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  1. rightfromthestart
    "She says she's not ready for a relationship and that she "as lame as it sounds, just wants to be friends". this is about trust. don't over analyize of doubt her. believe in her. if she says she is not ready, then respect her words. simple stuff man.
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    I can't really blame him. I mean, she's 1000 times better looking than me. And he was always too good for me to begin with red flag! self-esteem issues galore. really try to not compare yourself to anyone else. u are unique. there is no else like you. remember that ok
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    ahhhhhhh..excuse me...how can u be virgins and be sexual activity. correct me if i am wrong but isn't a virgin someone that has not had sex, and isn't the notion of virginity a little dated in this day and age?
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    "I think its normal that people talk after they have broken up." i think what is normal to one person, isn't normal to someone else.,..and what the heck is normal anyways? i think normal means, what someone is capable of, comfortable with, and wants.
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    i agree. its just one day. take it off and do something fer yerself.
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    my 2 cents ahhhhhhhh, flirting! the initial dance of courtship and mating. well all do it - flirt. one word of advice - if someone hands you a rulebook about flirting, throw it away. because there are no rules, and you should never use someone else's ideas - learn your own ways. and remember flirting is really age related and situtaion. u flirt with that high school guy differently than you would meeting that 40 year old stock broker. you flirt differently in a bar filled with drunken sods, then you would on a sunday afternoon antique hunting. flirting is something that u learn and evloves and is your own and the way you flirt with one person you don't flirt the same way with another because everyone is unique. and flirting comes naturally, caused by attraction. if u have to think about it or plan it - then u will always miss the mark. my advice is show someone you care about them as a person without taking it out of yer pants [right away at least - lol].
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    my 2 cents. first of all, your reaction. this guy starts telling u something and you go 'blah, blah, blah'. big signal. tells him you are not interested in him. second, it sounded like u know a lot about him from just one meeting or two. if that is all you and he talk about then, that's another red flag. next, you are viewing what he is talking about in a negative way. just because he is telling you things about his past doesn't mean he is asking you to 'fix' anything - all he is doing is telling you about part of his life. he is giving u information about himself, and the fact that is has been so open with you means you are someone he trusts. and this information is not being given so u can 'counsell' him, its so you can understand and perhaps relate to it. maybe the way you digest information is different and perhaps u should look at maybe taking some communication skills courses. discussions do have to be about stuff like that u know. i think all he is doing is going with the flow and the connection he is getting from you, and obviously u have done the same or else he probably wouldn't have talked about it. plus, nothing better than setting the foundation early on. makes life much better. i would expect someone to do that with me and i am secure enuff to think its not all about the 'ex'. shhheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh.
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    my 2 cents, i have noticed a few posts where women when describing their ex use the word 'abusive' and then wonder if they are repeating past mistakes. first thing i notice, is the is no mention of what 'your' past mistake is but u mention what the other person was/did. what i would do is first, stop stating things about someone when they are not there to defend their position - that is not fair and when u set it up that way, it paints a picture only for your point of view. plus, when u have truly forgiven and moved on you will find no reason to use that word. next, instead of focusing on the 'illedged' abuse from the past [remember this is just your word and while it might be true, you can't be judge and jury and victim at the same time - rebuttal is required], focus on why u went out with someone like that, are u drawn to those types of men, examine what is just your role and then that is what will steer u clear in the future. also, try your best to not let your past influence your present, and while advice from mom is good - remember she hasn't lived your life so make up your own mind. one thing i have found that helps me, whenever i have posted here, is i talked about what happened in the past without asscoiating negative traits to the other, its more about dealing with the things i was resposnible for. shift the focus. it helps.
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    hey, never heard of an 'arrangement' like that where two people who once dated stayed together as friends with benefits while each of you find that special someone - sounds interesting. maybe i'll give that a try too and we can compare notes.
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    ultimatums are nothing but a sign of powerlessness .. they rarely work i don't know your whole story, but if she asked to get together after 4months, perhaps you could have taken things slow ... instead of giving her an ultimatum. like i said, i don't know your story. __________________ ... never give advice. the fools don't heed it, and the wise don't need it. ANYWAY guys - want your ex back? why??? if you insist, first look inside *yourself* and understand why you drove her away ... my favorite books for evicting the inner wuss in you ...
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    ifit was an illusion.
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    Once upon a time
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    my 2 cents.
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    call the police.
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    my 2 cents
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    i think we all lie
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    moving on.
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    The milk of human kindness
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    "I wake up.
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    here is my 2 cents, ]. end of story.
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    hey...maybe that's it!
  22. rightfromthestart
    whatever....its not rocket science people...no one should have expectations...just hang looseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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    maybe if he is "poking" you on facebook, he's frisky. lol or he saw ya snooozing and was waking u up
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    jebus... that poem
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    yah...i understand low libs man....i used to wanna do the deed 10 times a day...now i am down to 5.
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