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  1. ephemeralDreams
    People, I feel your pain. I have been divorced 15 months and still cry and freak out. I ,do however, have a great girlfriend that has saved my life. You have to keep living after break-up. Date, feel, wonder, take chances, it is a hard up hill fight to feel "normal" again. Just be honest with the people you get close to.
  2. ephemeralDreams
    Thank you all. I feel letting go of my anger will be the last big step in healing my heart. For all of you suffering keep it up. You have to live through the pain, and it will get better
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    Thank you Dako. I ask my self the same question. Do you really love with the same freedom and trust after you have been hurt? I feel a little shallow. I want to love freely again but don't know if I can. I want to give more, to my girl friend, my son, community, however, I feel my ex-wife has taken what I once had to give and threw it away.
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    14 months after my divorce, I can eat, sleep, yes even have fun. I do not spend my day's and nights thinking about how, what, when, why. I have moved on and found a new life. I have a great girl friend and am starting to love and trust again. KEEP UP THE WORK PEOPLE IT WILL GET BETTER!! My only question is how to get the hate out of my heart. I really hate my ex-wife. She left our marrage of 10 years, forced me from my home, broke my 5 year old sons heart, lied, cheated, all of this because we just grew appart. No warning, no effort, no help, she dos not care. I hate her for this! My life is forever changed and my heart dammaged. I need to leave her too, however, hate is all she is to me. I need to leave hate. Please help me I don't know how, I need tools!
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    You are so right Mood. It is the children that loose. Many kids loose there fathers because they become strangers, out of sight out of mind. I was one of those kids. Many single moms become burned- out martyrs, and do a bad job raising the kids. Using " I do the best I can" a self pity excuse. Men will take the father role when our society demands it. I was a stay at home dad for two years. I know how to care for a child. I was the "primary care giver" but I did not want to take my son from his mother. Divorce is not a contest but many women view it that way!
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    I gave my all to my ex-wife we had many Wonderfull years. Single people deserve to feel that way at least once. I can not give that kind of love again. I will never trust 100% again, and I will alwase protect myself and my son. So single never married girls are off my list. I do not like hurting people.
  7. ephemeralDreams
    Most men loose not only their family but most of their wealth in an American divorce. I am a fortunate case in where I have my son, but He and I lost family and wealth tougher. For that reason I could never marry again. I cannot afford to divide my wealth again. I am not going to let some golddigging * * * * * pick the pocket of my son. I do find women with children attractive these relationships give me the feeling of family again. I cannot give single never married women the kind of love they are looking for. I am very honest with people I date. I do not think we have the biological programming to mate for life. I tried and was burned, so I am done with finding a wife. If you are looking to get married, the odds of success are more in your favor if you stay away from divorced men!
  8. ephemeralDreams
    I know it must take a lot to tell your story. It is good others can learn from your choices.
  9. ephemeralDreams
    I want my son's relationship with his mother to be as healthy as can be! I want to show him Family is forever and love is real. This is a sad time, I feel I am keeping the ugly truth from him. I want him to have more than me, or at least the same chance at love. I think their is a hole in my heart that will never heal. I will never love again with the same level of trust, and for that I am truly angry. Forever damaged!!!!!
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    My first love, wife of seven years, mother of my son left me 13 months ago for a older man. I am mad as hell. I have lost much of the contact with my son ( 5 years old). I feel I can never get family back. I came from a broken home and I know you have to make the best of what you have. What I have is half of what my son deserves. Hate fills my days and nights. I cannot have a healthy relationship with a woman. My expectation of love is so low right now. I feel very hurt and mixed up. How do you get the hate out of your heart, HOW? It has been a year, I need to move on. The hate is killing me.
  11. ephemeralDreams
    Long hair very sexy
  12. ephemeralDreams
    One year after my divorce, I am tired of the hate, feelings of loss, anger, self pitty, ect........ I have dated several women. One has given me hope of loving again! This was harder to deal with than I thought it should be. Where are the fireworks, excitement, butterflys? My heart is not cold, I love this woman. However, it is not the way I know new love to feel. I want happiness again. I want to let my heart go and love fully again. HOW?](*,)
  13. ephemeralDreams
    A year after the break-up I am in pain, but not every day anymore! I do hate the other guy. However, feeling the hate is worse part now. I am tired of hatred. I do not want to talk with her every day anymore. I do want answers I will never get. It is OK to move on, you must! That is easer said than done. I still cry; not as mutch thank god. Good luck, I am with you!
  14. ephemeralDreams
    Thanks Kermit. I know a happly married person would never do that.
  15. ephemeralDreams
    She told me she wanted a divorce the day before out 7th Anneversity 13 months ago. I knew she had found some one and knew who it was. I told her she had to make a choice. That took her two hellish months.
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