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  1. ButterflyWrists
    can u tell my boyfriend that, he refuses to leave me, and wont let me leave him, i hurt him, and have cheated, and he doesnt see that i may feel like i can do it over and over! =[
  2. ButterflyWrists
    i've cheated, and my boyfriend blames himself, and we both want to make it work.. if a relationship has made u happy, then try at it, if it hasn't and has been tough for ages, i'd give it the gun (not litterally) and leave it.
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    its not u in the wrong, if shes wanting a good relationship then she has to work, but you both do.. if shes saying its your fault then she isnt a good wife, and u dont need her. try talkin the problems thru, and if she persists say either u or i go, until you can deside if u really want us to work __X hope this helps =[ sorry if not
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    talk to ur boss, he should be able to give u a refference... as most places now ask for experiance, u've had some, if u say, look, i havnt the paper saying im quallified, but i can give u refferences from places i've worked in in the past could u think about letting me on? but do push the person who should have sorted u out a full time job by now..
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    maybe your dads scared of ur mum finding out... he must know what will happen to her if she finds out.. maybe thats why he deleted the emails? maybe if ur dad goes to UK for a holiday with ur mum, away from work, and this other woman... if he says leave it with me, then let him, but do try and talk to him, dont blame him for it, although he has done wrong, its not going to help matters.. he needs to have support as well as ur mum and u and ur sister.. ((hugs))
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    do you know if it has gone further? It isn't for you to tell your mum, but deffinatly talk to dad, maybe they just need a holiday together, i suppose they've been under stress... is ur dad having a hard time at all? or is it just him missing ur mum.. if he hasn't acted this way before. I'm sure (dont quote me please) it'll be ok... it must be hard for you being stuck in the middle.. but do talk to ur dad when u have time.. in the mean time, are u able to cook, or offer them somewhere to go, so they can just be together, like a date? It may help them calm down, and chill out a bit (damn i have the sayin "chill out")
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    Ok, don't be offended... Have you ever considered it may be because he missus your mum not being there, he doesn't see her much... and doesn't get a chance to go out i suppose? How long have u lived in the USA? and how long as far as u know the affair been going on for? My advise, would be to talk to your dad about it... if he shuts off, just say you dont judge him, u just want to understand, when he's ready he may confind in you.. How my advise helps __X
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    i have a problem with the listening to sad music makes u feel worse It makes me feel better... It helps me write my feelings down, so i can just forget them till alater date.. Ok so maybe thats just me, but I've been through alot, and have basically been depressed all my life, tho before the last 2 years it was mainly physical... Choronic pain caused it... sorry I only read to there. __X
  9. ButterflyWrists
    I'd leave her, she's just messing with you, all that will happen is you get hurt again.. Find some friends, and go out with them instead... A girl who goes behind your back isn't worth you.
  10. ButterflyWrists
    Hello Grace, I know how your feeling, but my feelings havn't gone so far yet. I wish there was something I could do to help you. If you need anyone you can always talk to me.
  11. ButterflyWrists
    Thats a really feeling poem. and it's really well written, keep it up
  12. ButterflyWrists
    Well keep going forward, and dont let him pull you down, and if you really must stay friends with him, but keep to yourself and make your own life away from him.
  13. ButterflyWrists
    You need to start NC, he really isn't what you need in your life. Let him mess himself around, and get into trouble, but don't you get involved. It might be hard to get over him, but you really need to try.
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    i'd say leave it, be her friend and all, but dont let it go any further, if she keeps on just tell her tht you dont wanna do anything as she has a boyfriend, and you'd feel damn upset if tht kind of thing happened to you.
  15. ButterflyWrists
    Just keep up NC, don't be rude if you do see her, but make it plain to her that you'd rather not be her friend as it is too painful for you. And try going out with some friends and have some fun. Most people's misstakes are to make their live's revolve arround their parteners. Take a break from wanting a patener and socialise with friends and/or family.
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    You need to forget this girl, and everything you shaired. To get your things back, I'd try getting someone else to collect it for you. This women is trying to manipulate you, what has happened isn't your fault. May I ask what problems had there been in your relationship?
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    I can relate to that poem, lol. good poem
  18. ButterflyWrists
    Just tell him your not compfortable doing it, and if he's a nice guy then he'll respect that. And yes it is normal, I hate give a BJ
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    Also, don't make it as looking for a ladie friend, make it a lads night out, then you'll be more relaxed. If you really do want over with your wife just write your feelings everytime you think of her, and then move to a different subject. Don't pressure yourself into a "looking" out night. Just treat it as a normal day.
  20. ButterflyWrists
    You can say she misscarried if you don't want things to bad, nor you to be known as a lier. And just leave it at that?
  21. ButterflyWrists
    Not unless you let it. If you dwel on it then it just stays. If you take on board and try more to understand things then you can turn things around, and make your life better. I'm just over coming abuse, and I'm trying to make things better for me in the long run, ok I'm only younge, but it has also effected my trust for others. Keep thinking I can make it better, then you should be able to make it better. Also remember talking to the person is the best way to seak advise, he'll know better what to say and how to help you!
  22. ButterflyWrists
    Talk things through with him... If he's a nice guy then he will find a solution to keep you peace at mind. Also, have you done anything about your past abuse, and your trust issues? Maybe you should sort that out before you marry?
  23. ButterflyWrists
    If it's not you then don't do it, you can still go out and have fun with your friends, and look at other females. But don't ruin your self respect for something you may well regret.
  24. ButterflyWrists
    You have to be prepared that things might not go the way it should. But hopefully for you there is proof enough tht it did happen, just try your best to remember things!
  25. ButterflyWrists
    Ok, don't do it at either of your appartments, as it is a place where you're supposed to feel happy and secure. Secondly, do it in person, as it has more hurt and anger if anyother way. Thirdly, tell her exactly how you feel, it would hurt her more if you just string her along. If you're wanting an example of dumping: 'I'm sorry (insert name), I don't think this relationship is right for us, we're eachother's firsts, and I think it is time we move on.' Hope this helps __X
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