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If ur not, what's the biggest gap you'd tolerate? Five years is probably where I'd draw the line, and even that is circumstancial. What freaks you out about it? I'm not entirely sure, I have nothing but praise and respect for those who make the connection accross generations and bridge the gap. But I don't think I could do it. Probably the "When I'm X age she'll be Y!!!"

Just bad luck, the only thing that means is that you're getting the wrong guys... Don't feel bad.

It certainly sounds like it, still taking her to the amusement park?

How old are the two of you? Have you tried just try being one of the casual dates for a while? Nothing over the top or cliche movie, but simple little fun dates while she dates other people.

Oh crap... I forgot about fathers day! >. I'm gonna have to get up super early and go get something... Good poem, by the way, Kita =)

...you two know each other? You've already tried to reason with her, maybe it's time to have a little break from each other for a few weeks. I'm not saying ignore her, but I am saying cut back and let her get over it while you do the same. If the friendship is as strong as you think, it will reform in a few weeks. But just remember that sometimes friends we've known for a long time just suddenly change, and the people they change into aren't people we might want to associate with.

Pretty sure that when you know, you'll know. But I'm a 'fate' guy, so my opinion here is basically worthless... =P

Wow, that was great. Like a rhyming short story, I'm impressed. Great Poem =)

Hey, I felt this way my graduating year as well. You've just got to hang in there and count off the days. Next year will be great, and you've just got to ride out the current one. Have you looked into a weekend hobby you're interested in to keep you entertained? Exercise club or something? Sheep herding, maybe? (Sorry... Aussie/Kiwi humour blagh...)

That's your answer to everything, KTS... =P People will think things - some might even say things - but all you can do is deal with it. After all, what they're saying because they're too narrow minded to accept the relationship doesn't really matter, does it? I forget, what's the age of majority in America?

Tai Chi and Yoga? A morning routine with one of these two can leave you feeling good the rest of the day, you made the conscious effort to get up and do it, and it's good for you.

Is this a religious difference?

I'm beginning to get the feeling, DN. It's unfortunate, I've known her for years, but somewhere along the line things changed... And yeah, Confuddled... the third paragraph was probably just vindictive, given a do-over I'd have probably not included that, tried to stay mature...

If he's a player or a 'bad person', pretty sure this will just amuse him... But at least you'll know, so send it. You never know, he might be sincere and have a legitimate reason...

On the bright side Karma now owes you something equivliant to winning the lottery... =)

Weird how bad things happen in Quadrillions, isn't it? I wonder why good things are always strung so few and far between... =/

Don't know what I'm looking for... advice, validation, abuse or a pat on the back - I'll take any of the above. I have four people I consider close friends, and then a circle I consider mates. Recently three of the four in my close group decided the forth wasn't worth being around to due to some of the things she'd done. I wasn't personally greived, and I remained her friend. Seeing as the other three were out of her life now, I tried to be there for her, so she'd have someone to talk to about things (seeing as no one else would be), this went on for about a week, and then she randomly went off at me a few nights ago, complaining that "she didn't need to tell me everything." I explained I was just concerned and wanted to help, the next morning there was an apology in my Inbox, so I figured things would return to normal. I learned tonight through a mutual contact (A 'mate' and someone she'd slept with, but who doesn't have significant feelings for her) that she thinks I'm being weird and obsessive, comparing me to a guy who had been after her earlier and was almost stalking her in his own way. The email I just sent was short and sweet: "There are two Key differences between Me and (A): (A) wanted to sleep with you, I just wanted to be there to make sure you had someone to talk to when your other friends were ignoring you. (A) would do anything to get back in your good books, I'm just sick of trying to be your friend and coming out feeling burnt, angry and used. I wont do anything immature like blocking you or ignoring you, but don't bother replying, in this state you'd learn more about what I think than you really want to know. -Me" I probably wont read any reply she gives me, and at the moment I could care less about any prospects for the continuation of the friendship in the future, though in the morning I probably will - I get over things very quickly, I can't seem to stay angry for longer than 24 hours. Thanks for reading, double thanks if you reply - I know I hardly ever reply to these rant style posts. I'll probably just update with whatever happens next... I'd blog if I wasn't so lazy. =P

Casual: "I had a great time tonight" Dumping: "OMG LUV U!" =P Check out a couple of the threads on the dating boards that have to do with friendships as well, they contain a lot of good information. And hey, I'll throw Diggitydogg a bone and link this:

Sounds to me like you were used, maybe not consciously, but you were definitely used. You were his dumping ground when he was emotional, his ride, his attendant AND his personal DJ, and it seems like you got very little in return. He was probably like this before he got crushed, and you just happened to be there to watch him go from hurt and lost to confident and cocky. I'd find new, better friends... as harsh as that sounds. I hope this helped... =)

Wow, that's weird... I just read your other thread not two minutes ago and had thoughts on this exact topic... The good thing with close girl friends is that if you like them and they don't return your feelings (Not saying she wont!) they'll at least let you down easily and with enough dignity to continue the friendship. But if you don't have the courage to flat out ask her out somewhere as more than friends - and hey, I don't blame you, i'd rather be the target with an apple on his head on William Tell day - there are more subtle signs you can pick up on. Body Language: Does she touch you when laughing or anything like that? When you're talking does she touch her hair a lot? Lick her lips? There are countless threads and webpages on reading the body language. Communication: how often does she calls/talks to you and about what? Does she go out of her way to see you? ect... Feeling: Do you get the feeling she likes you, just on your gut instinct? Our bodies are a lot better at picking this up than our heads are. Honesty is the best policy, but it's also the hardest to enforce. Try looking for the signs for the next few days, and if you are going to tell her, make it very casual, build up to it! Don't dump everything on her at once... it makes things awkward... Hope this helped... =)

I think you should go to work and maintain a strictly formal business relationship. Don't engage him in casual chit-chat or politely rebuff him if he tries to talk to you, do what he says as soon as he says it, and ignore any jibes or jokes he might about the incident. I say this for two reasons, one is he's leaving the company soon and you're not, it's better for you in the long run. Two, you've already made it clear to the others in your workplace that you aren't ethically comfortable working with him, they'll respect you more for remaining professional and you get to be the bigger man. Hope this helped... =)

"Hooking Up" might have different cultural meanings here, but do you mean you're going out specifically looking for one night stands?

Hey I've moved a lot in my 18 years - no just between neighbourhoods or houses, but between cities and states - and making new friends, whilst not easy, isn't particually hard either. As cliche as it sounds, be yourself - just not a shy version of yourself =P. Strike up conversations, dont be afraid to jump into conversations, try and find the people in the class that might share some interests with you. Is this your first move to a new school? Don't pay attention to the movies, no one actually picks on the new kid - in fact you might find people reach out to you. And don't worry about your skin tone, brown is very attractive, and anyone who'd hold it against you is not worth your time. Good Luck! =)

Hurumph... =/ *closes bible* Modern Society - whilst being conservative in some of the stupidest places - is open and fairly accepting. There isn't an average, too many or not many will depend on how the person you're asking was raised... ...Somehow, I think 30 would be... unacceptable... for an Amish family, and yet Hugh Heffner types would look at that number and wonder where the extra 0 went? As for me? I just wonder what's keeping you from commiting to one...