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  1. Meow18
    I completely agree with this. You DON'T have to give your boyfriend a blow job when it makes you feel as horrible as it does. You mentioned that one reason you do it is so that he doesn't go somewhere else. If you are seriously worried that he's going to go out and get it somewhere else if you don't do it, then that's a problem in itself. You need to have another serious talk with him. If he's not willing to give as much as you (and that doesn't mean everytime you want it he HAS to give it, but he better be willing to give as much as he's asking for you to give). You do have needs. Your needs are not being met, and just because it's a sexual need does not mean it's selfish when you are pleasing his every sexual need.
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    It seems really strange. But obviously she's not happy about something. Do not go back to her house. Do not go to her work. That will just make her more upset. I don't know what went wrong and she's being immature and unfair for not letting you know. Honestly, I think you need to back off a little. She's obviously ignoring your calls for whatever reason. Continuing to call her will not make her pick up the phone. I hate to say it, but you need to stop contacting her. She will come to you if and when she's ready.
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    I hate to say it, but he's not interested in you anymore. Stop wasting your time. What's the point when you could be talking to someone who is interested? Keep searching. There are far too many guys out there for you to not find somebody good for you.
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    I don't think you need to worry about dating right now. In ways it seems like you are rushing into it because you want your ex to know your seeing someone else. Don't worry about making things work with somebody else. Why rush? Just take your time and learn from this past relationship. That way your new relationships won't go through the same issues.. hopefully.
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    There's only one thing you can do right now. Stop answering private calls! You know it's her. You already know what she wants. Whether she truly cheated on you or not, your relationship with her was not a healthy stable one. And it's obvious now how much stress it put on you. She pushed you around throughout your relationship, and if you continue talking to her I'm afraid you might take her back. Not because you want to, but because you aren't over her yet. You are good for wanting to help her, but she can find help somewhere else. Don't feel like you will ruin her life if you don't help her. Next time she calls, let her know that there's no chance of getting back together. Tell her that you don't want to talk to her on the phone. And then prove that to her by not answering her calls.
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    Honestly, I don't think you should. What would you be hoping to get out of it? Of course it's nice to acknowledge a person's birthday, but it's possible that it will create more hurt than anything. You have been doing great with no contact. Stick with it.. you don't want to be pushed back to square one just for having nice intentions.
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    I think you brought up some good points. It's true that if a person breaks up with you and you give them space, they might realize that they miss you. A lot of the time, people just want space. Sometimes they are confused about their feelings. So when they finally get the space, they either realize that they miss the person, or they are happier without. But it can backfire like you said. In my opinion, you have to respect the other's choice in wanting to break up. It might not be easy, but what else can you really do? Demand that they keep you? You just have to back off and give them the space they are asking for. And if they realize that they want you back, then that's great if you want them too. But if they don't, then you just have to move on. And by giving them the space, hopefully you will already be starting to move on.
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    I can understand why you feel the way you do. But you have a right to say no. And you have a right to want him to please you as well. If you don't want to give without taking, then don't. It would be ok if every once in awhile he wanted without giving, but it seems like it's pretty common for him to not care about your needs. You need to talk to him about how you are feeling. And if he says you are being selfish, then be selfish and don't give him what he wants.
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    He wouldn't have gone out with you last weekend if he wasn't interested. So I don't think he's completely uninterested. I would do as the others suggested. Let him contact you first. If he comes on msn, wait for him to send you a message. I also like the idea of you asking him to do something. That way he has a chance to say yes or no, and you will know how he feels then by his response. If he keeps backing off, then I would say to move on.
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    I think you should call him and tell him you don't want to come over Friday. Let him know that you are going to respect his decision to need space, and that you have thought a lot about it and think that space requires little or no contact. He needs to get his life straightened out before he can have a relationship with anyone.
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    I don't think it's a matter of whether or not he loves you. I think he's just confused and stressed. And obviously he can't quit his job because he needs money, and he can't not see his kids. So the only thing he knows to do is see less of you because that's the only thing he can control in his life. But that doesn't make it fair for you and you definitely shouldn't be pushed lower on his list. And my guess is that he understands that and is the reason he wants this break. There isn't anything you can do besides respect his choice. You can let him know how you feel, but you can't make him do anything or change his mind.. But if you do give him space, he might realize that he needs you during this tough time and will want to get back with you.
