MrKadash

I always have a good time when I'm around a girl who is being cat-called. I've never done it and never would because it's lame. But a couple of weeks ago a girl was coming out of a hair salon by a strip mall so she was looking pretty good... Some joker yelled out of his car at her as I was walking a little behind her. She seemed to ignore it but I had to chime in. "The sun must have been in that dude's eyes..... he needed a closer view before he opened his mouth." She got this 'I can't believe he just said that' look -- those looks are the best. I kept a straight face as long as I could. She was a good sport and we walked and talked for a couple of minutes.

I went into a clothing store the other day, and mind you I'm no spring chicken anymore, but there was an early 20 something folding clothes in the particular area I was shopping. I commented to her how I had a room full of clothes at home that needed folding since she was so good at it. She laughed and we had a couple minute dialogue. I wasn't looking for anything, so I was light and she seemed comfortable and nice. I just try to notice something someone is doing and make a quirky turn on it. It's a good ice-breaker.

I agree with that assessment. I've known girls to pull that stuff with no money involved, and always got a laugh. I turn it around on the girl though -- a buddy of mine jokingly (I assumed) offered $ to a girl in a club once to take her top off. I said desperate times call for desperate measures or something to that effect which was a slam on her -- if I remember she punched me for that one... If what you did constitutes being a player then the word has been redefined as far as I'm concerned.

Wow, I could write a book. Especially from HS through college, not since. I guess when your younger (in my case anyway) one is still immature enough to think it is a proactive way of getting the girl to see what they are missing.... As I got older I realized I needed to show the girl that I was better than the next guy through actions and words.

Absolutely one of the first things I look for or notice.

Just an update.... I saw her this morning and we exchanged hello's. I didn't attempt futher conversation, and went about my business. She came up to me about 15 minutes later and asked if I had plans tonight, which I did, but I suggested tomorrow night -- she obliged. So I guess the sun does rise in the west once in awhile.

Thanks for the replies. We're not in a relationship and I don't play games. I have only seen her a couple of times/week (non-date), and phone her maybe once other than that to chat.

Put me in the hair and face category also. I guess it's the first impression thing...

It seems I'm the one that takes the bull by the horns. I've only known this girl three weeks, but she has always shown interest when I'm around and we enjoyed our date 10 days ago or so. But I'm the one who calls, I'm the one who initiates contact. I don't play games, but am considering acting like I don't care on Friday when I know I will see her again because all the initiating is getting old fast. I wouldn't consider this a relationship, so why the fuss on my part. I guess I want her to get the impression that I have other things going on (which I do) and my life doesn't hinder whether I talk to her or not. Someone give me the anti-stupidity pill please....

Just curious how you feel after this scenario. You have shown some interest in a guy you've known for a few weeks and he is always very friendly and seems to go out of his way to talk to you whenever he is around. You see him at least once a week, and you have gone out once and had a seemingly decent time. On this particular day, however, he is around you for awhile but doesn't say two words to you for whatever reason. Not even a "hi" or "goodbye." What goes through your mind? And no, I haven't done that...

I try to make an impression on a girl through my words, facial expressions (smiling, eye contact), and body language that will tell her that I am glad to have her nearby. In a subtle way of course... I think if a guy tries to make you laugh or if you notice him being funny without looking like he's trying too hard (or too hard for that matter), then that's a decent indication.

She didn't recognize you ---- You should have stayed with the grunge look. That's been my problem all along! I gotta remember that. I would chalk that up to the preverbial "oh well."

I think that's exactly the issue. When I told her a relationship was optional at the moment she looked at me like I was high on narcotics. I said what you don't believe me and she said "not entirely." I'll let you all know what happens.

I asked to see her again, and she agreed, but whether or not it will happen soon - who knows. Like I said before, I asked her out back in early October and got a yes, and just finally got with her. She is extremely attractive with a nice personality, but said something curious to me. She said dating was overrated due to the nature of emotions that guys had brought out to her in the past. I asked her why she dated then, and her response was to "pass the time." I guess I will call her an enigma for now. I really have never met one quite like her. Trying to decide whether it's worth the effort or challenge. I'm one to linger, so only time will tell.

I didn't feel weird - I have two children myself - but it was inordinately difficult or frustrating to make certain conversation I would normally have if we were alone. I waited almost eight weeks to meet with her (normally I wouldn't do that) and had no idea when I would get another chance, so I felt this was an opportunity for an impression I couldn't pass up. I just misjudged the effect her daughter would have on my ability to connect with her the way I wanted to, if that makes sense. I guess one of the best things about life is you continue to learn lessons, no matter your age or what you've been through.