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What do you mean stares from other people? Naysayers and the like? What could possibly be so obtrusive about two people as a couple that it draws the stares and apparent criticism of others? Also, it sounds like the two of you have some built-up tension, things that should have been discussed and said that weren't because of the suddeness of the break off. I don't know if talking about it will help now... And I don't know if this is good advice, but I'd tell the other guy to back off. Hope this helped =)

I don't think I've ever gotten along with any of my Supervisors... But you've already taken the necessary steps, hope it turns out well =)

I can just imagine the wedding toast: "And a special thanks to -TheEx-, who accidently invited me to myspace, and which resulted in our meeting!" ...lol...

I'd tell him you don't want to be brought into it anymore. If he continues to draw you into it in even more complicated ways, forcing you into deeper levels of lying and stuff, then it might be a good time to let your mother know... Hope this helped =) Edit: Isn't it nice when everyone agrees... ^_^

NEVER TEXT Too many things can wrong, and worse, too many things can be claimed as having gone wrong...

That's a distressing story, it really is. In hindsight you should have stuck to your guns instead of compromising your values and beleifs. Equally, he should have respected your feelings on the issue, instead of forcing you into it. And don't delude yourself, he forced you into it, emotionally. It sounds like it's really upset you, I think you should see a school counciller or something, just someone to talk it through with. Once you've sorted out just exactly how you feel about it, you make your decisions about this guy in the future. Personally someone who doesn't respect your feelings or opinion really doesn't sound like someone you'd want to be with, but that's just my opinion. I hope this helped, and even though I'm a guy, I really feel for you being in this situation =)

I'll get in here before nottogreen posts his say =P - though I do recommend looking at it, it's incredibly helpful. Things always pick up in the long run. 5 pounds really isn't a big deal, my Imperial to Metric conversations are slapdash, but that's the equivilant of 2kg's? That's not even noticeable! =) If you can't get motivated to do your uni course, maybe you should see if that's what you really want to do? You don't sound depressed, more uninterested and apathetic. Things will improve, Do some deep soul searching and get a handle on what you really want. Hope this helped =)

Transcript time, thanks in advance to those that take the time! Alright, mate of mine (known him for 6 years) and another girl I've known for a while were talking tonight, we're discussing going clubbing in a few days, when he comes out with this(paraphrasing, but it's accurate): Me: "Not sure if I want to go, seems like everyones got someone to go with 'cept me..." Him: "You can hang with mat and i'll go * * *-hunting on my own, it's ultimately your own will" Me: "Nah, mat will be hanging with his girlfriend." Him: "well, who knows. get her drunk, get drunk yourself, and you'll be making out with her in no time. poor matty might lose his * * * * * this week son!" ---- I was really offended by this, the girl with us went deathly quiet at this point giving us both looks. I have a lot of respect for women, and there's NOTHING funny about infidelity. Thinking he was joking at this point - albiet in poor humour - I replied with something like: --- Me: "As it is, I've know you just long enough to let you get away with: 2 counts of thinking I'd abuse a girl that way 1 count of calling one of my friends a * * * * * 1 count of insinuating I betray a friend If you were anyone else, I'd be punching you by now, as it is it's just a $500 fine." Dead serious he responds: "hey, i'm just tryin to help you catch some * * * * for the night, god knows i'll be trying" The girl at this point made some disgusted noises and called him "Gross." Me: "See, she understands." Him: "...no i dont think she does" Me: "Pretty sure you're the one who doesn't" Him: "No one got upset when -mutual friend- did it!" Me: "You're making it sound so much more sinister than a few dances with a girl he met... I mean, man, you want some Roofies there?" Him: "you just took something horribly wrong..." Me: "Sorry man, you just crossed a line." Him: "1. You think rapin a girl in a club is bad 2. You then think getting to know her properly a decently is even worse?" Me: "1. Not just me, most sane people. 2. I don't recall you saying: "I'll help you sit down and have a conversation", I do recall you asking what was wrong with stealing someone girlfriend, roofies, daterape and offering to "get * * * *"" Me: "EVEN if you were joking, none of those are funny subjects" Him: "Like i said, you took something horribly wrong..." Me: "Tell you what, you apologize to --TheGirl-- for being so insensitive towards the female gender, and I retain what few tatters of respect I still have for you at the moment" Him: "i was joking, period." Me: "Rape, Infidelity and Abusing Women is never funny." Him: "ugh, talk about overly sensitive, jesus christ" And he leaves! I'm pretty sure I was in the right demanding he apologize to this poor girl - who's going white and almost gagging at some of the things he's saying - but I'm not so sure, everytime I replay it I think I went too far... =/ I'm going to talk to him tomorrow about an unrelated topic... should I let this slide, beat him up, or talk to him about this? He's never expressed views like that before, nothing even remotely like that... I'm not sure I could keep a civil tone with him... Option 2 is looking mighty attractive, but I'm not beyond reason. Basically I want to know two things: 1) Was I in the right calling him on his "jokes"? 2) Was it a bad idea to try and make him apologize? Any comments in general will be appreciated, thanks again eNotalone community! You're always here when I need help... ^_^

