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  1. sukerbut
    Just wanted to drop aline and sa hello to all my enotaloners out there..oct 3 will be the 1 yr mark of the most painful day of m life. The day i was betrayed by the one person i loved in this world more than myelf. Well as some of you know it was probably the toughtest 8 months of my life. Between humiliating myself to the fullest and continously picking the break up wounds I come with news and advice for all my old and new friends here. Things are great now..it took a good 8 months to move on, and i have. Cristina will always be soemone special in my life. She was the one that made me so happy and so miserable at the same time ! she is one person that will never be forgotten . I am well, found a new job got a new girl and bought a new car. Time heals all wounds...I am happy and back on my feet. I still wish we could of worked out but it was never meant to be. Here is the facts for all you whom have just broken up. Suck it up and pelase never chase someone that does not want oyu. I tried to make it work 3 times ... I HAD NO CHANCE!!! I begged i grovelled i humiliated myself. Please walk away with dignity...I dont care how long your healing will take I dont care how much you hurt .. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT..I saw her recently at a party..i was with my new girl..she was..well the same crstina i remember. I hope you are all well...life goes on the present will becoem the past faster than you think..and the future will be the present...so put on your seatbelts on..its going to be a bumpy ride, but in the end rest assured.. everything will be just fine...PETE told you so!!!!!
  2. sukerbut
    Dont join the cub..you know the answer already..NO !!!! she aint thinking aout you any more, why give her more reason to be happier...you know what i got as a reply..hey thanks..yeah that made me feel good
  3. sukerbut
    man you are so on the money its not even funny..haha becasue you loved her thats why other wise you would of been the dumper right?
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    guys thanks alot...elanorby you hit the nail on the head..this was exactly what iw as looking for
  5. sukerbut
    dude i think you are right..yeah her actions changed .. big time..after we got back from vacsation she became aloof and unnatentive. direspectful almost towards me..so when i saw her slipping i bacame i crazy lunatic..even though i know my actions had nothign to do with ehr breaking up with me i still blame myself. when someone is slipping you knwo its over...so my actions might of just hastened the process...man i remember i put her favorite cologne on and she was like what is that...i was liek your favoirite..she was like really? it does not smell teh same..OUCH..but yeah she even said..i tried i really tried, but i jsut could not do it any more..her actions never emulated her words even in the beginning of the relationship..the third beginning if i might add!!! . I knew it was never going to work out in the first place...but the challenge and of course the love i had for her made me fight a losing battle that iw as never going to win. and this i knew deep down inside.
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    i mean its been ten months already..i have partially moved on .. i am not depressed or anythign liek that..i feel pretty good, in a new relationship! and don't get me wrong i do miss what we had..i just dont understand how one can discount how many great times we had..was i the only one there?..how can you go from being someone's quote on qoute "most favortite person in teh world" and "you make me so happy , please dont break my heart !!! and we are going to getr married right?" go to a honeymoon type vacation and a month later...regress to "i cant ever imagine being with you...never mind having children with you"..all in teh tiem span of amonth...even if it got a lil hairy in our last mointh..is this not to extreme? i know i should forget about it..but its just does not make any sense as to how something so good can go so bad in a months time span. This as been buggin me alot lately, i do not know why, but i guess i would get some insight. Can people actually change so much in a months time? insight would be aoppreciated, cause things that do not make sense bother me.
  7. sukerbut
    take trhe necklace back..bad move on that, but it worked for kobe lol...if you changed in this situation , since she loves you ! you definatly have a shot...in this case you need to be persistent...but easy with going into debt.
