doomed_one

said what i wanted to say, feel better, can be deleted now

Thanks, I know one of my 4th year Engineering friends said... do whatever it takes to get through As for grades, the department seems rather uniterested and told us (yes there was more than one) to sort it out with the professor.... oh they got some very poor professor evaluations from our class... so perhaps karma will take place Thanks for the response, curse the professional programs and their self-esteem destorying ways! `d1

Hey there I'm a 3rd year Engineering student... and university is driving me mad. It was all semidecent up to now.... and well starting with this year it is like I hit a brick wall. The pattern goes like this: a)I study my but off in course xxx (physics, engineering, cs etc) b) I tutor people in my classes to help them understand it as well as I do c) I get massively psyched up the day before the exam, take it easy, light review. Feel very confident d) Exam comes, open the pamphlet, jaw drops... e) Unpleasent result At first I thought I was dumb, and felt useless, I mean you study all this much inly to just sqeeze by the failing line.... but I see many good students struggling in my classes too (and of course the class geniuses are easing through it but they suck and I've come to the relaization that my professors are just pathetic. I mean one prof will teach us stuff... only for us to realize... hey that circuit/diagram... that cant be right.... or hey that graph... thats not even remotely close... My Environmental Studies(its astupid engineering degree requirement) professor... grades pretty much without any rubric or consticeny. I busted my butt off on 2 papers, only to get measly 75%... while the guys who had their paper graded by the TA with more mistakes pull off 80+ ... and when I ask the prof to explain what is wrong... well she dabbles around and really gives me no good reason why a paper with only suggestions and no glaring errors loses 15%. What is with these profs? I really wanted to win a research award (you need a high GPA for it)... but they are killing me this semester..... anyone else feel simlair frustrations? I have reworked my study schedule over and over, I have tried tight very rigid schedules, I have tried loose and relaxed, I do problems beyond what is assigned, I make sure to pay attention in class, take notes... and still.... ](*,) My physics course this semester.. I am busting my BUTT LIKE CRAZY.... and I dont think Ill get more than a 60-70 O_O...... any words of inspiration? Its just so depressing... I try to think positive... but when the world keeps beating you down... after a while its hard to be like "Yaa!!! study hard!" becuase you know the result will be "fail" no matter what you do.... `d1

While I am having a lil trouble believing the whoel ordeal, I will give you the benefit of the doubt Rough times dude. But look at this: -First you thought your gf was pregnant - Crashed yOur car - Dad is ill - Thought you got off the hook, but gf turns out to be pregnant - Bried Suicidal Phase - Issue with gf and parents And now a misscarriage. You went through a lot, but you have made it through! I'm sure it hurts,but you will get through it, as you did all the other ordeals, you have showed you can d1

Thank you so much Normally I do have ppl in class that I study with... actually in my other two courses I had a bunch... this class is weird, and we have many very old ppl who just stick with each other Thanks for your comment though, I feel much better... and yes I have a scholarship riding on this too As long as I pass this test, I'll give the class hell! ~d1