Dig up? I'm not sure what's up with you, or why you're doing this, but in relation to the conversation you're about to have... well... Honesty is the best policy? Lieing with just make the hole you're in a pit, and it'll be harder to get out of.

I can't think of any comforting words, but I'm sorry on your behalf. Is there anything you can do to get closer? Like vacationing there during the College holidays... or anything?

Not sad, more apathetic and unfulfilled... Not sure why... I think it's cause one of my closest friends is over 1500k's away and I haven't talked to her in days... Misery loves company =)

Unless the relationship between her and her boyfriend is already over, and neither has the guts to acknowledge it. A girl I know was with a guy, but the relationship was over unofficially before it ever was officially, she was flirting with a mate of mine, and since they hooked up after the breakup, she's been nothing but faithful... My advice is to sound it out, remain true to her and yourself - so no giving bad advice - and just ride it through without doing anything else, at least not until the breakup - which is coming - is made official.

I don't know, a lifetime of apathy to avoid feeling bad occasionally? Don't think it's worth it. And as they say, isn't it all about attitude?

Sleeping Pills in year 9, I took two before a friend interrupted me by rudely calling at that moment, by the time she'd hung up I suddenly felt too tired to kill myself... ...woke up the next morning thinking: "OMG WHAT DID I ALMOST DO?!?" weirdest experience in my life, never been that close since...

Those were her words, I really don't want to read into it... ;_;

That doesn't make you evil, human maybe, but not evil. It's normal to seek out the comfort of other after something like this happens. It'd probably be morally frowned-apon if you were to lead her on into what looks like a relationship without any intention of pursuing it, but there's nothing wrong with just hanging with old friends. Hope this helped =)

Don't read too much into it, I hang out with a mixed group all the time. Nothing wrong with that. Have a good time!

Thanks for the help guys, I memorized a few of those things nottogreen posted, grabbed a couple of mates and went to see her. Turns out we arrived just in time =)

I'll keep this brief, one of my friends had a lot of issues, and she used to tell me about them, at the same time she was paranoid that I wasn't trustworthy, and she was prone to massive moodswings. Fed up and deeply hurt, I terminated the friendship. Expcept her current MSN comment is: "If I had a gun, I'd use it", and the last email she sent me reads like a suicide note... What should I do? Rescind my original decision and go see her? Get other friends to look out for her? Any advice, quotes, anecdotes... hell, condemnation, will be appreciated.

This means that she trusts you? Guy-girl close friendships work out fine, they're some of the better friendships you can have, there's something to be said about just hanging with a girl. Until the almost inevitable day one of you wants something more than a friendship... then things go south, quickly...

Wow, you just described the situation of one of my friends almost exactly... you wouldn't happen to live in Mandurah, Australia would you? ^_^ She told him how she felt honestly, that she was flattered but ultimately uninterested in anything beyond a friendship, and things seem okay between them now. Hope this helped =)

Since all the good advice has been given, I'll leave you with this: What have you got to lose? =P

Although I've never had to tell my boss that I'm pregnant (good god, that would be awkward), I don't see how it could be a big deal. Union Law allows you to have maternity leave, you'll probably just have to sit down with him and discuss the arrangements of it, what time you'll have off, who'll cover your shifts, stuff like that. Hope this helped =)

Hey, welcome to eNotalone =) They probably remember you, and are probably aware of you, but really they're your Ex, and she's apparently trying to move on, which is what you should be doing. How did the relationship go down? Who broke up with who and why? P.S: You don't need to capitalise every letter, it makes it rather hard to read... =)

I think I'd consider it cheating, and while I'd be angrier and more upset if it was with a guy, in the end it doesn't really matter, it's just a different path to the same result.