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  1. Indirect
    Friend with benefits... What do you think? Of course he is going to get upset everytime you decide to talk to IC--that's no brainer. He wasn't your companion and you guys shared no love, at least in your current boyfriend's eyes. Now if you incessantly bring up his name with such and such, naturally he's going to pull up a defensive wall. Yes, he has a kid but that still doesn't take away the fact your libertin history of what not with him which is going to constantly flash in your boyfriend's head when the subject turns to what you have done with him. Put yourself in his shoes see how he feels. If you love your boyfriend enough to cut your ties with IC, then do so as soon as possible. Otherwise, move on to someone who doesn't mind having IC in your life.
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    Are you sure this is just a termporary situation? Back in my university, professors sometimes were out of town for a week or so but they would have announced it before departure--and it was usually at the beginning of the semester, argh. I don't suppose any professor, at least in good schools, would abandoned his class entirely. Anyway, find out when the professor is coming back. Discuss any question about the topics you have covered so far with other classmates as in study groups. Early materials are usually essential as a foundation for the rest of semester--make sure you master them. I don't what school you go to, but isn't the TA supposed to cover the topics first then do the problems? Or is this just a recitation of some sort?
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    From what I read, it seems like you respect others' privacy deeply. No, I am not being sarcastic--I am like that too. If I happen to unvail someone's secret unintentionally, I will keep it to my grave. You just happened to be a very intimate person and you play the incident over and over. Maybe it's his picture, maybe it's someone else's. Just forget about it and don't make such a big deal out of the situation--for yourself that is.
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    Good for you. She is with someone else now which means if she contacts you, it wouldn't be to reignite the hampered relationship. May I ask what traits she wanted you to work on? Drugs? Being too nice?
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    Let's be honest: He is a horny guy and you have a v*****, that's what you guys have in common. I can hardly think of a college guy having much in common with a 15-year-old. I am not going to talk about what or what not you should do--but I would say this: If you are uncomfortable with continuing your activities with him, you must stop. If you don't, it may well develop into something more serious now or later on, emotionally and psychologically. I know you like the attention you are receiving from the opposite sex, but this is not the way to a healthy relationship.
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    TiredMan, I am sorry but I haven't been able to help Hopeofheart at all since I haven't been around from the start. I was just merely trying to explain to some of the posters that their method of confronting him would not go as they hope. To me helping Hopeofheart is to help him find a job. Have I done that? No. So I am no better than anyone else. I just hope it's not too late.
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    I don't feel safe going to a house with bunch of strangers and cuddle!!! That just sounds so weird and unsafe as much as their site suggests especially for girls. The funny thing is erections are allowed you are not just allowed to dry humped!!!
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    Bethany, the point of people coming here is to get helped. As it was mentioned by a few posters, you don't just come out bluntly expecting someone who's on the edge to pull himself out. You are just taking all the human factors out of the equation. From what it's said by the original poster, his problem lies in the realm of finding a job to be independent of his abusive family. I have seen many emotional problems instantiating due to lack of job opportunities among younger people. Bethany, the way you address your statement leaves no room for any hope. Remember, you are trying to help people not push them away by being blindly assertive. Listen to what he has to say then make your comments. From his stand point, he does not need a shrink but rather a job (apparently not the one he currently has). Again, free clinic is not the answer, show him a career agency.
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    Ya, what were you implying with the rose you gave him?
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    You know you have a strong will when you can go out without a condom and knowing you can stop yourself from going further.
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    dumped

    Indirect replied to bek's topic in Relationship Advice

    The question is whether you want to be with a guy who takes drugs and dumps you when he hits the pick? Is it worth you going through this emotional rollercoaster everytime he selfishly pops a happy-pill?
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    I just don't understand why people even bother reading a book by a guy who also written books with "Marilyn Manson, Motley Crue, Dave Navarro, and Jenna Jameson"? Oh please, give me a break. Do you want to know someone or you want to act like a pimp? Hey, if your thing is to treat women like an object go for it. This book is probably just a cheap imitation of yet another How-To-Get-ANY-Women-To-Sleep-With-You. It's about some guy's findings on online dating for god sake. Meaning: How to lie. As long as you have a good heart and not an ill-willed person, you'll find someone eventually. What I am trying to say is, I respect your attempts to improve your social skills, but these sort of books are not the answers. The key is inside you.