Well I haven't posted here in a bit.. been lurking.. but I guess I'll post now ^_^ So last week was a hectic one, but I was eagerly awaiting thsi weekend as it would be a four day weekend... and all I had is just a chem midterm on wedensday(I hate chem.. but I do well in it so yaaay All I had to do is get through my probability final and machine logic midterm(im in the dreaded summer school us engineers are ecouraged... i.e forced to do). Soo.. the probability went decently it was tough... but getting out of that exam felt so good.. it was the toughest course Ive had to do.. and the fact that it was a condensed 6 week course made it tougher... now all I had was machine logic midterm.. which I felt would be a breeze. (Im takign three courses, probability which is 6 weeks, and chem and machine logic which are full summer). I have been reviewing for the course since day one... not everyday, but well enoguh to say I was on top of the course. We havent had a single assignment in 6 weeks.. which made me nervous... but unlike other courses Ive taken, I really felt I knew the stuff. The day of the test, I reviewed a little, and then chilled 2 hrs before the test going over my notes now and then. I had managed to get a copy of some old midterms (not the same prof... but pratcice is practice), and was super psyched after I didnt find them too difficult. All that was on my mind now was the glorious four day weekend... especially since this is the first weekend in 6 weeks I havent had to spend the entire thing busting my butt off for classes So I got into the test, and well bombed it... I tried my absolute best in the test... but as the time went by the more and more I started feelign hopeless. I'm a good student, and my gpa is one of the top in engineering... but I was completely floored. I tried the strategy of doing the easy ones first, leaving the hard ones last... but really, I felt like I just got hit by a train. The questions were unreal, except for the two "easy ones", the rest were MUCH more complicated then what I had expected at all... honestly after I handed in that test I just felt soooooooo depressed, it was like all my work in those 6 weeks for that coruses was for nothing.... The worst part came after the exam. I figured if I was floored, a good portion of the class should go down with me... which *might* mean a curve! Yes... apaprently a good portion of the class got a copy of this professors old midterm... and what do u know he happened to copy most of the questions word for word from there.... so they were all chittering away how easily it went.... and hwo much it had helped... at that point I just felt HORRIBLE.. I really really feel like I failed the test... I mean everyone tells me not too worry.. but the thing is... I cant help it ](*,) I have a lot riding on this course. For one, if I do fail it, the next test is the final... And in between we have 1 or 2 assigments, so its not like I can do better "next time".... if I do fail I coudl drop the coruse... but the kicker is Im on student loans.. and dropping will put me as a part time student... and I may have to repay my summer loan... in 6 months....and of course I will haev to take it in teh fall... which will make my schedule endlessly harder(it is already bad enough lol) as the class is only available in the evenings This test has been riding my mind all weekend long... and I feel like such a massive failure... I dont even have the results back... but I knwo this professors.. Ive had him before. He is a nice guy, but when it comes to class, it feels like he is there to make sure the class fails... so very unhelpful and cold at times..... If the worst thing happens and I get my F (his questions usually end off being ones where very little partial credit is awarded)... droppingwill save my GPA... but I will be in a sticky situation with the hounds at the loans office... and I will have wasted almost 2 months of my summer.... ugh.... I try to just ignore it and thinki positive, but it jsut keeps coming back one me.. I even tossed the text book out of my room... its somewhere in the living room now... I think Well anyways thanks for listening to me. I just needed to type it out as is driving me nuts, and not letting me sleep ~d1

I have a question. I go to a "commuter" university, and a very good portion of our student population commutes to school via busses and subway. Sometimes I will be sitting on the bus(or standing due to massive overcrowding lol), and there will a cute girl here or there taking the express line to our university. I never have been able to muster the courage to approach a girl just like that. If it is in class, or at a club/bar I find it massively easier as I have something to talk about... but just out of the blue liek that on the bus, no idea What would I say? lol Any tips? I really would like to try this out one day d1

Dear God... I swore I was the only one who felt this way and something was wrong with me O_O..... wish I had some advice or wise words... but all I can say is your not alone.... actually you've made me feel better lol Ever since I've come to this University I've been feeling the same way Just be thankful u have friends... even if u dont connect with them too well... I swear sometimes just having someone to talk to when somehting goes wrong is a blessing On the flip side......you aren't ugly at all, quite cute I do say ~d1

Hi, I have an issue... and I really need help coming up with an excuse. So a guy I know is having his bday today, and well I got invited. He lives on campus and has asked me on a few occasions to come to his dorm parties... well I don't live on campus... campus is an hr away... so I haven't been able to make it He doesnt understand at all why his campus friends(not just me) have trouble making it... hahaha typical on-campusers, they have it too easy Anyways, I was like cool!! I'll come, especially since apparently it will be downtown. I went to tell my parents about me going out tonite... and when they heard the words night club... they actually said no o.O Now I'm 19... and they seemingly have a thing against night clubs.. I tried to reason with them(correction, my mom, my dad was all up for it)... but no can do... they are just strict and well.... since I have finals during the next 2 weeks, they think I should be focusing more on studying for them(which I have been)...... it is frustrating the heck out of me... they do sorta have a point though I don't know how to get out of this now... I really don't want to be a no show... and this guy isnt that understanding... I just can't say "oh my parents..." it would be way to embarrassing... and "studying" or "something came up" won't fly either... on the other hand the only option of going is storming out of the hosue!!! Yeah.... that wouldnt be too good either... Please I really need help.. I need some sort of excuse... does anyone have any ideas? ~d1

Good advice... I will weigh this. I DEFINITELY dont want to string her around... this happen to me before and it hurt so badly. I don't want to ever do that to someone... I will observe her actions for a lil... for now it is just a friendship, I am always careful not to give the person the wrong impression If she starts becoming more explicit, I will have no choice but to come right out and tell her.... hopefully the friendship wont go south.... *sigh* somedays u complain about not beign able to get women... otherdays u complain about keeping them off u Hahahaha Appreciate it everyone ~d1

