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Sorry to bring this up again guys (and gals) but I need a little help. Okay, I got the message when "she" told me to leave her alone, and that is exactly what I've done. I have stayed out of her way, avoiding her and stuff. But, it seems it won't be that easy. Let me explain... Every day at work, whenever I go somewhere, be it to the men's room, or to lunch, we always see each other. I mean, about two Friday's ago, we were all going home. After work, me and my mom went to take some flowers for my friend who died earlier this year. On the way back from the cemetery, we were driving down this certain road, and we saw two cars that had crashed into one another (it was only a bump, nothing serious). Anyway, as we got closer, I saw who it was who had crashed. That's right, you guessed it, it was "her"! What are the chances of me bumping into someone I know, let alone someone I'm trying very hard to avoid, on the side of the road? Just my luck! Then this past week, every day, I'd be getting on with my work, and I'd turn around and I'd see her. This happened 4 times. And to make things a little more interesting, every day, when everybody is going home, she keeps on looking over at me. Coincidence... you tell me!

From now on, I think I'll just stay clear of her. To be honest, I thought her reply was a little "snotty". A "no thanks" would have been enough. I mean, I didn't follow her around all the time, I didn't pester her. I wasn't whistling at her like some of the other guys do. I did one little harmless letter and a teeny-weeny note, that's all. I did it all in private so she wouldn't get embarrased in front of everyone at work. And let's not forget, she was the one who kept looking at me, when she kept turning around and looking over at me. So what the hell was I supposed to think? The funny thing is, when everyone was going home today, I saw her look over at me like she did before. Ok...

mmm... interesting day I've had! First of all, I finally got to ask her out, but I did it by text message. The reply I got... "That would be a no and I would appreciate it if you would leave me alone." okay... So, I now know that I got it COMPLETELY WRONG, and I made a COMPLETE ASS out of myself in the process! Great, real ***ing great! Oh, and the other thing is my parents are splitting up... TODAY HAS BEEN THE WORST DAY OF MY 20-YEAR LIFE!!

I'm tired of my life. I feel like I'm a nobody. I'm 20 years old and I feel like this already. At this rate, I don't want to make it to my 21st birthday. I have a steady job, with decent money. I'm not poor or anything. I have a few close friends, and they seem to get on OK. I'm interested in computers and using the internet. I like sports, music and enjoy the movies and stuff. I like writing stories and stuff, creative stuff, using my imagination. Everyone is always saying how lovely I am, how nice I am, how smart I am, and how hardworking I am, but why is it they get everything and I get nothing. Everything I have is what I've bought myself. It's like no one gives a damn about me. I'm not ugly or anything (or at least that's what everyone says), so I don't think that's my problem. Everybody says I've got a lovely smile. Where the hell has that got me... NOWHERE! I've been as nice as possible, but still seem to get the crap end of the stick. Whatever I try to do seems to go wrong in the end. I'm tired of being on my own all the time. Although I get on with my parents, they don't really talk to me about emotional stuff like this. It's as if they think I'm still a 12-year-old kid or something. My two elder brothers, the eldest being married with 3 children, and the other having a good social life, always going out with his friends (male and female). It seems like no-one is interested in me, I'm just the nice guy in the corner who comes in handy every so often. I know I'm quiet, but that doesn't mean I'm boring, does it? I'm just really fed up, tired of everything. My life is going nowhere. I don't drive, I don't drink, I don't smoke, nor do I have any wish to. I don't want to be forced into doing those things. -- I guess this all started with a girl at work who I like. I was stupid enough to think she actually liked me, but, as always in my life, it turned out to be just another mess-up by me. link removed I told everyone I liked her, but no one seemed interested at all. And the thing that makes me angry is you get some real assholes at work who get all the attention from the women. I don't want to be like that, but it seems that you have to be like that in this world in order to get the attention of the opposite sex. -- I've seriously been considering just getting up, taking a few things and walking away from everything and everyone.

mmm... OK. Saw her twice today. Once in the morning when I was sat down working, and I looked up to see her walking by, looking at me. Then I saw her in the afternoon when everyone was leaving to go home. She was walking on her own, so I thought "What the hell!" and I called her name. But, instead of walking over, she turned around and replied "Sorry, got to go home!" err... okay...

nothing happened at work today... I've seriously been thinking about just walking up to her and asking her (in private of course) out on a date. What do you guys think?

