Allie.

omg kev. you are soo not bad! ur adorable! WHYYY do you think that way?!

hmmm...i don't know..i mean, EVERYONE has insecurities about themselves...the more attractive ppl tend to have EVEN more insecurities...for example...supermodels...they KNOW they are pretty but they have to maintain that...and thats a pain in the a-double-star...insecurities are ALWAYS there...whether pretty or unattractive...the journey of getting over them...is the same though. ps. HEYY DAkO! i'm glad to be back! missssed ya and muh peeps!

you guys are so silly. You knoww...looks is not what matters the most for some girls out there...actually for a whole lot of them. I can say from experience that, it is really hard to believe one is beautiful but what makes a person realize that they are is their own self-esteem. No matter how many people say that you are good-looking..etc...doesn't matter, what matters is how you feel about yourself. Trust me, hahaha, i'm the pro. at this thing. Having to grow up with a sister who was 2 yrs. older than me and always the gorgeous one in the family...was crazy but afterwards, I realized that yes, she is indeed gorgeous but I'm not so bad myself...its really BAD to compare yourself to the world's ideal of beautiful. I have tried really hard to stop doing that and you should too. Stop comparing yourself to other ppl. Beauty is literally an opinion. Styles have changed from the more healthy ppl being beautiful [being a sign of health and money] to the anorexic girls. STYLE is a faux.

hahah...actually, i'd think that you're prolly having a bad day or maybe losing interest...either one of the two....depending on my mood.

no..i think you're just waiting for the right one.

hhaha no way. cuz i'm too crazy for myself sometimes...i need a balance of someone calm and more laid back...

well, we have sat down once or twice where he's begged me to start dating but i keep putting it off because i'm too busy....and saying stuff like: "oh i really wanna be in a relationship with you!" please! etc....and so yess...i guess.

oh i completely understand that...but you guys, he was treating it as if we were in a relationship...calls everyday, emails every night, texts every morning...and lots of "love you's" and....i mean...of course, it may not be established romantically....but, i know he was serious or somewhat into me...because he went around telling everyone that "i was the most amazing girl he's met" and that he thinks "he's finally found the one" etc...and all of a sudden when i break it off...he doesn't talk to me a whole day and then pretends like its okay...so it makes me think he's in denial...so what should I do? reply or not? start talking to him even though he thinks he's ready to be friends, and i think he's not....what do you say? and annie, actually no. strangely, now that i read over this post...it sounds like him [=

Hey peeps.. this guy and I weren't dating at all...because we were both busy but we did acknowledge the fact that we liked eachother quite a lot. But, somehow, no matter how nice he is/was...I could never communicate with him right... so i just "lost" feelings for him. Dont attack me people...It's possible...trust me! The night before, he had told me he "loved" me lots...and that was also a serious sign that this guy is really silly if he says "I love you" even when we're not dating and have only liked eachother for a few weeks.... so...i broke up with him yesterday and even though he had told me he loved me soo much the nite before...he didn't talk to me for a day after the so-called "break-up" and then i got a messagewas all like: "Ohh...i don't care....i mean, i was going to break this off anyway...there is no "us" and i was starting to lose feelings for you too but I didn't want to tell you because i didn't want to hurt you...etc..." when breaking up with him,to be nice, I told him that we needed some time "away" from eachother so we could go on our separate ways....and so he was all like, "why do we need time?...i never saw us beyond friends...why can't we talk just as friends?! GOSH! YOU MAKE THINGS SO COMPLICATED!" etc...and Its ridiculous...i think--actually scratch that---I know he still likes me because he was so "into" getting it on with me and etc...and he started telling me that he loved me.. I think he's in denial....should I reply or not reply?

awww. thats really sad icnoland....but my question to you is...do you still LOVE who he was? and is that normal..?

Yes, kind of like that Yvette [btw, i think we have identical verizon phones] hahaha...anyway, like you fall in love with a different person.... the difference though is that....i still love and and will always love the person who he was....i mean, he was perfect for me....but people change....and...yess... thanks though! I guess my brain isnt at its best these days [= hahahah! Anymore ppl with similar experiences?!

Okay...i'm not sure if my wild crazy imagination is coming up with this weird phenomenon because its a very cliche one...but seriously, have you ever had an experience where you're in love with someone so deeply and wholly and then they broke it off and you both went your separate ways...but then after a few months or few years...or even a few weeks..[in my case, it was about after 4 months]..you meet them again and they've turned into complete different people....in my case...jerks, and bums....and so...you actually were/are in love with the person THEY WERE and dislike or even loathe the person they've become?! I mean, is that possible?! I'm sure it is....Don't get me wrong...I'm wayy over this person because he's a complete jerk now...specifically to me....and i've had about 7 months to get over him and i've started dating other people...but I did/do/and will forevermore love the amazing soul he had...but he's just completely changed because he's going out with supposedly one of the most "proffesional and good-looking girls" at work so his ego has become about the size of Houston, Texas...and he's completely changed because he thinks he's the king of the hill now...son of a gun People always randomly just say: "Oh i loved who he was, not who he's become..." and its so cliche and i remember when i heard my more "emotional" friends saying things like that...i used to be the eye-roller...yes...it was me....but I am ACTUALLY experiencing that feeling so I don't know if such a thing exists or maybe...i'm imagining stuff....because the brain, my friends, is a great masterpiece of faulty illusions. You, yes you, precious...tell me whats going on! Always aLLie.

