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  1. On thursday last week I hooked up with a guy I have been flirting with for a while. I already knew he was not into a serious relationship and I was very aware of what I was doing. I have been single for over a year now, with no physical contact with anyone what so ever. I'm only 21 years old, and when I got the opportunity to sleep with him I just grabbet it, with full knowledge of what i got myself into. So when I got there, his and mine intentions was clear. We also talked about it abit before it happened. It was really nice, and I'm happy that I finally broke my over one year "break" from s
  2. Im soo confused, i dont know what to think or do. He was a friend of mine for 8 years although i didnt know him that well, hes been married 13 years and has 2 kids, im married also with kids. One night we were out and he kissed me, things moved fast, i knew his wife hit him and also cheated on him with her ex.. we talked alot, we fell in love, this carried on a year, but the year was hard even though he said he loves me i felt i always come last, obviously i understand he has a family but certain things and times my feelings didnt matter, we decided we would leave to be together, i saved
  3. Hello all, So, I am suffering from retroactive jealousy, and i feel like it's messing up my head really bad right now. To give you some background, I am 24 years old and have been dating this girl for about 9 months. She's two years older than me, 26. I had never experienced sex or romantic relationships, or dating of any kind before I met her. Our relationship has been very great, as in almost all RJ stories I have read.. And i really hope i could be happy with her. So, now to the RJ part. In short, the things my girlfriend has told me she has done when she was younger disgust me a
  4. We met a year and a half ago at work. We pretty much immediately started hanging out as we had the same circle of friends. We then started sleeping together. Neither Of us was wanting anything serious it was purely casual. We both had recently gotten out of long-term relationships. We have created a strong bond between us and I consider him a good friend. To the point where when we both needed a new place to live we decided that we would move in together to help each other. (Que the alarm) it was originally going to be three of us in the apartment. Him and I and one of his friends. That
  5. My ex broke up with me nearly 4 months ago. The history between us is complicated. He pursued me then went cold, we then were friends but got back together but he told me he wasnt sure he could ever love again after a painful divorce but he kept coming back to me so I thought something was there and worth trying for but shortly after he went travelling to Asia for 3 months and when he came back he was cold and distant. He stayed over but didnt want sex which I thought was odd as after 3 months he should be gagging for it. In the morning he said he couldn't give me what I want and broke it off
  6. Just a bit confused about a friendship with an ex...We were friends with benefits for a year ,we had a row this was August this year and he was so angry he blocked me, then 3 weeks ago he unblocked me and we had a few chats and cleared the air, he did say during our split since August he did meet someone but there was red flags so he ended it but they still talk...Anyway since last week hes been calling everyday about 3/4 times just like how it used to be, but hes clearly stated theres no going back and I agree, but I'm confused and not sure I believe hes suddenly ended things with this other
  7. I have a bit of a strange request. I am currently in an LDR with someone who used to engage in casual sex and FWB. He's completely loyal and devoted to me and obviously gave all of that up once we got into a relationship. Personally I have very little sexual experience because I always figured it is something to be shared with someone special. And while I'm sure that I must have met people in my life who have engaged in casual sex, I've never met anyone who's admitted to it so it is a very 'out there' idea for me. I've never understood how someone as sweet and caring as him could do somet
  8. I've had a weird last couple of months. So, it started when I developed strong feelings for my best friend of four years (I still haven't talked to her about it, but not because I don't want to, but rather, it's just been difficult seeing each other due to pandemic numbers getting bad, but I still want to talk to her about it next time I can). But, knowing that things with her are a huge long shot at best, I've been trying to turn my attention elsewhere and try to find a dating/ relationship scenario that can actually happen for me (for what it's worth, I'm early 30s, and have never dated