I really need some help. (SORRY FOR THE LONG POST) There's this girl at work, and I have well and truly fallen for her, but she's going off to Australia in October for 9 months! She's slim, shoulder-length blonde hair, calm voice, blue eyes, just generally amazing! And from what I can tell, she's pretty shy too, as she is very quiet and unassuming, and she's always seen around work with her Mom. Anyways... It all started about 2 weeks ago, on a Tuesday, when I was working with a colleague and "she" came along and was asked to work with me. As soon as I saw her, I was blown away. I got really nervous, but showed her how to do it. A few of my workmates were making fun of me about it (obviously they could see I was nervous), I laughed and joked with them and carried on working. I remember I walked off to talk to my boss, and when I came back, she was sat on a seat, looking at me, smiling. Of course, I smiled back and then we carried on working. (Another point, whenever I spoke to her, she rarely made eye contact). The end of the day came and everyone went home. At first, I thought I'd get over her.... oh my, how wrong I was! The next day (now Wednesday), she was working with me again. The same thing happened, we didn't really get chatting (I was way too nervous). She again smiled at me a few times, and, of course, I smiled back. End of the day arrived, I said "Bye" and everyone went home. Next day (Thursday), she had now gone back upstairs (where she normally works). I saw her about 3 times that morning, when she came downstairs to go to the toilet. I saw her again at dinner break, when she walked past where I was working and said "Hi". The thing is, I'd never seen her walk that way to dinner before. Did she do that on purpose? I hope so! Anyway, I saw her again twice in the afternoon, when she went to the toilet. That too is a different way, because there is a door leading from upstairs right next to the toilets, but she went the "long way". Whenever she walked past, she said "Hi" to my Mom and my Mom's friend (who also work there). Then on Friday, I saw her a few times in the morning. In the afternoon, I was talking with one of my friends when he looked to his right. Wondering what he was looking at, I turned around and I saw her walk by. She didn't turn around to look at me, she simply walk past, looking in front of her. The thing is, in the 7 months I've worked there, I've NEVER seen her walk down where me and my friend were. Why did she go down there? Then as Friday was done and dusted, everyone was leaving the building when I saw her come down the stairs and head for the exit door. I was just stood there, mesmerised, looking straight at her as she turned around. After looking back in front of her, she turned around again. I was still looking straight at her. Hopefully, she was looking at me... I now had a 2 week holiday, which at first I was really looking forward too, but now I was dreading it. After speaking to my Grandmother about it (she's 85!) I decided to cut-short my holiday to just 1 week. A week later, on the Friday, my Mom came home and told me that "she" had found out that I liked her. Apparently, someone had told her, and there was a bit of gossip about me going around. At first, I thought this could be a good thing, now that she new I liked her. When I got back to work on the Monday morning, the first thing someone said to me was "... caught the love bug!" As soon as my boss saw me, he said "You've got a smile on your face, I wonder what that's for!" OK, so practically everyone knew. Fine. I found out that "she " had been working downstairs again. I spoke to one of my friends, and he said he overheard "her" talking to one of her friends, and my name was mentioned, something about "she was embarrassed because everybody was saying about Rus fancying her." Anyway, I saw her once or twice in the morning, but I'm not sure if she noticed me... Then at my dinner break, me and one of my friends were sat outside in the sun, and she was sat over with her Mom (I think), under a tree in the shade. Then when me and my friend were about to go back inside to work, she and her Mom did the same. However, she didn't look round or anything, she just walked past, looking straight in front of her. Then when we were all going home, she walked past, and I was looking at her, but she walked past, looking straight in front of her. I thought about saying "Hi" but she didn't look in my direction, so I'd have felt (and looked) really stupid. That got me worried that she had been put-off, or that I'd screwed up my chance... Then on Tuesday, I only saw her at the end of the day (she was a little far away) and she was just walking, not looking over and stuff. But the thing I don't understand is that my Mom was walking a bit behind her and my Mom said that she saw "her" look over to where I was. (Well, obviously, I wasn't looking at the time, or else I would have noticed.) So, is it a case of "she's" looking when I'm not and I'm looking when "she's" not, or something??? On the Wednesday, "she" must have had the day off because no-one I spoke to had seen her. Later that day, I thought about writing her a letter. I never got chance to see her on her own and say hello, so I thought this might be a good idea of contacting her, while not embarrassing her again. That night, I decided to write the letter and leave it on her car windscreen. Basically, I wrote about how I felt about her (I think you're amazing) and stuff like that. Next day (Thursday), me and my Mom were going through the entrance to work when "she" and her Mom walked up right next to us. At this point, I got REALLY nervous, but instead of saying "Hi", I did the stupid thing and kind of turned away, and walked straight ahead. AAGGHHHH!!! How stupid am I? STUPID RUS!!! Later that morning, I sawn "her" with her Mom while I was talking with one of my friends. I looked over my friend's shoulder at her, and I saw her look over at me. Then at dinner break, myself and my friend went outside to sit in the sunshine, and "she" and her Mom were outside too, again sat under a tree in the shade. I was quite far away, but still I was nervous as hell. About 10 minutes later, I went around to the car park and I put the letter onto her car windscreen, so she could see it. At the end of the day, I rushed out of work, so I could avoid any "awkward" encounters... That night, I couldn't help but think writing the letter was a REALLY STUPID idea. Then today (Friday), I saw her again in the morning as I was going into work (I was in the car at the time). I saw her again at the end of the day. I was sat down, waiting for my Mom, when "she" walked past. As before, she was looking in front of her, but then she turned around and looked towards me. All the while, my eyes were locked on her. And that's all... for now. ------- I am so confused. I don't know what to make of it all. It's really messing me up! Does she like me? Does she not? Is she too shy to say anything, or reply to my letter? Did my letter freak her out? Is she avoiding me? Is she too embarrassed? It's driving me nuts, and I really need some advice. Please, anyone, HELP!!!

