is not willing to give you theirs. RC
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    Nice, what kind of guitar? RC
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    KK, Focus on your school work, it's very important and will shape your future. If you take it too far with this girl something else more serious could shape your future. This has nothing to do with your maturity level or hers, most of the comments here are based on the difference in ages which directly relate to laws which no one wants to see you break. RC
  7. Relationship Coach
    Well don't throw yourself at him, that rarely works. Do you know any of his friends so you can at least find out if he is dating someone else or not? Let's not dive in until you've checked for rocks first! RC
  8. Relationship Coach
    He may have busted your hymen.
  9. Relationship Coach
    The chances of getting pregnant the day after your period ended is very low. Your pains can be from deep penetration or as CB implied gas. The lesson here is, use a condom unless you are trying to get pregnant! RC
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    Dark Cloud, I'm glad you found your way to us so we can help you understand that suicide is not the answer or solution to any problem. You didn't fail, this was clearly a sign that you are to live! I understand the heartache of a first love leaving you feeling empty. I still to this day remember my battle with this and the lessons learned from it. At 16 I was pulled in to many directions by peer groups that were total opposites, where I had made friends, I had made enemies as well. Life became easier being alone and less complicated but incomplete. I then looked at myself to see what kind of friend I was capable of being to others. To my dismay, I found great value in the fact that I loved helping others, even if it was thankless. I volunteered working with kids who had down syndrome and saw only the good in others who had it so bad. The point of this is I discovered my existence on this planet mattered, I made a difference in someone else's life. My life had value now to myself as well. You see it's not about how others treat you, it's about how you treat others. Being beaten up and made fun of is a horrible ritual that many experience. Change your activities to stay away from those who are ignorant to humanity and find a place where you can impact others lives in a positive way. You now have a support system with the good hearted members of ENA and we will do whatever we can to help you through the difficulties in which you face. Posting here was a huge step, signifying that you want to live and that you want help, for this I applaud you, you've shown courage where you saw only darkness. RC
  11. Relationship Coach
    Never cheated, never will. RC
  12. Relationship Coach
    She's in control that's here main advantage, take it away. RC
  13. Relationship Coach
    Stay away from her until you are both of legal age. The 3 years difference may not seem like much to you but there are reasons for laws, obey them, don't question them. Making out in some states is viewed as intimate contact and can land you in juvey, a place where you don't want to be. You are worring about the wrong thing, it's not about what kids will say to her, it's about what her parents are going to say to the cops. RC
  14. Relationship Coach
    Join a support group for victims of assualt. You need more insight as to what they have been through and what your role can be in their healing process. Even if it happened 11 years ago does not mean that he is over it. This could cause problems with in your relationship down the road if it's not dealt with. RC
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    James, You are 16 and your testosterone could be sold on E-Bay for millions! OK not really but you need to put things in perspective, you and your GF have different needs and desires. She is probably tired of your relentless focus surrounding your sexual needs. Back off for a while and just enjoy the relationship. Most girls that are worth being with should be somewhat of a lady not a tart. Be glad she is the way she is if you really like her stick around and try to understand her. The fact that she is not communicating with you may simply mean she's not ready for all of your needs and requests. Let her determine the sexual pace of the relationship for now. If you can't handle it, go find less of a lady and have at it but just remember, to get that way often means they have had more than one partner, use protection always. Fooling around sometimes can get out of control. STD's and unwanted pregnancies are ramped in your age group! RC
