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    This is the one I really wanted, and I'm so psyched! It's exactly the environment I'm dying to be part of. It's a big team environment where everybody helps everyone else. That's what I like more than anything. The place I work at now is very much into 'separate departments' and no one talks to each other basically. I hate it.
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    I doubt you're pregnant, but if you're 16 you are old enough to take proper precautions. Remember this worry the next time things are 'hot n heavy.'
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    He even got a gun and was sitting on the back porch the other night holding it, and finally I talked him into giving it to me. Whoooooooooooooooooooa! While he is gone, I would get a restraining order honey. He is dangerous! Glad to hear you are filing for a divorce!
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    Hi guys! Yesterday I was offered a new job, but I have yet to sign the acceptance letter because I haven't received it yet. That makes me super nervous and I hate being in this 'limbo' thing. Will you please say a little prayer or keep your fingers crossed for me? BIG HUGS!!!
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    GOOD FOR YOU! I'm so glad for you!
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    Awh I'm so sorry this happened. Remember all your enotalone experience: get your stuff then do no contact right away. I actually find him quite slimy to have spent all last night with you, then decides to break it off. Nice. I hope you'll feel better. Spend the weekend doing some self-care, letting yourself be upset, then chin up for next week. BIG HUGS!
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    It's weird isn't it? I really believe it's a hormonal thing. I got the same thing around your age, and before that I didn't even want kids! I also sometimes feel like "all I want is to have kids and stay home." Well, here's the benefit of having a career: maternity benefits! A year stay home pay, which many companies 'top up.' That is what to aim for Working isn't as important as family and children to me.
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    It seems whatever I do I may regret later down the line. Unfortunately such is life friend. We all have tough choices to make, ones we may regret later. Bud, I promise you there is someone (or many different people) for everyone. You just have to know when to pay attention. If there is someone perfect for me, there is for everyone. I am probably the most odd and unique person I know...I always thought I'd have to settle for someone who didn't match me because of that, and that's why I settled for relationships that weren't good. Just tell Allison the truth. You don't feel the relationship is right anymore, it neither of your faults. People grow and change, and sometimes not together, that's all.
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    Personally, I've evaluated all the evidence and still believe in God. Some of the world's greatest scientists are the strongest believers in God, because they see there is NOT a way to evaluate everything.
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    You know RW, I didn't realize you were married to him too. I would get a lawyer and get this dealt with. In reality, if he got nasty, he could take 1/2 of everything of yours legally. Time to get some money coming in!
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    I believe also the bible has been rewritten more times than any other book known to man. Of course it's changed and been altered over time. Who knows what's true anymore? What you feel in your heart, and what you act out on Earth...that's the truth.
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    I actually have some interesting ideas on this. There are so many different concepts of God because God has sent many people and beings alike to represent the different people of the world. Jesus, Buddha, the Dahli Lama...they are all servants of God. I don't believe that there's only one 'right religion' and whoever is wrong is getting kicked out the acceptance line in Heaven. God only wants you to believe in Him and follow some moral teachings in your life, He doesn't value one over the other. We are put here without explanation or guidance, true. I believe we are all souls who have lived before, and that we choose our lifetimes. We pick our friends, family and life journey before we get here, and then we play it out the best we can. So why do we suffer so much then? That's planned too. Have you ever seen someone who lived the perfect life be more advanced in spirit and personality over 50 years of perfectness? Nope, me neither. We need the challenge and the struggle to advance our souls. That's the sole reason to come to Earth. We can't experience struggles in paradise. There's a hell, but I don't believe it's fire and flames the way we all picture. It's the hell of the mind. People who die and won't go to the light because they are too afraid to be judged. For example, you right now feel very disconnected from God. If you were to be hit by a bus and pass on, would you pass to the light, or hesitate because you think you'll go to hell? Souls who fear they won't be forgiven go to hell. The only hell is created by the mind. Certainly there are some truly evil beings there, but for the most part, it's filled with people who won't forgive themselves for their wrongs and won't pass over. Hopefully that helps
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    I'm so sorry you are feeling so hurt right now. I wanted to offer some suggestions for your time. Right now you have 'life routines' you have probably stopped due to being upset. Although it sounds weird, that's the worst thing you can do. Try to get back into the 'swing of things' and keep going. I would also look into a few new activities and hobbies if you aren't into the partying and clubbing. Join a new activity club that you enjoy and go by yourself! I have done this and met some really great friends. Big hugs!!!