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    What is up with you people and being so obsessed with calling each other every single day!!! Yes, you are dating each other but you are not each other's slave. I mean come'n. Nobody's being pushy here, give each other a bit of space. It's great that you talk often but if he doesn't call one day of a week doesn't mean he's running off dropping a dodo. People go to work, go to school, they are busy. Not saying you should see each other once every month but if you are getting upset over him not calling as often as before... Well then you expectations are high.
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    I wouldn't go for it, sorry. But that's just a rule of the thumb everyone knows. No dating or fooling around in the following places: 1- Work 2- School 3- Neighbor 4- Friend's or relative's ex or current gf/bf/wife/husband If you do, you are asking for trouble.
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    Ok, was he physically abusive towards you the whole time? Or was it more like you pushed his botton and he the same thing so you guys couldn't get along? And what do you mean with him saying "I need time?" Time for what? Time to get married or time to "I need to find myself or see where I am standing in this relationship?" You are pregnant, literally homeless, wondering around with no solid emotional and financial support... No wonder you feel sad. I am so sorry you are in this situation but if I were in your shoes, I would be REALLY down. Do you have a more supportive base like a family member (mother or father) that can help you at this moment? How are you coping financially? Listen, I am not really good at cheering people up but you feeling depressed may eventually have some negative effects on your baby. I am glad at least you have friends that are willing to house you. What about your ex-bf? Is he going to support you financially during pregnancy?
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    Umm... Well, who uses his real name online anyway? I mean not just because of a person being dishonest but rather being cautious. From my point of stand, I think you are blowing it way out of proportion. Unless he confessed to you some of his deep secrets. Look, at least he was honest enough to come out and tell you that his real name is not xyz. I hardly consider this a deception but again, everyone's different. Just take it easy and tell him you want to be cut and dry about everything. Remember, when you meet someone online, since there is no physical contact, always assume he/she is not 100% protraiting him/herself.
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    Try to be friendly but not flirtatious. You don't feel like to be with him, then you shouldn't. Let him know you are still "illegal" in most states.
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    You hang with players, you start acting like them: Playing and disrespecting your potential mate. Be yourself and go with the flow. If you were meant to be with someone, then it would happen. If people don't like who you are, then changing yourself would ultimately going to take you down the bumpy road. You'll crack someday...
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    I don't know for some reason I get a giggle when I hear another quickie story. But beside that, I've heard some women urinate moderately when they reach the climax. I am not talking about squirting or female ejaculation bur rather the actual urine. It's out of their control and apparently there is no known cure for it. Just wanted to share that.
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    Ok, I know the abortion can be emotionally draining (oh who am I kidding, I am a guy) but one thing I wanted to ask: Is there anyway you can ask the father of child to compensate or share the payment? Or is he one of those people that would go crazy over having an abortion? I mean, after all, it's his kid too and he should, if agrees, pay half the bill.
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    I do find a ripped out male body appealing but I am not gay. But if you can imagine yourself sexually intimate with the same sex, not just for the thrill, then I think you are gay, or at least bi.
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    The first try, well he just thought you might be interested in him but you pushed him back with no determination. So I take it he thought you are playing shy or caught off guard so he went for the second try... Anyway, do I think you are mean... Oh yes absolutely... Come'n, you weren't attracted to him so you made him know that you don't want to be kissed. That doesn't make you mean. I bet he probably thought you were but let's put into percpective: If I don't like someone to kiss me, I reject her first attempt but if she comes back for more, naturally I get defensive towards her "quest" and make sure she realize my discontent. In the process, you may come out as someone with no heart but you don't have to go against your own feelings, never. That's all to it. Don't worry about it; he'll forget about the whole thing the next week.
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    Either she is in the middle of stage of sexual transition OR she is just playing you. Either way, she should have been more honest with you but what is obvious is that she no longer wishes to be with you. As hard as it sounds, try to move on. You feelings are hurt and that is no surprise and I'm sorry for that.
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    Ok, I didn't quite get what happened and how you came out to both of them at the same time! Did you just blantly tell them on a separately occasions or were they together when you broke the news to them? Look, multiple dating can be viewed as shopping for the same product in the store. Well, people are not products and when you treat them as such, understandably, they wouldn't be too happy. You usually try to go into the relationship with the mind set that you are the only one. When that trust is violated, you can't expect them to be all jolly and happy about it. They probably think to themselves you played them... From your last comment, I really don't think you "MUST" be with either of them. There are other guys out there; start fresh.
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    Yes, many people feel the same way as you do, some don't. People go through phases in their lives. At some point, you may loosen up your set of values and go with the flow. Later on in life you would find it hard to just get with anyone. I'm glad that you are reaching a wise decision to value love over mindless sex. Thank you for sharing that with us.
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