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When's a good time to start a family
LostInMyThoughts replied to DMXtreme's topic in Parenting and Families
So could you preserve your sperm at a young age? -
Find the posts about how to do No Contact (NC). Additionally, you see a pattern in your behavior, why not try to change it. If you meet a man, don't sleep with him until you are in a committed relationship.
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When's a good time to start a family
LostInMyThoughts replied to DMXtreme's topic in Parenting and Families
I think thats okay. I have heard that the older a man is, the higher the likely hood of developing problems like Autism is. But that could be an old wives tale. I guess start a family when you are ready (financially and mentally). THere is no real age-limit for that. -
I think going to marriage counseling might not be a bad idea. Certainly if you tried your best to make things work and they didn't it would help make the decision to leave easier.
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Think of dating as a process of interviewing a potential mate. You're not spreading yourself thin, or not going for a monogamous relationship; instead you're using it as a method with which to weed out candidates for the position of partner.
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Personally, I believe marriage is a serious commitment (i'm divorced btw) and should be taken as such. That said, it sounds like you've already checked out of the marriage. There doesn't seem like there is much of an upside to staying married. For this type of question, you have to be honest with yourself. From what you've written, you're not doing anyone a favor by staying in the marriage. Don't let the fear of being alone, stop you from following your heart. You deserve to be with someone who you love, and whom you are in love with. As an aside, have you seen a therapist?
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Have you considered going to counseling with your son? I think it could be a huge benefit for you both.
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It it's any consulation, her relationship will ulimately fail and she'll probably end up unhappy and miserable.
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Hi ED and Welcome to ENA. I know you're pain all too well. I highly recommend reading: link removed There is so much regarding infidelity to be covered in one post.
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In addition to what Scout wrote, thinking about why you cheated on your bf in the first place. Thats a *BIG* sign that you've got some things to work on, with yourself. You can feel bad about what you did, but unless you really work on those issues, I think you might have repeat behavior.
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Get out and get active. The more you engage your mind on something else, the less likely it will dwell on your ex. The more you think about your ex the more you'll wanna break NC. At least that's how it was for me. Exercise, take up new hobbies, try to make new friends, get in touch with old friends. I did a lot of volunteering. It got my mind off my ex, and I got to meet a whole bunch of cool new people. Avoid TV and movies, as they might contain subjects that could be touchy.
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I agree with the other posters. Block her number from your phone, and have her emails automatically deleted. Cut her out of your life, and move on.
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Do *YOU* know what you're talking about? When was the last time you got a bj or a hj? How long do you think it takes for that guy to jerk himself off. I bet it doesn't take an hour. What do you think is the difference? Like I said, either he's not into the act, or the person performing it isn't good at giving head or hand.
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kissing a friend (sorry for the long post)
LostInMyThoughts replied to drop_dead's topic in Friendship and Friends
Wow, this is such a hard thing to go through. How realistic would it be to get a new job? Honestly finding a new place to work seems like your best bet. Maybe it's time to move on and put all this stuff past you. -
Nope. That's normal.
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Bipolar Boyfriend, wierd situation
LostInMyThoughts replied to miaxtina's topic in Relationship Advice
Nothing you can do can convince him to seek treatment. Even if there was, it wouldn't matter, unless *HE* makes up his mind to do it. You can try talking to him and let him know that the relationship is too much like a rollercoaster and that you'd like it to change. Giving him ultimatums, or trying to diagnose him is just going to push him further away from you. Hopefully he'll be responsive and ask for input. -
Are you kidding? 1 hour of oral and/or manual stimulation? Either you're doing it wrong, or he's not into either act.
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In this case, I really wouldn't worry about jeopordizing any chance you might have had with your bf brother's best friend. It's not like your boyfriend and his brothers bestfriend are the only two guys left on the planet. If things don't work out with your current bf, there are plenty of other people out there.
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I'd like to see the sources behind these distinctions. I'm not sure what the laws in the UK are, but in the US these laws fall into Statutory Rape and Age of Consent laws. We'll all argue till we're blue in the face about what a good law should be, but in the end this issue is far to subjective. Personally I agree with statutory rape laws, and wouldn't mind seeing the punishments be more severe.
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Chances are if you leave your boyfriend, and go for his brothers bestfriend, this little 4-way will come to a screeching halt. Your current boyfriend will probably not like you, and it's likely his brother won't like you either. So where does that leave his brothers best friend? In the awkward position of choosing you for the longterm, or sticking with his bestfriend. Also, if a dream is enough to question your decision to be with your current boyfriend, you probably don't love your current boyfriend to death. So, now that I've been a total jerk, to answer your question, minimize contact with your boyfriend brother's bestfriend. If possible spend more time at your house instead of at your bf's house.
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D stands for diploma. After you land your first job, your grades won't matter.
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First few times, yeah intercourse will hurt. Check your boyfriends nails, make sure they are trimmed and not too long. Long nails can be painful. There should be adequate lubrication otherwise the skin can get irritated. I've had a few girls who after a bit, get very sensitive in that area and don't want to be touched. That could be the case as well.
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I'm definitely not open minded to let my 13-year old have sex. Parents and thier kids have their differences, but it doesn't mean the parents are always wrong. What I was getting at was that if her mom is going to freak out, it's for good reason. If you're old enuff to be having sex, you should probably be old enough to stand up for your decisions with your parents. Yes, she's having sex, so it's good that she's trying to be responsible. But preventing pregnancy is just one aspect of being sexually active. There is so much much more to it. I agree with Annie24, the OP should find out as much as she can about sex, now that she is sexually active. I know no one really wants to be told they are too young, but 13 really is too young to be having sex. 13 years old. Thats 7th grade. Thats one year out of elementary school. No one in their right mind can tell me a 13 year old is ready for sex.
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The attraction you have is normal, I think when people are emotionally vunerable with each other, that bond forms easily. It sounds like you know it's a bad idea--have you made it clear to her, not to contact you? Just some food for thought: Even if she did end things with her husband, you don't want to be her fall-back guy; not until she's had time to work on herself some. She has issues, and you deserve to be with someone who is healthy and stable.
