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  1. Indirect
    Look, he is not sure about the current relationship. I am not going to speculate about his intentions but apparently he can't make up his mind and taking you for a emotional rollercoaster as you are a very sensitive person. From what I've read, this is NOT a healthy relationship. There are other guys out there who decisive about their decision. If you like getting hurt over and over, then stay but please reconsider before putting yourself through this. Be strong. Remember, you always learn from your relationships what to do and what NOT to do.
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    Well obviously during vaginal entercourse, the penis is putting a pressure on the bladder with the certain angel. Anyway, I can't remember whether I read about a similar scenario or heard it over "Love Line" but I believe it's nothing to worry about.
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    Exactly the opposite. Communication is everything in sex as a matter of fact if she/he (not that I am gay just trying to make my point gender[less]) doesn't ask, I would usually infer that she doesn't care about pleasing me. The reason I am saying this is because every guy is different. Some like teasing, some like kissing the private parts, some... Well you fill out the rest. If you do it with passion is what it counts. I don't know, maybe it's different in Eurpose since you guys are more liberal. One technique you can use is to massage the testicals as you give a head, GENTELY. And watch out for your teeth, that's just too painful if you are not too careful. There are times that the shaft doesn't get much of attention (not lubricated enought) and too many hand stroks can cause skin irritation. P.S. Please practice safe sex. Thank you.
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    Hey equinox, I respect your wishes. Some people, no matter how much others insist on "Oh you will find someone," they simply not built to be loved by "everyone." BUT I would like to add that it is only matter of talking statistics; equinox chances of getting hooked is 75% and Indirect's chance is 2%. It's all relative. What I would like to say is don't shut your longings to find a companion entirely. You never know, maybe someone comes along that really into you then you would have a trouble of breaking your habits of shutting people out. By the way, you are only 19, things may change in the next few years and blossom so to speak. Stop eating junk food not because you need to get in shape for "girls" but for yourself. You feel lethargic? It's because you don't exercise. Go play some sport and don't plan your life based on finding a date. Let the date come to you.
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    You are right on the spot Jadtt, good for you. This is a very healthy way of starting off a solid relationship. I am not indicating any promise but just wanted to congratulate you on your values. Apparently he is respecting your wishes so just see where this relationship would take you.
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    What's with all guy bashing? You just basically gave him an ultimatum; it is not like you guys constantly were in fight or anything. From what you said, total opposite. You guys were happy together then all of a sudden you break it to him either you marry me or get lost!!! Is having him loving you for the rest of your life more important of a signature on a paper? Don't you think you ruined a perfect relationship by your action. Hey, if it was about having a kid together, that's another issue. You didn't leave him any option, simple as that. Anyway, I guess marriage as we know it was more valuable than what you had going on. But please, next time when you start a relationship, let your partner know that your ultimate goal is to get married and make SURE he wants the same thing. If he owns you money and you know for the fact this is over, resolve the financial matters now before it gets too late. With him paying half the morgage for some period, he may try to duck some of the debt. One last remark: Did you ask him that he is not marrying you because he doesn't see you as not worthy of a wife or he just doesn't believe in whole marriage shananegan?
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    Beside the whole your wife's issues with your family, I think you two sleeping in a different bedrooms over marital issues is childish. Every couple has a fight now and then but you are living under a same roof. If you continue doing that, the next year, everytime you got into a fight, one of you's going to stay overnight at a hotel or an inn. Don't go sleep on a couch, get back to your own bed. You guys aren't a child anymore, you have a kid at hand. Act like adults. Some of the issues she may have with your family is unreasonable or perhaps what we heard here is one sided, I don't know. But why don't you guys sit down one day and go over everything that triggers her anger towards your family. Maybe she got a point, maybe she is not being reasonable.
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    Some people watch porn as others watch sports. No big deal to them. It's just a matter of preference. If your morals prohibits you from viewing such content then look for a companion that shares the same set of ethics. As for the e-mail addresses, are they spams or direct contact with other people? If so, how did you snoop around into this e-mail? And why didn't you confront them indirectly about it? Just remember, next time you meet someone, after a few dates, get this issue out of the way and tell him that porn is a deal breaker to you so later on you don't end up getting hurt. Hey, at least you learned in this relationship that you can't tolerate pornography.
