Hello, my name is Maurice and I really could use help here.
I'm 25 years old and I have been with my girlfriend now for 10 months. This is my first ever long term relationship and and the past month we have been drifting apart. The problem lies with me. I will explain.
My girlfriend told me that I need to communicate more, in the sense that I need to express myself more, and be more open. Not only that.... I do things (just actions) without looking at the consequences of my actions. I have talked to my mother about this and she told me that I have been like that since I was born and that I "selfish" She said that she has tried to change that but she never succeeded. Now this is getting back at me with my girlfriend. I do actions and she is not happy about it. When she explains it to me then I see her point of view and I understand, but I still do stuff which reflects badly to her and I have no idea that I am doing it (in my mind everything is fine) until she explains the impact it had on her. As a result we have decided to take a small break so that I can decide (she came up with this idea to avoid a break up of some sort) whether or not I want to change myself and if so how.
Now I am totally lost, I mean I do want to change this negative aspect of mine for myself but also for her. I really don't want to lose her. I do however feel that we are drifting further away from each other and I am not feeling well about this. I fear the worst. I know I should keep a positive view and not have a negative view but I can't help myself in that. I just really feel that it will all go wrong.
Please help!!