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  1. phishgirl
    FIRST: you should wait for him to contact you. If so, it depends...if you are interested in rekindling a friendship/relationship with him, then be nonchalant and TEXT him this first... "Hey, been a while, what's up?" or, "Hi, what are you up to now?/ How are you?". If not, and you feel guilty not responding, say, "What's up" or "Hey, how are you?" with no question mark...this is the key. Interested or not, make sure you use ? if interested, none if not.. In general, though, you should make sure whether or not he has a gf though..
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    There have been scabbed knees and in the small of my back from carpet burn (my knees still have scars) ..and also from when anal activities were involved that take a couple days' recovery from..
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    Your length is probably pretty respectable...I doubt it will grow more unless you think you're getting taller too. BUT, I agree with the other posters that it's not size that matters so much, it's the way you use it.
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    Have you tried initiating your concerns to your parents? Perhaps they don't have enough information about what you're up to in your life (school, interests in sports, or movies, music, ANYTHING) to know what to discuss with you! Let them into your life a bit...same with people you're trying to become friends with. Find out about current events, and what's going on in the world, and learn about things that interest you-then bring it up with your parents or peers to begin a discussion. Perhaps they don't know how to engage with you....bring something up that DOES interest you and you'll find that others are willing to listen and engage. Check out link removed, or look up things on the internet that interest you, and talk to them about what you've researched.
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    if this is true based on the truth of your sources, you should break up with her. You should not subject yourself to this pain of her sneaking around on you, which is what she is doing (despite the fact that you may have suspected). Please spare yourself the pain and let go of her UNLESS she is willing to commit to you and you alone. Feel free to PM me.
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    James-you're NOT abnormal whatsoever--get that out of your head RIGHT NOW. You know what you like. You have likely had a crush or been attracted to others in the past. BUT-difference is- you haven't acted on your attractions, or have been too afraid to. Consider this, as I have lived by this rule: never have regrets about what you haven't done. Ask someone out. Think this when you do: WHAT WILL I HAVE ACTUALLY LOST IF I ASK THIS PERSON OUT FOR A DATE AND THE ANSWER IS NO??? What I consider later when putting myself on the line like that is this: will I ever see this person again? Likely not, as I am free. I can do as I please. i can remove myself from this situation as my life is my own. My philosophy. Utilize whether you agree. I asked my bf out when I was 6 years younger and unexperienced (never had a bf before) and never thought I'd have a chance. We've been together for over 4 years.
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    DaXman- ASK THIS GIRL IF SHE'LL GO WITH YOU!!! It seems quite obvious to me that she's giving ALL the hints to you that she's interested. IM her tonight if you can and see if she's online. Honestly, you have a great chance, from her comments. Talk to her tomorrow, and ask her what her plans were in how to get to the HC dance, etc. If she's kind of vague, or saying something about going with so-and-so GIRL friends, then ASK HER OUT!! She seems flirtatous with you. Remember, you only live through high school once...who knows what this may lead to? Take a chance!
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    Hey, what does it hurt to try it with a girl? You seem very comfortable alone, but perhaps a bit isolated as well. There IS such a thing as a relationship between two people who are isolative. Maybe she's it. You'll never know until you try. If 'she' is, best of luck. If not, keep trying. Those who are interested in you are likely those who value your independence and need for 'aloneness'.
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    It sounds as though you two have been through a lot emotionally, mainly due to the abuse or her pills. This fact seems to have distorted your entire relationship and impaired her judgement significantly, which likely is causing you to react and behave how you did in response to her. Obviously, her addiction is the chief issue in your relationship that is causing the discord and distrust. She is unable to be a good girlfriend because of this, and will continue to be so in the future unless she addresses this addiction. I feel that the only thing you can do at this point if you wish to salvage your relationship is to encourage and support her to go to rehab again and to see a therapist. Typically those who abuse substances have 'skeletons in the closet' that they try to avoid by self-medicating. Your girlfriend is likely to have deeper issues that you may or may not be aware of that cause this behavior and abuse. I feel all you can do at this time is to encourage her to heal herself through treatment, as she does not seem ready for a relationship right now until she improves her own well-being. To try to get back together with her at this point would be futile and painful for you. Right now, you should simply be there for her and support her in recovering from her difficult substance abuse..
  10. phishgirl
    I'm on Alesse too. If you've just begun this type of B.C., it takes 7 days for it to be effective and to absorb it into your system -IF- you take it every day wihout missing a dose. It is recommended that you use some other form of B.C. at this time. After this period, the Pill is 99.9% effective alone, and condoms are used with it as extra protection as well as blocking STD's. However, if you're sure your bf is STD-free, you should be fine. I do recommend condoms as a back-up, though, just to be extra careful. Beware of 'spotting' and periods a week early, however, as I have experienced this on Alesse for several months as a side effect.
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    Oh, by the way, how old are you?
  12. phishgirl
    Phillip, it sounds as though you're extremely concerned about everyone you meet being a government official who has access to your personal thoughts and conversations. Has anyone else you know been present during these conversations, may I ask? (Besides when you went to dinner with your family and your sister's boyfriend made that comment)
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    It sounds like you are very frustrated and stressed about your situation, and your mother and boyfirend are unsure of your needs and how to help you. What is going on in your life that makes you so down?
