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  1. rightfromthestart
    i think i dated one actually
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    hmmmmmmmmm....sounds like someone i used to date...only...part that is different is that people have confused my motivations... i don't love this person - i mean, come on! i just tried to show her how messed up someone has to be to do these things...i don't even know this person anymore... i mean.. come on people...this was over ages ago...i guess people think its strange for someone to simply want to help someone. but, i guess the moral of this story is in life - there are people that want to change and become better, and those who don't i gave myself a small window of time to spend on this and i just hoped to see some improvement...for her own sake...apparently not... oh well....i have punched my time sheet...take care willie coyote beep beep btw, i have kept all these banterings and used them as the conclusion to the scrapbook we started long ago...we took turns with the entries...it is an interesting read and the only thing i have kept u are welcome to read it sometime no worries captain fantastic...i really am done... stay kewl
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    hey....anti...i wasn't making fun or treating that lightly just trying to get ya to have a giggle laughter works wonders hope u understood that
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    the F man is always right. i think the only thing missing is the fact that maybe your motivations are unclear to others. i was in a similiar situation - people got my buzz confused. i was trying to be a bf, or a therpissed, just a friend that they could shot the cr-p with knowing it was a safe place. unfortunately, there are times when even offering that little amount of support is too much - that's when u back off. and not too sound mean, and discount advice, but i know, no matter how blasted either one of us was, she would simply 'tell me' - upfront. what i mean by that, is she has always been able to tell me to piss off...that's never been an issue..i think u folks are missing the point...the reason is...she has gone underground...what will help is for her to stand up again...because doing that will make her stronger and if that means i get the royal finger - i accept see - if she can give me the finger...she can do anything...its a win / win really...a challenge is good...she's strong.... but maybe i will side on the side F is suggesting...
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    wow...any advice i could give ya would just muddy the water.... it really looks from an outsiders point of view...that when presented with what she needs and wants, she pushed away...and u thinking u are giving her what she is asking for, and seeing her pull away, makes u try harder... i suggest you by a duplex and leave next door to each other and have a secret trap door between both homes so those frisky kitten moments
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    sounds like you both do this little dance and it is unique to you both...so, recognize it for what it really is, and nothing more - it isn't about rejection or anything else...you two have probably done things this way forever...all that needs to be shown to each other is that the way you reacted before isn't the way u react now...that builds trust by showing you control your own behaviour...then u can work on issues together make sense?
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    "The emotional charge between us is so volatile" hey, that's a good thing. u loved deep. and when u do that - its a wicked ride...i would rather that then boring old pork chops every nite for supper....and the good part is that 'volatile spark' is what actually keeps you both connected and feeling alive...its not always a bad thing...embrace the volatile! lol
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    "It's not fair to ask him to give up his belongings for someone he might or might not have in the future." i disagree [when don't i - lol] - but wouldn't this be the perfect time to ask him to give that up - that would tell u about his future
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    "hmm, maybe you have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder!" let me check my list! yup! that's number 4 right after chronic addiction to baskin robbins syndrome damn - why so many flavours! curses
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    well..i didn't really read it...i saw yer post...never heard of that term...did a little cut and paste...posted it....just to let u know...someone is actually paying attention....well, kinda of...i know what i mean... btw, a while back i did a google on disorders and there are a freaking butload out there...i think i qualified for at leat 58 of them - so get in line....anti! hey, everybody has something right? i collect old freaking polaroid cameras and finding film for them takes ages! there must be an 'illness' related to that....
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    Somatization is the experience of physical symptoms in relation to emotional distress. It is common, costly and frustrating to patients as well as to physicians, who are trained to focus on organic etiologies. Our simple and effective approach to making a positive diagnosis of somatization in primary care settings relies on only two essential criteria: (1) several nonspecific symptoms in different organ systems and (2) a chronic course. Mechanisms commonly thought to explain somatization in primary care patients include amplification of normal body sensations, the expression of emotional distress constrained by cultural and familial rules, and dissociation. Understanding these mechanisms facilitates the development of empathy, which is essential to an effective physician-patient relationship. Somatization disorder is about two times more common among women than men. There is usually co-morbidity with other psychological disorders particularly mood or anxiety disroders. According to the DSM-IV, the disorder has a lifetime prevalence of 0.2% in males and 0.2% to 2% in females. This condition is chronic and has a poor prognosis Somatization disorder is characterized by repeated complaints of physical illness over an extended period of time, that are not related to actual organic illness or injury, and begins in early adulthood. It is a somatoform disorder. The DSM-IV establishes the following five criteria for the diagnosis of this disorder: a history of somatic symptoms prior to the age of 30 pain in at least four different sites on the body two gastrointestinal problems other than pain such as vomiting or diarrhea one sexual symptom such as lack of interest or erectile dysfunction one pseudoneurological symptom similar to those seen in Conversion disorder such as fainting or blindness. Such symptoms cannot be related to any medical condition. The symptoms do not all have to be occurring at the same time just over the course of the disorder. The person does not feel they have any specific illness that symptoms are a sign of, they are simply concerned with the symptoms themselves. If a medical condition is present, then the symptoms must be excessive enough to warrant a separate diagnosis. Two symptoms can not be counted for the same thing e.g.if pain during intercourse is counted as a sexual symptom it can not be counted as a pain symptom. Finally, the symptoms cannot be being feigned out of an effort to gain attention or anything else by being sick, and they can not be deliberately inducing symptoms. No one treatment has been found to cure Somatization disorder. However setting up a physician that screens complaints the patient has before the person is allowed to see a specialist heavily cuts down on cost of the disorder. Antidepressants and Cognitive Behavioral therapy have been shown to help treat the disorder.
  12. rightfromthestart
    i agree with scout. this has nothing to do with u. stay out of it.