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    But is his choice making you happy? He doesn't want to be "with" you, but he still wants you in his life because he loves you? You shouldn't have to lower your expectations either. You love him. He claims to be in love with you. Part of relationships are being with each other, even through the stressful times. It's times like these that can bring you closer.. You want to be in a relationship with him. You don't want him pushing you away because he's got a lot of stress from other areas in his life. That isn't what you want. But he has obviously made the choice. He doesn't feel like he can give you what you deserve right now. But honestly, you don't deserve to be dragged around either. If he wants space, then that has to mean no contact. You shouldn't wait around for him. I suggest meeting with him friday.. and really tell him how you feel. Just because he has stress doesn't mean that you have to suffer for it. But if he really wants space, then can you sit and wait around for him?
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    I think that you felt comfortable with the idea of having sex with him. That doesn't make you a bad person. At least you knew the guy for a month.. some people don't wait a week. Are you regretting your actions now because of what your mom said, or because deep down you really feel it was too soon? This guy sounds like an alright guy. He treats you well. This could be something long term. Your mom doesn't know your relationship like you do, afterall, how could she? If you are worried things are going too fast, then simply slow down. There's no rush. If the guy really cares about you, and it sounds like he does, then talk to him about it.
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    I'm glad she liked it!
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    It's normal to miss someone after a break up, even if you are the one doing the breaking up. The thing you have to think about is why you broke up. Is it for the better? Does something need to change before trying again? Usually when you break up it means that something isn't right and something needs to change in order for it to work the next time around. Before jumping into what could happen and what his response is supposed to mean, figure out what it is that needs to change. For now, I wouldn't reply back. You contacted him to wish him a Merry Christmas, not to talk about the relationship. I wouldn't get deeper into it at this point. When he really wants you back, he'll come find you.
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    You don't need to give us excuses for why you think he likes you. I don't doubt that you are an attractive person. If you are dying to email him, then you are going to no matter what the advice is.
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    When you have odd dreams like that, it's really normal to think about it throughout the day. I don't think you need to stress over it though.. you are obviously not attracted to males. Just because you dream something doesn't mean that it's even slightly true.
  18. Meow18
    Do you ever find guys sexually attractive? If not, then don't stress over it, you are not gay or bi-sexual. You don't control what you dream. Don't think too much of this. We all have startling dreams sometimes, but that doesn't make it true.
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    I'm sure he remembers the student's names that he actually meets face to face a few times. I wouldn't doubt that he thought you were cute. But it's a good thing that he didn't take it ny further. He's supposed to be professional about his job. But then again he might think a few of his students are attractive.. It's good that he was nice and remembered your name. I think that makes a good professor. I wouldn't take it any further. I wouldn't take him being nice and nervous to talk to you as him having a crush on you. There could have been a lot going on in his mind, such as what to say to a student you hardly know?
  20. Meow18
    Let her know that you are interested in hanging out with her a week after New Years. It might seem far off, but at least it's something. Suggest something you can both do and let her know to call you when she knows for sure what day she wants to hang out. Then leave it up to her to make the call if she's interested.
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    She has expressed to you that she likes you more than a friend as well. She's just not ready to take it to the next level. As long as you aren't pushing a relationship on her, then she won't feel awkward about it. I think she's obviously a good friend, and getting her a nice present isn't innappropiate. I think she will appreciate it.
  22. Meow18
    The necklace sounds really pretty. I'm sure she will really like it. Why are you nervous? Do you think she might think it's too much?
  23. Meow18

    pregnant?

    Meow18 replied to mudpie's topic in Pregnancy

    I would say that it's most likely just late because of a change in your lifestyle or something. Maybe it has to do with exercising a lot now. It's weird that your period is that late though. I would definitely talk to your doctor.
  24. Meow18
    As long as you proceed with caution, because face it, you DON'T know if he is who he says he is. A lot of people meet fake people online. It's just the way it is. It doesn't make you stupid for believing him, cause who knows, he could very well be who he says he is. But you aren't going to see him until you are 18 most likely. And if you are still in a "relationship" with him by then, then really, I'll be happy for you. A lot of long distance relationships don't last because you really do need to spend time together in real life before you can really know each other. And you can't love someone if you don't know them. Even if you knew each other in real life, I would say a month is still too short a time to know each other well enough. I think that right now, the important thing to decide is if it's worth being in an internet relationship when you know you won't be seeing him for the next 4 years at least.
  25. Meow18
    Do you own a house phone? Honestly, it sounds strange that he hasn't spoken to you in the past couple of days and it's really sudden. Is there any way you can try calling him?
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