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    link removed As a healthcare provider for those with chronic illnesses, I can understand your frustraion and uncertainty. All one who is ill can ask for is "support". This ultimately means this: 1)Validate your boyfriend's illness-assure him that it's 'real' and that he's not alone in facing fibromyalgia. 2) Let him know that despite his debilitating illness, that he has a very strong role in your life. Honestly, when people are sick, they wish for a sense or normalty just like anyone else. Tell him what happened at work today and request his advice. Tell him of your frustration with getting the laundry done, the dishes cleaned, etc, and let him know that his role was very valuable in these apects. 3) Support him and visit him frequently-avoid his consistent pain and catch up on entertainment gossip, fashion magazines you'll bore him with , or anything else that distracts you both from his pain and fatigue. Point is, ultimately BE NORMAL. No one who is sick wants to be treated like a 'patient'. Let him know you love him and include him in your life until he improves.
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    Well, to me, it sounds like it's simply her nature to call EVERYONE honey,sweetie, etc. I don't kow the girl, but it's not unusual for 'hot' girls to refer to people this way. This is the experience I've had with 'hot' girls too, even though I'm a female, and it seems more habit than anything. OK-you've called her 20 times-got no response. You set up a date with her-she cancelled. If I were you, I'd move on. Sounds like she's more about the pursuit than the actual date-congrats, I believe you've validated her hotness. Plenty of genuine girls out there-you deserve better.
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    Well...it seems to me that perhaps there are two things going on: either: 1)He is shy, hasn't dated much, and is ultimately akward around girls and unsure of how "far" to take things, as he has no clue as to what the standards are per date- and you know, things move a LOT faster with twenty-somethings than with teenagers, OR 2) He's been hurt in the past by another girl, or someone who he was interesteed in or has rejected his responses. Another theory-he's simply an introvert and enjoys others taking control. MY ADVICE: If you're the physical type, let him KNOW that you want to take things further. If you're the 'talk it through' type, then TALK to him about it ! What have you got to lose either way?? You HAVE to address this with him, in whichever way you feel comfortable. Then you'll know the deal---you'll only know and decide then whether he's worth keeping. PM me or give an update and let us know his deal.
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    Lifeintransit- First of all, simply consider your name: you're a man on the move, ready to see what else your life holds for you. In this regard, it appears to me you have already moved on mentally in terms of your girlfriend. True, it seems you love her with all your heart and always will, but it's very apparent you're searching for other things in life before settling. Whether this girl may be the one of your dreams, ultimately, you desire something more than marriage, kids, and a dog at this point. You can't deny the fact that you're simply NOT ready to settle down. It would not make you happy, and also consider if you were with your girlfriend for the long term--you'd only make her unhappy as well in knowing you can't commit at this time in your life. It sounds as if you're still needing some independent soul-searching withiin yourself, something your current girlfriend cannot participate in. Please, remember your girlfriend has very strong feelings too, and respect that. Let her know how much you love her and that you must let her go in order to not leave her stranded without you, knowing you likely won't return to her. Explore yourself, but let your girlfriend go gently. Tell her how much you love her, but that you have too much exploring and soul-searching to do before you find yourself. Tell her how much she means to you, and that you don't want to hold her back with your excursions-that some other more appropriate mate will find her and love her like you won't be able to do until you ultimately find yourself. Give her the release she needs if you're not ready to commit to her. Be a man about it. Good luck-rememer HER side.
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    Lifeintransit- First of all, simply consider your name: you're a man on the move, ready to see what else your life holds for you. In this regard, it appears to me you have already moved on mentally in terms of your girlfriend. True, it seems you love her with all your heart and always will, but it's very apparent you're searching for other things in life before settling. Whether this girl may be the one of your dreams, ultimately, you desire something more than marriage, kids, and a dog at this point. You can't deny the fact that you're simply NOT ready to settle down. It would not make you happy, and also consider if you were with your girlfriend for the long term--you'd only make her unhappy as well in knowing you can't commit at this time in your life. It sounds as if you're still needing some independent soul-searching withiin yourself, something your current girlfriend cannot participate in. Please, remember your girlfriend has very strong feelings too, and respect that. Let her know how much you love her and that you must let her go in order to not leave her stranded without you, knowing you likely won't return to her. Explore yourself, but let your girlfriend go gently. Tell her how much you love her, but that you have too much exploring and soul-searching to do before you find yourself. Tell her how much she means to you, and that you don't want to hold her back with your excursions-that some other more appropriate mate will find her and love her like you won't be able to do until you ultimately find yourself. Give her the release she needs if you're not ready to commit to her. Be a man about it. Good luck-rememer HER side.
  19. phishgirl
    First, congrats! You'll make it through this, and when you see your baby it'll all be worth it. Currently Zoloft and Prozac are safe antidepressants to take during pregnancy. The only side effect is when the baby is born he/she will have withdrawal-meaning cramping for 48 hours, typically. For trouble sleeping, Benadryl 50-100mg is safe, too. You may want to talk to your dr. about getting on one of these meds if your depression is intolerable. (I'm a mental health case worker with two pregnant clients with depression-they're both on meds and their moods have improved dramatically! Another former client had a perfect baby after being on Prozac throughout the entire pregnancy.) Best of luck!
