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  1. jaiva
    I think that is normal to not think about sex all the time. What is not normal is the brain constantly pondering sex with anything that moves. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  2. jaiva
    I think being pregnant is the wrong reason to get married because if you don't love that person (you shouldn't have had sex with them) you shouldn't marry them and possibly ruin it for your child b/c they'll live in an unhappy house and won't know how a family is supposed to work. However, I think that you should talk to your husband and tell him that you are missing something in the relationship. Relationships are based on communication. Communication helps a relationship survive. Everyday make it imperative to tell your husband what you like about something he does and tell him what you think he could improve on to help the relationship thrive. But of course it has to be in a respectful tone or else he'll become very defensive and miss everything you are trying to say. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    Personal preferance about what it should look like. I prefer trimmed hair, shaving it off will cause a lot of irritation and itching when it is growing back. And a bush is very ungentlemanly to me. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    I agree. I can't tell exactly what day either. I don't think that you should worry. I believe that you should give it a little more time and see what happens. My cycle has changed constantly especially when I'm under stress or very excited. It is very rare that sperm transfers through clothing, but not unlikely. So after about a week or two it wouldn't be a bad idea to get a test. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    Well see I was dealing with the same issues yesterday, (not again ). But what I did was just not talk unless it is necessary. And eat all the chocolate you can get your hands on. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    Yes, a woman should never go to a bar alone. There are plenty of perverts/sex offenders looking to find vulnerable women out in the street. Its not safe these days. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    No never had a girl flash me but I had a guy show me his penis in Keyboarding freshman year. Jaiva
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    I agree with most of what was said. ~You can have your period and still be pregnant. ~You are too young to be having sex, especially since you are having unprotected sex. ~There are early pregnancy tests. (Tests you can take that will tell you whether you are pregnant before a lot of time has gone by.) ~You all (You and your BF) need to mature a little more before you decide to have sex, or at least do a lot of research on sex and its consequences. Hope I helped or prevented anything you'll regret (pregnancy, STDs, etc.) from happening! Jaiva
  9. jaiva
    Well, if you can't tell her write her a note. In the note tell her how you can verbalize what you want to say so you wrote her a note. Then tell her how you feel. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  10. jaiva
    That's kinda how I feel know and that poem perfectly describes it. Its a lovely poem. Continue to express yourself with words. Jaiva
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    NO sexual abuse is not okay even if the victim "seems" okay with it. Your sister probably doesn't want to deal with the hurt/ emotional distress it caused her. She'll eventually talk about it or seek help for it even if she doesn't get it from you. The thing that is most important is that if there are people in the future who do things that you know is wrong confront them when you can but do it calmly so they won't be automatically defensive. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    You need to know that you are beautiful no matter how many pounds you weigh whether its 85 or 500lbs. People only talk about people because they want to build their own self esteem or want to be "popular" or funny. I commend you on your working out, eating right and drinking H2O. I am only 127 but I have a gut that I don't find attractive and I can't motivate myself to exercise. But only exercise b/c you want to not b/c of what people say about you. Do it to make yourself feel better about how you look. I wish you well. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    MysteryMan, Well, since you two seem to be such good friends then you should be able to tell her that you'd like to date her, that is if you no longer have a gf. She should be able to accept that. And you have to know that if she says know than you have to accept that. But relationships really work when the two people are friends first. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    I understand how you feel. I had a friend try to kill herself too. If you can't contact her while she's in the hospital when she gets out tell her how much she means to you and tell her about your experiences. Tell her that you are available to try to help her with her probs if she'll let you. If you can contact her in the hospital then tell her then. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    I'm usually the one to help people but I have a lot on my mind right now and I'm very irritable, but maybe its just PMS. However, I gotta clear my mind of everything that is cluttering it. I'm in a lovely relationship. I love my Goofy dearly and with all of my heart, soul and mind. That's all there is to say about it. He's everything I've ever hoped for and I don't think I could get anyone better. However, my first love, Jacques, is always telling me how he loves me and that I'm his good luck charm and that what Goofy and I have is only temporary b/c I'm going to marry him and have his babies. Yes, I love him but I'm no longer in love with him. When we were together, I fell hard for him, real hard. He did something stupid, he now has a record for selling cannibis. He stopped talking to me b/c he was embarrased and thought that I was upset with him because I warned him the day before that if he tried to do that he would get caught and he didn't listen to my warnings. So when he moved he didn't tell me the new address or the new # and I was devastated b/c I couldn't get in contact with him. Well, after two years of no convo I finally got over him. Oh by the way he's always lived in PA so this has always been a long-distance relationship. So how do we know each other? He's my brother's god brother so he's always been in and out of the Chi. There is also this guy that I grew up with talking to me. We called ourselves a couple for about a day about a year or two ago. I like him but not like that. He's more like my bro but I think he wants more than that but I'm not going to assume anything. Now back to my Goofy, he is, like I said, practically perfect. He does little things that are really irritating, (he's attached to his video games and he'll ignore me when he's playing them, he gives to much time to is ex, the way he chews that damn gum, etc.) but if you think your mate is perfect you don't know them well enough and I know that. I would tell him what's going on in my head but I don't want him to think he has to worry about me straying from him to either of the other guys. Like I said I really don't know what's wrong with me or why I'm upset/irritable. I guess I just needed to vent. Jaiva
  16. jaiva
    If she doest threaten to kill herself you could call a hotline. Here is a website that you can check out for suicide or crisis help. link removed Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    I don't think he's necessarily gay. He might just be very interested/aggressive in politics and is very passive about gay rights or relationships. If you really want to know ask him about his sexual preference or talk about how he feels about homosexual relationships/ marriages, but it'll have to be like you're talking about politics at first then about homosexuals and their preferences. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  18. jaiva
    Every relationship is based on communication and commitment. Tell him what you'd like to happen and if he's ready for that he'll be willing to do that. Hope I helped! Jaiva
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    Other girls....

    jaiva replied to beachieca's topic in Jealousy

    I agree with most of what was previously stated. But my BF has a chick that calls him often and he practically curses her out everytime she calls and hangs up on her and she still continues to call. So your BF might be telling her that he doesn't want to converse with her but she continues to call. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  20. jaiva
    I'm not sure if I overlooked it but how long have you been drug free and sex free? B/c if it hasn't been that long there is always a chance of relapse. I think you both need to spend more time away from each other. She needs to have counseling herself b/c any person that is willing to go through all of that (your drug addiction and cheating) for 6 years needs some serious counseling. If after a year or two more you two feel that you still long for each other than you should get back together. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  21. jaiva
    Maybe you just need to spend time soul searching so that you'll know what type of girl makes you happy. When you are confident you will attract women who will want you. About what your friend said, no girl wants an a-hole for a bf. If they do then they have emotional issues. Everyone wants to be treated nicely, but they don't want to be smothered either. But like I said before, spend time with you (alone, w/o a gf or a significant other) so you can build your own confidence and know what will make you happy. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  22. jaiva
    Like I said earlier call 311 and tell them the situation. You can remain anonymous so the BF won't know that it was you who called. Jaiva
  23. jaiva
    I used to be like you, "Upset at the world," and making sure everyone knew it. What I did to improve my mood and attitude is I found a friend who I could talk to and tell everything that ever bothered me in life from the first thing that I could ever remember to the present. That person listened and helped me reason out the situations that bothered me and caused me to be angry even if I didn't know that it bothered me before I talked about it. You have so many emotions bottled up in side and it's hurting you. You have to talk about all of those things even the things that you never wanted to remember or even think about trying to verbalize. You should write down those things that you can't say. I'm willing to try to help you if you allow me to. I'm pretty good at reasoning and understanding. Hope I helped/can help! Jaiva
  24. jaiva
    You've stated that this is a man and your friend is 14 years old, but you didn't mention her parents. Where are her parents in this situation and why isn't she living with them? This man can be charged with statutory rape b/c she is a child. Even if he's never hit her yet all of his actions up to this point prove that physical abuse will be his next step. Your friend needs to get out of this relationship, pregnant or not. Have you informed your parents/guardians about this situation? You can call the police/311 or a school counselor and ask what you should do in a situation like this, b/c this is something serious. Hope I helped! Jaiva
  25. jaiva
    Tell her how you feel. Ask her how she feels. Jaiva
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