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    hmmmmmm...personally, sending a private letter instead of a web posting, is like giving someone gadiva chocolates instead of a snickers c-bar. and actually, when u think about it - u don't even need to tell him that 'what he was told is false'. just write down something honest - that is just known to each of you - and that would mean more.
  14. rightfromthestart
    hmmmm..u asked if u could come over and get some of her stuff. he said no. so, then he should bring the stuff himself. first, he said u couldn't, and its not his so it doesn't belong to him - he's painted himself in a corner - only option left is for him to do it! * * * * * * *! he should have checked the price of gas! lol
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    How does one cheat if they claim to be IN love with you? THEY CHEAT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT IN LOVE WITH U. Where was I in her thoughts/being while she was doing the act? I THINK YOU WERE THE LAST THING SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN THINKING BUT WHILE SHE WAS DOING THE DEED SILLY GOOSE. COME ON. Is it possible for her to be trusted again? ER...FLIP THAT AROUND...DO YOU THINK SHE WILL EVER TRUST THAT YOU TRUST HER? PROBABLY NOT. THIS IS ABOUT HOW SHE SEES YOU, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. SHE WAS THE ONE THAT LOST THE TRUST SILLY GOOSE What can she do to prove she is loyal and faithful now and has learned her lesson? AS SOON AS YOU THINK SHE NEEDS TO 'PROVE' SOMETHING TO YOU - AND SHE THINKS THE SAME - NEVER GONNA WORK. PROVING IS A TEST - NO TESTS! THE LAST EXAM YOU BOTH FAILED. Am I allowed to be a little jealous if she is flirty with another until trust is rebuilt? OMG! STOP! ITS OVER BUDDY! DOESN'T THAT SOUND LIKE A RERUN, A SEQEUAL? CHEATERS AND DUMBASSES 2 - RETURN OF THE MISERY My hearts door is closing and if it does ---no one will ever get back inside...not in this lifetime. ER....U MEAN, JUST HER RIGHT? Aside from counseling as it is too expensive....What advice does anyone have that we can do as a couple to get back those feelings of True Loyal Trusting Love? WELL...BEFORE U CAN GET IT BACK U NEED TO HAVE IT FIRST...DOESN'T SOUND LIKE U DID I want to trust her implicitly!!!!! But How can she help mend those wounds that she inflicted on top of the scars of my past? I reallly do love this woman!!! ANYONE SMELL A 'BLAME GAME' HERE. SHE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR TRUST....THAT IS YOUR DECISION.
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    "The cheating wasn't full blown sex..actually she was the giver without receipt of anything." what the heck does that mean? lol. wasn't full blown sex? please. sounds like bill clinton! 'i did not have sex with that woman!' i do believe givers do get something...they get to give..no one forces them to give...so, that's what they got....they just got ripped off! they should have demanded to receive as well. hey, if you are gonna rob a bank make sure the safe has tons of cash in it. no point in getting arrested for spare change. go big or stay home! lol.
  17. rightfromthestart
    amber, i see we agree to disagree....sounds like we are a couple! lol
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    i would not tell him u found the pictures and know he is lying and then tell him that u really dig his body and that you want to be able to see his naked * * * whenever u want and to do that u want to take pix of him. then when u do, tell him its over - dump him - and burn the photos in front of him - then a few weeks later send him an email with a few attachments [which are the real pix, you torched copies] and say...opppppppppppsy, guess i lied just like you! lol teasing. trying to make a funny. i would grab those pix, and kick his soory * * * to the moon alice! personally, any pictures that a couple took together should be treated with respect. my policy is, as the man, you should always give all couple, or solo pictures to the woman and let her decide what she wants to keep, what she whats you to keep, and what ones should be burned. and if there is any compromising pictures of your partner, they don't belong to you. they belong to her or him. because they did so because they trusted you then so keep up your side of the deal.
  19. rightfromthestart
    shallow it down...jagged little pill....hey, follow alanis's lead! lol
  20. rightfromthestart
    my 2 cents "I did not email her that response." that's all it is. i bet if u had just replied u might not feeling this way. i think maybe its something as simple as that. we have a tendency to overanalyizse things and make a mountain out of a mole hill.
  21. rightfromthestart
    omg amber - look at what u just said. lets recap. the woman in question is in trouble, who does she call? someone she trusts will help. when she asks - does he say, ok...but pass this test first! lol. no he comes over. then, when the woman wonders what the relationship is about, your suggestion is to test him? he already passed it by coming over when she called! wow. see, its ok to 'ask' for his help and accept him honouring that without strings attached. so, why the sudden power play? weird.
  22. rightfromthestart
    if someone asks you why they usually wants to know how to become better at relastionships, get there other perspective...that fact that he is asking tells u he is secure....if the other person doesn't respond to your question, its could be for many reasons...or none at all. and when u think about it, if they don't respond, that is your answer
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    heavens no amber....its the opposite....if he askes for details it is because he wants to know how to become better at relastionships, get the female perspective...that fact that he is asking tells u he is secure....that one that doesn't ask, can't take it and doesn't care what your opinion is....i think the person that is doing the ending uses that as a cover because maybe their reason for ending might bruise their ego...for example - u break up with someone and your reason is 'you fell out of love' - will isn't that what u did? not them? so, if they still love u and u don't - u think jebus, i must not be as good. or, lets say, you say, i am breaking up with you because i find this person more attractive than u - that is about making a decision based on surface elements....so, the key is HONESTY!
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    DN is right again [well, i mean, i agree! lol]
  25. rightfromthestart
    that is your imprint...we always leave one...good or bad....your imprint does exist with her...all her actions are saying is your footprint in the sand was not enuff for her to walk along the beach with you...nothing wrong with that....
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