  9. So, this is the first time that I decided to talk about what I've been battling internally on and off for months now. Just to keep it short I'm in a relationship with someone who is almost my equal. We get along, and we have a lot of the same interests, he is loved by family, by my child. But I don't know if my feelings are as strong for him as they once were when we first met 3 years ago. From meeting him three years ago, we had went our separate ways in year 2, and dated other people. I met somebody who was the complete opposite of me during that time, and the relationship was so good, every
  10. Hey, So I’ve been talking to this guy I met on Instagram for just over a month now, and haven’t had the chance to meet due to covid. Nothing special about how we started talking, he followed me, I followed back and then he DM’d me and since then, things have been going great. We exchanged socials from there after talking for a week or so. We have loads in common and get on like a house of fire. We were texting and calling everyday, talking for hours etc etc. All that good stuff that comes when you’re first getting to know someone. He was very mature and communicative, so all around no pr
  11. First off, I will start by saying that everything I describe is the truth including my own faults during the "situationship" This may be a long read but I hope there is at least one person out there who has walked in my shoes to help me understand. I am a 45 woman who has been divorced for 5 years. I had a nice marriage, I was just not" in love" so we divorced and remained friends. What has transpired over the past 5 years of dating has been nightmare after nightmare. My self esteem was so low that I allowed a narcissist in to my life only to turn my world upside down. I still carry bitte
  12. Recently got back in contact with and old FWB. We haven’t spoken in a very long time. He says I ghosted him. Upon starting to hang out again, he mentioned that he is shocked at how successful I am and everything I have going on with myself and he really loves how confident I am etc and he regrets us not getting serious sooner. That night we kissed each other on the lips goodnight. A few days later, at about 12am he calls me super drunk and tells me how much he wants to be with me and just all of these beautiful things and how i’m the one, and then his friend gets on the phone and is like
  13. . I started dating a man in August , the first 2 dates were amazing , very romantic , third date we went to watch the sun set and then he took me to his house . There I was very transparent with him and shared every thing about my past relationships ( have been in 2 abusive marraiges ) also my last relationship was not a relationship that I was manipulated by a coworker ( saying he wanted a relationship which after that just became more kind of using for sex and he basically said we were just FWB ? I left that job and stared BTO and some inner work . Also I told him that I always had to lo
  14. Sorry for the length of this email. 14 years ago, I met a man through work who I was instantly drawn to (and him to me as it turned out- he wanted to ask me out the first day we met, but my boss told him I was engaged). We worked together for a number of years and I suppressed my feelings and we finally got together as soon as my relationship ended. We had an amazing connection, shared values, and I loved him like nobody else I had been with. However, there was one crunch- he had kids, one of whom was disabled, and could not imagine having more, while for me, it was non-negotiable. As a result
  15. Hello again everyone, my story is in my previous threads. Wish I wasn’t here again and thought I never would be as I had made a lot of changes in my life and my ex had become pretty much irrelevant. However, at a party 2 weeks ago we kissed and he pulled me aside and told me ‘he missed me, he missed us, he missed this’, he told me that when he broke up with me he spent a lot of time ‘trying to convince himself it was the right decision’ and that the months following were ‘the hardest time of his life’. I also suggested going back to his house (bad decision) but he actually said no that w
  16. I’ve known my friend for 3 years, and just recently we started having sex in a fwb agreement after we hooked up when we went on a night out. He told me he liked my company, and the sex was good so we carried on doing it. Everything was fine, until things started to get a lil more passionate, like to me, it feels like we are “seeing eachother” rather than just buddies. He’s told me to “go with the flow” and a few weeks ago we were talking and he said the only reason we’d have to stop being fwb is if one of us got bored, one of us found someone and then he paused and said or if one of us got fe
  17. Hello and thank you for your attention. I'm a 38yo guy and I started a Friend-with-benefits kind of relationship with another guy I met at work (though we don't share a space or see each other everyday). I'm openly and happily gay, he is straight and was having his first male experience with me. It went perfect for two years, with casual hook ups, normal friendship level of messaging and contacting, and well, just great, nobody getting hurt or developing any complicated feelings. I really didn't like him that much, in the sense of liking him as a boyfriend or anything. The sex was nice, He