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    I've never had a vaginal orgasm-and I've been with my bf for 4+ years. Clitorally, oral/manual stimulation is easy. But during sex?? Absolutely not.
  21. phishgirl
    Likely not...you got your period AFTER this encounter? AND the week after? Sounds like your body isn't ready for pregnancy yet. This has happened to me before BEFORE I was on BC and I wasn't pregnant. Give it till next month, but if it still worries you, take an EPT or other test and wait till your period. I doubt you are. There's only an 11% chance for pregnancy, even unprotected. PLUS you got your period right afterwards. My periods vary in lengths each month- it's pretty common if yours is shorter or longer than normal. Don't worry.
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    SexySadie- I've been with my bf for 41/2 years. All this time, I've been TOTALLY AGAINST my bf even going to strip clubs!!! Well, just recently (and I mean 2 weeks ago) I agreed to accompany him to a strip club!! To inform you, this is TOTALLY against my values, for WHO would be so desperate to be employed by such an employer??? Well, when I went, he and I both bought each other lapdances, as I realized it was kind of a fun, humorous thing to participate in together, and not the nasty sexual thing I'd always imagined-BTW, I'm 24 years old. BUT-my bf and I have discussed the swingers issue and decided that it is JUST TOO MUCH for our particular relationship, as we value our own exclusive sexual relationship. We're both very interested, but realize that we love each other TOO MUCH to engage in sexual relations with others We feeel it's wrong as ultimately, it IS sex. A My bf is religious (Jewish) and I am agnostic. However, despite my bf's opinion, 'swinging' is STILL cheating, and NOT cool in committed relationships. I agree with all the posters above re: the validitly of swinging. I DEFINITELY agree it suggestgs sexual unfulfillment in a relationship and should not be pursued=and I'm Agnostiic!!! If you're strong and confident enough, let your friend know about the sacrifices he makes in loyalty to his SO, and find some different morally-based acquaintances in your church to spend time with, PLEASE! Phishgirl
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    I've been in the same situation may times with my bf of 4 years, but because of religious differences, mostly. (My bf is Jewish, I'm agnostic and from a family of "Christians", though non-church attending). First, make sure religious differences aren't the issue. If not, then think about whether or not your cousin is aware of you and your bf's long-term relationship. Does she live far away and is uninformed of you and your bf's commintment together?? Maybe her mom didn't tell her about you two, or she simply didn't consult her about her family's situation re: significant others. (I barely know about my own cousins' romantic situations, and they live only 60 miles away!!) Lastly, I agree with the posters above. Maybe she's trying to have a small wedding and trying to avoid large wedding expenses at all costs. Don't be offended, as I have never been, despite how long I've been with my bf. If the family's not particularly close, perhaps they aren't in tune with the relatives' current romantic situation. Ask your bf about his relationship with his cousin, and you will find your answer. Phishgirl
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    Xenaks- Yes, I've been in a relationship like this, as the female, being hot-and-cold to my ex of four years. He was stifling my social life WITHOUT him, which I later realized was simply jealousy, and his thoughts that something was going on that WASN'T. To address your situation, YES, you do still have a chance. Call her sporadically, and I emphazise this, to let her know she's still on your mind. BUT....don't address your relationship together-make it small talk. Don't overwhelm her with ANY feelings towards her. Tell her about the movies, bands, etc. you recently saw WITHOUT her and if you know her interests, say something like, "you would have loved this "(movie, concert, etc") you went to. She'll be curious. But DON'T PUSH IT. I ordered a book I ordered from link removed called "How to Win Your Lover Back" which gave me some guidelines on what NOT to do, mostly. The book is mainly based on those who still have contact with their significant others-recommended, but if you don't want to buy, basically it tells you not to push your other back into a relationship, but to simply lead your life w/o them and to tell them how you've been progressing without them without judgement towards them. This may benefit you too, but likely doesn't tell you things you don't have the common sense for: Don't push the relationship, ask her about HER life, don't bring up anything regarding the relationship until SHE'S ready. You have a chance...give her space, and let her realize her new life without you on her own. If she wants you back, she'll let you know, definitely. Give her time. If you dated her for 7 months, you've obviously made an impact on her life. Give her time. Call her every 1-2 times a week or so, mostly 1x a week. She'll call you if she's still interested. Best of luck. Remember, there are MANY others out there too. Phishgirl
  25. phishgirl
    Hey, sounds like you're her 'rebound' relationship. She sounds very tied up in her former boyfriend, and she seeks very much support in you. She needs to realize her losses on her own; you are possibly in the role of 'supporter' that she needs now so she doesn't feel alone while she's coping. If you want this to work with her, initiate no contact until she has dealt with some of her issues. Only then will you be able to tell for sure if her interest is in you, not just someone to support her in her breakup recovery stage. You seem to be a generous, thoughtful person, and if you would allow her to have her space and come to YOU, she will soon realize what she's lost and what she currently has in you.
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