  8. sukerbut
    love should not be that hard....you will always have the insecurity that you are not good enough.you will always be suspicious (its a horrible feeling and very destructive i might add )..i know i did. the only reason i am so passionate about this subject, is because i am dealing with the extremly demoralizing, hurtfull, disappointing and degrading pain i am going through for the third time by the same cancer. Nerver in my life has one person had so much control over me. Like i am not good enough for her..she has to try three times and every tiem she drops liek i am nothing but a leper..i am successful, fit funny and popular, yet she made me feel ugly , panicked and jealouse, i put ehr on a petastal she did not belong to be put on. i sent you a pm...i hope it helped
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    yes absolutly correct...there is always the chance of winning..thats why we gamble...but the laws of probability will tell you otherwise..listen its ok to gamble..i gambled the third time and i gambled big...i put everything on the line and came out a loser...but thats me...if you think its worth the gamble do it..but be prepared to lose
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    karma...it got me so now i believe in it
  11. sukerbut
    Raj i agree whole heartedly..dude your only asking to get hurt more..you lost this battle man...you cant dump and go back especially since she dumoed you the first time..as bad as it sucks you are powerless...do what you want. we are only here to tell yuo of our experiences..i wish you luck
  12. sukerbut
    Man o man..You my friend are in trouble. I was in teh same situation, problem is mine dumped 3 yrs ago..we got back together and i knew about the past 3 yrs...and they were not pretty. Listen i know you love her..these insecurities you have are natural and will never go away..if you were not good enough for her the first time , what makes you think you will be good enough for her this time..i know i have been there..3 times over my man...The only way you can be sure it can work..is if she comes back and begs for a second chance..dont you dare go back to her now after dumoing her..it willbe the end for you...Trust me on this one also. If she quote on qoute wants to love you , then she will be back pleading, otherwise take your loses, keep your dignity and walk..other wise your toast...DO NOT ask her back. You prbably did the right thing anyways..soemtimes we sabotage ourselves for our best interests. good luck with this, but i can assure more heartache...the only way to trust soemone that has doen this to you..is if they are truly remorsful and want nothing but to prove you right and squashe your insecurities...i know i did not happen with me, and if your the one doing the breaking i bet she was not making you feel very secure...its not worth your sanity .. do the right thing and walk. I totally made a fool of myself..dont do the same...THIS is teh reality..if you want to believe in fairy tales like i thought i did..thn go with the you never know rout... I KNOW AND I HURT ALOT. I gave in to love once again with the same girl that i was not good enough for the first two times. I left myself vulnerable and thougth iw as on teh same page with her...i mean she said all the right things too bad her actions did not say the same..evenutally the same line was being repeated..i just dont love you like you love me. I might sound bitter but its the truth.
  13. sukerbut
    I know your world just collapsed i know your heart has shattered to a million pieces. The only thing i can tell you..is what i learned from my mistakes. There is nothing you can do or say to make your ex significant other change their mind..letters gifts begging tears will only humiliate you even further and reashure your ex that they did the right thing by dropping you...leave with dignity and pride..not like a little child crying for his mommy to return. I was looking at my exes pics today...I am not going to lie i will miss her for a good time..she still creeps into my head daily....1o months after the break..i know she is happy living with her new man but there is nothing we can do but let go....let go of the hope..this is the third time she decided she did not love me like i loved her..three friggin times she took my heart and tossed it in the garbage..and i made a fool of myself to try to win her back..like that was ever going to happen..please be strong , stay on your no contact path and heal ... no one knows how long it will take..dont worry about people bashing you about how you still have not gotten over this person..if you love unconditionally...that means you left yourself vulnerable and now you are left with nothind but painfull memories and what if's. But in time those feeling will supress and you will live your life the way it was meant to be lived .. happy and with no regrets...i miss her a whole lot, but she is just a memory nothing more...reconciliation is imposible...trust me even if it happens it will fade quickly and hurt more .. BE STRONG , and everything will be ok before you know it...any form of contact will get you back to almost square one.
  14. sukerbut
    mine wanted to be friends..what the f--k are you thinking.For the first time i wanted to give someone my al, every piece of me and for the 3 rd time i was rejjected by her and now after she rips my heart out and poops on it she has the audacity to call me once a week (8months ago) .i tried being friends with hopes of her seeing her foolish ways and then realized it was impossible..i could not take it any more and i tried so hard to get her back that i drove her as far away as possible..i bt extreme but it worked.
  15. sukerbut
    no contact all the way....i know the first couple of months were so hard..i would see someting read somehting and i would contact her like an idiot...problem was the friend thing for me was not workign and by month 3 i put the full court press on...i made myself look like and idiot, solidified her easons for leaving me, and to top it off hurt myself in the process , especially after i found out she moved in with some one 5 motnhs after our break up...as much as it sucks...you need to stick with it...you will never froget, but whenever you open doors of communication that numb feeling goes away and like majic she will flood your thoughts daily ... i know i have not seen er or talked to her in months..i saw one of my other ex's recently whom is getting married and decided to give my current ex a quick hello text..i got a reply and now for the past 3 weeks i cant stop dreaming and thinking of her..hell i am even posting here
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