Mr. Stealth

great tips guys. especially beec But i still need more tips Sometimes i think i just wait and watch how things will go.

from people i know who had the same problem, they told me. you only know it if you have done it.

Hi everybody. I really need some help. I have been to the shop lately and i saw a girl i really like to know. I have seen her before. but she didn't show any attention then. sometimes she walkes around in the shops, putting everything in the racks. but most of the time she is scanning at the cassa. So last time she was putting everything in the racks and i was looking for some cat food. i didn't show her any attention but from the side of my eye i know she looked twice to me but without saying anything. it was strange because i wouldn't know why she would look at me because other times she never looks at me my question is did she show some intrest or did she ask my attention by looking twice to me? ( i was tooo shy too look to her And if so what move can i make because its very hard to make a dat in a shop where all people are near. i dont even know if she is still single Please help, she looks great to me.

Well i personally think its a myth... why? because otherwise we only would have 2 relationships in our live a bad one (the ex) and a good one (the new partner witch is sooo mutch better) so it would be stupid to think like this. the only thing i can think of, is that when people fall in love with someone else they always tend to see only the good things. ===> they look trough those love glasses every time you find another love the new one is so mutch better than the old one. it's like buying a computer. the latest one is always better and this is the sneaky part of all. the new love is mysterious, there is alot to explore, there is a change in habbits, those love feelings witch you lost by your ex are ignited again, that feeling being in heaven is sooo addictive. and hey..... we are looking trough our loveglasses again. but even when you get a new lover. people forget somethimes that everybody has a good and a bad side. believe me everybody has at least one bad side. and this is the tricky part. how good can you handle the bad sides (habbits) of your new partner or how mutch do you want to change yourself to let a relation last. and here we are again: do we break up or not if we break up, then after a while we find someone else who we "THINK" witch is better again. But the only thing i learned after my break ups is that it is really stupid to break up if there are no hard reasons for it. i can understand if someone cheated or has used some violance. But mostly its bad comunication. and im almost sure, that a lot of people really do miss there ex who they loved so mutch and regret it that they have left them. but they are just afraid to take the first step again to make contact. why? becouse then they have to admit that they do miss them or that they regret it they lost them. So before you break up dont handle in a hurry try to think clear and make sure you dont make the mistake of your life it would be a pitty if you really love eachother.

This is completely the opposite of super dave his post How many of you did broke up and have been wondering about youre ex. - how they are - what they are doing - how they moved on - is there still a chance for a rebound - was it just bad communication - do they have someone else or not I think not all of you want answers to those questions but im sure some of you want to. For the moment, im still not ready to contact my ex.and i dont know if i want to know all of those answers.But people are curious creatures and deep in the mind they want to know it. some of you will have already done it. if you did, share those experience. But only for cases for minimum 6 month NC But be carefull because this is very hard to do ( esspecially emotional) And just do it when you really want to know and when you are ready or over him or her. Greetz

i think we can never let go some thoughts of our exes. some of the things you both have done will stay alive for ever in our memories. some of those things had a big meaning in our lives. from some we learned from other whe suffered. we can leave the past behind but we can never forget it. we are no machines and we cant erase our brains. greetz

Looks like i took the same boat. 3 month before my gf brokeup, she was still talking about our mariage.and then she brokeup now we havent had contact for almost 9 month. i dont know if she will ever contact anymore. i guess not b/c she is a hard person. but i still love her and i dont know if she is feeling the same way. i know its easy to say live goes on but its hard if you know you have to go trough life without the person you love. and its hard for me to contact her because she is the one who dumped me. do you people know if there is enything else i can do? greetz to you all

Hello everyone. My questions are: When you brokeup. How many of you think that youre ex (especially girls) will come back to you and admit that they still miss and love you. (EVEN IF THEY HAVE THE HARDEST LEVEL TO ADMIT THAT) And what are the signals they will give to you (even if you have a long term of NC) Greetz

i dint contact my ex for about 8 month. and still i miss her and sometimes when i think about it i wouldn't take her back to start all the mess over again. or bouth of us must have changed enormly.

totally true mcnani. last time i heared from a girlfriend what my ex told about me. and i felt so down because what she said wasn't true about me. she told i met another girlfriend via internet and all that stuff an that i would have cheated on her. why would she say things like that? i guess its because she has to hide something herself and to give herself not in a bad status. sometimes i want to react on this and want to send her a mail. but after all, when i think about it doesnt matter. i know i've always been saying the trueth and my friends believe me. if she didn't respect that i was honest, so be it. i know she will ever be punished for that. and i know there are alot of nice guys and girls out there but in the beginning everyone is nice isnt it. but i know there are also people who really mean what they say and do. but that's only a small amount of the so many. that's why it is so hard to get a good relationship. greetz ...

thats true Ellie2006. im sure when i would still have contact with my, my healing process would go alot slower. with no contact you avoid the possibility from being hurt again but questions keep on rising in your mind. like how is she doing?,what is she doing?, is she dating someone else? and so on.... But sometimes its better you dont know all those things. but i think i wouldn't know how to react when i will ever see her again. should i be nice or neutral i dont know

yeah, i think you are completely right sjv119. but i still wonder if dumpers think as mutch about their ex as the dumped ones are doing :s i have the feeling that dumpers have the advantage because they found or had the strength to let go a person they loved :s but after all who care. why would we stay stuck by thoughts of someone who left you and didn't realise that you were worth it :s. thx for you reply.

well first of all. i wish you all a mary Xmas. the reason im posting today is cause i'm still healing. this period should be a day that all people should be happy and today im not. Im still thinking about her. and i wonder if there will ever come an end on it. its been 8 month now sinds the breakup and i didn't hear from her sind 3 month. i still have so many questions and i shouldn't because we broke up. i wonder if she thinks about me as mutch as i do about her but i doubt that because she broke up. it was a very nasty breakup.one of those kind witch will never make us come together i guess. and even if she want's to, im sure she wil never admit it. so i think this rebound is doomed. it's just such a pitty because she was the only person who i really loved and knowing eachother for 8 years and a 2 year relationship is not something you forget from this day to another i wish i could forget her but i cant. i wish she would contact me but she wont. i wish i dared to contact her but i cant (im the dumped one) Sometimes things go wrong (but that's just life) Sometimes you lose someone in your life (forever) Sometimes you make mistakes (happens to everyone) But for all that you have to take your responsability and that's what im doing. But its hard very hard And i still have a long way to go thx for reading this.

great post and completely true

i know this woman for almost 7 month and we are still excited about eachother (we only had contact via msn). i have her phone number, her adress and we are even going to meet eachother. im alot younger then her 26 vs 40 years she is going to send some hot pictures of her. but she is telling, she wants just to be friends. but is this just a first step to a closer friendship. i know she is always denieing things first before she is telling what she is truly thinking and feeling. some reply's would be great because it doesn't make sense to me thx all.