  18. I'll try nutshell this. Met an amazing girl, same age 37. Both with ex wife/husband and kids. Long distance at the moment. 3 months in, see each other every 2 weeks, extended weekends, and holidays. Lots of lots of messaging. Things are great. Common interests. Goals, personality. Its been unbelievable for us both. we are really really into each other on all levels. We work well as a team. First kink in the road. So not long before me, she was friends with benefits with a guy. Said she had a good connection with him. Anyway, she mentioned this guy had messaged her and asked her out
  19. I'm a 33 year old male... I still class myself as being pretty shy albeit more confident than I used to be. A number of PoF dates over the last few years has built my confidence around women, aswell as a couple of FWB situations I randomly found myself in. Lately, I met this girl at an evening class (around the same age as me). There was something about her I found really attractive, and she started making it really obvious that she was into me. After a few days of messaging online, I asked her out. She said yes and a few days later we went out for a couple of drinks. It felt so surre
  20. So long story short, I've known this guy since I was legit an infant, theres 9 years age difference between us, our families have been close since before either of us were even born. This past May, a group of friends and us were all out camping and one thing led to another and we hooked up. The next morning he said "why didnt we do this so long ago" (well long ago i was married so that would have been a no anyways, Ill have been separated-not divorced- for a year in November). Ever since that weekend in May, we hook up anywhere from once a week to 3x a week and still continue to hook up. We al
  21. Okay, so I’ve known this guy for 3 years and we basically had a one night stand when we went on a night out a few weeks ago. There is a 10 year age gap.. he’s 31 and I’m 21. After it had happened, we were cool about it, I didn’t rush off in the morning we just chatted in bed until i wanted to go home. The next night, he asked if I wanted to go round again, which I Ageed to, and yes we had sex again. I had just come out of a toxic relationship and he was single and free so we decided to have a friends with benefits agreement because it was so fun! It starts to get dodgy though.. because every n
  22. Hello all, So, my boyfriend and I broke up in February of this year. I initiated it. We were together for 3 years. We cut all contact, then ended up reconnecting at the end of April. We decided to be friends with benefits, but realized we both still had feelings and that it was a bad idea. However... we slept together 3 times and after the last time we slept together I found out he had a girlfriend. He hid it from me... So he actually cheated on her with me & I felt terrible. They are still together. I know he’s a terrible person for cheating but as a friend, he was great. She is 10 ye
  23. I have a fwb for on and off 15 months, where we meet each other once/twice a month (usually for making out/oral sex) and the rest of the time we had phone sex or sexting. We were casually dating other people as well. In January, before I moved to another country, we finally had sex. Again, we continue sexting each other every week. Both of us were comfortable with this, and we knew this is just a filler/settling relationship. He then had to move to another country (which is only 2hours flight away from me) for 4 months work. We then decided to meet up in another country for some holiday to
  24. Hey! So a few weeks ago I got with someone I work with. We have been together a few times since, him coming to my home on one occasion. Since the first time a few weeks ago, we speak every day. Naturally we speak during work but then as soon as we finish we speak as well. It’s more him than it is me doing the texting, honestly. He’s not the kind of guy that sleeps around he’s very reserved and laidback, doesn’t want to be chasing girls or talk to several girls at a time. Mutual friends state we make a good couple, that they can tell he likes me. The thing is - he hasn’t told me. We hav
  25. So, I need help getting over someone that I used to be friends with benefits with. I'm male and 24. She's 22. This all began around August/September 2017 time when the girl I’m referring to just broke up with her then boyfriend. Oh, before I carry on, I should mention, I work with this girl. I would say we friends before she broke up with him, but not very close. Suddenly, this girl joined the same team I was on. As we were on the same team, we used to see each other more, sit next to each other and eventually get to know each other. We used to text constantly out of work as well. In hindsi
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