That's the trouble Last Friday, my name was being mentioned, and then on Monday, she passes by me, looking straight in front of her. WTF? Then today at work (Tuesday), I saw her only at the end of the day (she was a little far away) and she was just walking, not looking over and stuff. But, the thing I don't understand is that one of my mates was walking behind her and they said that they saw her look over to where I was (well, obviously, I wasn't looking at the time or I would have noticed). So, is it a case of she's looking when I'm not and I'm looking when she's not, or something??? I am REALLY confused now!!!! I need some help!

A little update: (I suggest you read my first post before reading this) I went back to work today (a week early) and everyone had found out that I liked this girl. I also found out that she now knows I like her. I'm not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Anyways, apparently, last Friday, my boss overheard her talking to one of her friends and my name was mentioned. Back to today... I saw her once or twice in the morning, but I don't think she noticed me. Then at my dinner break, me and one of my friends were sat outside in the sun, and she was sat over with one of her friends under a tree, in the shade. Then when me and my friend were about to go back inside to work, she and her friend did the same. However, she didn't look round or anything, she just walked past as if she was ignoring me. Then when we were all going home, she walked past, and I was looking at her, but again, she didn't look round or acknowledge me or anything. I thought about saying "Hi" but she didn't look in my direction, so I'd have felt (and looked) really stupid. Now I'm really worried that I've screwed up what little chance I had. I need help!!

Hi guys, thanks for replying. As for finding out about any "significant other", one of my female friends at work has been "asking around" in my absense. Hopefully, she'll be able to find out something for me. And if she doesn't have a b/f, I'm gonna ask her out, maybe to a movie or something. All I need now is to dig up some courage!! Thanks again guys!

