babycristy456

You don't sound pushy from what you wrote. Maybe since she is shy, she is just afraid to initiate the conversation about seeing you. But this is the third time you invite so if she does not respond, then don't push for this saturday. Further on, maybe next week, if you joke around with her, she might feel more comfortable than awkward...Maybe something like "I think its your turn this week to ask me out since uve turned me down for last saturday..." but as a joke, not serious. I mean you can make your own line up, not use mine bc im obviously not a guy, but something to make her feel more secure with you instead of shy.

It looks like you are uncomfortable with this. its only okay when you and her are okay with it, not only her. I know my boyfriend will like flip out completely if he saw me flashing my butt to anyone...I don't even want to think about what he'd do...lol. To be honest with you, when you are single, you can mess around like that if you please, but she should have a little more respect for you. If you don't like it, tell her sternly, don't give her an option, if she doesn't like it, then you should think twice about the girl you are dating.

Sorry to break it to you, but there is a poor girl out there that had a boyfriend for 2 1/2 years that is not informed that her "boyfriend" has moved on. She might be psychotic but your boyfriend is not giving her the honest truth. How would you feel if your boyfriend of 2 1/2 yrs. would just stop talking to you and you had other dilemmas in your life? This does not sound fair for her... By the way you said "he wasn't the best boyfriend to his ex - and i knew that because he was always hanging out with me and his brother. i knew he had cheated on her and would lie to her.."...Don't you wonder how he will be with you, or are you so sure you are the cream of his crop? If you have decided this is the guy for you, and he is serious about you, then he needs to communicate that to the ex, out of the only respect he might have for her...

Stop this crap before you decide to move in with him. Do you wonder who she was talking about when she referred to a "backup"? Maybe your boyfriend refers to you that way. If you are suspicious it is obviously for a reason. I hate people that are ignorant to cheating...sorry to be pessimistic but c'mon, there are so many clues its not even funny. Tell him you read EVERyTHING and forgive yourself for snooping, you were suspicious, so you did what you need to do to be informed!

reading your post reminded me about the same thing I went through. However, I posted it up as someone advised me to do and I was going to send it....But at the last minute I read what I wrote and I was like Im so over this guy that I will NOT send it...And it was my closure and my peace of mind. He never had to read it to affect me.. Good luck though. I advice that you do as you feel, but if you feel you need to send it, analyze your own intentions first. Below is the post where I wrote the letter. Feel free to view it.

Do you love him enough to put up with him? Anyways, I realized a trend with some guys and the girl who have low self esteem (don't wanna be negative, but try to get a picture): The guys hate girls who pity themselves, so they take advantage to the fullest by insulting them, making them feel ugly, fat etc. all the meanwhile they are scr*wing someone else behind their back. If they get the right change, don't think they will hesitate to leave you...Maybe not the most optimistic view but do you want to be one of those girls? Probably not. Dont put up with what you don't believe in or what makes you feel bad. If you can't leave him now, it will only get harder in the future.. You even said "Thank God we are not married.." which sounds like you unconsiously can't see a future with him... Good Luck

The important thing is how he acts when he is with you. My boyfriend of a year and a half is so "blah" on the phone, it used to bother me but now i understand. However, when we do see each other he's the best. And i Don't mean to stereotype, but guys do seem to be like that when they are on the phone, as far as Im concerned. Very rare do you see a guy thats super talkative, unless he's your friend. Anyways, don't worry about the phone thing. But if you feel that overall he isn't the sweet guy you want, then tell him, don't try to force him to be who he isn't. Try to open your eyes to the other ways he is being a good boyfriend. If you can't find any, then maybe you should ask yourself why you are with him. Good Luck.

Sorry to break it to you, but are your like crazy or something? I dont want to freak you out but hello! Two french kisses per guy? How about you two french kisses per girl? Where are your rights to explore in this relationship? I bet if you tell her that you are messing with girls, she will flip out, go ahead and test her... Please be realistic...I understand where your maturity and willingness to make your girlfriend happy comes in, but dont be fooled. If a girl is willing to kiss another guy, then she is ready to do much more with another guy. Dont be fool and blinded. I know my boyfriend would like flip to even hear that i kissed someone else. Why? Because when two people truly love each other, they would NEVER propose to see other people unless the breakup was official...

