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  1. phantomwolff85
    It's hard to have it all figured out as far as career goes before you go to college. Classes and internships as well as shadowing can help you figure out what you might want to do. Have you thought of going to college outside of Georgia?
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    I would definitely see if there were any local gay clubs you could join. When I met the love of my life, I met him on planet out and I knew by reading his profile that he wasn't just into sex. As far as chat rooms go, I wouldn't get my hopes up. I've noticed a difference in the caliber of men that post personals and the ones who post personals and also chat online. One on one chatting is cool, but in chat rooms you are more likely to meet men with one track minds or teenagers who aren't legal. I'm sure you'll meet some cool people in college and in your college town. In the meantime, just don't get too attached to anyone and understand that the guys you want are in the minority, but that it will be more satisfying when you finally do find someone with similar interests.
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    I don't know about healthy, but I think it's definitely normal. I know I wouldn't date some bisexual, if i were dating, unless I didn't know they were bisexual and then became attracted to them and they later told me they were bisexual. I wouldn't date an FTM either. I feel that we all have choice and the right to have opinions.
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    Have you ever thought about coming out? You might feel better. Plus then if there's any issues you can site discrimination.
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    I would say as long as the relationship is healthy, you're fine regardless of age. The only people that really know what your relationship is like are you and your boyfriend, so take other people's advice with a grain of salt.
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    I would definitely say that some sort of signal is neccesary so you know when it's going to happen. A tap with the hand is fast and adequate. As far as it being boring, maybe you could try 69 or something? iI've felt that feeling as well but I just try to think that I'm making my partner happy so that makes me happy and improves the situation. If I can't do that, I just try and count the time down or look forward to when I'll be getting off.
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    If anal sex is painful, you're doing it wrong. When my boyfriend intiaited it for the first time, it hurt, so he stopped. When I was finally comfortable, which was not that same night, it was not painful. At the same time, it wasn't physically pleasurable, but very psychologically pleasureable, which made the later orgasm through oral the best I've ever had. In summary, anal may or may not be physically pleasurable, but it shouldn't be painful. As far as deepthroating goes, I don't find it that difficult. It's something that you can get better at with practice, much like other sexual actions. However, if someone doesn't like oral sex, or some other kind of sex, practice is not going to change that.
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    I listen to music, watch movies, go online, and also try and lay down, breathe slowly, experience my feelings, and then analyze them, make note of any conclusions I come to, take any action I need to, and then go on with doing things that are healthy for me. This does not always work, but analyzing things, working on them, and then taking some action usually helps me feel better. In the past I've engaged in unhealthy things like too much porn, drinking, or shopping. When this happens, I do the aforementioned things.
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    I think the only reason why a relationship should not be accepted is if there is emotional or physical abuse going on. If both people are happy together, then why should any one care how old either one of them is. As far as societies views, I feel like a lot of people are not accepting of the relationship and tend to feel that there is something wrong with the older person in the relationship and that the younger person needs a father or mother figure.
  10. phantomwolff85
    I believe gays and lesbians should be able to marry and have kids. As far as the comparison with a disability, I can see that as being legitimate simply because it can be disabling emotionally and socially. I also believe that being gay is a mix of genetics and hormones. I feel that it could be biologically valid, simply to keep the population down.
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    Are there other reasons why your parents don't like him besides his race and educational level? If there were legitimate reasons, I would give pause, but right now it just seems that they are being close-minded.
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    I wouldn't say they have a great relationship if he's at the computer all day and she's left to do her own thing. If you mom is complaining about something and he's not changing it, then that's not fair to her. As far as telling your mom, I wouldn't do that because you really shouldn't interfere with their relationship. The only reason why you might want to talk to your dad about this is if he's addicted to porn and it's interfering with your life.
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    I've felt the same way, BYOB. Those types of questions really aren't ones that most people are ready to answer. You'd have to devote your life to it, or at least a good portion of your time. If you aren't ready to answer them they can just compound your problems. At the same time, often times these types of questions come up at the times when you are feeling down. I think most people think of suicide as an act of cowardice because they feel that every problem is solvable and that by committing suicide you hurt other people. I do feel that problems get better as you give them time. If I were you I'd throw myself into something that you really enjoy or really enjoyed. I know it may be difficult, but you might be able to harness your energy into a creative venture. There might really be nothing you can do now except change anti depressants. I also know that our perception of things can be greatly distorted when we are feeling bad and that this creates a cycle which makes things worse. I don't know what the problems are that you are facing, but talking can definitely help, especially if you have issues with someone.