Hi everyone, I'm a 20-year-old shy guy who need's some help and advice regarding an girl I met at work about a week ago. OK, here goes... Tuesday: I was busy getting on with my job (I work in a book warehouse) when my boss walked up to me and asked me to show this girl how to do what I was doing. As soon as I saw her, my heart started pounding and I became a bit nervous. Anyway, after showing her how it was done, I carried on with my work. Then, after my dinner break, my boss asked me to show her another part of the job. I agreed and walked off with her down to a bunch of shelving (they're quite close together; there's not much room). All the while I was talking to her, I kept eye contact, trying not too look to nervous. Then as the afternoon wore on, several of my workmates were trying to embarrass me, making little hints here and there, with one in particular telling me to "cool off", saying my "eyes have popped out!". Pretending not to know what they were talking about, I walked off smiling. I'm not sure if she overheard or not. Anyways, she soon finished the work she was doing, and she asked me what to do next. I went off and asked my boss what she should do next. When I got back, she was sat on a seat, smiling at me. Of course, I smiled back. But what was she smiling at me for? Had she caught on about how I felt, or was it just a friendly smile? Another thing was that it wasn't just me and her, there was another kid there working with us, but he is very shy also. I was kind of training the two. As the afternoon went on, we carried on with our work. She seemed to be quite shy herself, not talking much. The end of the day came, I smiled at her and said bye and that was it... until the next day... Wednesday: She was back working with me... or so I thought. Instead, I was given another job to do while she working with the kid from yesterday. Later on that morning, my boss came up to me and asked me about the previous day, telling me "she's a nice girl" and to "go for it". I thought to myself "Am I really that transparent? Is it really THAT OBVIOUS?" Anyway, he (my boss) asked if I'd go "help out". Once again, I was nervous as hell. In the afternoon, I noticed a few of my workmates were looking at me, as if they were watching. As before, I went the entire afternoon saying very little to her which I now regret VERY MUCH. I did get a few more smiles from her, which I gladly returned. The end of the day came, and when she was going, I smiled at her and said "bye". Thursday: Now Thursday morning, she was still on my mind. She had now gone back to working in a department upstairs (her usual job). Then I saw her downstairs, while she was getting a box from one of the shelves. Later that morning, I saw spotted her going back and forth to the toilet twice (before I worked with her, I never saw her during the day). Then as I was about to go for my dinner break, she walked past and smiled. I said "hi" and that was it. Did she walk past where I was working on purpose? Usually she goes the other way, accross the warehouse. Anyways, in the afternoon, I saw her go back and forth to the toilet twice more. Now I was really starting to think about it all. When she came back the second time, I tried to make it as obvious as possible, as I stood there, looking straight at her. She looked back at me and then went back up the stairs. Friday: Friday morning rolled in and guess what, she was still on my mind! I only saw her once that morning, as I was down a pretty long isle sorting somes books out when she walked past, looking down the isle. There was no-one else down the isle, so she had to me looking at/for me, right? In the afternoon, I was talking with one of my friends when he looked to his right. Wondering what he was looking at, I turned around, and guess who I saw... that's right, I saw her walk by. She didn't turn around to look at me, she simply walk past, looking in front of her. The thing is, in the 7 months I've worked there, I've NEVER seen her walk down where me and my friend were. Why did she go down there? That REALLY got my brain thinking! Then as Friday was done, and everyone was leaving the building when I saw her come down the stairs and head for the exit door. I was just stood there, mesmerised, looking straight at her as she turned around. After looking back in front of her, she turned around again. I was still looking straight at her. Hopefully, she was looking at me... And now I have a big problem, I'm on a two-week break from work, which at first, I was looking forward too, but now I'm hating it!! I'm also worried that when I get back to work, she might have forgotten all about me. --------- So there you have it. I'm sorry for the long (long!) story. Is this all just wishful thinking on my part, or is there really something there? Thanks everyone! Rus