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    Many people who commit a rape, they really don't think about the pain and suffering they are putting their victim through. I think there are many elements that would cause someone to go through such act. As it was said, control is one them. Moreover, it is a thrill to them; something that get them aroused by seeing others suffer due to their own emotional torment that they have probably gone through as an abused child. Perhaps it is some of learnt behavior when you go through years of abuse, you want to inflict this pain to others.
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    I would say let him go because your emotions are going up and down like a yoyo.
  11. Indirect
    I like cheesballs. This thought probably has occurred to everyone at some point. Knowing you are passing a certain age barriar and haven't done much with your life and all... Ya, it can be shocking. My advice is now that you are single, try to find a new hobby. Try new things and be open minded about it.
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    The bottom line is that all comes down to how your presense and chrisma would attract others and how they perceive you. If you start getting attention, well obviously your shyness would go away. You would break the shell and become more "visible." So it all depends on how you develop your self-confidence and the way you present yourself to others. Just like a best-selling product. People buy in masses beceause there is something about it. Maybe it wasn't at first but now it's "talking" to them.
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    Well visiting a few gay websites can hardly constitute of someone being gay. Maybe he is just curious. Maybe one of his friends is gay and he wants to know what it's all about. A lot of porn sites would falsely direct you to gay porn pages. On top of that, not dating an opposite sex for "a few months" surely doesn't mean he is gay. I haven't been on a date for 7 years and I am not gay... Maybe a loser but not gay. It's nice that you are looking for his wellfare but I think a bigger problem is his isolation. Maybe he's depressed about something and he needs to be helped.
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    Being gay or straight is irrelevent in my opinion. It all depends how much of good person you are inside and how you treat others. Unfortunately, in our society, people put too much weight on the mating aspect of socializing. thereforeeee, every little thing convergs to sexual perferences because you are constantly looking for someone to initiate a relationship with.
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    Ilove2k, I am sensing that you still have some unresolved issues with how you were cheated on by your ex(es)! It's natual in a monogamous relationship for the cheated party to be upset or angry. But I think after year or two, you should have had this behind you and move on. By no means, I am suggesting to forget about it but rather realize that there are people out there who just simply not willing to stay in a monogamous relationship. And for pimp-callings... That just plain dumb and people say it just to validate their wrong doings. When you glorify a bad deed, you usually assume it would lessen its degree of wickedness.
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    So I take it he attempted to commit suicide! I guess none of us can really speculate why he did it but obviously something that pained him so much that made him to make such decision. You are his brother, go talk to him but do not force him into it. Be more of a good friend, supportive, and let him come to you. He needs a companion the most rather than a big brother at this point. Hope he gets better.
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    I am not coming out with some concrete scientific statistic but everyone's need and stamina is different. Some people can do it many times and go on with no or less effect on their normal life. Everyone's different. Too much masturbation indeed would take away your ability to concentrate because let's be honest, when you are thinking about doing it, the whole preperation or anticipation can take away your capability to focus on other tasks. Anyway, the point I would like to make is, try finding something else to do instead of constantly pondering about masturbation. Try to occupy yourself with other stuff as much as possible so you can take your mind off it. Masturbation is pleasant, just too much of can have negative consequences, just like everything else in life, not necessarily physical but mentally.
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    Umm... Ok, I would consider that very disrespectful. He could've said something in regards to being tired or exhausted but to come out and blantly say you had your fun by pleasing me... I don't know. Look, he is a decade older than you are and he may view your behavior or attitude as a bit immature in his standards or not his age, maybe not; I am just speculating. Anyway, what he should realize is that you, too, have feelings and it must be respected. Once the essense of repect deminished in the relationship, there is nothing to go on for. From what I can see, you are a very sensitive person and he is not going to play along with that. Apparently, you guys aren't that compatible. Maybe you can talk to him about this and convince him to change his attitude but I highly doubt he would.
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