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  1. babycristy456
    She is going through anxiety and depression which is something that is alot for her to deal with. It may have to do with her not fancying you anymore. When you are depressed, you lose interest in the things you once liked to do. If time is what she wants, then give it to her. And yes, move on with your life, but that doesn't mean you have to find someone new right away or anything. It just means what it says...Move on with your life. Don't let this stop you from doing things you normally do. If you feel like you want to wait for her, then do, but don't wait around forever either. Maybe if she treats her depression and gets well, she might want to come back. GOod luck and hope I helped
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    I had something similar happen to me after an event that took place. I was messing around with the Ouiji board and after that day, I had experienced physchological issues. I thought i was seeing ghosts, I thought any strangers I ran into might be evil or a ghost. I was seriously scaring myself. I even started to believe that I am possessed and might be someone else. I was also having paranoia. I started to have extreme anxiety for a couple of weeks, having panic attacks as well. And sleepless night. I even believed I was starting to hallucinate. I was out of control and so was my mind. That's was my experience but read the PM i sent you. It gets more into details and may help you.
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    There is nothing wrong with masterbation, unless you do it from morning to night nonstop. Masterbation relieves you from tension and stress so if you are depressed, that is why you do it. So as Baffler Meal said, masterbation is not your problem, depression is. Try to find help and maybe medication for your depression will help. I dont know if talking to a psychologist helps, but maybe you can talk about your problems, even if they sound strange, and weird. But it may help. I have anxiety/depression, and the only thing that is stopping me from taking medication is that Im not that severe. Its just really mild. But I do try to help it. Ill PM you, and ill let you know how you might be able to help yourself, like Im doing to myself. I have gotten alot better with my anxiety. Cristina
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    Yey Goldie!!! Im happy for you, it's good to know that you are being strong, moving on, and life is treating you good! Something good always ends with something bad. Something bad always ends with something good. Its like a cycle or something. But I hope it stays good for you in this case with your ex. Especially after reading your post, it seems like things were going tough for you. GOod Luck and have fun on your birthday!
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    Yea crookster hit it right where it hurts, the probable truth! If she was acting cold towards you, its not that she is trying to pour salt on your wounds, I mean, your the one pouring salt on your own wounds...being the one going to the mall to run into her. She was just trying to tell you that she is moving on, there is nothing between the two of you anymore. I can understand after 8 years, you still want her back. I mean i was really sad after ending it with my ex of 2 years. But you have to move on, isn't she moving on? Try to seek your own hapiness. Cristina
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    I dunno...how about sending him an online greeting card. Like a funny one that says how much u luv him. there are cute ones at link removed...Or send him flowers to wherever he's at. It'll be a change from him being the one to give you flowers. That is a really big surprise and he'll love it.
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    I truthfully do not know the purpose of any human on earth. I think I think too much and try to come up with answers without having enough knowledge. Now, I agree with what Crookster_man said about how earthly "happiness" are just temporary and at the end, it will usually end in loss, even true love will end someday with break-ups, divorce, or eventually death. I also think that happiness does start within yourself. Im rather young but have had an experience in my life (my father almost died at the age of 7) that has made me hide feelings and made myself seem like a tough person, (which is what I did at the age of 7 as I was preparing for a death that never came). So when I get attached to things that make me happy and express myself (like a new love, and then I lose him) I tend to break down completely, I do mend at the end, but the event makes me tougher and express myself less w/ people, by not trusting them. And the problem is, the next attachment that follows, and there is a loss, the break down becomes worse than the first. I do believe that happiness does start within yourself and we are meant to pursue happiness and things that make us happy as long as you control yourself from becoming attached (like I tend to do). Now, my question is: how does one find themselves? How does one put aside their "attachments" and their troubles and find hapiness in themselves? How would you start? How do you not attach yourself from things that comfort you and make you "happy". Like I said before, I don't know if I made too much sense or if anyone understood what Im trying to get accross...but write back if anyone can answer my questions.
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    I agree with secret_agent_man. Find some time for yourself. Everyone feels that way in a relationship at one time or another. But you may be too emotionally bonded or clingy to him. That may cause boredom after a while. If you love being with him that much, imagine how excited you will be with him if you guys take more time apart from each other, so everytime you see each other, you will be super happy and have something new to tell the other. Try giving yourself some space, and see if its better for yourself and the relationship. Try not to suffer either, look at the seperation as a good thing, not as a torture.