amen to friscodj.

aww thanks so much guys. ahh. i make life so tough. [= you guys are pretty much rad.

yes thats all well and dandy but, if you were me, what would you do as to dealing with this guy. a. tell him whats going on b. push him away c. just go on into it. d. other

'ey cuties... A MESSAGE- you guys are the most helpful bunch of people in the galaxy. I don't know what I'd do without ya'll....i. lo. u. all. THE PROBLEM - A very great guy has popped up around the block [not literally] but, he's nice and sweet and sincere and looks-wise...he's okay but thats not a problem. He really likes me and he's willing to change his whole life to adjust me in it. But of course, i would never ask him to do that because i want to like him for who he is...and I do. I like him for who he is...at least...i think. MY SCREWED HEAD- after my last break-up, very traumatic...in my 19 years of dating several several men, that was the first guy that dumped me. I've never been on the recieving end of the pain so it was twice as bad for me. Anyway, It shattered me. Everytime i think of how nice this guy is, I start to like him more but then a thought pops up in my head concerning my ex and what he did to me and i just shudder and lose feelings for him temporarily. What's happening? I suspect it may be a temporary shift into an asexual mode of life...Has that every happened to you? Temporary male-loathing maybe? mm...what do you say?

aww spugs...thats very sweet of you, you're very spiffy yourself [=

hahahaha, thanks bent! BRANDOO, i missed you! i meannn....mr. smith, we meet again! how have you been?!

ooo. I LOVE LIFE

don't go............

i know this is completely offtopic, but i was viewing the "online users list" and i saw ur sn. its really really creative and cute. It sounds like something i'd come up with [= hahaah...."just that girl..." very suave. me like. [=

Hmm. to me a confident guy is: 1) the first one to approach me. 2) Does things he wants to do and doesn't do them because of other ppl. 3) Admits that he's cried and felt weak recently. 4) he is sure of who he is and he won't change for anyone else. 5) he isn't afraid to speak his mind 6) he loves to do crazy things in the middle of odd situations. 7) and of course, the legendary...is able to wear pink [haaha. kidding]

i especially love this forum out of all the others because it has so many memories of mine and it has helped me help so many people and has helped me so much. its been a while since i've been on this forum because life is pretty good for me these days, but all i wanted really to say...is that i love all the people on here because they really help you [= and everything they say is TRUE so listen to them...when someone tells you things will get better, they're right...and for all of you broken-hearted cuties, you're in the right place because the people, mods and members on this site are the nicest ppl in the world.

oh i HAVE and HAD true love...we broke up....and he's moved on...but the love from my side was true....becauseif its true, you can never lose true love...and its been almost half a year since we broke it off and he is dating my best-friend now and...i still love him...his soul...but not him as a person because he's changed into a butt. I love who he was...and i will always be in love with who he was...but that doesn't stop me from moving on with my life and dating other ppl...i just will always love his soul.

Thanks all for the advice!!! either way, firstly i wanna clear out something...i think what i said got interpreted the wrong way....i meant, that i would consider going out with him if he lost his clingyness in the future [and by future, i mean like several several several months from now] and if there was attraction between both of us again, but right now, I'm SURE its the right thing to be w/o him. So yess...of course, i didn't tell him that if he changed i would be with him because right now, i just wanna be single and see what else is in the sea cuz this guy isn't working for me right now. but yess....anyway i didn't want to lead him on so i did not say anything about that... I have been ignoring his calls/emails/texts/etc...since the mean email and I want him to go to NC and act like a regular dumpee and get over me ASAP. I'm sorry if any of you got the impression that i'm leading him on....because, trust me, i'm not...if anything...he probably thinks i'm a witch because i'm soo clear to him when he keeps doubting the fact that i don't like him, cuz i'm always firm and tell him: "I DONT LIKE YOU, I DON'T THINK I WILL LIKE YOU ANY TIME SOON, I'M 101% POSITIVE I DON'T LIKE YOU OR HAVE ANY TYPE OF ROMANTIC FEELINGS FOR YOU!" and i think that's why he sent me that mean email and now he's all apologetic again... I mean, i know its hard when ppl are heart-broken and i know it takes time and its necessary to feel sad, and angry...and furious at your ex at times...and thats fine...he can hate me all he wants and tell his friends that he hates me...but just leave me out of it..you know? like, why do i have to be the direct source of his anger? please don't misinterpret the ^ lines because its not that i like him and thats why i get upset when he says mean things about me, but rather that i get upset because i still care about him, even if i don't like him. [=