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    They give Astrology readings as their job. Since it is their profession, they are professionals. Most of the ones I knew did readings on the side and had a "day job." However, two of them were able to do Astrology full time for their living, including the one I worked for when she had TV and radio call-in shows.
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    No only that, but the OP hasn't logged into the site since October 2006.
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    Before we get any further with this... Please note this thread was started nearly 2 years ago. The OP has not logged into the site under that user name since August 2006.
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    Please note that this thread is over a year old. If you would like to discuss a similar topic, you'd probably be better off and get more replies pertaining to your specific circumstances by starting a new thread.
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    Please note that this thread was started in July of 2006. The OP has not logged into this profile since then. If you would like to discuss a similar topic, you would be better off to start a new thread.
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    Programming note: The original post that started this thread is from 2005. If you'd like to discuss this topic further, you might be better off starting a fresh thread. Thank you.
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    If you're referring to the OP, it hasn't been 6 months, it's been 6 years:
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    I work with some people who still believe every e-mail that comes down the pike. link removed is sometimes a daily destination....
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    link removed says..... it's true. Details: link removed
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    That sentiment is nothing new. It's something that's been expressed by people since the beginning of time. Somehow, we go on. However, if everyone was resigned to the "fact" that it was all going to hell in a handbasket, neither you or I would be here today to argue the point. Dunno about you, but even with all that's wrong in the world currently, I'm still overjoyed to be here.
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    Amen, brother!
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    Could be that he's not accustomed to dealing in very blunt and direct ways in this particular area. That's not uncommon for people when it comes to the boy-girl stuff. There's sort of a taboo about being direct and blunt about attraction/interest and so forth. I think it takes time and experience to get to a place where you're comfortable and confident enough in yourself to be open, honest and direct when dealing with the opposite sex. In any event, if he's interested he knows how to find you. In order to avoid bashing your head against a brick wall, you may want to consider dropping it and setting your sight elsewhere.
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    Oh, and a clarification.... Since you will be going to the same school...if you happen to run into her during the normal course of going about your business, I wouldn't see anything wrong with saying "hi" briefly. Polite and civil? Yes. Trying to find out what's going on in her life now? No. Initiating contact via a phone call/text/email? Not unless you've been specifically told that would be welcome.
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    You say she broke up with you. When I've been the one who broke up with a guy, I really didn't care to hear from him...especially those sort of "just wanted to see how you were doing calls." They always came accross as "fishing expeditions" on the ex's part. It was tempting to reply with a really snotty answer like, "Gosh, I just went through a break-up...how do you think I'm doing..duh!" But my good sense took over and they got something markedly more civil. Bottom line still was that I didn't want to hear from him. But that's just me.... I also agree with darkpumpkin...this is NOT the sentiment of someone who is just a friend: Trust me on this...people don't forget an ex....much as I'd like to with some of mine....
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    Towel(s) underneath, shower afterwards (which can also be entertaining) As for orgasm helping with cramps...absolutely, yes...and more fun than taking ibuprofen.
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    Hold up on the "women have a bio clock" assumption....I've NEVER experienced that. Y'know, I don't understand why people would wanna work as doctors, lawyers, police officers, military members or firefighters, either....but I sure am glad there are people who find joy and satisfaction in those lines of work. I feel the same way about folks who want to be parents...happy for 'em, don't understand 'em, wouldn't wanna be 'em. About the age of 15, I started to think I didn't want to be a parent. By the time I was in my mid-20's that opinion had solidified. In my late-20's, I learned I was infertile and couldn't have children anyway. I went out and celebrated. Just because people like you and I cannot fathom the rewards, pleasures and joys of parenthood/children, doesn't mean they are not there. There very obviously ARE some strong positives to it, or everyone would avoid it. Ultimately, I'd much rather see people who want to have kids have them rather than people who "accidentally" turn up pregnant, or people like me who already KNOW they're not mommy/daddy material.
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    My Wedding: Went to the county courthouse, got the license ($40), went down the hall where they have ministers to peform the ceremony (in some states, there's a judge who will do this), did the ceremony (10 minutes...it would've been less, but the minister's cell phone started ringing in the middle of it and he said he had to take the call), tipped the minister, and got back to the car in less than an hour. You can have a wedding with no church, no reception, no flowers, no caterer, no photographer/videographer, no BS whatsoever. Total cost: $40 for license $10-20 tip for person who officiates (minister or judge) $100 for both our rings $2 courthouse parking End result: Just as married as people who spend tens of thousands of dollars and with a lot less stress, runaround and general BS.