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    I think you are not weird or anything, its just who you are, your personality. Maybe you have a "thing" for older men like your grandpa's age, but would you reallly want a guy that old if you started to date really him? I secretly just lovee all those older actors with the white hair and all, but I wouldn't really want to deal with their age issues (false teeth, erection problems, illnesses, dying on me) if I had the chance to. But if that's who you are, and that's what you enjoy, then why not go for it? As someone said, Love is love, and age isn't a issue when u truly love someone and share similarities and their company. Good luck
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    Yea, I say just do it! I know what you mean, you just wanna hug his comfty arms, you know it will make you feel good and loved and yea...i gotcha! Go for it, he probably wants you to, but he's not going to ask you "can you hug my arm?" that would sound dumb on his part. So just do it. He's probably nervous about making first moves too, so just break the ice with this one.
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    Wow! That family sure seems to have anger management issues... Well, let me start by saying that you are probably better off without that guy. If he all of a sudden started acted violent, it could have gotten worse, and he might have turned violent on you on an argument one day... In the US I think you can call this a threat and Im sure somehow make those e-mails stop. Im not sure about Spain though. But try to stop her, Can you file a report that she is threatening you? Good LucK
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    I think the reason that we tend to always hold on to the past is because with time, we tend to forget the bad things and remember only the good. You said you had a rough past with him and he was not there for you when you had an illness. I could understand how you would have feelings for him still and want him to be happy, but ask yourself...Are you going to be happy? You talking about the rest of your life if you marry your ex...Is he going to make you happy? Do you think he will be there for you if another illness might come along? If another problem comes along? Ask yourself what will make you happy. This new guy sounds like you should not let him go. Try to figure out of you really love your new boyfriend. You are going to have to figure out which one of the two you want to choose. You're ex is probably not going to wait around forever if you marry this new guy. He will eventually move on and find someone sooner or later. Just think of yourself...who will make you happy for the rest of your life?[/i]
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    I would also say yes. It is unquestionably worth going through with love. Ive been heart broken twice and nothing is stopping me from believing that there might be someone out there still waiting. While you're in love, you become a better person. When you end, you become a stronger person. You really don't lose anything at the end, just gain. And the memories of a good love, are priceless. That's my opinion from my experiences. I hope i never stop taking my chances with love.
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    Short and sweet compliments are flattering. I think it makes a girl feel extra good to know that she is found pretty in the eyes of a total stranger. But I agree with SweetTartz. When strangers holler at you in a passing car, whistle and scream "yo mamma, want Big Joe to show you a good time?" or "Nice Ass" or the constuction worker's whistles .That's just low class and a total turn-off...for me at least. Oh and pick-up lines are so stupid, please don't go online and try to find a couple to pick up chicks, they're rediculous! But it may work for some.
  15. babycristy456
    Do It....Do It...Do iT What the worse that can happen? she says no? at least you can stop wondering...stop wasting time, I understand your shy but then you might regret it if its too late. Just dont be nervous when you ask her, dont studder, trip on your words or anything...try to be cool Well Good Luck! Write back when you finally make da move to see how it goes
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    I understand that you might be worried over this. Its completely normal for you to be worried because you are probably new at all of this fooling around. I was nervous myself when I was at that point, even though it sounded nearly impossible. Im not a professional either, and I feel there is no need for you to be making long distance phone calls for this. It is 99.999% impossible for your girlfriend to get pregnant out of you fingereing her. You did wash your hands, and sperms are not strong enough to swim up the water pipes, crawl up your hand and make it alive (just a lil humor to calm you down). I suggest you stop pulling your hairs over this. Wait until she gets her period, if she gets it late, please don't freak out and start going to the doctor, be patient. Stress only delays periods. Now, if she is like reallyyyy late (like 3 weeks, then take a test). But please relax, if you're worried now, I can't imagine when/if you have sex. Cristina
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    I agree that trust is something extremely hard to be gained again. I myself was not able to trust my ex after I found out about him lying to me and cheating one me. Even though he swore his trust again. I just could not forgive. But everyone's care is different. There has been times where I was the untrustworthy one, and one of my exes found it in his heart to completely forgive me, and forget. It was a smart choice because I did become trustworthy after that. One way to trust someone again is to be willing to let go of what they did in the past. If not, then that will might be brought up in the future. But if you can't find it in your heart to completely forget, then you might not be able to trust again. Also, it depends on how much you believe the other person's willingness to change for you. If both of you are trying to rebuilt trust together, then you should sit down, talk, and compromise on what each of you are going to do, give up, and are going to try differently, to make things work. Good Luck
  18. babycristy456