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    The first thing you can do is to start shouldering the blame for your actions and not put the blame on others. You are 43 years old, we are the same age and at 43 blaming others isn't going to accomplish anything. You need help and there is nothing wrong with admitting it. You need to find a church that offers counseling so you can get some structured help that will make you face your short comings and inexcusable actions. The courts did what they did based on more than what was said by your ex. They won't rule on a custody case based on he said/she said and that is a fact. I've worked with the courts before and I'm sure they made this decision based on what is best for the child. You have anger issues as well and need some help there too as well as a healthy outlet. Your life isn't over, it's just really screwed up because of your actions and inactions. Take responsibility for what you have done and get your act together so you can be a whole person and a mom again someday. Saying you want to give up and you have nothing to live for just proves your ex and all other doubters right. Show them what you love is worth changing for. Giving up is a direct reflection of who you think you are, not who you really are! You took the time to find this place, take the time to find some help with in your community, it's there if you look! RC
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    Congrats! You have been successfully removed from an unsuccessful future! This relationship has more issues than a days worth of soap operas! This has nothing to do with Law School, he's practicing to be a liar, I mean a lawyer and he's going to really suck at this rate! Be thankful you are out and free from his dishonesty. There is more here that is unknown, trust me! If the guy really loved you, nothing would stand in the way of your relationship. RC
  18. Relationship Coach
    Without making this about a specific gender, one person pretends to be something they are not in order to attract what they desire. As time passes after they are in the relationship, their real personality takes over. They are basically insecure about who they really are. RC
  19. Relationship Coach
    We've been trying? Hey NC is for you and you alone! You do NC and let him do whatever. If he tries to contact you, avoid him. If this is tough on your friends, oh well. What is more important, you getting over him or your friends having to understand what you are going through? Here is an easy one, don't go out with your friends if you think you may run in to him! Stay home, learn a foreign language or how to knit. Your life isn't over if you can't go out! When staying home becomes worse than going out and having to see him with his flavor of the week, well guess what your officially over him and you can get your own life back and move on. Friends are friends but they should have no say so in how you choose to get over your ex. RC
  20. Relationship Coach
    Normal? No, but it's the best thing to do and feel. Keeping tabs can only make things worse in every way. Just focus on you and what makes you happy, you'll make it through this. Occupy your mind with more practical thoughts such as, "what is the square root of 973,847" and "why do men have nipples?" RC
  21. Relationship Coach
    Finding hope is easy, it's called lying to yourself and not seeing things as they really are! Getting rid of this crutch called hope is the hard part because you have to first admit to yourself that it is over for good as in forever! How can you possibly heal and move forward when you injury yourself daily thinking about them? Once you see hope as crutch and not a comfort tool, you'll be better. Too many people refuse to move forward because if they do they have accepted that it's over with and many cannot face the ugly truth. Yes the holidays can be hard if that is how you choose to view them or you can do productive and bring some happiness to others. Go volunteer at a shelter, donate your time to those less fortunate and see how hope should be used. They hope they get a meal that day or they hope their baby gets that badly needed medicine. You see I believe in hope as it pertains to life, not love. I hope this helped you. RC
  22. Relationship Coach
    Unless you are in Mayberry goober I think you can avoid her and still go out and have fun somewhere other than where she frequents. What is your fear, that you'll see her with someone else? It's over and maybe you need to see that it's over! Do you think she is sitting around wondering if she should change her plans so she doesn't accidentally run in to you? NO! Go out and have some fun, she's turning 21, she'll be riding the porcelain bus by 2 am, for get about her. RC
  23. Relationship Coach
    How to make a girl stop running? Stop chasing her! They will notice you more when you ignore them rather than when you are chasing after them. You sound a little on the co-dependent side, slow down. Pay more attention to someone else and she how she reacts, she may just not be in to you. RC
  24. Relationship Coach
    I wouldn't break wind for her if it would save her life much less NC! I've followed your drama since the start, you owe her nothing and you will not benefit in any way by wishing her a happy b-day. Move on, look what she has cost you, you are not healing because you are still thinking some day you will get back with her. Well take a hint from her actions, she has not even tried to contact you in the past 3 weeks and I don't think it is because she is respecting your request for NO, your smart enough to figure out what is going on. RC
  25. Relationship Coach
    The two of you are broken up and he has decided to move forward and so should you. Him flaunting his date in front of you was a little over the top but that just defines who he really is and that is someone you should stay away from. NC is not an issue, forget about this guy and go live a happy life knowing he's out of it! RC
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