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  1. MetalGuitar
    Wow... bro, I completely agree with you! I never even thought of it like that.
  2. MetalGuitar
    Bottom line... there is more than one jerk on this planet, and sometimes people are not what they seem. You typically can't believe in something unless you've experienced it in the first place... so when you say that "I used to believe it, but now I don't anymore", I honestly think that you're lying to yourself because your hurt and emotionally scared. Its not love that you shouldn't believe in but it should be those people who lied to you that you shouldn't believe in. I know you guys are probably asking yourself, "how can I believe in love if I keep getting hurt?" The answer is posted above. Look at it like this, just because there are people who commit fraud out there doesn't warrant you to believe that there aren't any honest people in life, does it? ~Rob
  3. MetalGuitar
    LOL! Seriously though, tell your friend to be careful, because if she agrees, she might find herself in some not so good situations. There are some who look at BSDM as a 'way of life' type thing... unless your friend is really into that type of thing, I would suggest that she stay away...
  4. MetalGuitar
    I don't think that any of us will be able to help unless you really elaborate on this problem...
  5. MetalGuitar
    Go with your gut feeling bro, and don't make this decision based on rumors and 'hear-says' that you friends have been telling you. You never had a REAL relationship with her in the first place, you just simply hooked up with her one night and she let you know about her ex, so you've really got nothing to base any of the fears that you may have on. I'd say, if you want it, go for it...
  6. MetalGuitar
    Wow, this is a perfect example of what to do. Good job bro!
  7. MetalGuitar
    The link that agent put out made my stomach turn upside down after reading it.....
  8. MetalGuitar
    I'm assuming that she's going to see her OB?? In that case, find out how your kiddo is doing, but let her know that that's all your interested in hearing about. PERIOD.
  9. MetalGuitar
    A marriage is built on more than friendship and companinioship... I think that those two terms describe friendship pretty well. In a lot of cases in marriages where sex doesn't occur, it feels like two roomates bunking together rather than a marriage. Ya know, it's quite a common misconception that all guys are after sex... however for a lot of guys, it's more than that. Having sex with their partner is the closest form of intimacy, it's a way that they feel wanted and loved... For a lot of guys, it's more than, "just having sex" and it means more than most will know.
  10. MetalGuitar
    I think that you did indeed do the right thing. You stood up for yourself and let her know exactly where you stand, and no matter what her decision is, you did the right thing. Don't compromise your morals for someone who has clearly abused you, and continue to stand on solid ground. Trust me, it's for the better. Shes done this to you several times, and it obvious that she's got a lot of thinking AND changing to do if she wants the marriage to work, but the question is, is do you want to stand by her again while she may or may not change?
  11. MetalGuitar
    I know it's hard, and that's simply because that you want her to see that you've changed now. But what you have to realize is that she doesn't really want to see you at the moment, and if she did, it would be to soon for her to realize that you have changed. You said it yourself, leave her be, continue working on yourself, and eventually she'll see that you have changed... but for now, respect her wishes as best as you can... right now, that's the best way to show her that you do love her.
  12. MetalGuitar
    'nuff said!
  13. MetalGuitar
    Sorry but again I disagree... The e-mail asks why she's stringing him along, and why after so long in the relationship she's now all of a sudden, undecided. His email said that he suggested that he wanted to break it off, and that she just wanted to "take a break". If he wanted to break it off in the first place, then why should you consider him to be the needy one. It seems to me that she's the one that wants to hang on to him 'just in case'. And I'm sorry but we all know that the foundation for ANY relationship is communication... hence... if I had a problem, I would be more than happy that my partner pointed it out to me and helped me work through it. Afterall, it's because of those we love that make us become better people. They never agreed on NC, and again, it seems as if she's the one trying to 'hold on' for just a bit longer.
  14. MetalGuitar
    They never established NC in the first place... afterall, he explained that he slept with her before she left...