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    In reality, if you really loved Alison, you wouldn't be considering leaving her for this other girl, it's that simple. "You just know." Those dreading words are very true. When I met my fiance a few years ago, we looked at one another and just knew this was it. I don't know how I have ever dated anyone before him, because if I knew this was the 'criteria for true love' I never would have bothered. I wouldn't have bothered trying to resolve and fix relationships where we were just too incompatible, and I would have spent more time alone assessing what I really wanted in a partner and in life. My suggestion: Be on your own for a while if you really have that much doubt. It's not fair to either girl.
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    She needs counseling, and she needs to want to change. She's been abused by her father, regardless of if she was his favorite or not, she learned negative behaviors about how to treat other people. Sadly, you come accross as the super nice guy who is willing to stick around and fight this through. I say sadly, because there's a high chance that this is purely who she is, and although triggered by her father's passing, doesn't mean it isn't rather natural for her. Read this article. link removed go to 'articles' then read "Identifying losers in relationships." It sounds rude, but really is an informative article by a psychologist. See if your wife matches these traits. Either way, she needs to be assessed by a professional. I actually dated someone like this for years and by the time I left, I was emotionally and financially spent. I left and have never been happier. I encourage to you help her, but not put up with her fits. If she isn't willing to do counseling, she isn't willing to change.
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    I actually act out learning patience. I force myself to let people infront of me in line at the store, I let people in during rush hour even if I feel they are driving inappropriately, etc. Sounds silly but I really try to teach myself to be patient with other people more than anything else.
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    Not a chance. Sorry!
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    Honey, welcome to enotalone. If you are looking for someone to listen, and for friends and advice, you have come to the right place. You have been through so much, and still are going through so much. You are so strong, and so able to pull through this. Never think you're problems are not as important as anyone else's. You are just as important as each one of us in God's eyes. PM me anytime, and I will check on this thread again shortly. BIG HUGS......
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    Please tell me I'm not the only 23 year old left that prefers to have a glass of wine and watch a movie at home on saturday night. Well I'm 25 and that sounds like the perfect evening to me! I hate the bar scene, and in fact, my fiance and I spend many a weekend doing just that.
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    I think if you're not happy in your relationship now you should break it off instead of looking for possible alternatives in the meantime, that's all. It's not fair to be with someone and they think you are committed to them, all the while you are out 'shopping around' for a new replacement.
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    You know what though, there's no better way to find out what you're getting into than living with someone. I thank God everyday that my ex and I lived together, otherwise I would have married him for sure. He put on a good act when we didn't live together.
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    Personally I think it's no one else's business if you live together or not before marriage!
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    we went for hours and apparently he didn't finish Honey, that doesn't matter. Pre-cum is just as capable of making you pregnant. And you are just as able to get pregnant during your period, especially at the beginning when it's possible the egg hasn't left your body yet. Sorry to make you worry, but you should know the truth. Probably it's stress induced, but take another test closer to your period.
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    She will replace me in 2 minutes flat. She really wouldnt care if I really left, because in the past, i have tried to leave and break up with her. By the time i arrive at my parents house which is 2 minutes away, shes already at some guys house getting it on. In all honesty, if you are constantly attracting unavailable women, there's something wrong inside of you and you should go to counseling. There's an unresolved issue there, and if you don't deal with it, you will continually attract these women. Why would you want someone who will replace you in a moment's glance? She obviously isn't in love with you then. Someone you love should be irreplaceable. Sadly there is no 'quick way' to get over someone. The best way to do it is to deal with it rather than 'pushing it under' where the issues will resurface over and over again. I highly recommend counseling. You'd be very surprised what your childhood and past experiences bring into your future.
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    I did really well and my references were contacted...keep your fingers crossed for me!!!
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