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  1. Beyondthesea
    Dude, you are completely wasting your time. She is not going to change. Her personality disorder is not going to change. Why stay and let all this continue? You will always have to worry about her cheating on you and being out with hundreds of other men. Being beaten is no excuse and if she really felt that unloved she would leave you. So why does she keep you around? For a safety net. First thing you should do: kick her out. Second thing: Be tested for every STD known to man.
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    Jobs that say they are entry level when you apply for them. Reception, filing and data entry clerks, etc are all entry level positions. Entry level means you aren't coming in a place experienced in something, but they are probably willing to train you.
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    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence...remember that. That's my only advice.
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    There's nothing wrong with exploring your options. Hand out a few resumes and see what else is out there for you. Retail positions really drain me as well, as the public tends to do that. Regardless of if you are a cashier or in sales, etc. dealing with the public all day can be exhausting and mentally draining. Have you ever applied for entry level administrative work? There are plenty of offices that hire part-time. Not only is this experience very valuable, but it's also less stressful than working with the public.
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    I just went back and read through your issues with this woman...why the heck have you stayed this long?
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    were getting married in a month Wrongo! Time to call off the wedding! There is absolutely nothing you can do to 'make her' different. Have you approached her and told her you've seen all this??? You have to do that and I'm sorry to say, it's time to pack up and leave. She has big issues that need to be dealt with.
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    You 'want that' because you are so used to it hon. You expect that behavior, and no one is fitting the mold right now, so you're trying to get ahold of your mom to do it instead of T. I don't think you're crazy, I think you've been through a VERY difficult past 13 years, and you need to find a new and better life, whether that be where you are or somewhere else. And I think you need to be more choosy about who you associate with. Being as kind as you are draws in a lot of negativity...interestingly. Sadly I find that the truly kind at heart are the ones they are the most drawn to.
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    With regards to your friend, I would go anyway. Sure, you'll see the ex, but you need friends right now.
  9. Beyondthesea
    Maybe later when things calm down. I am not sure. Definitely wrong answer babe. Of course he's sorry now, he has no one to abuse and ridicule. Sorry but he has no 'sorry' on his mind...he has his own ideas on his mind. He tried to get you back into his life with threats and anger and you didn't respond as planned, so now he's getting desperate and trying the "I'll change!" thing. I'm really sorry he is giving you so much grief. In reality Ren, you have to ask yourself, what on Earth could you possibly miss about him? You don't even like him. You two are complete opposites. He is a mean, uncaring and unfeeling person who took advantage of you at every angle. Why would you miss that? It's called stockholm's syndrome. Yes, that's the problem in my opinion. Have you read that article by Dr. Joe Carver on it? It's completely true, and it makes so much sense. You are only addicted to the highs and lows this relationship offered you, nothing else. And you are starving for attention so you tried and tried and tried to please him, and once in a while he would throw you a scrap of attention. So he can't be that bad right? If once in a while he's a nice guy? He must have potential. WRONG>>>>This is why every single woman stays in an abusive relationship. Besides the fact that they think they can change him, this is the reason why. Someone demonstrating they are cruel, mean and intolerant of others and once in a while giving a smile doesn't excuse their constant other behaviors. That is the real issue. Why haven't you blocked his emails? Are you hoping there will be some sort of happily ever between you two? I assure that's not the case. Stop torturing yourself with him and seek some counseling. I assure you, the abuse you suffered is just as bad as being in an abusive dating relationship. Gotta break the cycle babe.
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    One is an administrative assistant in an architect firm (LOVED it there) and the other is as an office administrator, which I'm not as keen on but am going anyway.
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    Hi guys! I have two interviews today. I already had one and did a great job at it, and now I have another in an hour or so...keep your fingers crossed for me! HUGS! Beyondthesea
  12. Beyondthesea
    The first thing is to deal with whatever issue arose to cause the breakup to begin with, then to deal what was underneath that: lack of communication, lack of trust, etc. You really have to delve within yourselves and ask why it happened.
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    I really don't like the idea of fasting. It's hard on your body, not to mention your mind. Not eating doesn't do anything but put your body into a state of panic. It conserves all calories and water for fear you won't eat again for a long period of time. Then when you do start to eat again, your body will conserve it (AKA gain weight) to be sure you will have some extra in case this period of time with no food comes again. Thumbs down from me!
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    Buddy, call the police already. This is completely out of hand, and if she calls the police first, you'll be sorry she did. Always be defensive. By the time the chance comes to be offensive, you're already judged.
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    What you need to do is come up with a new routine for the weekends and times you were normally with him. Start doing things you love to do or are curious about but never tried. On Sat mornings I normally go for a walk or to the gym, then go home, watch a little tv or movie, then spend the evening with someone else, or reading, out at the movies, etc.
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    How are you doing today B? HUUUUUUUUGS!!!!
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    I'm so glad you're alright. It sounded terrifiying for you! Make sure you spend some time relaxing now, that must have been very stressful on you babe.
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    The other thing is that you could just go your senior year, then take one extra semester afterward no? Why can't you continue to go? High school is an absolute MUST now.
  19. Beyondthesea
    she did get out and is in a relationship with a guy that treats her like a queen hard to explain It's the same for me. Honestly, unless you've been through it you would never understand. It's the most weird thing I've ever been through.
  20. Beyondthesea
    "think before you speak, because you never say anything right!" Maybe we were dating the same abusive moron Everything you say is the same as what I went through...it's obvious these guys take a "how to be an abusive moron" course somewhere
  21. Beyondthesea
    Ok I just thought of an example of fate: Lately I've been telling myself I'm going to just take a quick online certificate rather than go back to school full time for teaching as I know I should do (it's all I've ever wanted). SO yesterday I went to a hiring agency and the woman in charge of human resources kept me there after hours explaining to me why I shouldn't do it. I never told her anything about my life or plans, just that I wanted to take the certificate. Everyone else agrees it's a good idea. But this woman would not budge saying it was NOT a good idea for me, and I'd be wasting time taking it. Why would a woman in HR be telling me this? She LOVES her job... Because fate is kicking me and saying "go be a teacher idiot."
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    Wow! Surprised at how many people do not believe in fate! I believe in fate 100%. We make the choices in our lives, but those times that we think "I just HAVE to do this" without any logical explanation...that's fate pushing us in the right direction.
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    If you two really loved one another, it wouldn't matter to you what your parents say. My family didn't approve of my boyfriend (now fiance) at first, and you know what? I told them that he came with me, and if they didn't like it, then I wouldn't see them anymore, period. If you really love her, tell your parents it's too bad for them and you will be with who you want. They don't have to like the idea, but it's your life. Period.
  24. Beyondthesea
    I tell you, being sucked into an abusive relationship can happen to ANYONE. I was always a strong, happy woman who had many friends, a loving family, getting a lot of attention from men, yet I turned into someone I barely recognize. Me too. No one who met me would EVER believe I would put up with such treatment. I was very strong, confident and outgoing. Now I'm a fraction of who I used to be.
  25. Beyondthesea
    Yeah, he's definitely abusive and has manipulated her into thinking this is right. Do you have any contact with her family?
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