  15. MetalGuitar
    I disagree. I do not believe that it sounds needy at all. Actually, I think that you're being very assertive in telling her how you feel and that you WILL NOT be her 'marionette' so to speak. You clearly outlined your feelings and opinions on the matter, and told her exactly where you stand. Needy would be telling her that you think of her constantly, and that you need her back. You're right when you said that her excuse of having unsure feelings could be an easy way out, and you're proving to her that you're bettering yourself and trying to understand how to make the relationship a whole... EVEN when it seems as if the instability is her fault. Send the email if you wish, but if she resists, stand firm, and don't go chasing.
  16. MetalGuitar
    Well, you father is seemingly going to have a different perspective than you because he's an 'outsider' looking in. I'm sure he's been through plenty of relationships himself, and he should have some advice that you should heed. I don't think that he's being unsupportive, it's just that you explained to him the situation and he gave you the opinion that you asked for. You can't go through life bottling things up just because you're afraid of what other people may think or say. So if you have to get it out, then sit down with your Dad and do more explaining to him. Also, of course he's upset about the phone bill. Just because you broke up with your ex does not constitute him having to pay for the enormous amounts of time that you may spend on his phone.
  17. MetalGuitar
    I do not think that you said anything wrong. You said it yourself, she cheated on him for the SECOND time. Apparently she has no respect for her boyfriend. It is about time he moves on. I think that it's only right that you encourage him to confront her and then part ways.
  18. MetalGuitar
    Wow... that's all I'm going to say. Perfect blueangel... perfect.
  19. MetalGuitar
    ^^ Agreed... completely. First love or not, it's best to move on. Unless you were just as violent to her, nothing justify's the way that she treated you. Emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse... She manipulative, aggressive, violent, and overbearing. She's trapped you into thinking that you need her... that you're nothing without her. You DON'T need her. All you need is, YOU. It's time to chin up and move on my friend. Best of luck!
  20. MetalGuitar
    When we have problems, it's EXTREMELY important to ask others about things. Counselors are helpful because they're an unbiased third party who see's your situation from the 'outside' instead of having a dilluted opinion as you would have from being on the 'inside' of the situation. All of this pent up anxiety will not be too good for you. I suggest that you follow the above advice and seek out help. We're with you!
  21. MetalGuitar
    Has he even expressed an interest to leave his FOURTH wife for you? Even so, if he did, it's still not acceptable to have a relationship with your boss, that's unnaceptable in most organizations, and frowned upon in all of them. Trust me, this is a big mistake. And if you continue with it, it will take you a LONG time to recover from the social and financial consequences... to say the least.
  22. MetalGuitar
    Could you give me a little more background as to why it did not work out??
  23. MetalGuitar
    Problem pinpointed right there. You obviously have more than one problem, and I suggest seeking professional help, IMMEDIATELY. Like DN said, depending on where you live, his wife might have a case,.. against YOU. And yes while it's 'cool' to be a kid (Lord knows that I'm one at heart), the law doesn't take that into consideration when your physical profile shows that you are "of age".
  24. MetalGuitar
    Hi, I believe that I've got the answer you're looking for. I as well am a member of the Armed Forces (USAF), and trust me... in basic training, all you're thinking about are two things. 1) Getting through your training without any setbacks. 2) How much you just want to get back to those you love and care about. I know that #2 helped me get through basic training. I used it as a motivational tool for myself. That's all I thought about, and as corny as it sounds, when we would do our pyshical training every morning, I envisioned that I was running to my girlfriend, and it motivated me to move faster and be sharper than the rest. So trust me, if he cares for you like he says he does, YOU are all that's on his mind. Now here's the tough part. The military has what's called "Joint Spouse Assignments". SPOUSE is the key word. It allows two members who are married and in the Armed Forces to always have their assignments together. Good luck.
  25. MetalGuitar
    I've got a different view on the topic. In my opinion the one that usually initiates (or should initiate) NC would be the one that was hurt in the relationship... the "victim" if you will. Your survey doesn't do much to effect that because if communication was the problem in the first place, the the woman, not the man was the "victim" and it would be the woman to initiate NC instead of the man... Have I confused you enough. LOL
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