It sounds like you really like this guy...enough to completely blow some guy off. So you need to say how you feel, don't worry about feeling stupid. He might feel the same way too. But you will never know unless you tell him! Another option if you are unsure if he still wants to be with you, see if he gets jealous. DONT HURT THE KID, just speak about how "you are glad we are finally moving on..." and act unaffected about the break up... See how he reacts...WARNING: dont do this if you know you will anger him or make it worse...you gotta do it gently(Ive dont it to my boyfriend when we decided to take a break, and he started to realize "man, I might really lose her") Good luck!

I personally believe that you should always speak your mind. But like xenakis said, some girls like guys that ignore them and challenge them (i personally have gf's that stop liking a guy once they said they are interested in them). Its a weird concept but whatever... But if you really really like her, speak out! It might turn out really good, but If she does not respond and brushes you off, then she is not worth your time.

I would probably wait to see if she gets her period. If she does not within 3 days, then get the test. Dont worry her because then she will probably get late (stress delays the period). If you guys are extremely worried, and you want to know ASAP, then she needs to go to her doctor and take a blood test. It is the most accurate.

My boyfriends got them..and I think every guy does! (I think I even have them, I am a girl obviously I don't have a penis or scrotum lol, but I asked my doc and she said that they are sweat glands that everyone's got. Dont worry. unless, of course, they hurt, sting, burn, or bleed... bc then you got something else...Otherwise, they are NORMAL!!

That is a mature decision of you to make. I had a long relationship "once upon a time" and it was much longer than that. Oh wow! the heartaches, the pain , the crying, the going back to him, the uncertainties..." It is all part of the healing process. If you are convinced that you don't love her, then you are doing an honorable thing by walking away before you break her heart...But if you are convincing yourself that you don't love her because you feel too attached or committed, then that's another deal. Anyways, I felt like that for about 6 months straight, and I was the one who dumped him! But I always felt deep inside that he was not the one for me...And guess what? It was the best "horrible 6 months" of my life! because relationships only got better and better after that. The same will happen with you. Just be strong and rough it out. Sometimes your mind will confuse you, but always listen to your heart, it always steers you in the right direction.[/i]

hi, i just read your story. I am sure that you will get a lot of replies on how you should leave your boyfriend. Well, I think telling you that is a waste of time. You need to step back right now and realize that this is not normal behavior in any relationship. God knows that me and my boyfriend fight and yell but never will he lay a finger on me. There is a line that men cannot cross when it comes to that. Unless of course, that is that way they are naturally. You said this guy is your boyfriend (not even your husband) which means you might not know him long enough or his history to decide his abuse with women (Trust me, there is alot if things women don't know about men and they just believe anything and everything they throw at you). Ultimately it is up to you if you want to stay in a relationship like that. If you really care about him, ask him to see therapy or talk to him about his recent behavior. If you are afraid to even talk to him about it, because he might blow up on you again, then you have fear for a reason....bc he obviously has scared you enough. I don't want to make this long, but honestly. Bottom line is that we women (sometimes even men) live in a world where we don't even know the person who we are sleeping with is anymore. The point is to watch out for yourself because you might end up like those victims in the news. (I am sure none of them thought anything BIG of a a couple of black eyes.."no big deal"...or is it???...." Alright, well good luck hun and i hope you do what is right for yourself, not for anyone else.

Jazzman, Sorry to hear about you still missing your exgirlfriend. Let me start out my saying that 3 months is not a long time when it comes to completely forgetting your ex. It ususally takes longer than 3 months to get over someone you really cared and loved. I can understand you feel betrayed by her lying and decieving. It looks like this girl was bad news from the start, considering that you kept this relationship on the DL. Your family and friends were right! This girl was lucky enough for you to give her a chance against all odds. But she took advantage and proved herself to be not worth your time. I admire you for being strong, for the fact that you have to watch her and her new man at work everyday. Don't give her the satisfaction of acting jealous or sad around her. Act like you don't give a damn, and that you are as happy as they get. Continue to move on with your life. If you find a girl that is really worth you time, then give it a chance. Dont be afraid of relationships, not every girl is the same out there. After my ex-bf cheated on me, I was thinking in my head that every guy must be like him. But I was wrong, there are honest guys that I should be given a chance. I don't have a guy right now bc I havent found anyone worth my time yet, but Im still hopeful to find some1 in the future. I hope you heal, and that you become a stronger person at the end. *Work Like U don't need the Money, Dance like Noone Is watching, & Love like Youve never been hurt*

Yea. First of all, I personally don't know how anyone can know your future. I think the way it works is that if you believe something a psychic tells you, you will be on the look out for that thing. And if it happens out of pure coincidence, you will think its because the psychic told you. Then you might base your future and life according to these predictions. Get what Im saying? Well from personal experience with some supernatural Sh*t that I tried once, I am against anything supernatural for the fact that I believe it messes with your head. You make yourself believe what isn't reality. Well, Good Luck with whatever you do.

