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Glad to hear it went well, sam!

You got a lot of replies there

I've been good friends with a girl for a long time, I don't have any feelings for her, and I'm sure she doesn't have any for me - she's going out with another friend - but she's the only person I've known for a long time that I've never really fought with. Your fiance's theory is flawed, no matter what you say about someone, statistically it must have happened somewhere.

And if the police don't scare you, Karma is veangeful... very veangeful. This could have reprecussions throughout the rest of your life, lingering guilt and uncertanties, not to mention the apparent and total lack of self-esteem - you beat a girl in her house because you were told to? You can say No, and true friends will respect you for it, maybe not immediately, but over time. In the interim, you need to tell someone. I like the idea of talking to the girl you attacked and explaining what happened to her, and making it clear how sorry you feel for the attack.

Talk plain. If you can really talk about anything with her, then it should just be something like: "So... sex..." Alternatively, open with the kissing thing, and build to it.

The second poem is very deep, I really like it. Do you mind if I copy a few lines into my sig on another forum?

In the end, we as humans are just the sum of our experiences and memories, in that way our past defines who and what we are today. I wouldn't hold past actions against someone, but in the same note I wouldn't be able to entirely let it go. Crossing the line once makes it easier to go again, and every following journey accross the line makes it less out of the ordinary and more habitual. Ultimately, you should look at someone how they've treated you specifically, and less how they've treated others. Leapords can't change their spots, but luckily we're bonefied humans, capable of realising when we've made a mistake and able to learn from it.

If you just won a bet I want 25%.

That's a predicament, but at least you've realised that this guy isn't right for you and that you need to end things with him totally - a lot of people don't for the longest time. The bottom line, though, is that no matter what he says or does, you don't need to judge your own worth through him. 'sif watch TV instead of seeing you... HealingHandsWarmHearts might be onto something there, with an email you can get it all off your chest and BLOCK his replies, no matter what they are. I know I would never have the will-power not to read a reply, or to check for one, but there are stronger people than I... =P

If you have the composure and the determination, then do it in person, he can't really run away without giving you a victory, can he? ^_^ In the long run, you'll feel better for and about yourself for making the resolve and sticking to it. Tell him you don't want to speak to him or see him anymore, if it helps don't let him get a word in, and remember that nothing he says gives him control over you, you are your own person. I hope this helped and Good Luck! =) edit: Just wondering, how many serious relationships have you been in prior, and how old are you?

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If you don't cleanly and definitely break things off with him, there will always be lingering doubts and feelings - I like Closure's suggestion.

Amazingly, there are several, especially on this site. Diggity's comes to mind, hang in there! =)

Give my mates girlfriend a chance and she'll go on about cheesy pickup lines for hours, off the top of my head: was your father a theif? Because he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes Is it hot in here, or is it just you? Are you a chicken farmer? Because you're raising my c.ock - don't know about the swear filter on that one... My Love for you is like diarrhoea ... I can't hold it in. Do you have a library card, 'cause I'd like to sign you out. Is there a mirror in your pants? Because I can see myself in them. If you and I were Squirrels, I'd store my nuts in your hole. Man - Fat Penguin ! Woman - WHAT? Man - I just wanted to say something that would break the ice. I can't find my puppy, can you help me find him? I think he went into this cheap motel room. Your eyes are as blue as windex. If you're going to regret this in the morning, we can sleep until the afternoon.

Yeah, Earth is a pretty weird planet, glad I'm not from here. Just give her some space to work things out like Valenski said, but make sure you're available if she wants/needs to talk. Hope this helped =)

Might I suggest a mild analgesic cream for your discomfort? (That's a line from a movie... Nerd points to anyone who recognises it =P) Though for quick, temporary releif to certain areas that seem to worse than others (back when sleeping, legs, arms ect...) you might want to get ahold of some Benadryl or Gold Bond (from chemists) Gold Bond is the better one, it's specifically designed to combat "p.rickly heat", if that's what it is.

"The only stupid question is one unasked"

You come to grips with what they've done, you can't forgive them until you have.

You're the only one who can help yourself, no one else is gonna do it for you. Just keep on being yourself - your real self, not the self you imagine is popular - and hang in there. Make yourself more readily available to people, go to places and meet new people, join clubs ect... You'd be amazed how often who we're trying to be and who our body language is telling other people we are conflict, and it's naturally off-putting.

Force yourself, that's how I got through all my oral assignments in school, getting the first word out is the hardest, but once you do the rest kind of follow. Or don't ask for it directly, ask like this: "Hey, I enjoyed talking to you, do you want to go and --do something-- sometime?" And logically, the exchanging of numbers should follow.

Friend of mine once said: "There are two types of people in the world, those who do nothing and get everything, and those who do everything and get nothing." I disagree, It's not the person, it's your outlook on life.

Tarot Reading anyone?

To play devils advocate I'm going to say go out letting him know full well what your intentions are for the future of the 'friendship', but don't be super-flirty or all over him or anything like that. Be yourself, have a good time, make no secret of why you're there and see where fate leads you. Good Luck =)

Statistically, it must have happened to someone somewhere. A forum where people come to get over their break-ups with their ex's might not be the best place to be looking for a happy ending. I'll let someone older answer the second part of that post, although I'm pretty sure the answer is yes.

Just because he could do it, doesn't mean he will do it. You need to have more confidence in yourself and more faith in your boyfriend - I mean, he didn't just stay with you the last 11 months for expletives and giggles now did he? Obviously he likes you a lot.