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  1. Hello all, So, I am suffering from retroactive jealousy, and i feel like it's messing up my head really bad right now. To give you some background, I am 24 years old and have been dating this girl for about 9 months. She's two years older than me, 26. I had never experienced sex or romantic relationships, or dating of any kind before I met her. Our relationship has been very great, as in almost all RJ stories I have read.. And i really hope i could be happy with her. So, now to the RJ part. In short, the things my girlfriend has told me she has done when she was younger disgust me a
  2. We met a year and a half ago at work. We pretty much immediately started hanging out as we had the same circle of friends. We then started sleeping together. Neither Of us was wanting anything serious it was purely casual. We both had recently gotten out of long-term relationships. We have created a strong bond between us and I consider him a good friend. To the point where when we both needed a new place to live we decided that we would move in together to help each other. (Que the alarm) it was originally going to be three of us in the apartment. Him and I and one of his friends. That
  3. My ex broke up with me nearly 4 months ago. The history between us is complicated. He pursued me then went cold, we then were friends but got back together but he told me he wasnt sure he could ever love again after a painful divorce but he kept coming back to me so I thought something was there and worth trying for but shortly after he went travelling to Asia for 3 months and when he came back he was cold and distant. He stayed over but didnt want sex which I thought was odd as after 3 months he should be gagging for it. In the morning he said he couldn't give me what I want and broke it off
  4. Just a bit confused about a friendship with an ex...We were friends with benefits for a year ,we had a row this was August this year and he was so angry he blocked me, then 3 weeks ago he unblocked me and we had a few chats and cleared the air, he did say during our split since August he did meet someone but there was red flags so he ended it but they still talk...Anyway since last week hes been calling everyday about 3/4 times just like how it used to be, but hes clearly stated theres no going back and I agree, but I'm confused and not sure I believe hes suddenly ended things with this other
  5. I have a bit of a strange request. I am currently in an LDR with someone who used to engage in casual sex and FWB. He's completely loyal and devoted to me and obviously gave all of that up once we got into a relationship. Personally I have very little sexual experience because I always figured it is something to be shared with someone special. And while I'm sure that I must have met people in my life who have engaged in casual sex, I've never met anyone who's admitted to it so it is a very 'out there' idea for me. I've never understood how someone as sweet and caring as him could do somet
  6. I've had a weird last couple of months. So, it started when I developed strong feelings for my best friend of four years (I still haven't talked to her about it, but not because I don't want to, but rather, it's just been difficult seeing each other due to pandemic numbers getting bad, but I still want to talk to her about it next time I can). But, knowing that things with her are a huge long shot at best, I've been trying to turn my attention elsewhere and try to find a dating/ relationship scenario that can actually happen for me (for what it's worth, I'm early 30s, and have never dated
  7. So, this is the first time that I decided to talk about what I've been battling internally on and off for months now. Just to keep it short I'm in a relationship with someone who is almost my equal. We get along, and we have a lot of the same interests, he is loved by family, by my child. But I don't know if my feelings are as strong for him as they once were when we first met 3 years ago. From meeting him three years ago, we had went our separate ways in year 2, and dated other people. I met somebody who was the complete opposite of me during that time, and the relationship was so good, every
  8. Hey, So I’ve been talking to this guy I met on Instagram for just over a month now, and haven’t had the chance to meet due to covid. Nothing special about how we started talking, he followed me, I followed back and then he DM’d me and since then, things have been going great. We exchanged socials from there after talking for a week or so. We have loads in common and get on like a house of fire. We were texting and calling everyday, talking for hours etc etc. All that good stuff that comes when you’re first getting to know someone. He was very mature and communicative, so all around no pr
  9. First off, I will start by saying that everything I describe is the truth including my own faults during the "situationship" This may be a long read but I hope there is at least one person out there who has walked in my shoes to help me understand. I am a 45 woman who has been divorced for 5 years. I had a nice marriage, I was just not" in love" so we divorced and remained friends. What has transpired over the past 5 years of dating has been nightmare after nightmare. My self esteem was so low that I allowed a narcissist in to my life only to turn my world upside down. I still carry bitte
  10. Recently got back in contact with and old FWB. We haven’t spoken in a very long time. He says I ghosted him. Upon starting to hang out again, he mentioned that he is shocked at how successful I am and everything I have going on with myself and he really loves how confident I am etc and he regrets us not getting serious sooner. That night we kissed each other on the lips goodnight. A few days later, at about 12am he calls me super drunk and tells me how much he wants to be with me and just all of these beautiful things and how i’m the one, and then his friend gets on the phone and is like
  11. . I started dating a man in August , the first 2 dates were amazing , very romantic , third date we went to watch the sun set and then he took me to his house . There I was very transparent with him and shared every thing about my past relationships ( have been in 2 abusive marraiges ) also my last relationship was not a relationship that I was manipulated by a coworker ( saying he wanted a relationship which after that just became more kind of using for sex and he basically said we were just FWB ? I left that job and stared BTO and some inner work . Also I told him that I always had to lo
  12. I am still struggling after the man I absolutely loved and adored ended it with me. What I am so upset about is i had no idea he was about to do it and it was by text. There were always issues with him in that he told me in the beginning that he dont think he can ever love after he went through a bad divorce...his wife turned out to be a lesbian. However after 2 times of being with me and then ending it we got together on a fwb basis for a year and then I asked him if I could be his gf and he said yes. We were together for 4 years but just like that something in him has changed and he has ende
  13. I know this is mainly my fault but I'm just really not going well mentally and my drinking problem is really getting out of hand. Quarantine has been incredibly hard for me because in October of last year I ended my relationship with my fiance of two years. The wedding had already been booked and deposit paid for January this year. I had to end it because he became really addicted to drugs. I have a previous post about this, if anyone is interested. I'm 35 years old and my whole life I wanted to get married and have kids. When my engagement ended it really broke me because I actually though
  14. Long story short. I have been dating and living with my girlfriend who i really love for almost 8 months now. My only issue is that she is good friends with her ex "friends with benefits" friends. To top it all of, she seems to be getting along with them ( 3 in total) really well. she has more common interests with them then she has with me. It makes me question why she chose me instead of them, I guess it may be the fact that we have common values and that we want the same things in life. I keep feeling that she made a mistake and that she will soon realize and let me go. We have spoken about
  15. hi guys I've been chatting to a girl on and off for the past 4-5 months. We have a bit of history a few (5-6) years ago when we dated and slept together etc. I know she is sleeping with guys at the moment and I'm sleeping with girls, there is no emotional connection or anything like that and I have been quite distant lately knowing she is sleeping with other people. I saw her in person this week and could tell instantly tell there is still a physical attraction between us. I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to get back to the FWB stage and building that physical attraction.
