Jump to content

brando

Silver Member
 View Profile  See their activity

  • Posts

    1,559

  • Joined

 Content Type 

Everything posted by brando

  1. brando
    Yeah i know the feeling, it is like kicking a bad habit, or a habit i should say. It was comfortable, although it may have been toxic, it is the comfort you seem to be missing. This to shall pass. The funny thing about believing you need something, it is a false belief. Figure out why you believe you need her and these thoughts will no longer persist.
  2. brando
    Well since you cannot stop her from doing what she wants, you are going to have to accept it for wha it is, and decide if you still want to marry this woman. I am not sure if you are too insecure over this one guy, or you have a valid reason for not trusting her. It is a trust issue here. THe more attention you give to this situation, the more ugly it will become. Even if you put your foot down, she can still talk to this guy. If you try to lay down the ultimatium, then she may just walk, which has little to do with how she feels about her, if this guy for whatever reason makes her happy, in the littlest way, she will not want to be put in a place to choose between you and him. The less you show it bothers you the better it is for you. Again it is about accepting this for what it is. The decision is yours. Do you go on with her knowing this guy may be a part of her life, or do you have the talk and possibly end your engagement. ? Tough call.
  3. brando
    link removed try this link. Their is some information in here for you to read which may help you discover if he is lying to you. The other thing is if you reveal to him you looked in his cell phone, you are just as guilty as he. So be careful how you approach this.
  4. brando
    I can identify with you man, tough call. I know she left you in the jam, but maybe help her with the prscription and then after that cut her off. It shows you are the bigger person here. Even if she doesn't appreciate it you know in your heart you did a good thing for her. I don't know, how do you feel about it ?
  5. brando
    Don't call yourself a loser man. It isn't so.
  6. brando
    Hey Fox, I guess you can look at it it this way, turn the lemons you think you have into lemonade. Maybe you can get into journalism, or free lance writing. Congratulations on your soon to be acquired degree. It will get better.
  7. brando
    Their is also the possibility that someone may not feel the love or the spark, cause they do not love them selves as well. But i think to a degree we can make people feel a certain way towards us. It is how we treat that person as well as we treat ourselves, (which is reflected onto others when we arn't paying attention).
  8. brando
    you missed my point. It is a misconception. No such thing as sacraficing your own happiness for another. It will only leave you unhappy. Does not matter what you went through with an ex. think about it. Why would you sacrafice your own happiness?? Out of love?? That is not love.
  9. brando
    yeah it does no twork. It is a misconception.
  10. brando
    reading this is funy. Cam guy it is only truth to you. Please remember that.
  11. brando
    Like Frisco said stop deciphering her blogs. Obviously the recent ex made her feel something you did not. Call it attraction, or whatever other word comes to mind. Sorry, but it is how it goes. Now you embark on your journey to self discovery, no looking back from here. No going back. be well brando
  12. brando
    Thanks LB for sharing the experience of being on the other side of being a dumpee. be well, brando
  13. brando
    Just as I suspected...no replies. Not even from a woman. LOL
  14. brando
    ask if he likes it. Communication is always vital. Regardles of what is going on. Ask him to show or tell you what he likes.
  15. brando
    Sometimes the less we know the better, sort of the ignorance is bliss rule. I guess if things seem suspicious with them two then you may want to bring it up. I coul dbe wrong on this one, i am shooting from the gut.
  16. brando
    Hey man it is your life. You choose to do what is best for you, but remember what you will be giving up. Maybe things are still too fresh for you. I was in am in a simialr situation, myex wife has two daughters from a previous relationship and i struggled with keeping in touch with them for a few years, and i have no legal responsibility to do so. It still hurts to think of them away from me, but it is what it is. I tried staying in touch with them, and it was all one sided, me initiating contact, bday cards, xmas gifts and the rest. Not that i expected anything back, but after a while a one sided relationship is sort of a one fighter boxing match. I do not have a biological bond with these two young ladies, so i can't quite put my thoughts around what you are facing fully. Give it some time. See how things progress with your healing. Maybe all you need is more time.
  17. brando
    Sure why not? I don't get the cut them out of your life perspective. I think it just convinces me none of use really know squat about love. I remained in some contact with my ex wife, why? Because i spent nealry eleven years with her raising her children. How does one cut that out of their lives without cutting a piece of themselves out as well.??? I think it gives me an opportunity to see another side of myself, personal growth. I have no anger or hatred towards her, and why should I? I read here on this forum that breakups happen for reasons... but it is always the negative side of a break up that is emphasized here and out in the world. I have had exes i never spke to again, but that does not mean i will never see them again. Life is a big circle, and sometimes these people reneter our lives even if for a minute, while standing on line in some where USA. Are you going to ignore that person because they ended a relationship with you? Sort of silly from where i sit. In hopes to get back together, well i don't think so. Then again one never knows what is put before us. From what i have seen it rarely happens, but that is all well and fine too. SO why not be friendly, or friends towards them. It costs me absolutely nothing.
  18. brando
    Fox, Just focus on how great it feels to have a better idea on what you want to do. I am 37 and i can honestly tell you i am not doing what i want to do. Anyway you are exactly where you need to be. You cannot be anywhere else right now. This is the way it was supposed to go down and did. No need to should on yourself. Or would of and could of. The mystery of life unfolds slowly at times, and mysteriously as well. You are doing fine from what you told all of us here on ENOT. Be well, brando
  19. brando
    From what i read while going through my divorce/separation, separations are usually a bad sign of the beginning of the end. Then aain anything and everything in this crazy world is possible. The basis of my reply is made on the point of being away from one another is less likely gpoing to contribute to wanting to work things out, most especially for the partner wanting to break apart. Counselling is the road to go to try and work things out, not a separation. Best of luck.
  20. brando
    If one sacrafices themselves for love, then it really isn't love at all.
  21. brando
    Maybe you have too many things on your mind. I know this can prevent me from getting a good night sleep.
  22. brando
    Their is an old saying for aspiring writers, which i think applies to life as well. Show don't tell.
  23. brando
    No offense 18 is far from an adult. It is more than age that brings onself to adult hood. It is easy to have high ideals when living in your parents house. Until you get out on your own you will not be able to se this. Anyway what is the worse thing that can happen if you got your tongue pierced with out her blessing. She will be upset?? Do you think she will throw you out?? I would sit her down and talk to her. It isnt about the coploring of your hair or the tongue piercing thing, these are not reasons to move out, I do understand you want to be more independent. SO i would talk to her with this in mind, and not mention the other things like the piercing and such, not a strong leg to stand on. Your mother is a controller, i know it is a horrible experience living under her thumb, and she may feel hurt or upset by your one sisters' act of moving out. You are 18 and think you are an adult, show it to her by trying to sit down and talk to her rationally. It does not mean she will agree with you, but if you want to be treated as an adult by showing her you are open to discussing these things calmly may get youy the extra lee way you are looking for.
  24. brando
    Dude stop checking her myspace account...if you are over her than it does not matter about the jewelry you bought her.
  25. brando
    They are 20. That is young and probably unrealistic at this point in their lives to know if they want to be married or not. So much life ahead of them. If they are open and honest with eachother their should be little problems no matter how this realtionship turns out. The goal of a realtionship in my opinion is learning how to relate. Not marriage, perhaps this is the problem with society today, looking for an end result instead of learning the right tools and skills to obtain it. Their are no guarantees in life.
×
×
  • Create New...