Relationship Coach

Sukerbut, Your email to her was done with good intentions, a thank you and a clean break. I do have to agree with others here that subconsciously you were floating balloons and putting a noose around your neck for future issues. When you tell a former partner that they are "the one", you set yourself up as a liar when you do actually meet "the one". Women in general have great memories and she will certainly take a shot at you when you do find "the one". Telling her over and over that you lover her still and thanking her for changing you is bad. I know the purpose of this letter was to make you feel better but I would suggest in the future writing her a letter telling her everything about how you feel and how you hurt, then take the letter along with any and all pictures of her and burn them in a fireplace. The point is, she doesn't need to hear your words, you do. The sun will shine brighter for you than ever before as you move forward in your life and meet "the one". Best of Luck!

Before I share my thoughts on this with you I would like to know your ages and how long you have been together.

PlayBrat, What you should really consider is can you trust this person with your heart again? Will you be looking for hints of another dumping if you were to reconcile? I think you have done yourself a huge favor by holding off for 5 months as far as contact goes, hold on a little longer and make sure it's just not a craving. Sometimes we love to eat everything in sight but remember the stomach ache that follows close behind. I guess what I asking you is think hard if the pleasure is really worth the potential pain. He may be 100% over you and moved on. Do you want to run the risk of rejection even at the friendship level? It's easy to miss someone and hard to find out that you are not. If you do call him, make any excuses for the call, call because you just want to say hi and let him know that you were thinking about him. Just be careful and don't try to read too much in to his reaction. Good luck!

PlayBrat, I'm not familiar with your history with your x. You say, "It took a while but I finally let him go". Are you saying you broke it off with him or he broke up with you and you are letting go of him? There are two different paths on this based on circumstances. Fill me in and I will certainly offer my thoughts.