  16. After my ex strung me along forever, he finally came clean and explained to me that he can't/won't do "normal" relationships. It was a punch to the gut to hear this, but I'm trying to understand where he's coming from because I know many people who feel the same way as him. I'd say I'm pretty open-minded. I don't do jealousy, and I could absolutely see myself being in an open or even polyamorous relationship. The key there for me is trust. When I know where I stand with someone, there is no reason to be jealous. There's enough love for everybody. Initially, after I realized that my ex w
  17. So a few months ago on my birthday, I got a tarot reading and they told me right before the fall, the one i will marry will reveal themselves to me and confess their true love and it was someone i already know from a past life. Story: I met JR 10 years ago. When we met, He was 24, I was 19 and I was head over heels in love with him. Our relationship turned into an FWB because he “wasn’t ready to be serious” and after 2 years on and off in 2013 we stopped seeing each other after I stood him 2X because I was busy with college and finishing my bachelors. So anyway, he called me randomly in
  18. I'm a guy who just graduated college. I have posted about this situation before, this post is not related to it however. But, I had a messy FWB situation this year that went on for almost 8 months. The girl and I don't talk anymore, but sometimes I still miss her. I haven't talked to her in a little over a month..and I don't want to reach out to her. She played a lot of mind games, and really, really messed with my head. I was told by some people who know her that she is toxic and manipulative. We have mutual friends, and even if I see her on another persons snap story, or some sort of soc
  19. Not sure I'm posting in the right section but wasn't entirely sure where to post. So I have a FWB.. Its only been a couple of months. I have some feelings for him but nothing too serious. He appears to feel the same for the most part. He has however said that FWB is all he wants right now so I have brought up the subject of the possibility of my dating other people since we are obviously not heading towards anything. He said he is OK with this, not that I asked permission, but anyway... Whenever the subject has come up again in various ways he has said things like I shouldn't be
  20. My ex and I were together for a couple of years. He pursued me , chased me but once he got me , he wasn’t all in. I would tell him he didn’t love me and he told me that wasn’t true. I wasn’t a priority and his actions were shady. I should have left . Sadly , his gaslighting was too much & then the roles reversed. I’m not proud , but I was out of my mind . I never experienced manipulation before. I held on for a long time looking to turn it around, but there was too much damage on both sides. My heart was in it and broken & he just had enough of the arguing and resentment. It took m
  21. My boyfriend and I have a very odd relationship these days, and I need some input ... We've been together for a little bit over a year, but we've been friends for around 5 years. He's older than me by a good stretch, however that's not the reason we're having problems. The thing is, we're both independent people and like solo time, and at the start of our relationship, we had a good balance down. We saw each other every other day or so, spent the weekends together, went on holidays together. We were invested in each other's lives. But for the past 2 months or so, things have changed. We bar
  22. Hi! I’m currently in a casual thing with a guy I’ve been friends with for months. We haven’t hooked up yet but I don’t think we’d label ourselves as FWB but maybe like I said dating slowly with no titles but there’s exclusivity. We’ve hung out twice romantically and we’ve only gone as far as cuddling and maybe touching (for like a few seconds lol). He’s more experienced than I am and he has preferences as to what he likes but he also claims he’s simple in what he likes. We are supposed to hang out today but I told him there may be a slight chance I can’t (which he knows) but
  23. Was this girl just using me for sex? So, me and A girl I went to college with were in a friends with benefits type relationship this year. We are both 22 and went to the same college. We both just graduated. She is the youngest of several siblings and also comes from a traditional Asian family. Her and I weren't looking for anything serious at first. We hung out at the beginning of the year, hooked up, and then laid in bed for 6 hours cuddling and just talking to eachother. We agreed to be FWB, but it never seemed that's what it was. She was making me send her music from my Spotify to l
  24. My ex boyfriend doesn’t want us to get back together (he was the one who broke up with me by the way) but at the same time he told me he still loves me and misses me and needs me so much, he also kissed me and he comes to places where he knows I’m at and he finds excuses to meet me and tries to kiss me all the time and he gets jealous if any guy talks or flirts with me, he says he wants to “protect me” and he asked me If I’m talking to a new guy or dating someone new, I explained to him that I don’t agree that he kisses me since we’re not together anymore but later he kissed me against my will
  25. Hi everyone! This is a pretty long story so I would appreciate it if you would bear with me. 10 months ago my boyfriend of 3 and a half years broke up with me. We've known each other for about 7 years and we went to college together. I always had a crush on him but he didn't know. Long story short, he asked me out toward the end of the last semester. We were both around 22 at the time. He was very serious about the relationship and he made it clear that he wanted to marry me. Little by little and reluctantly, he told me about his past and his childhood. He told me that his father had bee
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