Allie.

oh my goodness. i am so incredibly sorry for your misfortune. try and borrow money from your parents and if you need to talk, we're all here for you. always, Allie.

hey buddy, NC is having NO contact with that person. That means, tell your close friends that you don't want to HEAR about her. Don't go surfing on her myspace or wherever you're getting this information about her partying up and being wild from. CUT THAT CONNECTION OFF. Let me give you an analogy as to what you're doing...okay, lemmi ask you this...would you ever arm-wrestle if your arm was broken? Of course not! Then WHY are you doing it with your heart? Why are you chasing after something that hurts tryin to harm yourself even more bud? Don't do it. Cut off all sources of connection. The people who you keep in contact with...make it clear to them...that you don't want to hear anything about her or see any of her latest pictures...etc. Another thing about NC. My friend, gaiden, gave me some great advice...he asked his dad advice for getting his girlfriend back...and... Dad: Well, how often do you think of the spare tire in the back of your car? Gaiden: only when i need it. Dad: exactly. How on earth is your girlfriend going to miss you when you're always there?! Stop breaking NC! She has already assumed that you're going to try to not talk to her and th en come right back and talk to her because thats what you've been doing. Let her miss you. DO NC! Always, Allie.

hey greatguy! HAPPY BD!!! you did the right thing and your response was great. I'm going to go start a thread on the Birthday Forum for you [= happy BD big guy. Always, Allie

hey REDMAGE!!! ITS GRRRR8 to see you again here. hahaha. i'm usually on the Off Topic section playing games all the time now...welcome back! how r you?

well since you have an addictive personality, your energies must be coming from within you and right now, i think they're devoted to what you believe as being "wrong". The point is, your energies are not going to disappear. So don't focus on making them "disappear". The motive, I think, should be getting help from your friends or a counselor, and devoting those energies in a more positive direction.

Gatorr. i found that quote this website about the best quotes out of movies...thing.

exactly gator... and if you're not happy, then its not the end. [=

Well, dear people... my current mood: :silly: type of document: ramble de Allie i swear i've gone mad. I've been trying to fall asleep for the past hour or so. But there is not a bit of narcolepsy in my blood. i'm as tired as a smurf but can't sleep--due to--a guy I met in Costa Rica. I spent a couple of days with him and I was sure he was interested in me and oh my, how i adored him. He was simply adorable. Either way, I returned from my vacation a couple of weeks ago and I haven't thought of him at ALL since then but somehow he just popped into my mind for no apparent reason when i was going to sleep...and i just can't sleep because he's apparently captivated my entire mind in the matter of a few moments before falling asleep. Its silly as heck and maybe i'm suffering slight insanity symptoms of sleep deprivation to the extremes but.....he was so gorgeous and ohhh....how i melt for his bittersweet talk. Excuse the intereption, for my brain is screaming: :sleeping: But....ohhh that smile.... NO ALLIE NO! SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP! ughhhh. i just need to remind myself that i am currently asexual. I do not like men nor women. I shall split in two and reproduce kids independently. and besides, if i got married to a member of what we call the "male" species and reproduced normally, i would only have some mexican jumping beans running around the house, wearing sombreros and smacking pinatas. -sigh- Awkward Allie...

ouch. hang in there.

i'm afraid revenge is not an option. don't stoop as low as her. it'll only show her that she's succeeded and won... because you're bitter. i promise, one day, you'll regret it.

i honestly don't think there's a "best" break-up line...i mean...its gonna hurt either way, and honestly, i'd just be nice about breaking it off...the whole friends deal just pisses me off when someone says that to me. i dunno. that might just be me...its sounds like that rattle at the end of the tail....like sticking a: "no offense"..."oh yeah, you're as ugly as heck...but you know, no offense..." hahaha. i don't think it helps. always, Allie.

i can't date you because i get the feeling God doesn't want us to be together....

good for you girl!!! you be happy for as long as you can! and smile.smile.smile.smile. its a human's natural state to live, laugh and love...

w-w---OW! if this is crap, i don't think i could handle your great pieces...