Babygurl, Im sorry to hear about the way you feel right now. It is probably hard on you to watch your mom drifting away from you to her new husband. The way she is acting is indeed selfish on her part, but don't resent her for this. She has probably found a man that treats her better than your father did, so she may be too involved in her own happiness. Maybe you should have a talk with your mom and tell her how you feel about this. She might not know that you feel this sad and depressed. About your past, I suggest you try to get counseling. If there is indeed a history of mental health in your family, it might be to your benefit that your only 17 and can still treat it. I can relate to that. There is also a history of mental health in my family. Both parents suffer from depression, and on my father's side, almost everyone's "cookoo". I have already been diagnosed with anxiety/panic disorder and mild depression...and guess what? Im only 17 too. I felt stupid since I am young and there are people that have worse problems than I do. But I rather get help now, than have these problems control my life. Getting counseling and talking to someone about how you feel, may help you let your problems out and understand them and deal with them better. I hope you find help soon and feel better. Remember, as you said it, we're only 17. This only get worse if you don't try to help them. I hope I helped. PM me if anything Cristy

Princess, Im so sorry to hear that your marriage is not going too well. I understand that you feel worn out by all this fighting and emotional abuse you are recieving from your husband. You have two choices here: (1) work on the marriage, (2) get a divorce. Whichever you choose is the best thing for you and your child, plan it out carefully so that it may be successful. If you plan to get a divorce, make sure you have family, friends and authority supporting you because of your fear of your husband. If you wantto work it out, go seek some professional help because this seems to be something that you might not be able to work out on your own with him. You got to place yourself and your needs first. Don't feel selfish, it would be selfish for your son if he has to grow up watching his parents fight, and an alcoholic father. This can affect the child. Whatever you do, I hope that everything turns out for the best. Just remember to be strong. Cristy

Confused & Lonely, Im just curious to something you said...that your future husband wont be a good lover. Im not argueing the point but just wondering if its possible to have "bad sex" with some one you really love and care about. I don't know Ive only had sex with 2 people Ive really cared about alot. They were both good experienced, Im guessing, because we really cared for each other and there was love. ISnt bad sex usually due to clumsiness and being uncomfortable and not knowing what to do? If you are really close to that person, wouldn't you overcome that? I dunno, just a though.

You could never know for sure what he was trying to do. Or if he was trying to do anything at all, maybe he just threw his suit jacket to the back seat. I wouldn't look into it too much. It doesn't sound like strong evidence against him.

What is wrong with the pictures that you left in the car? I don't understand what the problem is or what your being worried about... be more specific

Nexial, I agree with everything sabena has said. You seem to be in love with her, which is a good thing, all the romance is good. Im no one to judge because I don't know the situation too well, but from what it sounds like, you might be a little obsessive, clingy, and possesive over her. You make it sound like you need her to live. Which may put alot of pressure on her. It could have scared her scared and made her back off. My suggestion is to work on your own life without her. Relationships are not supposed to complete you, they are meant to add essense to the life you already have. Sometimes a relationship needs more than roses, and sweet letters. It needs more than the pretty picture and the drama. Sometimes it needs casualty and normality. Well I dont know if I helped or if my advice helped any, but good luck anyways and i hope it all turns out for the best in the end. Cristy

Dating is cool, if you say she reaches your maturity level, then that's okay I guess. But I have to agree with everyone about the sex thing. She might not be ready for it, being only 14. So be careful how you go about the sexual issues here, it can be contradicting. We all know your 17, and we all know what goes in the mind of a 17 year old male (not stereotyping but th fact is that you are full of hormones). You know..I got a question myself...But im going to start a topic about it...so look for it...is about the whole sex/age issue.

pimpcess, Great poem like always We all feel like that when we break up I guess with some1 special.

You just got turned down. Don't escape reality, as crookster said, and start drinking to try to feel better. She didnt exactly reject you, she just has a bf, that might not last forever. Well don't let this get you down for too long, get back up again and if you find some other girl that you like in the meantime, ask again. Don't let rejections get you down forever, get back up and try again.