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    Whenever I see single gals asking about guys who say things like "I'm not looking for anything right now" or who tell you how hurt/damaged they are because of a previous relationship, my gut feeling is to tell you to walk away and don't look back. Let him sort out his baggage on his own time, NOT yours. Trying to figure out what he "really" means or what he "really" wants is too often an exercise in futility. Better you should spend your time pondering what YOU'RE looking for so have a clear idea of what you want (casual dating? exclusive bf/gf? something leading toward marriage?). This can help you evaluate potential suitors to see if they have compatible relationship goals to your own. If you get involved with someone who doesn't want to go the same way you do, it's just a matter of time before you're gonna get your heart broken. If you get involved with someone who claims he "doesn't know" what he wants, you essentially hand your power over to him -- he gets to call the shots of where the relationship is going...and it may not be somewhere you want to go. Be wary of guys who say they "don't know" what they want or "aren't looking for anything." 'Cause chances are they won't have any qualms about taking up your time while they try to figure it out...time that you could be using to meet someone who knows what he wants and knows he wants to be with you. I'm not real sure when my attitude changed...probably sometime in my late 30's...but at that point, it seems I decided I deserved a better answer than "I don't know what I want" and I deserved to be treated better than "I'm not looking for anything right now." You do, too.
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    If it was me, I wouldn't initiate anymore contact with the person. If they contacted me, I'd be polite & friendly but a little distant. If they suggested getting together and I still felt like meeting them, I'd let them pick the day/time/place....and then I'd hold no expectations of them actually following through. If I didn't feel like meeting them (or I was legitimately busy at the time they picked), I'd politely but firmly decline the invitation and get on with my life. The bottom line is this: at this point, you should both be in "first impression" mode...that means on your best behavior, presenting the best possible version of yourself. If she's being this flaky now, what'll it be like when she's comfortable? Do you really want to find out?
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    If she's too busy/unorganized to even manage to get an hour to meet for a drink, she doesn't have enough time/time management skills to be in a relationship. Move on. There's plenty of other gals who have it more together. NEXT!
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    Well...part of your problem is having the expectation that life should be "fair" in the first place. It's not. We can play the hand we are dealt to the best of our ability, or we can focus on all the the things that are "wrong" or "bad" or, yes "unfair" and get hung up on what we think should've happened. The thing is, there's not a single one of us with enough knowledge and sight to be able to see the whole picture and how it all fits together. I got dumped by a guy in 92. I was devastated. In 95, ended up working with a gal who he met & married shortly after he dumped me. They seemed to have a good life and I was jealous and thought he was the great one who got away. In 97, she caught him cheating on her and divorced him. All of a sudden, I began thinking, "boy howdy, I dodged a bullet on that one"...it wasn't a tragic event anymore. 10 years later, I am still friends with her....and she still deals with the financial and emotional fallout that came from being married to him. As it turns out, it was a great stroke of good fortune that he wasn't all that interested in me....although you couldn't have convinced me of it at the time. So, don't be so sure that this break-up is the great awful tragic unfair event that you think it is. Time, additional information, and the gift of hindsight can change that in ways that you cannot even begin to imagine right now. It's been my observation that those who choose to play the hand they're dealt (no matter how excrementally horrid that hand may be at times), and focus on whats right and good about their lives generally have an easier time of it than those who adopt a more fatalistic and negative view.
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    To me that would mean they're looking to date several people and not be serious/ exclusive with any of them. Now, whether that means they're expecting/looking to have sex with any one or all of those folks is probably up for debate. Personally, if I was single, I probably wouldn't have sex with someone who said they were just looking for a "casual relationship." Wouldn't have a problem going out with them, but I doubt it'd progress past a certain level.
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    Yeah, well...when you engage in activities that tend to make non-kinky people think you're a little off, you learn you have to relate to the non-kinky world a little differently sometimes. Lest any well-meaning medicos try to cart your SO or play partner off on domestic violence charges. I've been into the BDSM scene for, oh, 9 or so years now. Docs/nurses who misinterpret what they see are a concern for us. Under the wrong circumstances, bruises can be signs of a bad situation where intervention is needed...however, in my crowd, bruises are just a sign that you had a hell of a good weekend. The phrase "It is the expected...." shows that you consented to the activity AND you were aware that you might end up with marks/minor injuries. Also being pro-active about whatever marks there are -- i.e. telling the doc BEFORE they can ask questions -- further shows that you are not a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence victims don't tend to point that sort of thing out and give a straight-up explanation for their injuries.
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    Everyone's got a slightly different interpretation of what you mean by "rough sex," but if that happens to involve activities that may leave scratches, bruises, bite marks and the like...one suggested phrase that I've heard used in the BDSM community when being questioned by a doc is: "It is the expected result of consentual sexual activity."
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    I second that. Before you make any decisions, I think you may want to have a few sessions with a counselor in addition to having some discussion with your husband. A counselor can help you sort our your sexuality/sexual orientation issues and can also help the whole family get through whatever transition(s) that may need to be made.
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