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    I think you answered your own question by virtue of the fact that you had to come up with such an incredulous situation.
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    I'm just wondering which one is better in your own opinions and also where I can find more information about the differences. I already know that psychiatric RN's are nurses who have decided to specialize and that they can prescribe medicine, while psychologisits are docotroal level, probably had an undergraduate major in psychology and are not able to prescribe mediicine. My question basically is are there any differences in the way that they do therapy?
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    I would say definitely have that heart to heart with her. I know sometimes after break ups people need space and at the same time may be really confused. However, that doesn't mean that it's okay to treat you badly. I would tell her that you feel you've been getting mixed messages and ask her what she really wants. I hope things resolve themselves quickly one way or the other.
  17. phantomwolff85
    I think if you got a credit card you'd be able to use it responsibly because of the lesson you learned from your dad. You don't have to fear it if you are good with budgeting.
  18. phantomwolff85
    Some people, myself inlcluded, have to learn the hard way. She is taking your patience for granted. It would be best for you to tell her that you want to go on break and see what happens. I would not recomend a break up unless you really can't take it anymore. I know that I realize what I'm missing when I don't have it anymore.
  19. phantomwolff85
    When I was 16 I had this crush on one of my friends from high school. He said he was straight but he would always accuse me of being gay and make fun of me and most of the time I would either deny it or would ignore him. Once when he was driving me home from some school event he flat out asked me if I was gay and I said no. This contined through my senior year, but I learned to just not be offended by it. I got his screename on AIM the first year I was in college. We did have a lot in common and I really didn't have that many people that I kept in touch with in high school. He really seemed to have changed and matured. He didn't make fun of me anymore. Finally I decided to come out to him and he was totally fine with it. I thought it was going to be an awful exeperience and it wasn't. It's been my experience that gay jokes and teasing are a high school thing that most people grow out of once they leave that enviornment. In college you get to choose who you want to be out to and you don't have any baggage to carry around from your past. If you want to date, great, but if not don't feel pressured. Anyway, I hope that my story helped you a little bit. I think things will only get better from here on out. On a side note, I love the Golden Girls too. I've seen all the episodes since my mom and grandma used to watch it on lifetime when I was in high shool.
  20. phantomwolff85
    Not having support from your family can definitely ruin a good relationship. I hope that you are able to be strong enough to tell your family how you feel. It's really unfortunate when your family can't be behind you. Do what makes you happy and hopefully in time your family will come around. I wish you luck.
  21. phantomwolff85
    I made myself a spreadsheet of expenses to see how much it would cost to live on my own. I'd suggest that you do the same. Make sure to include food, utlities, rent, furniture, monthly bills like cable, internet, and phone, and make sure you read the lease and know if things like laundry and parking will be available. You also want to check to make sure there are jobs available in this new place. If I think of anything else I'll add it. As far as size goes, I would think about the amount of stuff you have and how much money you have. Also think about your living quarters before and about how much space you are used to. If you haven't had a roomate before, I would say make sure that you set some guidlines and rules as far as privacy, poessions, and space go. Having a roomate is cheaper and you do get less lonely, but at the same time you could be stuck with someone you don't like. The above advice about meeting them and seeing the place is great and I'm sure that just doing those things will help you out tremendously.
  22. phantomwolff85
    I hope things get better for you. I grew up in a small town and it sucked as there was never anything to do. I can definitely empathize. I totally get the don't care stuff too. I've just been through a break up and it's hella boring around here. I'm not in a small town anymore, but I'm not exactly in New York, lol. I wish I could give you some advice for the sex issues. I had some too, but mine were more that I lost interest. Anyway, I hope things get better. A good site to find someone to do something with would be link removed. Good luck with everything.
  23. phantomwolff85
    He said he saw a counselor. I can sympathize. I too have been dealing with a break up with little support. I have been talking to a counselor but there is only so much that does. I've been doing reading and other things I enjoy. I was on the other end of where you are as far as a break up goes. I was not able to put him as my number one priority. It's definitely something that is difficult to do. I hope I am able to do that in the future.
  24. phantomwolff85
    I would say that communication is key. I do not believe in turning the other cheek. If someone is putting you down you have the right to respectfully stand up for yourself and not just take it. I know that this is a very difficult thing to do especially if a lot of your interactions are voliatile. I wish you luck and would definitely say to spend as much time as you can away from your mom.
  25. phantomwolff85
    Another reason why the divorce rate might be so high in the states is because it's an actual option for people in the US. People aren't as pressured by their families to stay together with people and be unhappy for the rest of their lives.
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