breath-taking passion. love it.

wow. i really like it. keep writing. Always, Allie.

hey jaded. firstly, if its bothering you, than its probably a bigger deal than you think it is. hmm, well no one can really tell you whether that has any meaning or not. I mean, some people think dreams are nonsense and others think that dreams mean the world. I, personally, think that dreams reflect your state of mind. i don't think there is anything truly significant to be gotten out of you dreaming about another boy. i'm majoring in psychology and i can tell you that subconscious stimuli can affect us in many many ways that we can't even begin to describe. i don't want to give you a lecture...but to summarize it all...there are three states of the mind: conscious [the thoughts you deal with], preconscious [the thoughts you can deal with if you try...ie: whats the name of your mom?] and the subconscious [the thoughts that you don't process but are there]. Maybe subconsciously your brain has noticed that boy and dreams try to make sense of whats in our conscious, preconscious and subconscious mind. The brain is a tricky thing kiddo...even if you've never talked to that boy, maybe your brain has subconsciously noticed him and that's why you're having dreams about him... if i were you, i wouldn't make too big of a deal about them...you're in a relationship that you're happy with...so live on...don't bother too much about the subconscious world when you've got a happy conscious one [= ! Always, Allie.

Hey all. First of all, I would like to let you know, you sure are one of the most concieted people out there for clicking on this forum...you really think you're that smart?! hahaha. kidding. Anyway, a few months ago, I was about to blow up becuase so much crap was going on in my life and i needed a friend desperately and this older woman and i went on a bikeride and I just had a breakdown and I cried my eyes out and told her about my problems and my friends' problems [some of which were supposed to be private]...anyway, the woman dug information out of me and i kept on giving and i trusted her...she went and told all of my friends and their mothers. My friends denied everything because they didn't want to get in trouble & their mothers got pissed off and started yelling at me for spreading rumors about their daughters [but of course they weren't rumors...they were true]. And as you know with the game telephone...things get exxagerated along the way.... So either way, one of the friends' private stuff i shared was my best-friend, Liz, and she said a whole bunch of crap about me and turned against me completely. So basically I was the prey of about 6 predators and their parents who called my parents up and got them involved. So much disappointment overall. Liz went and befriended my arch enemy, Natalie. Anyway, Natalie went away on summer vaca. so things got better between Liz and I and now we're best-friends again. The trust issue got worked out. I'm a changed woman america. haha. but anyway, Natalie returned a few days back and today I called Liz and she told me she was talking to Natalie and that she'd call me back. And now she calls me back after like a few hours and i was sarcastic like, "ohh. ...way to call me back after 2 minutes like you said you would. NOT COOL!!!" and she was like, "Oh no. her mom started talking to my mom..." etc. etc. etc. and i reminded her about how i was sorta insecure about her being back and Liz said: "I know...don't worry." Either way, like, my gut feeling about Liz is that she's not true to me and that she will never be true to me and I'm sorry for those of you who think I'm nuts...but i always listen to my gut feeling and its probably saved me from the biggest perils of life. hahaha. but yesss... What should I doooo??? Stay friends? Stay best-friends? Talk to her? Get over it? Change myself? ayudame por favor! always, Allie.

hey chica. i'm in the same boat so i'm interested in what ppl have to say about this....

