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Hey First time i've ever used "poetry" (Okay, so they're lyrics, but that works better for me) to try and get over something. It's surprisingly therapeutic, I almost feel like I could sleep now... ...almost... I'd post about the issue, but I already know what I have to do - which doesn't make dealing with it any easier. Be gentle but honest if you reply at all (I'll consider every view a mental reply anyway) and I present: One Sided Friendship (scroll down for key) With everything... you were tellin' me While everyone else... was ignorin' you It sounded like you were cryin for help, Like you needed someone to let you know... That they were there for you ready and waiting to help~ -chorus- [i guess that's...] The funny thing with the one-sided friendship Is that despite how much effort I put into it There was never the chance for it to be returned I know you don't have to... tell me everything But you were always there... when I needed you and I know that there are things better unsaid And that there are things better unknown... But I just wanted to listen so you'd never feel alone~ [Yeah that's the...] The funny thing with the one-sided friendship Is that despite how much effort I put into it There was never the chance for it to be returned And now I feel... like I'm betrayed Like you don't care... if I try and remain I defended you... when you weren't there When the others started... to rebuke They told me you were... beyond repair But I thought I knew the truth... the real you But now I'm starting to see why they don't care~ [Too bad that's...] The funny thing with the one-sided friendship Is that despite how much effort I put into it There was never the chance for it to be returned And now I'm getting sick of trying Sick of being... the sympathetic ear Maybe next time I wont defend you Defend you from... your own fears Because you aren't the girl I knew The girl I knew... she hadan idea An idea of what it meant to have a friend A friend who 'memba's... all the years [And understands that's...] The funny thing with the one-sided friendship Is that despite how much effort I put into it There was never the chance for it to be returned I cared once, now I don't know I need to think, you need to grow~ [up] Things will look better in the sun But until then I'll keep thinkun~ [Thinking That's the...] The funny thing with the one-sided friendship Is that despite how much effort I put into it There was never the chance for it to be returned The funny thing with the one-sided friendship Is that despite how much effort I put into it There was never the chance for it to be returned -Key- [ ] - Spoken out of tune ... - slight pause followed by quickly said ending of verse ~ - elongation of the word - - bleding of the words It helps if you can keep a tune in your head... =P

I believe the true answer can be found by combining both gavindark and shes2smart's theories together, though if I might add a twist of my own: The 'friend zone' is flexible, also in the way that a guy who makes a positive step or change in his life can be moved out of it. That's just based on personal experience though... maybe we could be like Asimov and write defining laws on this..? =P

Obligiatory 3rd reply... I thought that was cool =P, The sarcastic tone in it is a mood I'm drifting towards tonight...

beautiful poem, inspires a lot of familiar images =) well written.

Fishoil Tablets twice a day, they fixed a lot of the problems I was having, including weight loss, gaul imbalances and back aches.

There is also a certain allure simply to breaking the taboo...

It's always sad to lose a family member, but at least he went peacefully and is no longer in pain. You have my condolences.

Welcome to eNotalone =) That sounds like a very tough situation, If your sister is acting then very little can be done to prove yourself innocent. Have you thought of using a notetaker to record a few of the outbursts, then next time she runs to your mother with a story you can use the hard evidence to prove yourself in the right. My first instinct would be to look for accommodation with close family - aunts, uncles, grandparents - for a few weeks, if not for your you then for your little sister. The downdraw with that is that if your depressed sister is acting and she drops it when you leave it will make it look like your fault. Have you tried having a long talk with your mother about the true facts of the matter when depressed sister isn't around? Hang in there, and keep being there for your little sister. Hope this helped at least a little... =)

Be confident, don't try to explain yourself, if asked emphasize your strong points rather than your weaknesses, and tell them how much you're looking forward to attending their school. Good Luck =)

From what you're saying that isn't manipulation, you simply let yourself get told what to do out of a fear of rejection, it sounds more like peer pressure than anything. By putting yourself first sometimes - are you doing that because you want to stop following other people blindly, or because someone else told you to do it? You need to stand up and fight for your opinion, instead of just giving in. People might not agree, and they might seem grumpy at first, but in the long run they will respect you more for holding your ground. Hope this helped... =)

I think what Anna1216 means is that you get a close friend or two that you can trust to keep an eye on this guy for you when he and your girlfriend are alone in class together, get their perspective on how things are between them and how he acts when they're alone.

You were right the first time around - that's not funny, even in jest. Have you told your girlfriend - in depth - about the concerns to her safety? That's what I'd do if I was worried someone I cared about was in danger from a person I knew.

Then you probably dont cry much, people are different like that. Some people cry at the drop of a hat (or over spilt milk(lol!)), others don't. It's normal.

Or it's all being buried underneath layers of denial and you'll explode with emotion at some random place and time in the future... Is it just that you don't cry, or that you don't feel at all sad?

Maybe you're overreacting just a little =) Why not call him tomorrow? See if you can get together for lunch or something, it could be as simple as a carrier disruption or phone error.

It's possible that his work has really picked up and the manager is trusting him above the others, and he's exhausted.

It's right to want to travel and attend your grandfathers funeral. You obviously feel bad about what you said to your father, when you get back just explain to him that the emotion of the passing of your grandfather was upsetting you and making you say things you didn't necessarily mean. I'm sure he'll understand.

While sole survival to reproduce might have been the driving force behind humanity in the past - and is still an intergal part of our instinctual behavior now - I'd like to think we've moved beyond that. And your theory is still flawed, people worse off than the people you refer to are married and have kids, and people better off the the people you refer to are alone and depressed. Surely you've met a "jock" with depression, or one of the "popular girls" suffering an identity crisis.

Sorry, but I categorically disagree with every point you made in the first post. No one is born a loser, no one is fated to kill themselves, and no one is powerless to change. Though I do agree with the second post.

Don't come to Perth, boring as hell. Go to Queensland, at least then you can take long weekends to the bigger cities. Most casuals employed at the mines either operate light machinery, or drive trucks. You're trained on the spot, the only problem is they've stopped supplying fly-outs, so your off-week (you spend two weeks working 12 hour days, one week time to yourself) would have to spent in the nearby towns - all of which are very small out there, A single pub and the shanty town that springs up around it would define it pretty good =P I'd forgotten about Fruit Picking, I know the farmers in Central NSW are constantly looking for - and paying well for - short time farm hands.

Welcome to eNotalone, It's been said throughout the forums that breaking your posts up into paragraphs consisting of 4 or 5 lines, you'll get more helpful replies - and just more replies in general. =)

High School's a battlefield, it's still fresh in my mind... there are times I feel like I'm getting Vietnam style flashbacks to those days... In the beginning Cat went out of her way to damage your friendships, but now you're giving up before she's doing anything, and she doesn't even need to exert influence to get rid of you. Your friends at the moment, they obviously like you, don't get down on yourself thinking you're a worse friend than she is. Don't let yourself get dislodged so easily. Fight back, not in the cheesy Disney way, but by being there for your friends, and refusing to give up when Cat moves in. Hope this helps... =)

Hey, I feel the same... maybe it's something in the water? What's up with you?

Melbourne and Sydney aren't the best places to go for a working holiday, they're crowded and not so different from the places you're probably trying to get away from =P What job you looking at? The Mines in the Northern Territory require little to no training, and you get paid so much that you could work for four months, and spend the eight partying.

The future is fluid, pretty sure it can't be predicted. It's more likely you're causing the reactions yourself rather than predicting them. In some ways, counselling will give you a brain massage. It's certainly worth looking into.