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Not sure if this is the right place to be posting this but ... I found out a few days ago that my long term relationship was a complete lie. He was using crystal meth, picking up men on the internet and then having them come over (hosting as they call it) to his house while his roommates were at work. He's 35 and lives with his sister and her husband for free and he is having total strangers come over, have sex and use hard core drugs. Well, of course I dumped him and I am in shock but now I'm left with...do I tell someone? His sister could have her house taken away if there was a drug bust, these strangers could rob her blind, he needs to be found out about his crystal meth use etc. or do I just walk away quietly. Please help!

I am so confused. My boyfriend is giving me mixed messages like crazy. We've been together about 5 months. He persued me hard. We have a great times together. He tells me his best friend says I'm the best girlfriend he's ever seen him with. His whole family loves me. Went there for Thanksgiving. My bf told me a few weeks ago that he's "filled with crazy love for me"...asked me if I could see us being married and if I see him in my future. Stuff like that. BUT we used to see each every single day and now it's dwindled. I know for a fact he's not seeing anyone else. This past weekend, he said Saturday that he was sick. He sounded bad. He didn't want to get together. He just wanted to hide away in bed. Fine. He called me a few times that day and I wished him well and told him to feel better. He said that he felt bad that he "messed our weekend up" and that he's make it up to me on Sunday. Well, he calls Sunday morning and says that he's still sick and that he'd try and make me dinner that night. Night time comes...nope. Now he says that he'll pick me up from work on Monday (today) and he'd think of something fun to do. He calls me this morning...he was working outside (landscaper) and he says that he's not coming over tonight. He used to fall all over himself to see me and now it's like I have a disease. Every weekend something comes up at least one of the days. I dont know what to do. Is this normal? Any thoughts?

it might sounds like that would be the obvious answer but I'm quite positive that there is noone else. He recently just less than a week ago said the "L" word, he calls me ALL the time when were not together, he talks about marriage and the future. He acts infatuated when we do get together. It's just this thing as of late that makes zero sense. None.

I've been with my bf for about 4 months now. H e used to want to see me ALL the time. We used to spend the ENTIRE weekend together. And most of the week as well. Lately…for almost a month now…he has excuses. For example, we used to go have brunch every weekend when we woke up. This past Saturday, he didn't want to get breakfast. Wanted to immediately get on with his day and go to work. I knew he wasn't going to work and he knew it too. He just wanted to leave. He called me ten minutes after he left and said he decided not to work. Like that was a surprise to me…as if. So why didn't he want to spend the day with me if he had nothing to do? It was beautiful sunny Saturday afternoon and he didn't want to be with me. Sunday morning as soon as I opened my eyes (9 am) … it was imperative that he had to go to Walmart to pick up his contacts and then take me home. I didn't have to be home until 2:30 pm to meet my friend for a play but he wanted to get me out. I said nothing. But this stuff has been happening a lot lately. Makes me feel horrible. AND it happens a lot right after you know what. He springs up and wants me gone. So what's so ironic is that he keeps saying over and over again "you know that I'd rather be with you" than do such and such and "I want to be with you all the time"…so if that's the case, what's going on?? Is this normal to have this change? Any thoughts or advice?