    If it's been 4 years and he has trouble telling you how he feels and you still don't know where you stand with him, then you should have a serious conversation with him. You want a stable relationship, and he isn't showing you much besides unsureness, then you might want to take action and see where you and him are heading. If he doesn't even introduce you to his parents, then there might be something wrong. I suggest you talk and tell him how you feel, and find out where you stand in his life and his plans for your future. If he doesn't have any intentions, then you might want to take some actions. Good luck
  19. babycristy456
    I broke up with my ex because of him being unfaithful, so you can just imagine how I felt. But like yourself, I am not too happy dating around. I like to have someone to give my love you. I like to devote myself to someone who I care about. But I need to be single to get over him first, b4 I get into another relationship because then I will only hurt the "replacement" person. I guess you do have to take the first step into finding someone new...which is being single. While being single, you dont need to date around. Just try to find yourself. Do things you like and hang out with the guys. And other things you enjoy. Like that you don't rush into another relationship, enjoy your single life, and maybe run into someone new along the way. Good Luck and hope I helped
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    Hey you know what? I know you are not trying to be offensive and just think you got the facts of life straight. And I do agree with you about finding yourself when there is a break up instead of feeling sorry for yourself and feeling pathetic. Yea, you gotta be strong, don't be a pusssy, don't lose your pride, etc...I think that all depends on the persons and the situations of their break ups. You also gotta realize that some people are more sensitive and not as strong as you might be when it comes to break ups. Or some people might actually be deeply in love, which is hard to let go of sometimes. I do agree with some of the things you've said, but I also think you've stereotyped all women and their reasons for breaking up with a man, and your advice, although smart, might not be the best for every1. Oh and one more thing ...You definitely NEVER do that! What are you thinking? If this is the way you handle your relationships, then I would dump you too. Relationships are supposed to be mutual and you are supposed to put effort into the relationship, giving her what she wants, and she gives you what you want, while at the same time, compromising and setting your limits...if not, how would anything ever work out?? But your talking about "owning" your girlfriend. I think you should re-read what you wrote and ask yourself if you sound like at pr!!ck at some parts...
  21. babycristy456
    Im sorry to hear that this is turning out this way for you. I believe that you might really love this girl despite your short time of knowing her. Feelings are feelings and sometimes you can't explain them. I don't know what to tell you exactly, but ask her to see if she feels the same way or prefers to move away on her own...So you don't waste your time and money and feelings on her. She is still young so she has probably alot of growing up to do and might later change her mind about you... This is a tough choice for you so you're going to have to think this through, but keep in mind the pro's and con's. I wish you lots of luck!
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    She was obviously wanting to get your attention or maybe getting you to speak to her, considering that she has taken the long way now to the "toilet". Of course she isn't goign to act like she is looking at you, what girl does that? Our mystery is to stay secretive and pretend we don't care about a guy... Hello! just talk to her...say a little "hello"! How bad can that be? what's the worse that can happen? maybe she wants you to tlak to her, but she isnt going to show it. If the work setting is too awkward and embarrassing for the both of you, ask her secretly on a date to dinner or somethineg. Send her an e-mail if you wanna do it even more secretly. I don't know...but make a move already... You know, i read a book that the guy and the girl's situation was the same as yours...he wanted her, she wanted him, he was confused bc she ignored him, he was too shy to make a move and bc the whole work place knew about his crush on her...so he sent her an email to ask her on a date, and they took it from there! C'mon!
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    My question is...why is it when the exboyfriend gets the rebound girl, she is always a wh0ree and a fat lard?!?!? (from my two experiences)... I kinda appreciate the favor those fatties do for me, which make my exboyfriends all realize what they've lost (not that I have anything against fat people, but its my only defense, since I am thin.) Well, make him miss what he's got. Its funny, my ex used to call me everynight to complain about his new girlfriend too... it gave me a satisfaction that you won't ever imagine. He would also ask for me to help him cheat on his new girlfriend...with me... HA! I would not give him that satisfaction...If he wanted me, he needs to leave her, which of course they broke up finally. but we didnt end up together, whole different story tho.... I just hope I'm never the rebound girl...poor poor girls. Well keep up the good job and make him wantttt you bad, and if you move on b4 he makes his decision, then too bad for him.
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    To me, your friends sounds insecure about herself since she can't get any guys or boyfriends herself. Don't let her flirt with your boyfriend, confront her and tell her that friends don't flirt with friend's boyfriends. It is probably hard for you to tell her that but she might not realize what she is doing. And if she keeps getting mad at you for trying to help her get a boyfriend and keeps flirting with your boyfriend, you should ask yourself if this girl is really a friend or not... I dont want to be mean or overjudge...but she sounds like she wants a boyfriend bad, and if she can get yours, she just might, so confront her, and be a little careful. Good Luck
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    Well she sounds interested to go...I wouldn't worry too much about you not being good enough for her, she might like you for the person you are...just make sure she has a good time, make her laugh, and things like that... Good LUck tomorrow
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