I have a slight issue... or well at least it is beginning to look like an issue So last semester things didn't go well between this girl I liked at my university... and we sorta had a fall out. Now at the beginning of this semester, amazingly, me and one of her good friends(lets call her Jane)... became amazingly good friends... which I always found weird Now I noticed that she sorta almost had like a split personality In public(aka at school n such), we talk normally... when she gets online or we are alone... it changes a lot... she becomes much more open and such... and well up to now I just thought I was just a place to funnel any issues she had Up to today she seemed to slowly get a bit closer everyday... at first I thought we hit off decently as friends, which is cool. But when we got very alone(like no one around alone) or just online/email... the way she spoke to me rapidly changed... and then came today! I can't really repost the conversation for privacy sake... but this wasn't even flirtation or anything... it was pretty much a few words off from her blatently saying she liked me... at first I thought it was a joke.. but it seemed to proceed through the convo... I joked around a bit and tried to gently steer the conversation around... eventually I had to leave so ya... but it really opened me up to the possibility that this could be very well more than just in my head O_O" Now the issue... well heh... Im not really that interested in her in THAT way. I spoke to a friend, and as guys, his advice is to hit it if u know what I mean But yeah... I mean if I was interested in her... sure... but in this case it be like... shes a cool friend but I don't see anything past that. This is more than just flirtation...I mean flirting is one thing... I have lady friends who flirt around with me but I know they dont mean anything by it This is is different... the whole situation is different. I know it sounds stupid... I mean, Im basing all of this sorta on a gut instinct and some convo's... but the things she says, and how she says them... it just makes me think I'm right about this. If this is the case... what should I do? If two weeks down the road I see her arm in arm with some other guy I will know it was just me hahahaha and feel mighty embarrassed But I just want to hear an opinion outside of my friends w/o gfs whose advice is to "hit it" as long as its female ~d1

So I spent all day day(noon-6) tutoring(for free of course) ppl for our physics midterm tomorrow One lady-firend who I tutored emailed me saying pretty much that I was super awesome for helping her out, and that she gets it now. I came home feeling tired beyond tired... but the email really made me feel super awesome ^_^ Guess there are some thing u cant put a price on ~d1

and for the record... I think Ive never called him on an academic issue... and at most maybe a question or two online b4 an exam I usually try and avoid annoying ppl constantly so I annoy my profs instead Thats why they are there ~d1

Hi I just have a lil question I have a friend who Ive known since I moved here a year ago... and he's a good guy and all, smart as a tack(you dont get A+'s in ENgineering for sittign around...)... but has a habit thats getting to be annoying... He seems to be a nervous kinan guy.... who whenever he has a question calls. And thats great and all, except sometimes he will call... and call again... and call even 5 times in a hour... jsut to ask something bothering him about a COURSE/Test... now I at first didnt mind, if I can help thats great... and during midterms hed call a lot... he joked that I must be getting frustrated b/c of all his calling... but hey it was midterms and our subjects are confusing... now though every little test... an assignment... just over and over... and its getting annoying. I dont have all the answers... and I want to help... but it's like, do you really have to call so much? Midterms week was ok, I mean, I understand 3 tests... 24/7 studying, calls bound to happen. Now its like... an assignment is due... he leaves it to the last minute(im talking 5 hrs b4 due date), and calls... and Im thinking... gee why dont u work on it more ahead of time... I already finished and handed it in(as a side note, no I dont give him answers or netin... he just gets confused and since time is running short, goes for the quickest way to straighten out his probs). And the funny thing is, after tests/exams... he doesnt call Actually... Im beginning to worry that he is just using me because I work hard... I mean last semester I thought being in a group with him would rock! He's Mr.A+++, I work hard and get the tasks done(and gets B's and A's guess who did all the work in the end? I don't know, I really need friends now, Ive been having a hard time making them for some reason since I came here... but I just want to tell him "D00d seriously, must you call so much?" he insists on calling, not instant messaging or an email Any advice on how I can lightly nudge him, and go "hey... must you call me soooo much on academic issues..." ~d1

hahaha, just call me a super good friend for keeping my friend awake in class Plus its not liek I really pay attention, mainly play games on my laptop, and smack him upside the head when he starts nodding off I guess I'll go for the direct approach, whooooowee. Nervous I am Any further advice is still appareciated ~d1