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    why is he not the kind of guy to ask? are you? could you have asked him what he preferred? Or would you not have gotten an honest answer? Well...hmmm....how are you supposed to know where anything ever is if neither of you talk about that kind of stuff?? No offence meant, I'm just curious.
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    Exactly why one would feel a need to read it. But - another vote for asking. I agree.
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    ALS - Part of me feels its totally OK to use the technology to our advantage - we'd be fools not to, yeh? I mean, barring an extinction like catastrophe, it's not going any where. But if this is more about the question posed above ^ - I'm going to have to say, if that is a factor in the decision, I can only see it not working. As you already said, it would be / is much more involved than it appears. And i believe you're correct, its not about him, its about you. all the more reason to not (as SusserTod put it) sabotage your relationship - although I have a feeling with your particular bf, he'd be more than understanding......
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    hey Joisey - Sooooo hard to say what someone expected. I personally would have taken it as a hint that he was trying to get rid of me - getting his nightly things squared away, getting ready for the next day.....Sort of like yawning when guest are over to signal then you're ready to go to bed...AND that he didn't say anything when you said you were gonna get going, like, "why don't you sleep here?" or something. I guess in the moment, I personally would've asked - but I'm like that. Maybe I'm inappropriate.... All I would advise - so to speak - is that next time, just ask him.
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    awwwww....telling the kids. Soon - I'm really sorry. And I gotta say - this is the thought that keeps me here for now. I hope its enough to get me over the hump of the worst of this, but its hard. I too have kids. If you need to talk about anything when you've told them, are about to or anything at all - please feel free to PM me!! I really feel for you and your situation. I know you'll pull thru - but if you need someone to vent to, I'll surely listen!!
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    No she doesn't but whatever the truth is - she is not happy with you. i don't know enough to say if its because of you or its just the situation, but she is clearly done.
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    she's playing games and for some reason she forgot to tell you the rules or even the object of the game. Forfeit dude. Just let her know you're not playing anymore cos she's not playing fair. Then... go into hibernation for like, a WEEK. She'll be calling you back in no time and you can claim your trophy as winner of the game. But then you'll have to be done anyway cos as soon as she realises she has power again, she'll just do it again. Not worth it. Just get out now.
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    bubbles - there are a milion different things that could be on her mind. NONE of which I tihnk should concern you. I'm putting in a vote for you NOT going to meet up with her.
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    It means you need to see a Dr.
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    hmmmmm..... Yeh - I'm with Gfein here, I need more info. Why would you consider meeting her? Why would you consider not? Which sseems more appealing to you?
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    You're not mad. You just need a little help....like the GAZILLION other people who frequent this site daily....you're not mental. You'll be alright.
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    could be that VERY WELL Paco - but there's no magic time anyway. I mean, it's not like that's long enough, or this has been too long....etc. Every case is as individual as the people going through it. Give yourself a break, pat yourself on the back for making it this far, take a deep breath, and off ya go! Back at it, yeh? You're doin' alright....
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    Fix - I think someone said it best when they said Google it. Look it up on WebMD maybe. OH - there ya go, someone posted a link......well done Locke I think the first step is to check it out for yourself and see if any of the symptoms even apply to you. But Dako is right aw well. You may need to see a Dr. of some sort anyway. If its too dibilitating, at least call and see if there's any Dr who makes house calls. No hurt in checking, yeh?
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    Dude - please TRUST me on this one. Whilst I am happy with the MAN I married - I do love him dearly - I am NOT happy being married and there were signs before I took the oath that I sincerely wish I would have heeded. Seriously. I'm not an advocate for uprooting your life, ruining hers, or bolting at the alter, but if you know in your heart that this is NOT what you want and you know its a ticking time bomb, end it now rather than later. You're inviting trouble if you don't. It's a recipe for life long disaster Either way, you need to tell her. You two need to have this conversation. Tell her about ENA during your talk. She too could find support here.....I swear we won't bash you in our shouldering
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    Locke is right - or I agree anyway! Use it to build strength! STICK with NC!! You're doing great, just keep it up! Keep posting and HANG IN THERE!!
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    More hugs to you scared12! I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. You DO have friends here, so lean on them. You'll get thru it all....one step at a time....
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    Awwwwww........{{{{{HUGS!!!}}}}} Scout's tryin' to help to!! Come on and post - you're NOT alone. We're all here for you!! {{{{HUGS}}}}}
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    Hey someguy - I tihnk its totally normal to have all the questions and concerns you're having. Some people call it cold feet or the jitters but its perfectly normal. I think Iceman is on to something asking you those questions. I think you need to ask yourself those as well, along with some other very serious ones. If this is NOT what you want, now is the time to speak up before things go any further....
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    TRUE dat!!! but we are to some things......
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    why don't you ask HER?? oh and love the screen name! LOVE it!
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    Gogh - can I ask you?? - what would be your motivation? Is it out of concern? - really? or anger? well...first off, does his sister have any little kids in the house? Cos if there are kids there, I would tell immediately. The authorities tho - not his sister. But back to the original point I was going to make, if you're just mad and want to get back at him a little bit - whilst I understand, I don't recommend it. If it is legitimate concern for his sister (and possible kids) I guess.....it's a toss up for me. If there was a real danger, I think making an anonymous would be best, in MY opinion...
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    It IS a tough thing revelation - you just have to find other things to occupy your mind. Easier said than done, I know. I always use time....increments of time. Like, say I wake up at 9 - its the first thing on your mind I bet so I push it out telling myself I need to get to work (or school or whatever) and I just need to focus on that for the time being. Then when I get to work I'm usually distracted a bit but when it creeps back in, I just push it out and tell myself I just need to make until lunch time and I'll force my mind onto a task or a conversation. Then I tell myself I just need to make it until I get home. Then I'll watch a show. That'll occupy your mind. Read a book or mag. If you can get through most of a whole day, the next day will be a teeny tiny bit easier....then another day. Then try to make it through a WHOLE day. My point is, it just takes time. And you've got plenty of that....
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    Hey Mo - Welcome to ENA!! I hope if I can't say anything useful that you'll hang around - cos its likely someone will.... I think you are already ahead of the game in that you realise your issues and have decided a change is needed. Dedicating yourself to make the change and sticking with it may be another story entirely. If you two ARE drifting apart, remaining selfish and un-dedicated will surely make the wedge bigger.... You are most likely going to have to work really hard to make the changes you know you need to make and make them stick. I've had boy friends who've said they would change and then did, for a week. You have to work really hard. One thing I've found to be true in this life is if someone wants something bad enough (not condoning stalking or other criminal activity) they'll have it. Keep posting nad reading tho - you're bound to get better advice than this...
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    Hey Biddo - My advice is to hang in there. I know that sounds cheesy and not helpful - and you've prolly heard ""you're only 24" one too many times but for good reason. If you try too hard - it'll show. Just keep putting yourself in places where meeting someone is most likely and let nature take its course. Where I am there are ALL kinds of companies that help facilitate meeting for singles. We have bumper dating, out door group events, speed dating, there's a billion on-line as well, just keep putting yourself out there. Expect rejection a bunch - not because of you, but everyone should to some degree. Its all a part of the process. Give it time dude. But you GOTTA put yourself out there.
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    I don't think there's a clearer explanation than DN's.
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