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  1. Oh - and all my exes have come back down the line in one shape or form. The wo significant ones in the past 4 weeks once they learnt I was single again. All those years ago I would have done anything to get them back. The rub is I'm not interested in them on that level anymore.
  2. My best friends saw each other for 3 year. He broke up move to HK and she went to OZ. While in HK he started to date another girl – broke up with her and his ex came and moved in with in in HK My client was caught cheating by his GF twice. In fact she walked in when they were in bed ! They got engaged last week. My other friend constantly split up with her BF – they both dated others and now are together. Her friend has had an on off LDR with a pilot for a number of years. They got together ish in April – he got cold feet and told her he was going on holiday with an old flame. She gave him an ultimatum and they are back together. Interestingly enough these guys are in there early 30s and perhaps over time realized it was time for a deeper commitment on both sides.Added to this, my ex knows 1,3,4.
  3. I agree with this. I have just spent the evening with my first proper ex from uni. Im 36 now so it was a while ago. She told me that when she broke up with the BF (after me) that he went away traveling for 7 weeks. He came back and knocked on her door with flowers. He told her he had time to gain perspective and wanted to be with her, loved her and was committed to making her happy and secure. She told me the only thing he messed up on was wanting a decision there and then otherwise that was that. She told him to go away as on hindsight she was stubborn, proud and felt pressured. If he had just left the ball in her court, she says she would have resolved the break up. She says to this day 10 years later that he was the best BF ever. He to a large extent gave her an ultimatum on the door step and forced her into a corner with the obvious defensive reaction of "no" She cried tonight even after all this time. He was very black and white and moved right on. He is OK, married and has two kids now. His ex and mine previously, to this day wishes she had said yes but at the time felt pressured bit it was the worst decision of her life so far. So I agree. After a cooling off period has past and you have gained perspective and really looked at the relationship, if you feel that this is the one then it is appropriate to show and tell them just that. DONT ask for a instant answer, leave it with them let them soak it all in and I would give it 2 weeks and really realize its done - then move on TOTALLY. Johnreed in my view rightly points out there is a massive difference between *begging crying and stalking* to a simple and powerful statement of *I would like to resolve the issues, I love you*. This is the important bit. Without any ultimatums or deadlines if they say no, then that is that. You move on. You can hold your head up high and be satisfied that you did everything you could and have no regrets in the future.
  4. ..... and to add to this, give them the best gift in the world. The gift of missing you. B
  5. Interesting point. Is that your own opinion or actual fact ? Scruff
  6. So now what ? You back into NC or LC ? Where does this leave you mate, more confused or focused on the way forward ? Scruff
  7. For many people this will be like a version of Gordon Ramsay's Hells Kitchen USA. Guys imagine breaking NC and having to answer to a livid Gordon Ramsay or even worse getting the same response from you ex as a livid Gordon Ramsay .... Good grief & good luck ! Scruff
  8. Just to let you know I am following this thread with interest. Superdave, you know the reasons why. Good challenge, may I be as bold to ask where you got the idea from ?? BTW - I have still given up smoking Scruff
  9. Is she that cool to require a hot tube to warm her up pal ...... or just unbelievable hot ??? Mother Sucker !!!!! Merry Christmas ha ha Scruff
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