Hey everyone, firstly...I am so sorry i haven't been here for my usual online buds...especially redmage22 and jeffreyt. Thats because I'm on vacation in costa rica right now and trust me, there is sooo much to do here. I've been so busyy....but now as for the moving on deal... Firstly, this is a great great great website to come on and move on or at least try to move on. There are soo many people here who are going through the same thing as you. First of all, all the people here who tell you that things will get better are right. When I was stuck in the whole moving on process, I know that people told me "time and seperation" were the only thing that'll help. and that's true...There's no question that breakups can be painful, and that it's difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain. I read these online and I thought they were really helpful....here is some insight for those of you with a broken heart.... If you've just had a break-up and are feeling down, you're not alone. Just about everyone experiences a break-up at sometime, and many then have to deal with heartbreak — a wave of grief, anger, confusion, low self-esteem, and maybe even jealousy all at once. Millions of poems and songs have been written about having a broken heart and wars have even been fought because of heartbreak. What Exactly Is Heartbreak? Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people might have had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels sad or angry when a close friend moves out of their life. Although the causes may be different, the feeling of loss is the same — whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness. How Can I Deal With How I Feel? Most people will tell you you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but when it's happening to you, it can feel like no one else in the world has ever felt the same way. If you're experiencing these feelings, there are things you can do to lessen the pain. Here are some tips that might help: Share your feelings. Some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they trust — someone who recognizes what they're going through — helps them feel better. That could mean talking over all the things you feel, even having a good cry on the shoulder of a comforting friend or family member. Others find they heal better if they hang out and do the things they normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, to take their minds off the hurt. If you feel like someone can't relate to what you're going through or is dismissive of your feelings, find someone more sympathetic to talk to. (OK, we know that sharing feelings can be tough for guys, but you don't necessarily have to tell the football team or your wrestling coach what you're going through. Talk with a friend or family member, a teacher, or counselor. It might make you more comfortable if you find a female family member or friend, like an older sister or a neighbor, to talk to). Remember what's good about you. This one is really important. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, get your friends to remind you. Take good care of yourself. A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the rest of your body get broken too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost. Don't be afraid to cry. Going through a break-up can be really tough, and getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help. We know this is another tough one for guys, but there's no shame in crying now and then. No one has to see you do it — you don't have to start blubbering in class or at soccer practice or anything. Just a find a place where you can be alone, like crying into your pillow at night or in the shower when you're getting ready for the day. Do the things you normally enjoy. Whether it's seeing a movie or going to a concert, do something fun to take your mind off the negative feelings for a while. Keep yourself busy. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what happened — working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process — it just means you should focus on other things too. Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing — and the heartbreak almost always heals after a while. But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks — and sometimes even months. Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. They're not really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness. Sometimes the sadness is so deep — or lasts so long — that a person may need some extra support. For someone who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a counselor or therapist can be very helpful. So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin. Here are some pointers that will help you heal faster and especially help you understand your broken state better. -In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you. -Sometimes the relationship you need to rescue is the one with yourself. Moving past a breakup is about you, not your ex. -Don't start thinking about being friends right away — if ever. You have to be your own friend first. -Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing. -Define your real intentions. Are you trying to move past the breakup, or are you hoping to get back with your ex? You won't move on until you've accepted that the relationship is over. -Be careful about the language you use. When you use catastrophic terms like "nightmare," "terrible," and "horrible," you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Focus on what you can do. -Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness. -Don't embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you'll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high. -Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing. Always. Allie. P/S~ I am so sorry that i'm not here for those of you who were here for me at my time of pain. i'm on vacation here and i have so much to do and internet access is a pain. hahaha. if you guys need anything, message me, and i'll try to help the best i can.

hey redd! message me and catch me up on your situation! always, Allie.

hey jeff! long time no c bud. but anyway...don't reply to her. remember nc is the way to go. don't reply to anything she sends you or whatever...until she declares that she has feelings for you...and if she ever declares that...then reply cuz then you have a topic to discuss. Believe me, the whole "just friends" thing doesn't work. I mean, of course you can be friends but somewhere deep inside your heart, she won't be that "sweet, beautiful, loving" woman you new...somewhere...deep, yes deeper...much deeper....you'll always know that she was the woman that shattered your heart to pieces. how can you trust someone after they do that to you? friendship is a big no no and so is contact. remember...she's gone but so are you. there are so many better women out there. always remember...if you had a broken arm, you wouldn't try to arm wrestle...so don't do that to your hurt. don't chase after what hurts you. let yourself heal. Always, Allie.

-average looking -loyal, nice and sincere -have to become my best-friend -love to love. -open-minded -sweet.

i don't see any trouble with it..

aww i'm so sorry you guys ]= i guess we just haven't found the right person yet. they're out there. live. love. laugh.